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one year check up and now really worried
Hi, again -- It makes baby stop waking from hunger pangs IF AND ONLY IF the hunger is a habit, not a need. (In other words, don't try this on a very young baby, who actually NEEDS food in the middle of the night!) It allow baby to sleep by breaking the immediate association between waking and food. Think of it this way. When YOU wake in the morning, do you keep a bottle of milk by your bed? Or do you shower, dress, get the kids moving, and then make breakfast (thus delaying food for 30 minutes or more)? At some point, your own body broke the wake/food association. Most babies seem to be able to do this by 12 months of age, and the neat thing is that it's painless. If your baby is distractable -- you can talk, change the diaper, etc. before eating -- then your baby is capable. When I said in an earlier post that most babies are capable, I meant it. MOST babies, not all, can sleep through the night without eating by 12 months. But just because they're capable doesn't mean that we parents are willing to make them. (I don't make my 9-year old practice his violin every day, either, even though he's capable.) Sometimes you decide that the effort, or sacrifice, or whatever, isn't worth it. But if a parent is exhausted, or a baby seems to be not growing right, or too tired during the day, then perhaps it IS worth it, and so realizing your baby is capable becomes very important. (And yes, I DO make my 9-year old help clean the kitchen after supper every night, because he's capable AND it's worth my effort to make him help out.) My own kids were about 10 months when we stopped feeding them on waking. It was easy on them, and they both started sleeping about 90 minutes longer in the mornings, which *I* appreciated. My two cents, --Beth Kevles http://web.mit.edu/kevles/www/nomilk.html -- a page for the milk-allergic Disclaimer: Nothing in this message should be construed as medical advice. Please consult with your own medical practicioner. NOTE: No email is read at my MIT address. Use the AOL one if you would like me to reply. |
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Thank you everyone! Emily seems happy and healthy to us. We're going
through somewhat of a rough spot right now with lack of sleep, but other than that, I've been totally thrilled with Emily's development. I really appreciate all your concern and encouragement. Betsy "Irrational Number" wrote in message hlink.net... determined wrote: Emily had her one year checkup today, even though she's 13 months and 2 wks now. We had a delay in getting her in because we were in Germany when she turned one. Anyways, Emily still only weighs 18 lbs. She doesn't walk, although she will pull herself into a standing position. 13 months is the mean, the bell curve reaches 18 months at the slow end. She still wakes up 3-4 times a night. She sleeps in a crib in our room, but sometimes out of desperation, we'll bring her to bed with us. Do what works for you, don't listen to other people who are not in your bedroom. -- Anita -- |
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On Jan 25, 1:35�pm, "determined" wrote: Emily had her one year checkup today, even though she's 13 months and 2 wks now. *We had a delay in getting her in because we were in Germany when she turned one. *Anyways, Emily still only weighs 18 lbs. *She doesn't walk, although she will pull herself into a standing position. *She also has no interest in crawling, and gets around by scooting on our hardwood floors. Now the doc wants us to see a physical therapist because she should be walking by now. He also says she should not be getting more than a couple cups of milk each day, and the rest should be water. *I guess to me this seems counterintuitive because she needs extra calories for weight gain... She still wakes up 3-4 times a night. *She sleeps in a crib in our room, but sometimes out of desperation, we'll bring her to bed with us. *We do offer a bottle still at night too, because after 10 minutes of crying, I start to feel like I'm going to fall apart. *The doc says we have made a big mistake, and that we have made her more dependant on us. *So I feel like a bad/ignorant mother. *So now he wants us to move her crib downstairs, since we do not have another bedroom on the same floor. *And that we should let her cry in 30 minute intervals, which seems so brutal to me! I'm mentally, emotionally and physically exhausted. *I'm just really hoping to hear some advice or some empathy! Well, if it makes you feel better, I just took my dd for her 1-year visit, and she's also 13 months. She weighs 17 lbs. 4 oz. Her pediatrician is fine with that -- she's just a small person and will probably not be a basketball player. So I wouldn't worry about the weight at all -- I should think that being *overweight* would be cause for concern, not being slim, so long as there hasn't been a sudden weight drop. My daughter also wakes several times a night to nurse. I'm starting to leave a cup filled with water in her crib, so that she can drink if she's thirsty and then go back to sleep herself. That worked well for my older two at around this age, and they still have cups of water by their beds. Anyway, you've gotten some good advice from other posters, and I agree that you should find another pediatrician who isn't such a worrywort. Bryna |
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On Jan 25, 12:35 pm, "determined" wrote:
Emily had her one year checkup today, even though she's 13 months and 2 wks now. We had a delay in getting her in because we were in Germany when she turned one. Anyways, Emily still only weighs 18 lbs. She doesn't walk, although she will pull herself into a standing position. She also has no interest in crawling, and gets around by scooting on our hardwood floors. Now the doc wants us to see a physical therapist because she should be walking by now. This is really bizarre. Babies skip crawling all the time. One of my brothers walked at 18 months, and the other walked at 10 months. I walked a couple of weeks after my own first birthday. We are all pretty normal adults. My understanding is that anything before 18 months is normal. I would call him and leave a message asking if he has other concerns about her physical development. Sometimes hypotonia might cause a delay in walking. But if he doesn't suspect any physical problem, I wouldn't worry about it - he's just being a worry wort. He also says she should not be getting more than a couple cups of milk each day, and the rest should be water. I guess to me this seems counterintuitive because she needs extra calories for weight gain... I've no experience to offer you here. At one year, my daughter was still breastfeeding on demand, and was eating solids. I have no idea how much breastmilk she was getting. She still wakes up 3-4 times a night. She sleeps in a crib in our room, but sometimes out of desperation, we'll bring her to bed with us. We do offer a bottle still at night too, because after 10 minutes of crying, I start to feel like I'm going to fall apart. My daughter was still waking about 3 times per night at that age, to nurse. By 18 months, it had dropped two 2 times (2am and 4am). She also slept in a sidecar attached to my side of the bed. At around 2 years of age, it dropped to only once per night. At age 3 years, she started sleeping all night, and that's when she asked to move to her own bed, where she's been (mostly) ever since. The doc says we have made a big mistake, and that we have made her more dependant on us. This is a load of BS. It sounds like he's an older sort, because that's the sort of stuff I heard out of my parents. She'll be happy to move to her own room when she's ready. So I feel like a bad/ignorant mother. So now he wants us to move her crib downstairs, since we do not have another bedroom on the same floor. And that we should let her cry in 30 minute intervals, which seems so brutal to me! Unless you think there are serious sleep problems, I really, really don't agree with this. There is research that shows a link between crying to sleep as a baby and sleep and other health problems later. I also have to question the advice to put a young child on a different floor. That's just crazy talk. A baby monitor might solve the problem, but I wouldn't have been comfortable with my daughter on a different floor from me! I still wouldn't and she's 5 years old. I'd either find yourself a different pediatrician, or cheerfully ignore parenting advice from him, and only go to him for medical. Cathy Weeks |
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On Jan 30, 4:08 pm, "Cathy Weeks" wrote:
On Jan 25, 12:35 pm, "determined" wrote: Emily had her one year checkup today, even though she's 13 months and 2 wks now. We had a delay in getting her in because we were in Germany when she turned one. Anyways, Emily still only weighs 18 lbs. She doesn't walk, although she will pull herself into a standing position. She also has no interest in crawling, and gets around by scooting on our hardwood floors. Now the doc wants us to see a physical therapist because she should be walking by now. This is really bizarre. Babies skip crawling all the time. One of my brothers walked at 18 months, and the other walked at 10 months. I walked a couple of weeks after my own first birthday. We are all pretty normal adults. My understanding is that anything before 18 months is normal. I would call him and leave a message asking if he has other concerns about her physical development. Sometimes hypotonia might cause a delay in walking. But if he doesn't suspect any physical problem, I wouldn't worry about it - he's just being a worry wort. He also says she should not be getting more than a couple cups of milk each day, and the rest should be water. I guess to me this seems counterintuitive because she needs extra calories for weight gain... I've no experience to offer you here. At one year, my daughter was still breastfeeding on demand, and was eating solids. I have no idea how much breastmilk she was getting. She still wakes up 3-4 times a night. She sleeps in a crib in our room, but sometimes out of desperation, we'll bring her to bed with us. We do offer a bottle still at night too, because after 10 minutes of crying, I start to feel like I'm going to fall apart. My daughter was still waking about 3 times per night at that age, to nurse. By 18 months, it had dropped two 2 times (2am and 4am). She also slept in a sidecar attached to my side of the bed. At around 2 years of age, it dropped to only once per night. At age 3 years, she started sleeping all night, and that's when she asked to move to her own bed, where she's been (mostly) ever since. The doc says we have made a big mistake, and that we have made her more dependant on us. This is a load of BS. It sounds like he's an older sort, because that's the sort of stuff I heard out of my parents. She'll be happy to move to her own room when she's ready. So I feel like a bad/ignorant mother. So now he wants us to move her crib downstairs, since we do not have another bedroom on the same floor. And that we should let her cry in 30 minute intervals, which seems so brutal to me! Unless you think there are serious sleep problems, I really, really don't agree with this. There is research that shows a link between crying to sleep as a baby and sleep and other health problems later. I also have to question the advice to put a young child on a different floor. That's just crazy talk. A baby monitor might solve the problem, but I wouldn't have been comfortable with my daughter on a different floor from me! I still wouldn't and she's 5 years old. Not to mention what a bloody PITA it would be to have to go to another floor when she wakes in the middle of the night. I don't even like having to go to another room! Wait...I don't even like going to the crib in our room. I'm lazy. |
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Thank you to everyone for your advice and encouragement!
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