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I'm sorry that my original post came out sounding sexist and biological-parent-ist (if that is a word) when I said "When you were pregnant" - I should have said "When you were expecting your first child" because that is what I meant. I always appreciate the input of Scott, Kevin, and other male members of this group, as well as that of Dawn and other adoptive parents, and I'm sorry my phrasing excluded you. Louise There's no need to apologize...when I was trying to adopt, I was so tense, I would have been mortified if someone gave me a gift before the baby was born. I would not allow my office to throw me a shower until after I brought the baby home and told everyone except my boss that I was taking a leave for "personal reasons" (my boss knew the truth, of course). OTOH, I am Jewish and traditionally, Jews do not give gifts prior to the birth of the baby. Many Jews do not even bring any items for the baby into their home until the baby is born. They will go to the store and pick everything out that they need, and the store will deliver the items when they are notified the baby is born. Actually, the only item we purchased prior to the baby's birth was a snap and go stroller - friends donated a pile of clothes, a car seat and a pack and play so that the baby would ahve something to sleep in when we got home. Marilyn Mom to Nicole |
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Irrational Number wrote: * 3. Would a polarfleece receiving blanket be useful? Is there * something else I could make out of polarfleece for an infant? (This * particular fabric is really cute and I want to do something.) * *I would not have liked fleece blankets. Flannel *and cotton work better. But, YMMV. I have a few crib-sized fleece blankets. I love them. -- Hillary Israeli, VMD Lafayette Hill/PA/USA/Earth "Outside of a dog, a book is a man's best friend. Inside of a dog, it is too dark to read." --Groucho Marx |
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Penny Gaines wrote: *If it is a Christmas present for the mum, make it something for her: at *most have a present that is a book on childcare. There is nothing wrong *though with a present for the bump. I realize this is a thread about Christmas presents, and so my experience as a Jew who doesn't make baby purchases prior to the birth of the baby would not really be relevant -- but I just wanted to comment anyway. Surely there are SOME Christians who share my traditional Jewish supersition, and would not want a present "for the bump"? I'll grant that likely most people would just appreciate the sentiment, but I do suggest that gift-givers take this potential issue into consideration, and only buy a present for the bump if you're sure it will not make mom nervous. -- Hillary Israeli, VMD Lafayette Hill/PA/USA/Earth "Outside of a dog, a book is a man's best friend. Inside of a dog, it is too dark to read." --Groucho Marx |
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"Rosalie B." wrote: I did not worry about this myself, but I know my mom didn't want me to tell anyone that I was pg until I was 'showing', In spite of the fact that I never had problems getting pregnant or staying that way, I, too, didn't want to tell folks until it was necessary; partly, I think, it WAS a kind of superstitious sense that it would be bad luck. Unfortunately, for me that was VERY early in the pregnancy, as I had to explain to my co-workers and friends why I kept throwing up -- up to six times a day -- and frequently without a lot of notice, so I was losing it in trash cans and occassionally curbs and . . . -- Children won't care how much you know until they know how much you care |
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dragonlady says... In article , "Rosalie B." wrote: I did not worry about this myself, but I know my mom didn't want me to tell anyone that I was pg until I was 'showing', In spite of the fact that I never had problems getting pregnant or staying that way, I, too, didn't want to tell folks until it was necessary; partly, I think, it WAS a kind of superstitious sense that it would be bad luck. Unfortunately, for me that was VERY early in the pregnancy, as I had to explain to my co-workers and friends why I kept throwing up -- up to six times a day -- and frequently without a lot of notice, so I was losing it in trash cans and occassionally curbs and . . . I waited until I showed to tell people, other than close friends and family. The disadvantage of that was, when I was feeling a little woozey, my co-workers would expect me to bound up the stairs with them (well, not exactly *expect* it, but I didn't want to be begging out all the time) and work a little later together on a design to get it out the door, etc. But then, once I was showing and feeling much better and ready to skip and jump wherever, they'd want me to slow down, sit down, take it easy.... Banty |
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Banty wrote: In article , dragonlady says... In article , "Rosalie B." wrote: I did not worry about this myself, but I know my mom didn't want me to tell anyone that I was pg until I was 'showing', In spite of the fact that I never had problems getting pregnant or staying that way, I, too, didn't want to tell folks until it was necessary; partly, I think, it WAS a kind of superstitious sense that it would be bad luck. Unfortunately, for me that was VERY early in the pregnancy, as I had to explain to my co-workers and friends why I kept throwing up -- up to six times a day -- and frequently without a lot of notice, so I was losing it in trash cans and occassionally curbs and . . . I waited until I showed to tell people, other than close friends and family. The disadvantage of that was, when I was feeling a little woozey, my co-workers would expect me to bound up the stairs with them (well, not exactly *expect* it, but I didn't want to be begging out all the time) and work a little later together on a design to get it out the door, etc. But then, once I was showing and feeling much better and ready to skip and jump wherever, they'd want me to slow down, sit down, take it easy.... Banty I tried to wait, but people were getting too concerned about my apparent illness. And I *never* felt much better, nor was I ever to skip and jump until AFTER the babies were born. To make up for how absolutely miserable I was during pregnancy, I had relatively easy labor and deliveries. -- Children won't care how much you know until they know how much you care |
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Banty wrote:
In article , dragonlady says... In article , "Rosalie B." wrote: I did not worry about this myself, but I know my mom didn't want me to tell anyone that I was pg until I was 'showing', I think in my mom's case it was partly that she didn't want me to have the 'what are you still here' kind of comment for as long. In spite of the fact that I never had problems getting pregnant or staying that way, I, too, didn't want to tell folks until it was necessary; partly, I think, it WAS a kind of superstitious sense that it would be bad luck. I think this was sort of it in my mom's case too, as she lost a couple of children, and I think my grandmother also had a great deal of trouble staying pregnant. Unfortunately, for me that was VERY early in the pregnancy, as I had to explain to my co-workers and friends why I kept throwing up -- up to six times a day -- and frequently without a lot of notice, so I was losing it in trash cans and occassionally curbs and . . . I waited until I showed to tell people, other than close friends and family. The disadvantage of that was, when I was feeling a little woozey, my co-workers would expect me to bound up the stairs with them (well, not exactly *expect* it, but I didn't want to be begging out all the time) and work a little later together on a design to get it out the door, etc. But then, once I was showing and feeling much better and ready to skip and jump wherever, they'd want me to slow down, sit down, take it easy.... I had the advantage of not being employed, and living away from family and friends for the two pregnancies where I was actually sick a good bit (#1 for several months). So I didn't have to explain. And with the second one (actually #3), when I was really good and sick it was over the weekend and thought I had the flu. After that I didn't have much problem. With #4 I thought I had the flu too, but I never actually got sick. grandma Rosalie |
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