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in dire need if advice
Hi guys!
I mostly just lurk here and suck in as much advise I can get, but I really need some now and was wondering if anyone can offer any. I have twin boys who will be 3 in December. They have always been "pretty good" kids until they hit about 2 1/2. They switched from cribs to beds and it has been downhill from there. They have bunk beds and my one son will constantly rip down his curtain. I can't even tell you how many mini blinds I went through. My other son ripped the thermostat off the wall and cranked his heat up to 90. They flatly refuse to nap anymore, and I don't even bother trying, because it just means more work for me. They also rip the sheets off the bed, matresspad and all. I love being a SAHM, but I'm really at my wits end. I'm hoping that this is just a phase, but how long will it last?? I do have another infant son who requires a lot of attention, but when he is sleeping, I devote all my time to the twins. Can anyone out there offer me advise before I go crazy???? Thanks! Sue mom to Austin and Noah 12-29-00 Collin 2-13-03 |
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Subject: in dire need if advice
From: "sue" Date: Tue, Sep 30, 2003 7:06 PM Message-id: .net Hi guys! I mostly just lurk here and suck in as much advise I can get, but I really need some now and was wondering if anyone can offer any. I have twin boys who will be 3 in December. They have always been "pretty good" kids until they hit about 2 1/2. They switched from cribs to beds and it has been downhill from there. They have bunk beds and my one son will constantly rip down his curtain. I can't even tell you how many mini blinds I went through. My other son ripped the thermostat off the wall and cranked his heat up to 90. They flatly refuse to nap anymore, and I don't even bother trying, because it just means more work for me. They also rip the sheets off the bed, matresspad and all. I love being a SAHM, but I'm really at my wits end. I'm hoping that this is just a phase, but how long will it last?? I do have another infant son who requires a lot of attention, but when he is sleeping, I devote all my time to the twins. Can anyone out there offer me advise before I go crazy???? Are they reaching the curtains and thermostat because of the bunk bed? My first thought would be to take it down and store it in the garage or basement until they are older and just have them sleep on mattresses on the floor. Or maybe move the bunk bed against a wall where there is nothing they can get into. (Although I must echo the other poster's comments about kids that young sleeping on a top bunk.) Don't they make some sort of clips to keep sheets on a bed? Or have you tried those already and they pull them off anyway? My daughters are 3 (and almost 3 months) and have been phasing out their nap over the course of nearly a year now. Hopefully by not taking a nap your boys are going to bed earlier. I can't help you with the baby issue though. Two kept me *plenty* busy enough without wanting a third! I am sure that their behavior is also a reaction to having a new sibling to compete with for your time. But there really isn't much you can do about that but ride out this phase. Lori |
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Subject: in dire need if advice
From: "sue" Date: Tue, Sep 30, 2003 7:06 PM Message-id: .net Hi guys! I mostly just lurk here and suck in as much advise I can get, but I really need some now and was wondering if anyone can offer any. I have twin boys who will be 3 in December. They have always been "pretty good" kids until they hit about 2 1/2. They switched from cribs to beds and it has been downhill from there. They have bunk beds and my one son will constantly rip down his curtain. I can't even tell you how many mini blinds I went through. My other son ripped the thermostat off the wall and cranked his heat up to 90. They flatly refuse to nap anymore, and I don't even bother trying, because it just means more work for me. They also rip the sheets off the bed, matresspad and all. I love being a SAHM, but I'm really at my wits end. I'm hoping that this is just a phase, but how long will it last?? I do have another infant son who requires a lot of attention, but when he is sleeping, I devote all my time to the twins. Can anyone out there offer me advise before I go crazy???? Are they reaching the curtains and thermostat because of the bunk bed? My first thought would be to take it down and store it in the garage or basement until they are older and just have them sleep on mattresses on the floor. Or maybe move the bunk bed against a wall where there is nothing they can get into. (Although I must echo the other poster's comments about kids that young sleeping on a top bunk.) Don't they make some sort of clips to keep sheets on a bed? Or have you tried those already and they pull them off anyway? My daughters are 3 (and almost 3 months) and have been phasing out their nap over the course of nearly a year now. Hopefully by not taking a nap your boys are going to bed earlier. I can't help you with the baby issue though. Two kept me *plenty* busy enough without wanting a third! I am sure that their behavior is also a reaction to having a new sibling to compete with for your time. But there really isn't much you can do about that but ride out this phase. Lori |
