If this is your first visit, be sure to check out the FAQ by clicking the link above. You may have to register before you can post: click the register link above to proceed. To start viewing messages, select the forum that you want to visit from the selection below. |
|
|
Thread Tools | Display Modes |
#1
|
|||
|
|||
etiquette question - graduation party
a friend has invited me to a (high school) graduation party for her
daughter. is this the sort of affair to which one is essentially required (by etiquette) to bring a gift? i have no clue! -- Vicki. Married DH May, 1995. Ima shel Stubborn, born 11/99; Chatty, born 5/02, and Snuggly, born 9/8/04. Pregnant, breastfeeding or both since February 1999. |
#2
|
|||
|
|||
wrote in message ups.com... a friend has invited me to a (high school) graduation party for her daughter. is this the sort of affair to which one is essentially required (by etiquette) to bring a gift? i have no clue! Yeah, you probably have to bring a gift, at least in most parts of the US. You might want to ask your neighbors, but I would be really surprised if the answer is you don't have to bring a gift. Jeff -- Vicki. Married DH May, 1995. Ima shel Stubborn, born 11/99; Chatty, born 5/02, and Snuggly, born 9/8/04. Pregnant, breastfeeding or both since February 1999. |
#3
|
|||
|
|||
I know I'm not really part of this group so I'm sorry for jumping in
but I am a high school teacher and where I'm from a gift is expected although it doesn't have to be expensive at all. I remember that one teacher bought one towel and wash cloth for each of her students that were going to college. I have given cards with $5 in them or a gift certificate to the movies. Hope this helps. |
#4
|
|||
|
|||
In article . com,
" wrote: a friend has invited me to a (high school) graduation party for her daughter. is this the sort of affair to which one is essentially required (by etiquette) to bring a gift? i have no clue! -- Vicki. Married DH May, 1995. Ima shel Stubborn, born 11/99; Chatty, born 5/02, and Snuggly, born 9/8/04. Pregnant, breastfeeding or both since February 1999. Generally, at least a small token -- though the "traditional" graduation gift is cash. If you know the graduate well and can select something for her, go ahead -- but it isn't necessary to spend lots of $$. -- Children won't care how much you know until they know how much you care |
#5
|
|||
|
|||
Yes, usually money. New graduates need money more than anything.
-- Sue (mom to three girls) wrote in message ups.com... a friend has invited me to a (high school) graduation party for her daughter. is this the sort of affair to which one is essentially required (by etiquette) to bring a gift? i have no clue! -- Vicki. Married DH May, 1995. Ima shel Stubborn, born 11/99; Chatty, born 5/02, and Snuggly, born 9/8/04. Pregnant, breastfeeding or both since February 1999. |
#6
|
|||
|
|||
Hi -- I think that whether you give money or a tangible gift depends upon the social circle where you live. In some circles, gifts of cash are considered crass; in others cash is the preferred gift (replaced somewhat by gift certificates in recent years). When you RSVP, just ask the parents if there's something the graduate might like as a gift. It may be that the parents or friends are organizing a larger group gift from those who enquire. Where *I* live, books, or gift certificates for books, are considered an excellent and appropriate-to-the-occasion gift. But in any event, small is fine. DOn't forget the congratulatory card! --Beth Kevles http://web.mit.edu/kevles/www/nomilk.html -- a page for the milk-allergic Disclaimer: Nothing in this message should be construed as medical advice. Please consult with your own medical practicioner. NOTE: No email is read at my MIT address. Use the AOL one if you would like me to reply. |
#7
|
|||
|
|||
|
#9
|
|||
|
|||
yes...in many cases graduates are only allowed a limited of number of
attendees, but the grads send out invites to everyone for the express purpose of receiving gifts. So, even if you do not attend the fact that you received an invite means you need to bring a gift (cash is best) if you attend and If you do not attend you should send a give (money, visa card ect) I realize your talking about a party and not the actual ceremony, yet the same etiquette applies. jojo wrote in message ups.com... a friend has invited me to a (high school) graduation party for her daughter. is this the sort of affair to which one is essentially required (by etiquette) to bring a gift? i have no clue! -- Vicki. Married DH May, 1995. Ima shel Stubborn, born 11/99; Chatty, born 5/02, and Snuggly, born 9/8/04. Pregnant, breastfeeding or both since February 1999. |
#10
|
|||
|
|||
jojo wrote:
yes...in many cases graduates are only allowed a limited of number of attendees, but the grads send out invites to everyone for the express purpose of receiving gifts. So, even if you do not attend the fact that you received an invite means you need to bring a gift (cash is best) if you attend and If you do not attend you should send a give (money, visa card ect) I realize your talking about a party and not the actual ceremony, yet the same etiquette applies. No, that is incorrect. There are certainly people who *believe* that the receipt of an invitation necessistates a gift, and there are certainly greedy grads who send out boatloads of invitations in the hopes of raking in the loot, but there is *NO* etiquette requirement that one give a graduation give, *EVEN* if one attends the graduation or party. It is customary, and one might feel a bit awkward if one attended without bringing anything (though one shouldn't have to feel awkward, as it is against the rules of etiquette for folks to open gifts during a party where gifts are not mandatory and not everyone has brought a gift), but it is not required by etiquette. What a crazy world this would be if any Tom, Dick, or Harry could force you to drain your bank account by sending you an invitation!! There are NO adult parties other than showers where gifts are mandatory. Weddings and graduations run a close second, where gifts are customary if you attend, though not absolutely required. If you do not attend, it is absolutely fine with etiquette if you send nothing more than a congratulatory letter, if that's what you prefer. The fact that there are greedy grads or brides/grooms who would prefer otherwise does not create an obligation on anyone else. Best wishes, Ericka |
Thread Tools | |
Display Modes | |
|
|
Similar Threads | ||||
Thread | Thread Starter | Forum | Replies | Last Post |
HS Graduation Party | GFCARRERA | General (moderated) | 2 | March 21st 05 03:59 PM |
Another Bday party question | Cindy Senger | Twins & Triplets | 16 | January 14th 04 03:20 AM |
Kids should work. | ChrisScaife | Foster Parents | 16 | December 7th 03 04:27 AM |
Paying for a kids party you have been invited too? | Sam | General | 49 | September 16th 03 03:51 AM |
[OT] Etiquette question | Banty | General | 20 | August 12th 03 01:38 PM |