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21 Month-Old is Hitting
One of my 21-mo old twin boys, when he gets mad or frustrated, gets a little
physically aggressive. He'll hit me or throw a toy at me when he is mad/frustrated about something. I don't really see him acting aggressively towards his twin brother, thankfully. Is this a typical manifestation of the "terrible twos?" 99% of the time he is a wonderful, sweet kid, he just has his "moments" from time to time. I'm looking for suggestions on how I should respond. I've tried looking at him sternly and shaking my head, with and without holding his arms. I have also tried just hugging him and saying "yes, I know you're mad, but please don't hit". The latter seems to work a little better, but not always. |
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21 Month-Old is Hitting
Yes, about the terrible twos and yes, the are completely emotional at this
time, there is a good book I have suggested over and over, "The emotional Life of the Toddler". It answered a ton of questions about development and understanding at that age and it truly made being a mom of toddlers (no matter how many) so much easier because I understood them better. They will outgrow it (until they are 9 and above), but removing them still works and letting them know it's a behavior that isn't acceptable at this time. Good luck Shirley Chris and Kathleen 1/95 "Buck Turgidson" wrote in message s.com... One of my 21-mo old twin boys, when he gets mad or frustrated, gets a little physically aggressive. He'll hit me or throw a toy at me when he is mad/frustrated about something. I don't really see him acting aggressively towards his twin brother, thankfully. Is this a typical manifestation of the "terrible twos?" 99% of the time he is a wonderful, sweet kid, he just has his "moments" from time to time. I'm looking for suggestions on how I should respond. I've tried looking at him sternly and shaking my head, with and without holding his arms. I have also tried just hugging him and saying "yes, I know you're mad, but please don't hit". The latter seems to work a little better, but not always. |
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21 Month-Old is Hitting
Yes, about the terrible twos and yes, the are completely emotional at this
time, there is a good book I have suggested over and over, "The emotional Life of the Toddler". It answered a ton of questions about development and understanding at that age and it truly made being a mom of toddlers (no matter how many) so much easier because I understood them better. They will outgrow it (until they are 9 and above), but removing them still works and letting them know it's a behavior that isn't acceptable at this time. Good luck Shirley Chris and Kathleen 1/95 "Buck Turgidson" wrote in message s.com... One of my 21-mo old twin boys, when he gets mad or frustrated, gets a little physically aggressive. He'll hit me or throw a toy at me when he is mad/frustrated about something. I don't really see him acting aggressively towards his twin brother, thankfully. Is this a typical manifestation of the "terrible twos?" 99% of the time he is a wonderful, sweet kid, he just has his "moments" from time to time. I'm looking for suggestions on how I should respond. I've tried looking at him sternly and shaking my head, with and without holding his arms. I have also tried just hugging him and saying "yes, I know you're mad, but please don't hit". The latter seems to work a little better, but not always. |
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21 Month-Old is Hitting
Yes, about the terrible twos and yes, the are completely emotional at this
time, there is a good book I have suggested over and over, "The emotional Life of the Toddler". It answered a ton of questions about development and understanding at that age and it truly made being a mom of toddlers (no matter how many) so much easier because I understood them better. They will outgrow it (until they are 9 and above), but removing them still works and letting them know it's a behavior that isn't acceptable at this time. Good luck Shirley Chris and Kathleen 1/95 "Buck Turgidson" wrote in message s.com... One of my 21-mo old twin boys, when he gets mad or frustrated, gets a little physically aggressive. He'll hit me or throw a toy at me when he is mad/frustrated about something. I don't really see him acting aggressively towards his twin brother, thankfully. Is this a typical manifestation of the "terrible twos?" 99% of the time he is a wonderful, sweet kid, he just has his "moments" from time to time. I'm looking for suggestions on how I should respond. I've tried looking at him sternly and shaking my head, with and without holding his arms. I have also tried just hugging him and saying "yes, I know you're mad, but please don't hit". The latter seems to work a little better, but not always. |
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21 Month-Old is Hitting
Yes, it's inevitable and yes, you need to intervene, and yes, either (or
