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Hello there,
I'm a 35 year old woman trying to get pregnant. I have a couple of quick questions that I'm hoping someone can help me answer. Is it possible to be pregnant an still spot a tiny bit the first month? Also, when is taking an HPT most reliable? After I miss my period or can I get a valid result a few days after having sex? Any help is greatly appreciated. Thank you! |
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"MKO" wrote in message
ups.com... Hello there, I'm a 35 year old woman trying to get pregnant. I have a couple of quick questions that I'm hoping someone can help me answer. Is it possible to be pregnant an still spot a tiny bit the first month? Also, when is taking an HPT most reliable? After I miss my period or can I get a valid result a few days after having sex? Any help is greatly appreciated. Thank you! Yes, it is absolutely possible to be pregnant and spot when you would normally have your period. It's pretty common. Even to bleed enough that it seems like a light period. HPT's are most reliable when your period is due, generally. There isn't enough hcg in your system a few days after conception, so testing so soon after sex wouldn't be reliable. Are you aware of when you are ovulating? Do you know for sure that you ovulate? Do you have regular cycles? If you are not sure of any of the above questions, or even if you are, you may want to buy the book common referred to here as the Fertility Bible called "Taking Charge of Your Fertility" by Toni Weschler. It can answer all sorts of questions you didn't even think you had! Good luck. -- Jamie Earth Angels: Taylor Marlys -- 01/03/03 Addison Grace -- 09/30/04 |
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On Aug 3, 12:02 pm, "Jamie Clark" wrote:
"MKO" wrote in message ups.com... Hello there, I'm a 35 year old woman trying to get pregnant. I have a couple of quick questions that I'm hoping someone can help me answer. Is it possible to be pregnant an still spot a tiny bit the first month? Also, when is taking an HPT most reliable? After I miss my period or can I get a valid result a few days after having sex? Any help is greatly appreciated. Thank you! Yes, it is absolutely possible to be pregnant and spot when you would normally have your period. It's pretty common. Even to bleed enough that it seems like a light period. HPT's are most reliable when your period is due, generally. There isn't enough hcg in your system a few days after conception, so testing so soon after sex wouldn't be reliable. Are you aware of when you are ovulating? Do you know for sure that you ovulate? Do you have regular cycles? If you are not sure of any of the above questions, or even if you are, you may want to buy the book common referred to here as the Fertility Bible called "Taking Charge of Your Fertility" by Toni Weschler. It can answer all sorts of questions you didn't even think you had! Good luck. -- Jamie Earth Angels: Taylor Marlys -- 01/03/03 Addison Grace -- 09/30/04 Wow, thank you for such a quick reply. I have a few more questions... I've been reading that women between 35-40 usually take 3 months or more to conceive. Is that the norm? Can I really expect to wait 3 months? I believe I read on the MSNBC website that most women over 35 can't get pregnant w/o the help of some type of invitro treatment. This has put me into a slight panic about my biological clock. I don't want to resort to that method.. i couldn't afford it. Im just looking for reassurance that most women my age (35) can expect to get pregnant naturally and easily. to answer your question about ovulation.. i haven't been looking for the signs but my cycle is very predictalbe. However, from Nov - April i didn't have a period due to stress. My doctor performed blood tests to check my horomone levels and everyone was just fine. He contributed it to stress. That had never happened before.. it's not something that is normal for me. |
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"MKO" wrote in message ps.com... On Aug 3, 12:02 pm, "Jamie Clark" wrote: "MKO" wrote in message ups.com... Hello there, I'm a 35 year old woman trying to get pregnant. I have a couple of quick questions that I'm hoping someone can help me answer. Is it possible to be pregnant an still spot a tiny bit the first month? Also, when is taking an HPT most reliable? After I miss my period or can I get a valid result a few days after having sex? Any help is greatly appreciated. Thank you! Yes, it is absolutely possible to be pregnant and spot when you would normally have your period. It's pretty common. Even to bleed enough that it seems like a light period. HPT's are most reliable when your period is due, generally. There isn't enough hcg in your system a few days after