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reading to a book vandal
Since I have no experiance raising children, I'm reading alot of books
about babies. Many encourage "reading" to even very little ones. My 11 month old wants to bend, spindle, and mutilate every book he gets near, and as he gets stronger, he's doing more damage. How does one "read" to a little one when he drops everything to grab the book and wrench it out of my hands. As an aside, are there any videos of kids books, where the pictures show up and the text goes slowly enough for me to read to him carefully? blacksalt |
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Astromum wrote:
blacksalt wrote: How does one "read" to a little one when he drops everything to grab the book and wrench it out of my hands. I give DS a toy to disintegrate while I read to him, Throws it down and grabs book. He loves books, just not to read. but I find that in general he is more interested in the pictures anyway. Have you tried books with little flaps that hide things? Wants to rip them off. Pop-ups are in danger for their lives, as well. It is a big time favourite with DS. Here's a few other things you can try: -find a time when your son is relaxed, like just before going to bed Just when he's not relaxed. He goesgoesgoes and then heads for the sheepskin rug and rubs his face on it. We pop him into bed and he goes to sleep. I think he's what one calls "active" (and a babbler). So were all of my sibs. In this day and age, with a nervous parent, I'm betting we'd have been labeled and drugged, but in our age (the 40's and 50's) my sensible parents just kept us safe and directed....volksmarches, hunts for hidden objects, outdoors alot. My memory of childhood is very grubby clothes and constantly skinned knees from plunging down and climbing back up the ravine near our house. (One of my family treasures is a photo, circa 1925, of a group of girls on a hike, all in clean white shirts and sitting on a rock, with only my mother standing, grinning, and streaked in dirt). However, all six of us turned out to be good readers. -keep the reading sessions short, when he is not interested, just stop He's interested: in grabbing and then trying to bend the pages...the thicker the cardboard and the harder he has to push the better. -get books with bright, simple pictures and no or little text -or get cloth books, they can take a lot more Grabbed and flung. Or grabbed and wrestled out of my hands as best as possible and then flung. Recently he's started to protest if I keep ahold it. -let your son turn the pages at the speed he desires Lightening fast and random, back, forth. -try reading the same book at the same time every day (sounds utterly boring to adults, but DS *loves* the anticipation) Hummmm, maybe after swimming at the Y. He seems to be little less Herculean after a heavy swim. Right now he's intent on walking more than 5 steps. I'm hoping he'll conquer that and run off some energy and then not mind sitting and looking a bit. Anyone know of **funny** picture books for that age? He sits still when he's laughing. blacksalt |
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"blacksalt" wrote in message ... Since I have no experiance raising children, I'm reading alot of books about babies. I bought all the books, and since Alegra was born, I have'nt even opened one of them. Many encourage "reading" to even very little ones. My 11 month old wants to bend, spindle, and mutilate every book he gets near, and as he gets stronger, he's doing more damage. How does one "read" to a little one when he drops everything to grab the book and wrench it out of my hands. At 11 months, have you tried just *telling* him stories? My 3 1/2 year old niece still prefers that to real books. (But she has us read to her out of books everyday too) As an aside, are there any videos of kids books, where the pictures show up and the text goes slowly enough for me to read to him carefully? blacksalt Hmm, that is a fabulous idea. If they don't exist, you should patent the idea ASAP! lol -- LES! Daddie to Alegra Lee. May 25th 2003! "Daddie's Little Diva" before you reply to me via email, please remove your hat ourHat |
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x-no-archive:yes blacksalt wrote:
Since I have no experiance raising children, I'm reading alot of books about babies. Many encourage "reading" to even very little ones. My 11 month old wants to bend, spindle, and mutilate every book he gets near, and as he gets stronger, he's doing more damage. How does one "read" to a little one when he drops everything to grab the book and wrench it out of my hands. This is a stage. My mom used to make fabric books for me. You take colorful cotton and cut pages with pinking shears and sew the pages together. Then you either draw designs on the pages or paste magazine pictures on there. Very little cost, and difficult to damage. There are also board books which are a bit harder to damage. In any case, until he gets over that stage, I wouldn't do anything which allowed him to get to the book to damage it. This is one of those times when you have to pick your battles. Reading at that age isn't very productive anyway. So either tell him stories instead of reading (or sing to him if you can). Or if you really think reading is necessary, read picture books - just one word and a picture on the page, and keep him firmly under control so that he doesn't get ahold of the book. I also occasionally gave the kids magazines I was finished with to look at, and when they got too ratty looking, I'd throw them out. Of course keeping ones I hadn't finished with out of reach. As an aside, are there any videos of kids books, where the pictures show up and the text goes slowly enough for me to read to him carefully? blacksalt grandma Rosalie |
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blacksalt wrote:
-let your son turn the pages at the speed he desires Lightening fast and random, back, forth. Ah yes, BTDT. Same with the flaps, but DS is settling down to a somewhat slower pace now. -try reading the same book at the same time every day (sounds utterly boring to adults, but DS *loves* the anticipation) Hummmm, maybe after swimming at the Y. He seems to be little less Herculean after a heavy swim. Well, at least you tried... Sounds like he's just not interested and needs to get rid of his excess energy instead. I wouldn't worry too much about the long term effects. You seem to come from an energetic family and I know from experience that dyslectics can be helped by other means than just reading at a youg age. I'd just let him be. -- -- Ilse mom to Olaf (07/15/2002) TTC #2 "What's the use of brains if you are a girl?" Aletta Jacobs, first Dutch woman to receive a PhD |
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blacksalt wrote in message ... Since I have no experiance raising children, I'm reading alot of books about babies. Many encourage "reading" to even very little ones. My 11 month old wants to bend, spindle, and mutilate every book he gets near, and as he gets stronger, he's doing more damage. How does one "read" to a little one when he drops everything to grab the book and wrench it out of my hands. As an aside, are there any videos of kids books, where the pictures show up and the text goes slowly enough for me to read to him carefully? blacksalt Personally I would think that the books would be better than the videos. If he doesn't get to handle the books then he's bound to want to investigate them. Make sure you've got hardwearing card books. You can cover paper books in sticky-back-plastic when he's a bit older which helps them last. I did this to one book that dd was particularly fond of and couldn't get in card. I also bought a lot of books second hand when they cost only a few pence, so I didn't worry so much as to if she did damage to a book. At that age, I found that sitting dd on my lap and reading repetitive books, with rhythm/rhyme was her favourite. The only probem was that they tended to be longer and so she would sometimes lose interest. When she started wriggling or taking the book off me then I'd stop. She also loved turning the page, which kept her something to do. Maybe he's be better if he has something (say a pot of raisins) to do while you read. Some children prefer books that just have pictures with single words. I'd say, keep trying and you'll find what he likes. If you have certain books you don't want him to damage, then put them away for when he's older, or just take them away if he starts being rough with them. Or have a routine including reading a book. eg. after lunch, while he's still in the high chair maybe, so you can control how much he has the book, read one book, stopping when he seems to have had enough. Debbie |
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Bruce and Jeanne wrote:
Give him a board book or cloth book to chew on and keep his hands busy while you read to him. Jeanne AHA! A decoy! I wasn't getting too bent out of shape, assuming he'll be more tractable when he's ready, but the books just keep on about reading starting at birth. He was, of course, fine when he was an infant on his back, with Papa lying next to him holding a book over him. He was enchanted. Now his focus is more physical. Montaigne said "In youth, heaven lies in the feet." For now, I think I'll point right to left at short sentences when the opportunity arises, and avoid the wrestling and damage. As for learning "don't touch", he hasn't, and I'm focusing on things that might be dangerous that aren't very moveable (he can pry the outlet covers out already) and just keeping the breakable out of reach, or it would be no no no no all day long. (This brings up another question, for another posting). Thanks for all the ideas. blacksalt |
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"Sue" wrote: My friend's son didn't really like to be read to unless he was playing in the bath tub. So she read a short book to him while he played in the bath. Good luck. de-lurking You know, that just made me think of something. They make books specifically for the bath tub and those would be worth the effort for a child who likes to damage them. AFAIK, they can't be damaged unless you are using scissors. I have no idea where to find them but they are a soft plastic/rubbery kind of material and the pages always seemed "poofy", like maybe there was air in it. They are made to be chewed, drawn on, thrown on the tub, etc. Since children that age are drawn to repetition, you could find one or two and be set. I'm not positive that they make these types for 'classics' but I know that stories about baths can be found in this form. Good luck!!! -Kara back to lurking |
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"blacksalt" wrote in message ... Since I have no experiance raising children, I'm reading alot of books about babies. Many encourage "reading" to even very little ones. My 11 month old wants to bend, spindle, and mutilate every book he gets near, and as he gets stronger, he's doing more damage. How does one "read" to a little one when he drops everything to grab the book and wrench it out of my hands. Probably by holding his arms away and teaching him what to and what not to touch, just as it is done in the rest of the house. Everyone has a system. Regardless, my child like to grab and enjoys pull-the-tab books. Sometimes I need to pull with her to temper her strength, but it all works out. A few books, maybe more, are about ready for the graveyard, but that comes with the territory, I guess. As an aside, are there any videos of kids books, where the pictures show up and the text goes slowly enough for me to read to him carefully? I'm not sure, but books-on-video is a scary area to me, as I like a clear delineation between reading and TV. In such a case, the lines seem blurred. Anyway, I imagine that if such things are available, they are more expensive than sending a good number of regular paper books through the baby grinder. Beats me, your call. P. Tierney |
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Kara H wrote:
You know, that just made me think of something. They make books specifically for the bath tub and those would be worth the effort for a child who likes to damage them. AFAIK, they can't be damaged unless you are using scissors. Yup. I remember those. I *really* remember one of them -- "Elmo wants his ferry boats. Elmo wants his soap that floats ..." --Helen |
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