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I agree with the others to move or REMOVE the (dangerous) bunk beds and use
just mattresses or split the beds in two and only allow them the bottom bit or whatever it takes to reduce their reach. Remove anything from the bedrooms that they mess with or wreck. Duct tape the thermostat if necessary. Find another way to cover the windows (we TIGHTLY staple gunned blackout over the windows til they were 5+ since they all shared one bedroom and did not need / did not have room to play in there). On the unmaking beds -- what I did (mine were a bit older perhaps but not as old as 4, so probably 3+) was explain to them very nicely that if they tore the beds apart I would not make them again until the cleaning lady came to change them. AND I STUCK TO IT. End of story. One week or so of sleeping on a bare plastic mattress was enough and after months of driving me mad none of them ever did it again. These were toddler beds -- for a "real" mattress I'd buy a zip-on waterproof mattress cover first so no grime would rub off from dirty feet etc. Naps -- there comes a moment when the fight is not worth it and you sound like you just pulled up at that door. They will need to go to bed 30-45 minutes earlier and you can institute "quiet time" -- a movie in the family room with popcorn to bribe them to stay seated was how one friend of mine handled it. Anyone who got up went to their room instead. Or they can be in their room(s) with books / toys / whatever but can't come out. For some people this works really well for a long time -- it did for mine for just a short time provided they were in separate rooms. Even a month is a good purchase. At around age 3, when our naps first completely ended, I had to gate mine into the (upstairs) playroom with a video to obtain "quiet" for myself -- and it still takes practice even if you don't have to "seal" the door because they *will* think of reasons why your presence is necessary. The thing to remember is that whatever you have to go in for (break up a fight, staunch the blood, put in a new video ..... etc) you can be brief and basic and not stay more than a minimum time. Give them no "reward" so they get bored of "needing" you. Another thing I did weather permitting was put them out in our fenced backyard, tell them I would be back in x minutes (5, .... 15 .... 30) and then *lock* the back door. I could easily see them from inside and after a couple of days they worked out that rattling the door was pointless. There was plenty to do (trikes, cars, water table in season, climbing, balls, dogs to torture, flowers to shred, trees to bash, .....) so that worked quite well. When the time was up I took out a snack, or played with them for a few minutes, then left them alone again for another x minutes. "sue" wrote in message link.net... Hi guys! I mostly just lurk here and suck in as much advise I can get, but I really need some now and was wondering if anyone can offer any. I have twin boys who will be 3 in December. They have always been "pretty good" kids until they hit about 2 1/2. They switched from cribs to beds and it has been downhill from there. They have bunk beds and my one son will constantly rip down his curtain. I can't even tell you how many mini blinds I went through. My other son ripped the thermostat off the wall and cranked his heat up to 90. They flatly refuse to nap anymore, and I don't even bother trying, because it just means more work for me. They also rip the sheets off the bed, matresspad and all. I love being a SAHM, but I'm really at my wits end. I'm hoping that this is just a phase, but how long will it last?? I do have another infant son who requires a lot of attention, but when he is sleeping, I devote all my time to the twins. Can anyone out there offer me advise before I go crazy???? Thanks! Sue mom to Austin and Noah 12-29-00 Collin 2-13-03 |
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I agree with the others to move or REMOVE the (dangerous) bunk beds and use