conception, so testing so soon after sex wouldn't be reliable. Are you aware of when you are ovulating? Do you know for sure that you ovulate? Do you have regular cycles? If you are not sure of any of the above questions, or even if you are, you may want to buy the book common referred to here as the Fertility Bible called "Taking Charge of Your Fertility" by Toni Weschler. It can answer all sorts of questions you didn't even think you had! Good luck. -- Jamie Earth Angels: Taylor Marlys -- 01/03/03 Addison Grace -- 09/30/04 Wow, thank you for such a quick reply. I have a few more questions... I've been reading that women between 35-40 usually take 3 months or more to conceive. Is that the norm? Can I really expect to wait 3 months? I believe I read on the MSNBC website that most women over 35 can't get pregnant w/o the help of some type of invitro treatment. This has put me into a slight panic about my biological clock. I don't want to resort to that method.. i couldn't afford it. Im just looking for reassurance that most women my age (35) can expect to get pregnant naturally and easily. to answer your question about ovulation.. i haven't been looking for the signs but my cycle is very predictalbe. However, from Nov - April i didn't have a period due to stress. My doctor performed blood tests to check my horomone levels and everyone was just fine. He contributed it to stress. That had never happened before.. it's not something that is normal for me. I think average time (without problems) to conceive is about 3-4 months. Your firtility gradually decreases, and you are probably less likely to conceive at 35 than 25, but it is a gradual process, not oops hit 35 now it takes 6 months to conceive rather than 3. If the MSNBC website really said that "most" need help then it is inaccurate (understatement here) more, yes, but not most. You're more likely to conceive if you're relaxed about it, which is easier said than done! Good luck. Debbie |
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"MKO" wrote in message
ps.com... On Aug 3, 12:02 pm, "Jamie Clark" wrote: "MKO" wrote in message ups.com... Hello there, I'm a 35 year old woman trying to get pregnant. I have a couple of quick questions that I'm hoping someone can help me answer. Is it possible to be pregnant an still spot a tiny bit the first month? Also, when is taking an HPT most reliable? After I miss my period or can I get a valid result a few days after having sex? Any help is greatly appreciated. Thank you! Yes, it is absolutely possible to be pregnant and spot when you would normally have your period. It's pretty common. Even to bleed enough that it seems like a light period. HPT's are most reliable when your period is due, generally. There isn't enough hcg in your system a few days after conception, so testing so soon after sex wouldn't be reliable. Are you aware of when you are ovulating? Do you know for sure that you ovulate? Do you have regular cycles? If you are not sure of any of the above questions, or even if you are, you may want to buy the book common referred to here as the Fertility Bible called "Taking Charge of Your Fertility" by Toni Weschler. It can answer all sorts of questions you didn't even think you had! Good luck. -- Jamie Earth Angels: Taylor Marlys -- 01/03/03 Addison Grace -- 09/30/04 Wow, thank you for such a quick reply. I have a few more questions... I'll answer them as best I can. I've been reading that women between 35-40 usually take 3 months or more to conceive. Is that the norm? Can I really expect to wait 3 months? That is EXTREMELY optimistic and unlikely, especially for a woman 35 or older. A 20 year old would be more likely conceive in 3 months, but even that is a pretty short timeframe. But 20 year olds, and their eggs, are extremely fresh and fertile. Unfortunately, you can't say that for a woman who is 35. She still may be fertile, and she *might* conceive the first time she tries, or 2nd, or 3rd, but her chances are less than those of a 20 year old. Regardless of what the media says, and how often you hear of this or that celebrity getting pregnant at 40+, the fact of the matter is that as you age, your eggs age too, and younger eggs just have a better chance of fertilizing than older ones. It's as simple as that. It would be more realistic to say 6 months to a year for a woman over 30. If you haven't conceived in 6 months, (or a year, if you really want to push it back), you should seek the assistant of an RE, Reproductive Endocrinologist. Not your OB, no matter how well meaning they are and how much they claim to specialise in fertility issues. An OB will waste your time. Go straight to a fertility doctor. They can run the tests on you and your dh, see what treatment options would most benefit you in your particular situation. An OB is going