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On Wed, 8 Sep 2004 20:46:50 +0100, "denanson" Dennis@Large .ie
wrote: OK you two, just out of curiosity. How are you both dealing with the other family relationships. Presumably you two swap Email and chat on the phone but how do the assorted children build up their respective relationships with the other adult and other children? I don't know about anyone else but the 'assorted children' in our situation are my two, who are 19 and 17, and Paul's, who is 11. My 19 year old has a high school diploma, two years of college, a full time job and lives her own life away from home. She says she's happy for us and "it's about time, Mom!" She likes Paul's just fine and thinks he's a good guy, but she's an adult and not overly an issue. She has 3 cats, and I'm allergic to cats, which she well knows, so there's little likelihood of her expecting to move back home. ;-) She's going to Mexico for Christmas with her boyfriend and his family. My 17 year old is graduating at the end of the year and will have her high school diploma by the time Paul & co. arrive. She's eager to move out on her own and get a job for a year before going to college, which has been her agenda since long before all this. I'm not expecting it to change but she knows that she'll have a room with us as long as she wants or needs it. She think's Paul's son is a fabulous kid & is looking forward to spending more time with him. Claims she's keen on a younger kid in the mix. Younger than her, that is. :-) We spent a lot of time together while they were here, of course. In her words, the whole thing is "groovy." I'll leave it to Paul to speak WRT his own, if he chooses to. WRT building relationships, we did a fair whack of that while they were here, and we're meeting for two weeks over Christmas as well. Then when they get here in the summer we'll have all the time in the world to carry on the rest of it. Are they expected to just slot in with your wishes? Such an endearing turn of phrase. Does it seem likely that after all this time of intense microparenting of my injured youngster, including leaving a job I loved and moving thousands of miles to get her needs met, that suddenly her needs are of no consequence? Not trying to throw a dampner here, just curious. Not to worry. It's not likely to be overly affected by anyone's questions, I don't think. :-) Cele |
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On Mon, 06 Sep 2004 06:40:35 GMT, "Paul Griffiths"
wrote: "Cele" wrote in message .. . On Sun, 5 Sep 2004 15:52:59 +0100, "Paul Griffiths" wrote: "Cele" wrote in message .. . snip Heh. Actually, you can go ahead and be happy for us. We are. And I think we can get a room, so not to worry. At least, if there wasn't six thousand miles of land and an entire ocean between us. But we're working on that. Is this the royal we or is the guy supposed to be doing something too? Oh wait, I could just ask *him* I suppose. That's the ticket. Ask him, and get back to me on what he says, ok? He said he's busy right now but muttered something about hot tubs and satellite TV systems. Mean anything to you? I dunno. I heard that if you put a TV in a hot tub it kind of lights up your whole day... Cele |
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On Thu, 09 Sep 2004 01:45:03 GMT, 'Kate wrote:
On Wed, 8 Sep 2004 20:45:56 +0100, "Paul Griffiths" wrote: "Betsy" wrote in message news:rAA%c.6081$Va5.5751@trnddc01... "Paul Griffiths" wrote in message ... snip Thanks. Should we make it a race? Have to be handicapped somehow 'cos you guys had a head start. Be fun to meet up one day though, if it all works out I mean. Well, a race, hmmmm. Sounds like fun, but...let's keep it friendly shall we? No, "neener neener neener" at the other one. Oh okay then. sulk Don't know how much of a head start we have, as this all just came together in the last month. We've known each other far longer, but the face to face meeting happened probably around the same time yours did. Ah right, I didn't realise that. Must have skipped a crucial sentence. Be fun to meet up, period. More fun if it all works out, mind. It would and it definitely would. Is there another, more appropriate, place on the 'net for this kind of thing? Alt.green-card or something? Well, this is about assp posters getting together. And as we're not talking exclusively about the US, alt.green-card isn't going to be quite the place.... Cele |
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"Cele" wrote in message
... On Mon, 06 Sep 2004 06:40:35 GMT, "Paul Griffiths" wrote: snip He said he's busy right now but muttered something about hot tubs and satellite TV systems. Mean anything to you? I dunno. I heard that if you put a TV in a hot tub it kind of lights up your whole day... Yeah I imagine it would, especially over here where TVs run off 230 volts. -- Paul Griffiths |
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"Cele" wrote in message
... snip Well, this is about assp posters getting together. Is there a chance this could expand into a discussion of a meet? That'd be great by me. -- Paul Griffiths |
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"Cele" wrote in message ... On Thu, 9 Sep 2004 07:37:49 +0100, "Paul Griffiths" wrote: "Cele" wrote in message . .. snip Well, this is about assp posters getting together. Is there a chance this could expand into a discussion of a meet? That'd be great by me. Works for me. Anyone up for an assp meet in North America somewhere next summer? Cele Hammer out the details, and finances and personal life permitting, I'm there! Betsy |
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alt.visa.us.marriage-based (At least for the US based folks) - the immigration
form you'll be looking for is a fiance visa - I think it's an I-29? Good luck. "'Kate" wrote in message ... On Wed, 8 Sep 2004 20:45:56 +0100, "Paul Griffiths" wrote: "Betsy" wrote in message news:rAA%c.6081$Va5.5751@trnddc01... "Paul Griffiths" wrote in message ... snip Thanks. Should we make it a race? Have to be handicapped somehow 'cos you guys had a head start. Be fun to meet up one day though, if it all works out I mean. Well, a race, hmmmm. Sounds like fun, but...let's keep it friendly shall we? No, "neener neener neener" at the other one. Oh okay then. sulk Don't know how much of a head start we have, as this all just came together in the last month. We've known each other far longer, but the face to face meeting happened probably around the same time yours did. Ah right, I didn't realise that. Must have skipped a crucial sentence. Be fun to meet up, period. More fun if it all works out, mind. It would and it definitely would. Is there another, more appropriate, place on the 'net for this kind of thing? Alt.green-card or something? 'Kate |
