If this is your first visit, be sure to check out the FAQ by clicking the link above. You may have to register before you can post: click the register link above to proceed. To start viewing messages, select the forum that you want to visit from the selection below. |
|
|
|
Thread Tools | Display Modes |
#1
|
|||
|
|||
Persuading someone
I read a few baby message boards and have found a message that I am
quite compelled to reply to, but would like to get some facts before I start ranting! A lady has asked how soon breastfed babies sleep through the night. She has one child already who was formula fed and slept through (9+ hours a night from 6 weeks) and is intending to try breast feeding again with her second. The responses have been seemingly honest and realistic and all different. The lady has posted a thank you reply - "I appreciate the advantages of breastfeeding but I have to be honest and say that if sleep patterns don't fall into place early on then I will seriously consider using formula again". What can I say constructively to this? Thanks in advance Philippa |
#2
|
|||
|
|||
Persuading someone
The lady has posted a thank you reply - "I appreciate the advantages
of breastfeeding but I have to be honest and say that if sleep patterns don't fall into place early on then I will seriously consider using formula again". What can I say constructively to this? Thanks in advance The most honestly contructive thing *I* can think to say (though if this is a woman who thinks that having a baby sleeping through the night early is the most important aspect of mothering, I don't know that there is going to be anything that you'll be able to say to her that will make a difference) would be something like, "Breastmilk is the food that nature intends for babies to have, and most breastfed babies do NOT sleep through the night early. So surely nature herself does not intend babies to sleep through the night early. If formula fed babies often sleep through earlier/ 'develop good 'sleep patterns' it is only because formula is digested poorly and slowly, and so fills the baby's stomach for longer periods of time. This is *not* a good thing. (It may be convenient for some mothers, but isn't beneficial for babies.) Naomi CAPPA Certified Lactation Educator (either remove spamblock or change address to to e-mail reply.) |
#3
|
|||
|
|||
Persuading someone
Hi - Tell her that babies are very individual. Some sleep longer with formula, some sleep longer with breastmilk. Some babies just sleep better than other babies, regardless of the food being offered! A breastfed baby is likely to wake up once at night to nurse. (In the first few weeks the breastfed baby is more likely to wake more than once, but even that is very individual.) Breastmilk is digested faster than formula, hence the baby may get hungry before the night is done. However, formula fed babies are more prone to digestive issues which can cause sleep problems. And formula increases the risk of long-term health problems, including allergy, obesity and diabetes. (RISK is increased; your mileage may vary.) The key thing to repeat and repeat is that babies vary. What the baby is fed makes far less of a difference than how old the baby is, whether mom is nursing on demand, and how high needs the baby is to begin with. Some babies just sleep better than others! I hope this helps, --Beth Kevles http://web.mit.edu/kevles/www/nomilk.html -- a page for the milk-allergic Disclaimer: Nothing in this message should be construed as medical advice. Please consult with your own medical practicioner. NOTE: No email is read at my MIT address. Use the AOL one if you would like me to reply. |
#4
|
|||
|
|||
Persuading someone
Philly wrote: The lady has posted a thank you reply - "I appreciate the advantages of breastfeeding but I have to be honest and say that if sleep patterns don't fall into place early on then I will seriously consider using formula again". What can I say constructively to this? In addition to what others have suggested, I'd suggest trying to determine *why* sleep patterns and longer periods of sleep are important to the mother. If she's concerned with the baby getting the 'right' amount of sleep, you could discuss the reasons why BF babies tend to sleep in shorter segments with more feeding intervals, but that this is fine, natural, healthy, etc., for the baby -- and for the milk supply, especially in the early days. However, if she's interested in the baby getting more or longer sleep periods because she herself wants more sleep, then I'd also mention that ti's easier to nurse a baby in the middle of the night than to give a bottle, especially if/once the mother has figured out a way to fall asleep while nursing the babe. I'd also mention that eventually the sleep patterns of FF v BF babies even out but that the advantages of BF continue throughout the BF relationship -- that is to say, BF babies don't always have shorter "sleeps", they eventually do learn how to 'sleep through the night' or may even sleep better! Haft go - my napping nursling just cried out and I want to go extend that nap if I can! -Barbara |
#5
|
|||
|
|||
Persuading someone