to prescribe a 3-6 month supply of clomid and tell you to come back when you are pregnant or out of pills. This is NOT a good strategy, and wastes valuable and precious time. Every time you ovulate and have sex at the perfect time, and there are no other known or unknown fertility issues between you and your dh/so, you have a 25% chance of conceiveing. That's when everything is perfect and the stars are aligned. So if you or dh have any fertility issues, again, known or unknown, then your odds of conceiving any given cycle go down, sometimes drastically. I believe I read on the MSNBC website that most women over 35 can't get pregnant w/o the help of some type of invitro treatment. This has put me into a slight panic about my biological clock. I don't want to resort to that method.. i couldn't afford it. You misheard/misread that. It's not "without the help of some type of invitro treatment" but without the help of some sort of "medical assistance." There is one main IVF (invitro), but many ways to medically assist acheiving pregnancy. The first and most basic is clomid, which can help you ovulate if you don't already, and sometimes help you ovulate more than one egg, thus increasing your chances of conception, and twins. There is also IUI, which is intrauterine insemination, where they take dh's sperm, wash it, and then insert it up into your uterus. This gives the sperm a "FastPass," through the vaginal canal and cervix, and allows them to start their journey to the egg closer to the finish line and in better shape! There are also several kinds of injectable fertility medications that can be used, and these, or the clomid, can be used in combination with IUI. There are also a few tests that can be done before all of that, which not only tell you what is going on with your body, your fertility, and dh's sperm, but in some cases, can also help grease the works, so to speak, in terms of flushing out your fallopian tubes. People who are ttc and need medical assistance usually work through the majority of those steps before getting to IVF. The only time that they pass everything and go straight to IVF is if they are in a unique situation where they don't have ovaries, or fallopian tubes, or the tests show that the tubes are blocked, or that dh has very limited mobility in his sperm, etc. Im just looking for reassurance that most women my age (35) can expect to get pregnant naturally and easily. I wish I could give it to you, but I can't. That doesn't mean that some 30+ year old women don't get pregnant naturally and easily on their first few months trying, because some may. But the odds are not in your favor. Again, it could happen, but I wouldn't hold my breath. Better yet to have realistic expectations and manage your expectations. If you set your mind that it might be tough, and may not happen for at least 6 months to a year, then if it happens any sooner it will be a total suprise and BONUS! But if you really secretly expect it to happen quickly, then every time you get your period you will be crushed, and after the 3 month mark, it's going to get worse and worse, until each period feels a bit like a miscarrage. Really. I know of what I speak. I actually got pregnant the first time we tried at age 31, and had to terminate the pregnancy because our son was developing with the majority of his internal organs on the outside of his body. My next pregnancy took 1.5 years to acheive, and it was a blighted ovum, meaning the heart never started to beat, and it ended via D&C at 8 weeks. Over the next few years, I managed to get pregnant naturally and with assistance over 6 more times, but all ended just after conception, around 4-5 weeks. We worked our way up the fertility ladder, and eventually did donor egg IVF, which worked and then miscarried at 10 weeks, and regular IVF which didn't work at all. At that point I was 36, and we moved on to adoption. I'm now 41 and I have two beautiful daughters, aged 4.5 and almost 3. I know that when we really want something, it's easy to read through lots of information (some right, some wrong, some positive and optimistic, and some negative and pessimistic), and to pull out that which reinforces what we want to be true, but unfortunately that doesn't always help. I'm not saying you should be pessimistic and have no hope, I'm saying you should be realistic and have hope. to answer your question about ovulation.. i haven't been looking for the signs but my cycle is very predictalbe. However, from Nov - April i didn't have a period due to stress. My doctor performed blood tests to check my horomone levels and everyone was just fine. He contributed it to stress. That had never happened before.. it's not something that is normal for me. Well that's certainly not normal or predictable! Yikes. 