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help me keep my son from perpetuating the cycle of abuse (very long)
"Joelle" wrote in message ... ome psychoes are either really good at faking normal or really do care so much for me that they are dr. jekyll when they are with me and mr. hyde to other people or have been mr. hyde at times in the past and are trying eally hard not to be when they are with me but after awhile the undercurrent of danger comes to the surface but by then I'm entangled. SIgh. I know I'm just farting in the wind here, but honestly Lorian, if once or twice you meet some guy who really did "change" after you got to know him, well, once can happen to anyone, twice, it's time to start thinking twice, but if this is happening to you often or "all the time" you really do have to look at yourself. Most men are not Dr. Jekyll/Mr. Hyde - and if the majority of the men you are attracted to are, then you have to look at yourself and why you are drawn to that sort of person. Or you may be expecting it of them and you see it when it's not there. Yea I know, I'm being oppressive and blaming the victim. I've really sort of given up on you - but maybe someone else reading this who is in the same pattern will think about it and look at what they can do to change the pattern. Joelle From what she's said though, is that that was the past. She isn't dating anyone for exactly those reasons. And I don't think that pointing out how one falls into patterns of behaviour is victim blaming, so hopefully she sees that. Christine |
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