just mattresses or split the beds in two and only allow them the bottom bit or whatever it takes to reduce their reach. Remove anything from the bedrooms that they mess with or wreck. Duct tape the thermostat if necessary. Find another way to cover the windows (we TIGHTLY staple gunned blackout over the windows til they were 5+ since they all shared one bedroom and did not need / did not have room to play in there). On the unmaking beds -- what I did (mine were a bit older perhaps but not as old as 4, so probably 3+) was explain to them very nicely that if they tore the beds apart I would not make them again until the cleaning lady came to change them. AND I STUCK TO IT. End of story. One week or so of sleeping on a bare plastic mattress was enough and after months of driving me mad none of them ever did it again. These were toddler beds -- for a "real" mattress I'd buy a zip-on waterproof mattress cover first so no grime would rub off from dirty feet etc. Naps -- there comes a moment when the fight is not worth it and you sound like you just pulled up at that door. They will need to go to bed 30-45 minutes earlier and you can institute "quiet time" -- a movie in the family room with popcorn to bribe them to stay seated was how one friend of mine handled it. Anyone who got up went to their room instead. Or they can be in their room(s) with books / toys / whatever but can't come out. For some people this works really well for a long time -- it did for mine for just a short time provided they were in separate rooms. Even a month is a good purchase. At around age 3, when our naps first completely ended, I had to gate mine into the (upstairs) playroom with a video to obtain "quiet" for myself -- and it still takes practice even if you don't have to "seal" the door because they *will* think of reasons why your presence is necessary. The thing to remember is that whatever you have to go in for (break up a fight, staunch the blood, put in a new video ..... etc) you can be brief and basic and not stay more than a minimum time. Give them no "reward" so they get bored of "needing" you. Another thing I did weather permitting was put them out in our fenced backyard, tell them I would be back in x minutes (5, .... 15 .... 30) and then *lock* the back door. I could easily see them from inside and after a couple of days they worked out that rattling the door was pointless. There was plenty to do (trikes, cars, water table in season, climbing, balls, dogs to torture, flowers to shred, trees to bash, .....) so that worked quite well. When the time was up I took out a snack, or played with them for a few minutes, then left them alone again for another x minutes. "sue" wrote in message link.net... Hi guys! I mostly just lurk here and suck in as much advise I can get, but I really need some now and was wondering if anyone can offer any. I have twin boys who will be 3 in December. They have always been "pretty good" kids until they hit about 2 1/2. They switched from cribs to beds and it has been downhill from there. They have bunk beds and my one son will constantly rip down his curtain. I can't even tell you how many mini blinds I went through. My other son ripped the thermostat off the wall and cranked his heat up to 90. They flatly refuse to nap anymore, and I don't even bother trying, because it just means more work for me. They also rip the sheets off the bed, matresspad and all. I love being a SAHM, but I'm really at my wits end. I'm hoping that this is just a phase, but how long will it last?? I do have another infant son who requires a lot of attention, but when he is sleeping, I devote all my time to the twins. Can anyone out there offer me advise before I go crazy???? Thanks! Sue mom to Austin and Noah 12-29-00 Collin 2-13-03 |
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Thanks everyone for your advise. My kids do havew both beds on the
floor(guess I should have said that before). They just do all of this by standing on their beds. I tried to tape the thermostat, but they just took the tape off. My husband suggested last night that we go and buy a thermostat lock box like offices have. Their beds are away firm these objects, but they just empty their drawers and pile the clothes up until they can reach. I'm going to try some of your good ideas and hope that it helps a bit. Thanks for taking the time to answer! Sue mom to Austin and Noah 12-29-00 Collin 2-13-03 "sue" wrote in message link.net... Hi guys! I mostly just lurk here and suck in as much advise I can get, but I really need some now and was wondering if anyone can offer any. I have twin boys who will be 3 in December. They have always been "pretty good" kids until they hit about 2 1/2. They switched from cribs to beds and it has been downhill from there. They have bunk beds and my one son will constantly rip down his curtain. I can't even tell you how many mini blinds I went through. My other son ripped the thermostat off the wall and cranked his heat up to 90. They flatly refuse to nap anymore, and I don't even bother trying, because it just means more work for me. They also rip the sheets off the bed, matresspad and all. I love being a SAHM, but I'm really at my wits end. I'm hoping that this is just a phase, but how long will it last?? I do have another infant son who requires a lot of attention, but when he is sleeping, I devote all my time to the twins. Can anyone out there offer me advise before I go crazy???? Thanks! Sue mom to Austin and Noah 12-29-00 Collin 2-13-03 |