6 months without a period? I've had some really stressful times in my life and have never missed a period. You really need to get the book, read it, and then determine if you need additional testing to see if you really are ovulating on a regular basis. Charting your basil body temperatures can help determine that, as well as some basic blood work -- cycle day 3 day FSH (follicle stimulating hormone) among other things. If your FSH levels are high, then that tells the doctor that your body is having to work really hard to produce a lot of FSH to get your ovaries to respond. This means that your fertility is declining. You can still ovulate and get pregnant, it's just more work. If your FSH levels are low, that tell us that your fertility is still in good shape. There still can be other issues, but that basic one is good. -- Jamie Earth Angels: Taylor Marlys -- 01/03/03 Addison Grace -- 09/30/04 |
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"Welches" wrote in message
... "MKO" wrote in message ps.com... On Aug 3, 12:02 pm, "Jamie Clark" wrote: "MKO" wrote in message ups.com... Hello there, I'm a 35 year old woman trying to get pregnant. I have a couple of quick questions that I'm hoping someone can help me answer. Is it possible to be pregnant an still spot a tiny bit the first month? Also, when is taking an HPT most reliable? After I miss my period or can I get a valid result a few days after having sex? Any help is greatly appreciated. Thank you! Yes, it is absolutely possible to be pregnant and spot when you would normally have your period. It's pretty common. Even to bleed enough that it seems like a light period. HPT's are most reliable when your period is due, generally. There isn't enough hcg in your system a few days after conception, so testing so soon after sex wouldn't be reliable. Are you aware of when you are ovulating? Do you know for sure that you ovulate? Do you have regular cycles? If you are not sure of any of the above questions, or even if you are, you may want to buy the book common referred to here as the Fertility Bible called "Taking Charge of Your Fertility" by Toni Weschler. It can answer all sorts of questions you didn't even think you had! Good luck. -- Jamie Earth Angels: Taylor Marlys -- 01/03/03 Addison Grace -- 09/30/04 Wow, thank you for such a quick reply. I have a few more questions... I've been reading that women between 35-40 usually take 3 months or more to conceive. Is that the norm? Can I really expect to wait 3 months? I believe I read on the MSNBC website that most women over 35 can't get pregnant w/o the help of some type of invitro treatment. This has put me into a slight panic about my biological clock. I don't want to resort to that method.. i couldn't afford it. Im just looking for reassurance that most women my age (35) can expect to get pregnant naturally and easily. to answer your question about ovulation.. i haven't been looking for the signs but my cycle is very predictalbe. However, from Nov - April i didn't have a period due to stress. My doctor performed blood tests to check my horomone levels and everyone was just fine. He contributed it to stress. That had never happened before.. it's not something that is normal for me. I think average time (without problems) to conceive is about 3-4 months. Your firtility gradually decreases, and you are probably less likely to conceive at 35 than 25, but it is a gradual process, not oops hit 35 now it takes 6 months to conceive rather than 3. If the MSNBC website really said that "most" need help then it is inaccurate (understatement here) more, yes, but not most. You're more likely to conceive if you're relaxed about it, which is easier said than done! Good luck. Debbie I know you mean well, Debbie, but your last statement is just not true. Relaxing does not help you conceive. Do you think victims of rape who find themselves pregnant were relaxed? Telling a woman to relax actually stresses them out more, and making them feel responsible if they don't get pregnant as soon as they want. It must be their fault, since they weren't relaxed enough. Relaxing doesn't open clogged fallopian tubes, or make women ovulate, or help sperm swim faster. Relaxing is nice, and may help pass the time less anxiously, but it doesn't make you more fertile. I don't mean to jump on you, but as someone who dealt with infertility and losses for 5 years, hearing anyone say, "relax and it will happen" just triggers a strong reflex. -- Jamie Earth Angels: Taylor Marlys -- 01/03/03 Addison Grace -- 09/30/04 |
