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reasons I've heard for not breastfeeding
"Marie" wrote in message ... 3) it's just *icky* Sex isn't? Giving birth isn't? Changing diapers isn't? I think any excuse is selfish. There is no reason not to breastfeed if you are able to. I don't see how any mother could just choose not to out of some stupid reason like "it's icky". I was in classes with a girl who was going to be an RN in an OB's office, and when we were discussing breastfeeding one day she said "I ain't never lettin' no baby suck my titty!" Like it's something disgusting! That's exactly how I feel about it. Its not something I'm comfortable with and I'm sure a baby can sense that. Rather than create a miserable experience for both of us, I'll choose not to breastfeed. I wasn't breastfed and my sister was. She is allergic to everything (even water) and is sick often. I don't have any allergies and am rarely ever sick. Therefore, if it doesn't effect how healthy a child winds up being I don't feel that its that much of an issue. |
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Sami wrote:
breastfed and my sister was. She is allergic to everything (even water) and is sick often. I don't have any allergies and am rarely ever sick. Therefore, if it doesn't effect how healthy a child winds up being I don't feel that its that much of an issue. This, I think, sums up what a *lot* of women who choose not to breastfeed think. The statistics and studies show increased health benefits for breastfed babies - one singular experience doesn't change this. There are many reasons available as to why your sister was a sicker child than you that may have nothing to do with whether she was breastfed or not. Believing that this is false, and that all the studies and research (and indeed thousands of years of human history) are wrong can be quite consoling when choosing not to breastfeed. I however do not think this belief is an honest one, and believe that if I chose not to breastfeed the chances are I would be choosing something that is *not* the healthiest choice for my baby. |
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"Sami" wrote in message
That's exactly how I feel about it. Its not something I'm comfortable with and I'm sure a baby can sense that. I just have to ask. What is it about bf'ing that you are not comfortable with? You'd be surprised that once you see your baby how you'd do ANYTHING that was good for them. Why not give it a try, even for a few weeks so that you can give him/her the best start? Rather than create a miserable experience for both of us, I'll choose not to breastfeed. You don't know that it would be miserable. You're making an assumption that it would be because of something psychological. A baby wouldn't necessarily sense you were miserable either. (If you eneded up being, which I doubt) I wasn't breastfed and my sister was. She is allergic to everything (even water) and is sick often. I don't have any allergies and am rarely ever sick. Therefore, if it doesn't effect how healthy a child winds up being I don't feel that its that much of an issue. There are so many reasons a child can be sickly. If she wasn't bf'd she may be even sicklier. It DOES affect how healthy a child is, and to ignore years of research and history because of a selfish "I feel it's disgusting" response is doing your child a great injustice, IMO. |
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"Marie" wrote in message ... On Mon, 01 Mar 2004 01:31:22 GMT, Shena Delian O'Brien wrote: 1) dh doesn't want me to (he thinks sex would be awkward with lactating breasts, etc) If the man is going to be a father he really should get over it and want the best for his children! 2) I don't like looking at my breasts (!!?) Ok that's just an odd excuse. I think mine are unattractive but they sure make the babies grow. 3) it's just *icky* Yeah those are really silly reasons! Sex isn't? Giving birth isn't? Changing diapers isn't? I think any excuse is selfish. There is no reason not to breastfeed if you are able to. I don't see how any mother could just choose not to out of some stupid reason like "it's icky". I was in classes with a girl who was going to be an RN in an OB's office, and when we were discussing breastfeeding one day she said "I ain't never lettin' no baby suck my titty!" Like it's something disgusting! Sometimes you have to be "selfish" I didn't breastfeed for long and I don't make excuses, I had a reason for giving up. I had PND with my babies and it was crucially important that my life was as easy as possible. I didn't find breastfeeding easy it really stressed me out. I was able to breastfeed and I have no hesitation in saying I made the right decision in giving up. Judy |
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DeliciousTruffles wrote in
: New York Jen wrote: - Jen, who never thought before becoming a mom that I'd be such a breastfeeding advocate LOL! Me too! :-D I think the one comment above others that always upset me when I was nursing the twins was, "Oh! You couldn't possibly have enough!" Even though I had a hard time to start ( my nipples didn't fit right into his little mouth (they were HUGE) and he didn't latch on right which caused me a lot of pain) I was so determined to bf that I hold on, and after 2 weeks it really got better. I loved it, and even more because of the good things I was giving my baby. It's always ready when he needed it, no hussel with bottles and histerical hungry babies around. I could go everywhere without so much of a very thought because it was always ready. No heavy bag with lots of prepare bottles. I helped some of my friends who were afraid they didn't have enough milk. One had to start giving additional bottles, but with my help and her determination she was able to reduce that and ended up with 6 months BF. -- Simone Mom of Ruben Raymond Rocco 08 march 2001 EDD of Stefan Sean S? 11 July 2004 |