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Thanks everyone for your advise. My kids do havew both beds on the
floor(guess I should have said that before). They just do all of this by standing on their beds. I tried to tape the thermostat, but they just took the tape off. My husband suggested last night that we go and buy a thermostat lock box like offices have. Their beds are away firm these objects, but they just empty their drawers and pile the clothes up until they can reach. I'm going to try some of your good ideas and hope that it helps a bit. Thanks for taking the time to answer! Sue mom to Austin and Noah 12-29-00 Collin 2-13-03 "sue" wrote in message link.net... Hi guys! I mostly just lurk here and suck in as much advise I can get, but I really need some now and was wondering if anyone can offer any. I have twin boys who will be 3 in December. They have always been "pretty good" kids until they hit about 2 1/2. They switched from cribs to beds and it has been downhill from there. They have bunk beds and my one son will constantly rip down his curtain. I can't even tell you how many mini blinds I went through. My other son ripped the thermostat off the wall and cranked his heat up to 90. They flatly refuse to nap anymore, and I don't even bother trying, because it just means more work for me. They also rip the sheets off the bed, matresspad and all. I love being a SAHM, but I'm really at my wits end. I'm hoping that this is just a phase, but how long will it last?? I do have another infant son who requires a lot of attention, but when he is sleeping, I devote all my time to the twins. Can anyone out there offer me advise before I go crazy???? Thanks! Sue mom to Austin and Noah 12-29-00 Collin 2-13-03 |
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I remember that time (even though the kids are 8y9m), we emptied out the
room. I put the dresser sideways in the closet and locked the door with a key, I removed everything that they could climb, throw or move. Mattresses on the floor, and if they took off the bedding, so what, it was simple so I didn't care. I agree with hubby about a lock on the thermostat too. My twins got into so much mischief at that age I would meet my DH at the door in tears. I can say it settled down, I also found out that the more I took them out to get rid of the energy, running, playgrounds, back yard, anything. The more energy they have pent up the more they seek and distort (at least we found). I know with a new baby it's tough but maybe a high school friend can take them to run the park or watch them outside. Good luck and we've all been there. Shirley mom to Chris and Kathleen "sue" wrote in message k.net... Thanks everyone for your advise. My kids do havew both beds on the floor(guess I should have said that before). They just do all of this by standing on their beds. I tried to tape the thermostat, but they just took the tape off. My husband suggested last night that we go and buy a thermostat lock box like offices have. Their beds are away firm these objects, but they just empty their drawers and pile the clothes up until they can reach. I'm going to try some of your good ideas and hope that it helps a bit. Thanks for taking the time to answer! Sue mom to Austin and Noah 12-29-00 Collin 2-13-03 "sue" wrote in message link.net... Hi guys! I mostly just lurk here and suck in as much advise I can get, but I really need some now and was wondering if anyone can offer any. I have twin boys who will be 3 in December. They have always been "pretty good" kids until they hit about 2 1/2. They switched from cribs to beds and it has been downhill from there. They have bunk beds and my one son will constantly rip down his curtain. I can't even tell you how many mini blinds I went through. My other son ripped the thermostat off the wall and cranked his heat up to 90. They flatly refuse to nap anymore, and I don't even bother trying, because it just means more work for me. They also rip the sheets off the bed, matresspad and all. I love being a SAHM, but I'm really at my wits end. I'm hoping that this is just a phase, but how long will it last?? I do have another infant son who requires a lot of attention, but when he is sleeping, I devote all my time to the twins. Can anyone out there offer me advise before I go crazy???? Thanks! Sue mom to Austin and Noah 12-29-00 Collin 2-13-03 |
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I remember that time (even though the kids are 8y9m), we emptied out the