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I don't mean to jump on you, but as someone who dealt with infertility and losses for 5 years, hearing anyone say, "relax and it will happen" just triggers a strong reflex. I don't think she meant relaxing is some kind of magical solution to make it happen, but if stress can change your cycle, then it can change you fertility and if the stress is over trying to conceive, then trying to reduce that stress could improve your chances. The example of rape is not really relevant, it takes time for things to change, so a period of stress might cause cycle changes, but if a women is in her fertile period when she is raped, it's already too late, even if stress from that point on might alter her cycle if she didn't fall pregnant. Cheers Anne |
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On Aug 3, 1:35 pm, Anne Rogers wrote:
I don't mean to jump on you, but as someone who dealt with infertility and losses for 5 years, hearing anyone say, "relax and it will happen" just triggers a strong reflex. I don't think she meant relaxing is some kind of magical solution to make it happen, but if stress can change your cycle, then it can change you fertility and if the stress is over trying to conceive, then trying to reduce that stress could improve your chances. The example of rape is not really relevant, it takes time for things to change, so a period of stress might cause cycle changes, but if a women is in her fertile period when she is raped, it's already too late, even if stress from that point on might alter her cycle if she didn't fall pregnant. Cheers Anne This has been very eye opening for me. I didn't realize that even for a 20 year old you could expect to wait 3 months to conceive. My mother was so effective in scaring me with the "it only takes once" speech that I thought it would be a piece of cake to get pregnant. I was actually thinking i might be pregnant now because my partner and I have been active literally for the last 20 days. we just started trying this month.. july. but it's all about timing. This has been very enlightening for me. I'm a little discouraged but feel better knowing a little more. |
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"MKO" wrote in message
oups.com... On Aug 3, 1:35 pm, Anne Rogers wrote: I don't mean to jump on you, but as someone who dealt with infertility and losses for 5 years, hearing anyone say, "relax and it will happen" just triggers a strong reflex. I don't think she meant relaxing is some kind of magical solution to make it happen, but if stress can change your cycle, then it can change you fertility and if the stress is over trying to conceive, then trying to reduce that stress could improve your chances. The example of rape is not really relevant, it takes time for things to change, so a period of stress might cause cycle changes, but if a women is in her fertile period when she is raped, it's already too late, even if stress from that point on might alter her cycle if she didn't fall pregnant. Cheers Anne This has been very eye opening for me. I didn't realize that even for a 20 year old you could expect to wait 3 months to conceive. My mother was so effective in scaring me with the "it only takes once" speech that I thought it would be a piece of cake to get pregnant. I was actually thinking i might be pregnant now because my partner and I have been active literally for the last 20 days. we just started trying this month.. july. but it's all about timing. This has been very enlightening for me. I'm a little discouraged but feel better knowing a little more. Buy the book, buy the book, buy the book. Seriously. I can't recommend it enough. You have no idea what you don't know! -- Jamie Earth Angels: Taylor Marlys -- 01/03/03 Addison Grace -- 09/30/04 |
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This has been very eye opening for me. I didn't realize that even for a 20 year old you could expect to wait 3 months to conceive. My mother was so effective in scaring me with the "it only takes once" speech that I thought it would be a piece of cake to get pregnant. I was actually thinking i might be pregnant now because my partner and I have been active literally for the last 20 days. we just started trying this month.. july. but it's all about timing. This has been very enlightening for me. I'm a little discouraged but feel better knowing a little more. Your mum is right, it does only take once, have sex just once at the right moment and it can and does happen, but just because it can happen that way, doesn't mean it always does. The average is something around 3-6mths, with younger women doctors will usually wait a year before investigating fertility, unless there is any reason to suspect a problem, they wait less with older women simply because there is less time to act, for the over 35s, charting cycles for a year is delaying things too much if there is an issue, so they tend to dive right in as soon as a women presents with a concern. Cheers Anne |
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