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"Banty" wrote in message ... In article , bizby40 says... To answer the question, I was okay leaving them with a sleeping spouse as soon as I was okay with staying in bed when they got up. I'd say something like, "Daddy's asleep. Don't wake him up unless you really need to." Unfortunately for him, they usually "needed to" very quickly. The thing that strikes me odd about this is - don't Dads go on business trips before they're old enough to get up without a parent getting up, too? Seems to me this is something about parental roles more than when a child can be left alone with a sleeping parent per se. I'm not sure what one parent versus two parents has to do with it, except that she phrased the question such that she was wanting to leave while her husband was home but asleep. Whether it's one sleeping parent or two is really immaterial. But it does *feel* different to actually be fully alert and then walk out and leave the child with no other adults in the house awake than it does to linger in bed for a bit after you've heard them stirring, even though the end result is really no different. Bizby |
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wrote in message oups.com... Stephanie wrote: At what age would you leave kids alone in the house for a trip to the store? More to the point, what is the youngest age that this would be conceivable? I have a follow-up. My son (who's four) and I tend to wake up much earlier than my husband does. There are times it'd be nice to be able to run out quickly in the morning without taking him. How old would a child have to be for the rest of you to be willing to leave a child home with a sleeping parent? I'd say 4 or 5yo. It sort of depends on the kid and what trouble they might get into. My kids were not the type to go outside when told not to etc. They didn't try to use the toaster when I wasn't looking. I felt pretty sure that at 4yo all they would do is sit there and play or watch TV. Luke is 5yo now and whether or not I'd leave him while his dad was asleep would probably depend on the day we were all having. I actually trust him less as he gets older. -- Nikki, mama to Hunter 4/99 Luke 4/01 Brock 4/06 Ben 4/06 |
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"user" wrote in message ... On 19 Nov 2006 14:31:33 -0800, wrote: bizby40 wrote: The problem is that there is no real consensus, and in many places no real laws that give people a guideline. There are also very wide discrepancies in kids' maturity levels, and in their circumstances. So there is no real guidance in this area for people. When I told a friend that I'd decided my 10 year old could stay by herself for short periods, she actually told me that I'd better not tell anyone because if Social Services found out I'd be in trouble! It set me on a frenzy of research before I was sure she was wrong. I'm pretty sure that the laws tend to be quite vague, more or less on purpose. I think in my state (North Carolina) it's considered inappropriate to leave a child under eight home alone for any reason, but older than that it's all considered a judgement call. It's not inconceivable that a parent might be prosecuted for leaving a ten-year-old home alone if for whatever reason Social Services thought the situation warranted it, although it's probably quite unlikely. I realize that they leave the rules vague so that someone can't point to a rule saying 'ten is okay' if they leave a developmentally delayed 10-year-old home alone overnight, but the total lack of official rules makes me a little nervous. I honestly don't see where the rules of any given state regarding the age of the child should should be of any concern, to anyone. It really doesn't matter what the state says. If the child is responsible enough and has access to outside help, to be left alone for 20 minutes when they're six - then let them stay home alone for 20 minutes, and to heck with what the law says. If the kid is 14 and an incurable pyromanic, then you take that into account and operate accordingly. The state is just about the *least* relevent party when it comes to understanding what any particular child is capable of doing or not doing. While I et your point, there is definitely an age at which a child cannot be responsible enough to handle an emergency of the type that can happen in 20 minutes. And in my opinion 6 is still at that age. - Rich -- Catapultam habeo. Nisi pecuniam omnem mihi dabis, ad caput tuum saxum immane mittam. |
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I'd say 4 or 5yo. It sort of depends on the kid and what trouble they
might get into. My kids were not the type to go outside when told not to etc. They didn't try to use the toaster when I wasn't looking. I felt pretty sure that at 4yo all they would do is sit there and play or watch TV. Luke is 5yo now and whether or not I'd leave him while his dad was asleep would probably depend on the day we were all having. I actually trust him less as he gets older. If this kind of situation ever arose, with our 3.5yr old as he is right now, I'd leave him, but that's very much his personality, if he does get up early, all he does is sit in front of the TV as he's not naturally an early riser. He's too small to reach anything that could harm him, like the cooker or toaster. It's plausible he would go to the fridge and leave it open, or something annoying, but not harmful. I imagine that as he gets older, like you with Luke this will reverse. Cheers Anne |
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wrote in message oups.com... Stephanie wrote: At what age would you leave kids alone in the house for a trip to the store? More to the point, what is the youngest age that this would be conceivable? I have a follow-up. My son (who's four) and I tend to wake up much earlier than my husband does. There are times it'd be nice to be able to run out quickly in the morning without taking him. How old would a child have to be for the rest of you to be willing to leave a child home with a sleeping parent? Depends on what I left out the night before :P Sometimes if I am tired in the morning I will either lock awake kid in my room with me and try to sleep more or I will go out to the living room and dose off on the couch. As soon as I get the kids room orginised better I will probably shut off their room at night and then get them when either Bonnie lets them out (4) or I get up.. we have tall door knobs here and Xavier cant reach them anymore. Tori |
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user wrote: On 19 Nov 2006 19:54:53 -0800, wrote: wrote: I grew up in Ra-cha-cha too. In the city (19th ward), and I'd walk to kindergarten with some neighbor kids who were probably in 2nd or 3rd grade. I just googled it and it's about 1/2 mile. I actually was talking to my mom about this a few days ago; the neighborhood's definitely gotten worse and I don't think I'd let my kids walk there alone. But maybe I've gotten too used to white, rich BMW-ville where I live now. :P And here I am, having grown up, and stayed, in Penfield. ;-) Penfield isn't Rochester. It's the suburbs. (I grew up in the city. My parents still live there. One of my sisters is in Brighton.) Naomi - Rich -- Catapultam habeo. Nisi pecuniam omnem mihi dabis, ad caput tuum saxum immane mittam. |
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wrote in message oups.com... Stephanie wrote: At what age would you leave kids alone in the house for a trip to the store? More to the point, what is the youngest age that this would be conceivable? I have a follow-up. My son (who's four) and I tend to wake up much earlier than my husband does. There are times it'd be nice to be able to run out quickly in the morning without taking him. How old would a child have to be for the rest of you to be willing to leave a child home with a sleeping parent? DS is 5yo and DH does leave him home with me still asleep on weekends on rare occasions. He just watches tv and doesn't get into any trouble. I think I'm more comfortable doing it if the sleeping parent is aware of the possibility that the child might be awake and the other parent may be out. That way, if there is any screaming, it won't be ignored in the hopes that the other parent will take care of it. |
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