room. I put the dresser sideways in the closet and locked the door with a key, I removed everything that they could climb, throw or move. Mattresses on the floor, and if they took off the bedding, so what, it was simple so I didn't care. I agree with hubby about a lock on the thermostat too. My twins got into so much mischief at that age I would meet my DH at the door in tears. I can say it settled down, I also found out that the more I took them out to get rid of the energy, running, playgrounds, back yard, anything. The more energy they have pent up the more they seek and distort (at least we found). I know with a new baby it's tough but maybe a high school friend can take them to run the park or watch them outside. Good luck and we've all been there. Shirley mom to Chris and Kathleen "sue" wrote in message k.net... Thanks everyone for your advise. My kids do havew both beds on the floor(guess I should have said that before). They just do all of this by standing on their beds. I tried to tape the thermostat, but they just took the tape off. My husband suggested last night that we go and buy a thermostat lock box like offices have. Their beds are away firm these objects, but they just empty their drawers and pile the clothes up until they can reach. I'm going to try some of your good ideas and hope that it helps a bit. Thanks for taking the time to answer! Sue mom to Austin and Noah 12-29-00 Collin 2-13-03 "sue" wrote in message link.net... Hi guys! I mostly just lurk here and suck in as much advise I can get, but I really need some now and was wondering if anyone can offer any. I have twin boys who will be 3 in December. They have always been "pretty good" kids until they hit about 2 1/2. They switched from cribs to beds and it has been downhill from there. They have bunk beds and my one son will constantly rip down his curtain. I can't even tell you how many mini blinds I went through. My other son ripped the thermostat off the wall and cranked his heat up to 90. They flatly refuse to nap anymore, and I don't even bother trying, because it just means more work for me. They also rip the sheets off the bed, matresspad and all. I love being a SAHM, but I'm really at my wits end. I'm hoping that this is just a phase, but how long will it last?? I do have another infant son who requires a lot of attention, but when he is sleeping, I devote all my time to the twins. Can anyone out there offer me advise before I go crazy???? Thanks! Sue mom to Austin and Noah 12-29-00 Collin 2-13-03 |
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"sue" wrote in message k.net... Thanks everyone for your advise. My kids do havew both beds on the floor(guess I should have said that before). They just do all of this by standing on their beds. I tried to tape the thermostat, but they just took the tape off. My husband suggested last night that we go and buy a thermostat lock box like offices have. Their beds are away firm these objects, but they just empty their drawers and pile the clothes up until they can reach. I'm going to try some of your good ideas and hope that it helps a bit. Thanks for taking the time to answer! Sue mom to Austin and Noah 12-29-00 Collin 2-13-03 "sue" wrote in message link.net... Hi guys! I mostly just lurk here and suck in as much advise I can get, but I really need some now and was wondering if anyone can offer any. I have twin boys who will be 3 in December. They have always been "pretty good" kids until they hit about 2 1/2. They switched from cribs to beds and it has been downhill from there. They have bunk beds and my one son will constantly rip down his curtain. I can't even tell you how many mini blinds I went through. My other son ripped the thermostat off the wall and cranked his heat up to 90. They flatly refuse to nap anymore, and I don't even bother trying, because it just means more work for me. They also rip the sheets off the bed, matresspad and all. I love being a SAHM, but I'm really at my wits end. I'm hoping that this is just a phase, but how long will it last?? I do have another infant son who requires a lot of attention, but when he is sleeping, I devote all my time to the twins. Can anyone out there offer me advise before I go crazy???? Thanks! Sue mom to Austin and Noah 12-29-00 Collin 2-13-03 Hi! My girls did the same kinds of things at that age. The sheet thing particularly was something that happened alot until my Mom (bless her!) bought them fancy sheets and comforters with the stipulation that if they didn't stay on the bed, they didn't get to keep them. So if the girls tore up their beds...their pretty princess "big-girl" sheets got put away for awhile. After the initial battle the first time the sheets got taken away, this got MUCH easier. Just something that worked for us....good luck to you. Kim Chelsea and Courtney (12/27/90) |
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