both) of your approaches sounds fine to me. What you don't want to do is give it too much attention or ignore it, but if you are serious, firm, brief and explain in simple terms he will get it -- although the behavior won't disappear overnight. I personally would couple an explanation with then walking away and removing your attention from him since your attention is what he probably wants most in life. Unless it grows and tends to extreme violence it's nothing outside the norm until he gets better at self-control. Encouraging him to use his words instead of his fists, teeth, spit or whatever else he may try as time goes by will also be a useful tool. None of mine went thru a major hitting phase (biting each other was another thing entirely!) but Holly will still occasionally swing at me or throw a small toy at me or onto the floor when she is *really* mad (she just turned three). Mostly she throws stuff at the floor so I play it pretty cool -- hands on hips, raised eyebrows and I tell her that wasn't a nice thing to do, or even that her teddy is in pain. :-)) Then I walk away from her and she either sulks or cuddles her toy to kiss it better or both in order. --Janet Elliot, Hanna, Connor (10/21/96) and Holly (4/4/01) "Buck Turgidson" wrote in message s.com... One of my 21-mo old twin boys, when he gets mad or frustrated, gets a little physically aggressive. He'll hit me or throw a toy at me when he is mad/frustrated about something. I don't really see him acting aggressively towards his twin brother, thankfully. Is this a typical manifestation of the "terrible twos?" 99% of the time he is a wonderful, sweet kid, he just has his "moments" from time to time. I'm looking for suggestions on how I should respond. I've tried looking at him sternly and shaking my head, with and without holding his arms. I have also tried just hugging him and saying "yes, I know you're mad, but please don't hit". The latter seems to work a little better, but not always. |
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21 Month-Old is Hitting
Yes, it's inevitable and yes, you need to intervene, and yes, either (or
both) of your approaches sounds fine to me. What you don't want to do is give it too much attention or ignore it, but if you are serious, firm, brief and explain in simple terms he will get it -- although the behavior won't disappear overnight. I personally would couple an explanation with then walking away and removing your attention from him since your attention is what he probably wants most in life. Unless it grows and tends to extreme violence it's nothing outside the norm until he gets better at self-control. Encouraging him to use his words instead of his fists, teeth, spit or whatever else he may try as time goes by will also be a useful tool. None of mine went thru a major hitting phase (biting each other was another thing entirely!) but Holly will still occasionally swing at me or throw a small toy at me or onto the floor when she is *really* mad (she just turned three). Mostly she throws stuff at the floor so I play it pretty cool -- hands on hips, raised eyebrows and I tell her that wasn't a nice thing to do, or even that her teddy is in pain. :-)) Then I walk away from her and she either sulks or cuddles her toy to kiss it better or both in order. --Janet Elliot, Hanna, Connor (10/21/96) and Holly (4/4/01) "Buck Turgidson" wrote in message s.com... One of my 21-mo old twin boys, when he gets mad or frustrated, gets a little physically aggressive. He'll hit me or throw a toy at me when he is mad/frustrated about something. I don't really see him acting aggressively towards his twin brother, thankfully. Is this a typical manifestation of the "terrible twos?" 99% of the time he is a wonderful, sweet kid, he just has his "moments" from time to time. I'm looking for suggestions on how I should respond. I've tried looking at him sternly and shaking my head, with and without holding his arms. I have also tried just hugging him and saying "yes, I know you're mad, but please don't hit". The latter seems to work a little better, but not always. |
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21 Month-Old is Hitting
Yes, it's inevitable and yes, you need to intervene, and yes, either (or
both) of your approaches sounds fine to me. What you don't want to do is give it too much attention or ignore it, but if you are serious, firm, brief and explain in simple terms he will get it -- although the behavior won't disappear overnight. I personally would couple an explanation with then walking away and removing your attention from him since your attention is what he probably wants most in life. Unless it grows and tends to extreme violence it's nothing outside the norm until he gets better at self-control. Encouraging him to use his words instead of his fists, teeth, spit or whatever else he may try as time goes by will also be a useful tool. None of mine went thru a major hitting phase (biting each other was another thing entirely!) but Holly will still occasionally swing at me or throw a small toy at me or onto the floor when she is *really* mad (she just turned three). Mostly she throws stuff at the floor so I play it pretty cool -- hands on hips, raised eyebrows and I tell her that wasn't a nice thing to do, or even that her teddy is in pain. :-)) Then I walk away from her and she either sulks or cuddles her toy to kiss it better or both in order. --Janet Elliot, Hanna, Connor (10/21/96) and Holly (4/4/01) "Buck Turgidson" wrote in message s.com... One of my 21-mo old twin boys, when he gets mad or frustrated, gets a little physically aggressive. He'll hit me or throw a toy at me when he is mad/frustrated about something. I don't really see him acting aggressively towards his twin brother, thankfully. Is this a typical manifestation of the "terrible twos?" 99% of the time he is a wonderful, sweet kid, he just has his "moments" from time to time. I'm looking for suggestions on how I should respond. I've tried looking at him sternly and shaking my head, with and without holding his arms. I have also tried just hugging him and saying "yes, I know you're mad, but please don't hit". The latter seems to work a little better, but not always. |
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