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"Sami" wrote in message . com... "Marie" wrote in message ... 3) it's just *icky* Sex isn't? Giving birth isn't? Changing diapers isn't? I think any excuse is selfish. There is no reason not to breastfeed if you are able to. I don't see how any mother could just choose not to out of some stupid reason like "it's icky". I was in classes with a girl who was going to be an RN in an OB's office, and when we were discussing breastfeeding one day she said "I ain't never lettin' no baby suck my titty!" Like it's something disgusting! That's exactly how I feel about it. Its not something I'm comfortable with and I'm sure a baby can sense that. Rather than create a miserable experience for both of us, I'll choose not to breastfeed. Oh Sami, you have just been SO set up. shakes head Look, if you have even the remotest interest in nursing, there are a lot of really great resources out there for you. I personally found misc.kids.breastfeeding to be invaluable. So if you care to, you might consider giving it a try, just to see if you still feel as negative about it once you have tried. Nursing is medically best for a growing human, and you can always change your mind. Having said that, if you truly feel that it's disgusting, then certainly there are other acceptable options. Best wishes, Donna (who doesn't really, to be honest, see the point of a thread that seems to be entirely conceived as a way of saying "Let me flame everyone who doesn't agree with me") |
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"Nan" wrote in message ... On Sun, 29 Feb 2004 20:01:08 -0800, DeliciousTruffles wrote: 1) I didn't have enough milk Amazingly, this is a very common one, too. And it's perpetuated by doctors, unfortunately. I was really lucky - the hospital where I gave birth has free 24 hour lactation counselors on staff, and you can speak/meet with them at any time you are nursing - even years after you are discharged from the hospital. And my pediatrician is a wonderful woman about my age, who had her third child shortly after I had my first. She was a wonderful font of encouragement for nursing. As was my OB (also another woman). I wonder if female practicioners are more prone to encouraging nursing than are their male counterparts? Donna |
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That's exactly how I feel about it. Its not something I'm comfortable with
and I'm sure a baby can sense that. Rather than create a miserable experience for both of us, I'll choose not to breastfeed. I wasn't breastfed and my sister was. She is allergic to everything (even water) and is sick often. I don't have any allergies and am rarely ever sick. Therefore, if it doesn't effect how healthy a child winds up being I don't feel that its that much of an issue. but it does! just because you are fine, that doesn't mean that your children will be, nor does it mean that all the statistics that say breast is best are wrong I can sort of understand why people might feel icky about it, I certainly was less comfortable at the start than I am now, but look at nature, mammals are designed to suckle there young, there is nothing icky about it, it's natural. ----------- Anne Rogers |
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Sometimes you have to be "selfish" I didn't breastfeed for long and I don't
make excuses, I had a reason for giving up. I had PND with my babies and it was crucially important that my life was as easy as possible. I didn't find breastfeeding easy it really stressed me out. I was able to breastfeed and I have no hesitation in saying I made the right decision in giving up. sometimes i think I was too bloody minded about breastfeeding, I had very severe PND, I nearly died, maybe if I had stopped breastfeeding I wouldn't have got to that point, even after that I was still obsessed by breastfeeding, even though I had to pump and dump for a few days, I was sat in the hospital attached to a heart monitor and a breastpump. Now I'm on the way out the other side I'm really glad I'm still breastfeeding and think I probably was right to carry on, I think if I had started formula feeding when he was about 2 months old I would have cut myself up about it, which probably would have been worse than the stress, tiredness etc. |
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reasons I've heard for not breastfeeding
Donna (who doesn't really, to be honest, see the point of a thread that
seems to be entirely conceived as a way of saying "Let me flame everyone who doesn't agree with me") not fair! I'd actually been thinking over the weekend that I might post something similar, I'm really interested in why people don't breastfeed and how that relates to our culture and upbringing, I might not have put it exactly like the first post in the thread, but I am very interested in the responses. |
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