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On Thu, 09 Sep 2004 02:05:46 GMT, Cele
wrote: On Wed, 8 Sep 2004 20:46:50 +0100, "denanson" Dennis@Large .ie wrote: OK you two, just out of curiosity. How are you both dealing with the other family relationships. Presumably you two swap Email and chat on the phone but how do the assorted children build up their respective relationships with the other adult and other children? I don't know about anyone else but the 'assorted children' in our situation are my two, who are 19 and 17, and Paul's, who is 11. My 19 year old has a high school diploma, two years of college, a full time job and lives her own life away from home. She says she's happy for us and "it's about time, Mom!" She likes Paul's just fine and thinks he's a good guy, but she's an adult and not overly an issue. She has 3 cats, and I'm allergic to cats, which she well knows, so there's little likelihood of her expecting to move back home. ;-) She's going to Mexico for Christmas with her boyfriend and his family. My 17 year old is graduating at the end of the year and will have her high school diploma by the time Paul & co. arrive. She's eager to move out on her own and get a job for a year before going to college, which has been her agenda since long before all this. I'm not expecting it to change but she knows that she'll have a room with us as long as she wants or needs it. She think's Paul's son is a fabulous kid & is looking forward to spending more time with him. Claims she's keen on a younger kid in the mix. Younger than her, that is. :-) We spent a lot of time together while they were here, of course. In her words, the whole thing is "groovy." I'll leave it to Paul to speak WRT his own, if he chooses to. WRT building relationships, we did a fair whack of that while they were here, and we're meeting for two weeks over Christmas as well. Then when they get here in the summer we'll have all the time in the world to carry on the rest of it. Are they expected to just slot in with your wishes? Such an endearing turn of phrase. Does it seem likely that after all this time of intense microparenting of my injured youngster, including leaving a job I loved and moving thousands of miles to get her needs met, that suddenly her needs are of no consequence? Not trying to throw a dampner here, just curious. Not to worry. It's not likely to be overly affected by anyone's questions, I don't think. :-) WRT the visa stuff, we found alt.visa.us.marriage-based to be incredibly helpful. There are sure to be Canada-based sites as well. Good luck to all of you. Hmmm, that reminds me, I think there's a wedding about to happen down Ottawa way.... best wishes to Lisa! lm |
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"lm" wrote in message Hmmm, that reminds me, I think there's a wedding about to happen down Ottawa way.... best wishes to Lisa! lm How spooky is that? I was just thinking about you!! 8 more getups, cause the 18th doesn't count!! I was thinking about you because I'm feeling pretty much like a loon right now, and was wondering how you coped. LOL,,,,stupid fake nails sure make typing tuff Actually, we're pretty much in order, by the end of the weekend all chores and running around should be done..... We already had one glitch...Classy fricking formal men's wear went bankrupt so we had to redo the fittings and selections for the tuxes. Other than that, so far so good. Spinning away,,, Lisa |
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On Thu, 9 Sep 2004 09:33:34 -0400, "Lisa" wrote:
"lm" wrote in message Hmmm, that reminds me, I think there's a wedding about to happen down Ottawa way.... best wishes to Lisa! lm How spooky is that? I was just thinking about you!! 8 more getups, cause the 18th doesn't count!! I was thinking about you because I'm feeling pretty much like a loon right now, and was wondering how you coped. LOL,,,,stupid fake nails sure make typing tuff Actually, we're pretty much in order, by the end of the weekend all chores and running around should be done..... We already had one glitch...Classy fricking formal men's wear went bankrupt so we had to redo the fittings and selections for the tuxes. Other than that, so far so good. Spinning away,,, Lisa He had a new shirt and I had my favorite dress, we made reservations for dinner and for an overnighter at an inn, then we headed to our favorite hiking spot and did the deed. If I'd have had fake nails he probably wouldn't recognize me! We used the poem below for our ceremony -- it was perfect considering the long-distance nature of our beginning: "The Country of Marriage" by Wendell Berry 1. I dream of you walking at night along the streams of the country of my birth, warm blooms and the nightsongs of birds opening around you as you walk. You are holding in your body the dark seed of my sleep. 2. This comes after silence. Was it something I said that bound me to you, some mere promise or, worse, the fear of loneliness and death? A man lost in the woods in the dark, I stood still and said nothing. And then there rose in me, like the earth's empowering brew rising in root and branch, the words of a dream of you I did not know I had dreamed. I was a wanderer who feels the solace of his native land under his feet again and moving in his blood. I went on, blind and faithful. Where I stepped my track was there to steady me. It was no abyss that lay before me, but only the level ground. 3. Sometimes our life reminds me of a forest in which there is a graceful clearing and in that opening a house, an orchard and garden, comfortable shades, and flowers red and yellow in the sun, a pattern made in the light for the light to return to. The forest is mostly dark, its ways to be made anew day after day, the dark richer than the light and more blessed, provided we stay brave enough to keep on going in. 4. How many times have I come to you out of my head with joy, if ever a man was, for to approach you I have given up the light and all directions. I come to you lost, wholly trusting as a man who goes into the forest unarmed. It is as though I descend slowly earthward out of the air. I rest in peace in you, when I arrive at last. ______________ It's so nice to see so many beginnings on this forum :-) lm |
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