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3yo avoiding potty training
Bribery is in the form of his favorite candies. Doesn't care.
Same here. We had special "poop candies" that Henry picked out himself. IIRC he arbitrarily spied them in the Brachs display at the grocery store and asked me to get some, and I happened to connect them to pooping -- something like, "Oh, those are very special candies. We can't just buy them like we'd buy any candy. But we can get a few and save them for when you poop in the potty." To this day, none of us can stomach these particular candies anymore because just seeing them makes us think of poop! So along those lines, you might wait for Evan to really want something and then make *that* (whatever it may be) the carrot. That said, I think he's still a tad young to be worrying much. And as an experienced mom you remember that in many ways, having a toddler in diapers is easier than having a brand-new-trained toddler in big boy underpants who has to find a toilet *right* *now*! Take your time. TTSP. -Dawn Mom to Henry, 11 |
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My youngest is about to turn 3. To say he is not interested in potty
training would be an understatement. He will not sit on the potty without a diaper on. As one who works in a daycare with lots of kids about this age, I say to drop it for a few months. You can't force it, and the more you harp on it, the more resistant he's going to get. (Even if/when he really wants to start trying, he'll be likely to refuse, just because he knows it's what you want/have been pressuring him to do.) When he's ready, whenever that it, it will likely go very quickly, and you have saved yourself a lot of wet floors, wet clothes, and misery. At the preschool we have several kids (mostly 2's) who have been 'potty training' for months to years, and still have regular accidents. Their parents have simply decided that 'today my son/daughter is old enough to train', and begin, and the result is endless misery for all. ("Come on, sweetie, lets go sit on the potty." "No!" "Will you try?" "No!" "Just for a minute? You can bring your toy with you." "No!" "You don't have to do a pee-pee?" "No!' "Are you sure?" "Yes!" "Ok. Well, you be sure to tell me when you have to go, ok?" .... and 5 minutes later, there is suddenly a puddle by Sweetie's feet ... and this is repeated every day for months. Gets old.) Three isn't really as old as all that, esp. with boys. Naomi CAPPA Certified Lactation Educator (either remove spamblock or change address to to e-mail reply.) |
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Robyn Kozierok wrote:
My youngest is about to turn 3. To say he is not interested in potty training would be an understatement. delurk My youngest will be 3 next month and it is the same thing. About once every week or two he'll complain that his diapers are to tight or something and I'll tell him how comfy his Bob the Builder underwear would be. He only has to pee in the potty. He then declares "I love my diapers" and various other similar sentiments. I plan to do nothing about it and if he is still refusing by next fall I'll see what happens then. I might declare a training day or come up with some elaborate scheme :-)....or just wait a while longer. I'm 90% sure he is physically ready right now. My older son didn't train until he was 3.5. He *knew* it was important to me and boy did he get a lot of mileage out of that. I hope to keep that particular twist *out* of the training this time. Good thread. -- Nikki Mama to Hunter (4) and Luke (2) |
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In article , Nikki says...
Robyn Kozierok wrote: My youngest is about to turn 3. To say he is not interested in potty training would be an understatement. My older son didn't train until he was 3.5. He *knew* it was important to me and boy did he get a lot of mileage out of that. I hope to keep that particular twist *out* of the training this time. My son trained completely and quickly at about 3.5 also. And I've seen this age posted many times in these misc.kids fora for little boys. Possibly there's something developmental may be going on, physically or emotionally or both. Banty |
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Iowacookiemom wrote: So along those lines, you might wait for Evan to really want something and then make *that* (whatever it may be) the carrot. This is a good idea; something to keep in mind. We had a kind of cute exchange related to this a while back. Evan pulled out one of Ryan's computer games that was *way* above his ability and said he wanted to play it. I replied that that one was for big boys. "I big!" he replied. I ended the conversation with, "Well, this one is for boys who wear *underwear*" :-P That said, I think he's still a tad young to be worrying much. And as an experienced mom you remember that in many ways, having a toddler in diapers is easier than having a brand-new-trained toddler in big boy underpants who has to find a toilet *right* *now*! Oh, yes, I really hate the "just trained" phase, and as I said we are travelling this summer, so I'm pretty happy to just wait, and casually promote the idea that *eventually* he will wear that cool underwear and use the toilet. Robyn (mommy to Ryan 9/93 and Matthew 6/96 and Evan 3/01) -- "Far and away the best prize that life has to offer is the chance to work hard at work worth doing." -- Theodore Roosevelt |