"Philly" wrote in message om... I read a few baby message boards and have found a message that I am quite compelled to reply to, but would like to get some facts before I start ranting! A lady has asked how soon breastfed babies sleep through the night. She has one child already who was formula fed and slept through (9+ hours a night from 6 weeks) and is intending to try breast feeding again with her second. The responses have been seemingly honest and realistic and all different. The lady has posted a thank you reply - "I appreciate the advantages of breastfeeding but I have to be honest and say that if sleep patterns don't fall into place early on then I will seriously consider using formula again". What can I say constructively to this? Thanks in advance Philippa I'd just suggest giving it a go, what's she got to lose. She can't formula feed and then change her mind but she can breast feed and switch to formula later. She might be lucky and the baby might be a great sleeper. Also suggest that she looks at why sleeping through is so important. Perhaps remind her that a quick feed in the middle of the night and back to sleep is really no big deal. Anecdotally I'd say sleeping through has more to do with where the baby sleeps than what it eats. From what I've heard from my many breastfeeding friends sleeping through or for long stretches in a cot is quite common. Generally babies on this group who co-sleep seem to wake up more often. My sons both slept through from eight weeks DS1 breastfed and DS2 on formula both in the cot in their own rooms. Not that I'm critising co-sleeping BTW if it works for you then it's the best option as far as I'm concerned :-) Judy |
#6
|
|||
|
|||
Persuading someone
Philippa wrote:
The lady has posted a thank you reply - "I appreciate the advantages of breastfeeding but I have to be honest and say that if sleep patterns don't fall into place early on then I will seriously consider using formula again". I would tell her that she got lucky the first time. To some extent this kind of temperament is probably hereditary, so she is reasonably likely to get another baby like that, but she might not, and it might not have one blessed thing to do with how the baby is fed. And if you have got to feed a baby at night, which most people do, I'd a lot sooner breast than bottle. If she weans and still has to get up and make bottles, what then? But it sounds as though at least this kid may get the colostrum and stuff. That is a good thing as far as it goes. You up the stats where you can, after all. --Helen |
#7
|
|||
|
|||
Persuading someone
My first kid was formula fed and slep through whole night from 3rd month,
but starting from 10 p.m. untill 5-6 a.m. He had problems falling asleep - probably formula caused. The second one is breastfed and starting with 2 months sleeps from 8 p.m. untill 7 a.m. with just one feeding around 3 or 4 a.m. It's clearly individual. If you're lucky your breastfed kid might have the same nice pattern as mine. "Philly" wrote in message om... I read a few baby message boards and have found a message that I am quite compelled to reply to, but would like to get some facts before I start ranting! A lady has asked how soon breastfed babies sleep through the night. She has one child already who was formula fed and slept through (9+ hours a night from 6 weeks) and is intending to try breast feeding again with her second. The responses have been seemingly honest and realistic and all different. The lady has posted a thank you reply - "I appreciate the advantages of breastfeeding but I have to be honest and say that if sleep patterns don't fall into place early on then I will seriously consider using formula again". What can I say constructively to this? Thanks in advance Philippa |
#8
|
|||
|
|||
Persuading someone
Generally babies on this group who co-sleep seem to wake up more often. My sons both slept through from eight weeks DS1 breastfed and DS2 on formula both in the cot in their own rooms. Not that I'm critising co-sleeping BTW if it works for you then it's the best option as far as I'm concerned :-) Judy Thats true, both of my kids slep in their cots, same room, but pretty far from our bed. |
#9
|
|||
|
|||
Persuading someone
Judy said:
Anecdotally I'd say sleeping through has more to do with where the baby sleeps than what it eats. From what I've heard from my many breastfeeding friends sleeping through or for long stretches in a cot is quite common. Generally babies on this group who co-sleep seem to wake up more often. My sons both slept through from eight weeks DS1 breastfed and DS2 on formula both in the cot in their own rooms. Not that I'm critising co-sleeping BTW if it works for you then it's the best option as far as I'm concerned :-) Well, my ds slept most nights in a crib in a separate room, and didn't start sleeping through the night on a regular basis until he switched to a "big boy bed" at about 2 years, 3 months. Still wakes occassionally - last night 3 times, though that was unusual. (He's now 2.5) Just an anecdote to skew your interpretation! Oh, yeah, he never had a drop of formula, either. I really suspect it just depends on the kid, personally, other than the slight lengthening of sleep phases in newborns when fed formula if they are awakening because they are hungry, due to the longer time that formula takes to digest. (If you could understand that convoluted sentence!) In other words, if hunger were the *only* factor for night waking, formula would make for fewer night wakings. But, it's not the be-all, end-all of sleeping 8-12 hours straight! (Neither is anything else, for that matter.) Irene mom to Thomas 7/01 #2 EDD 4/04 |
|
Thread Tools | |
Display Modes | |
|
|