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mountainspring wrote: From my own experience, both those statistics seem fairly accurate. My son is just shy of the 3.5 mark and has just become potty trained. Yesterday was the first day he pooped on the toilet...and even better, he told me he needed to do it first! :-) Among the 6 kids in his playgroup (who were all born within about a month of each other) the girls all potty trained right around their 3rd birthday, and the boys are just now getting trained. Wow, that seems late compared to my experience; perhaps that is part of my problem. My first son trained quickly on his 3rd birthday and my second trained before he was 3 -- started around 2.5 but was't reliable for quite a while. I think 10 years ago it was unusual for even a boy to train much later than his 3rd birthday. I guess the average age is getting older even as I travel this parenting journey ;-) We tried not to pressure our son *too* much about it, just made it clear that, eventually, we expected him to start using the potty. I think your practice of asking your son each day whether he used the potty and being somewhat nonchalant if he didn't and saying "maybe tomorrow" sounds like a good way of handling it. Have faith, I don't think your son is at all unusual in his refusal to use the potty at his age. I suspect in a few months he'll suddently announce that he wants to go use the potty. He teased me the other day. When I was changing his diaper I casually asked, as I often do, if he wanted to sit on the potty as long as he was naked. He said "No... um, yes". So, I asked, trying to mask my shock, "You want to go sit on the potty now?" "No," he replied. "Oh," said I, "Ok, when *do* you want to sit on the potty?" "Tomorrow." Robyn (mommy to Ryan 9/93 and Matthew 6/96 and Evan 3/01) -- Support a family business and learn about the technologies underlying the Internet with the TCP/IP Guide! http://www.tcpipguide.com Special Limited-Time Offer for Educators Currently Available "Far and away the best prize that life has to offer is the chance to work hard at work worth doing." -- Theodore Roosevelt |
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Just want you to know that you still have time, he is only 3. Our
grandson turned three in Feb. and he is doing great now ,but there is no rule that he must be trained be the time he's 3 and a half. Try standing him on a step stool or somthing that makes him able to go in the potty, pour some water, in the toilet and make bubbles, and ask him to pee in the potty to make bubbles of is own, that's what our little guy did and thought it was great fun. That's all she wrote, he was on his way to doing what had to be done. He even had a new brother Feb. 12 and hasn't back slid at all, still making bubbles. |
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On Wed, 31 Mar 2004 13:04:58 -0500, Bev Brandt wrote:
snip Later that day I got a call at work from *my* *son* telling me that he'd been peeing in the potty all day. He was very excited about it and very proud! (Being in a business environment and chatting it up with your 3 year old on the phone is surreal.) That was about a week ago and he hasn't "backslid" yet. A few minor accidents, but overall, we couldn't be happier! The kid even gets up in the middle of the night to go! Another data point in the "they'll do it when they're ready" camp and hope that even late trainers eventually train. - Bev Yay!!! Susan |
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In article ,
Bev Brandt wrote: So, one morning as he was kind of struggling putting on his diaper and complaining that the process was too slow and he couldn't do it by himself, I casually said: "Underwear is easier to put on and faster." He trotted up to his room, got his underwear out (we'd also switched him over to a chest of drawers that he could more easily open) and put on underwear. I told him that was great, but I didn't say too much else because he'd done this part before. Later that day I got a call at work from *my* *son* telling me that he'd been peeing in the potty all day. He was very excited about it and very proud! (Being in a business environment and chatting it up with your 3 year old on the phone is surreal.) That was about a week ago and he hasn't "backslid" yet. A few minor accidents, but overall, we couldn't be happier! The kid even gets up in the middle of the night to go! Another data point in the "they'll do it when they're ready" camp and hope that even late trainers eventually train. Awesome! Congrats to you and your son. No miracles here yet, but we mention the pleasure of underwear from time to time. He hasn't tried them on yet. He'll probably decide to wear underwear the day before we leave on our summer vacation :-O Robyn (mommy to Ryan 9/93 and Matthew 6/96 and Evan 3/01) -- "Far and away the best prize that life has to offer is the chance to work hard at work worth doing." -- Theodore Roosevelt |
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