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Injury Lawyers?
Wondering if any of the wise owls here might have some info...
First off, I'm currently dealing with an injury lawyer, mainly for B's injuries after that accident. This lawyer said he'd take B's case on, and also recommended for A as well. B's injuries were obvious and clear as day... Hauled off to the children's hospital on a stretcher in an ambulance, rushed in for surgery, on meds, hospitalized, chiropractor and so on. A's 'injuries' weren't major, I don't think. She did see the chiropractor, was checked out by paramedics and at the hospital as well, not admitted. Her sleeping patterns were all wonky, but she was also teething at the time, so really, whatever - lawyer took on both kids as the same case. I am not involving myself with a lawyer, but did see the chiropractor along with the kids. Injured or not, I just feel that the chiropractor was a big waste of time and effort, as I notice no difference at all - still the same headaches, as well as general aches and pains in my neck, arm, hip and back. I'm not a fan of lawyers and insurance companies and suing. I mainly did this for B and his obvious injuries. Now, though, we hired this one lawyer shortly after the accident. He's proved to be useless (no contact with him since the initial day he came to the house, no returned emails or phone calls, no papers sent out, no updates whatsoever in the span of 6 months now) Went to see another lawyer (the one who said he'd take both kids at the same time) and he's great to contact, good about returning calls, lets me know that he's still alive, unlike Lawyer #1. In the mail today, I had 2 packages of papers - one for A and one for B. Inside were release forms of all sorts, fee info and bla bla bla. Also included was the papers we needed to basically let go of the first lawyer and hire this second lawyer. Problem was, Norm had originally signed for B (with first lawyer) because I was not able to. It's to my understanding that I was unable to sign because I was the driver of the vehicle, and even though I am the legal guardian of both kids, it might come down to them having to sue me, and I guess me signing for the kids to sue me, as the driver, is a big no-no. Norm was able to sign, however, as he was not involved at all. The problem now is, who is able to sign the rest of anything for this new lawyer? I had to basically hunt Norm down this evening to sign the release from lawyer 1 to lawyer 2, as technically by signing originally, HE hired that first lawyer on behalf of B. I hunted him down only because this is important and not something I want to put off, I also have no one else who can sign for either kid... Neither of my parents can sign, even though they're not directly involved with the accident, they are involved because the insurance was under their name, and this again comes down to signing papers to have someone sue yourself. Norm said he'd continue to sign anything for the new lawyer, and when I guess I looked down, he asked what was wrong with that, and I calmly and not at all rudely expressed my feelings about it, saying that this is important to me (and he said it was important to him as well) and then I expressed the concern that is clear and obvious to the world about how I felt that he is very unreliable - he will not return my phone calls if I call and leave a message, he leaves in the rare case I am dropping by his mom's house (where he's living), does not call when he promises he will, does not show up when promised, etc. - all, I feel, valid reasons to have the feeling that for the last while he's been anything but reliable. With these lawyer dealings, I do really think I need someone who is there and reliable. He's not reliable enough, or shows he cares at all, to bring a carton of milk over when I had said there was no milk for the baby. If he can't keep his word when it's as simple as, "I will call you tonight" why would he be responsible or reliable enough for this lawyer business, which NEEDS to be dealt with as often as something - anything - comes up. Does anyone have any insight as to what I should do? Both my parents are out for signatures. I am out as well. I'm not comfortable with my oldest brother being responsible for this, and the other brother is not of legal age, which means he can't sign anything as far as this goes. Should I see if my little (the oldest of my younger brothers) could/would do this? Again, I'm not sure I feel he's a good candidate for this at all. Should I just continue with Norm being the one to sign, and hope he can and will do this, and deal with this together? Again, I really am not confident that he will be reliable and there when needed (to talk to the lawyer, sign things so I can return them ASAP, etc.) but I really don't know where to go with this. Kinda feeling like I'm stuck between a rock and a really hard place. Obviously the best and easiest thing for me would be that Norm and I could work together with this for the kids. Is this something I should try and have a serious talk about with him? Talk about this issue at hand, and this issue only and leave out any personal emotions and feelings and deal with this for now? As far as the relationship of any sort goes, I'm not ready or willing to risk hurting myself or B and A. Our relationship together is basically on hold until the time comes that it feels right and there's a turn around - if ever. I'm just not in a place that I want to deal with that right now. We do talk on occasion, and when we are together, it's good and we're both friendly, caring, good, whatever. Does talking about this lawyer issue have any benefit (does it seem?) or should I just maybe talk to the lawyer myself and tell him I just don't have anyone who can sign the papers and see if there's a way around it or I could sign to possibly sue myself anyways? Kind of a ****ty situation, I know, but really stuck on what to do with it all |
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I read through this Kat....my advice is that you talk to the 2nd lawyer
about your options. Norm may mess things up for it, due to the fact he is not reliable . Do what you need for the kids and try to avoid his involvement at this point. Bev |
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"xkatx" wrote in message news:KfdFg.11774$tP4.7632@clgrps12... Wondering if any of the wise owls here might have some info... First off, I'm currently dealing with an injury lawyer, mainly for B's injuries after that accident. This lawyer said he'd take B's case on, and also recommended for A as well. B's injuries were obvious and clear as day... Hauled off to the children's hospital on a stretcher in an ambulance, rushed in for surgery, on meds, hospitalized, chiropractor and so on. A's 'injuries' weren't major, I don't think. She did see the chiropractor, was checked out by paramedics and at the hospital as well, not admitted. Her sleeping patterns were all wonky, but she was also teething at the time, so really, whatever - lawyer took on both kids as the same case. I am not involving myself with a lawyer, but did see the chiropractor along with the kids. Injured or not, I just feel that the chiropractor was a big waste of time and effort, as I notice no difference at all - still the same headaches, as well as general aches and pains in my neck, arm, hip and back. I'm not a fan of lawyers and insurance companies and suing. I mainly did this for B and his obvious injuries. Now, though, we hired this one lawyer shortly after the accident. He's proved to be useless (no contact with him since the initial day he came to the house, no returned emails or phone calls, no papers sent out, no updates whatsoever in the span of 6 months now) Went to see another lawyer (the one who said he'd take both kids at the same time) and he's great to contact, good about returning calls, lets me know that he's still alive, unlike Lawyer #1. In the mail today, I had 2 packages of papers - one for A and one for B. Inside were release forms of all sorts, fee info and bla bla bla. Also included was the papers we needed to basically let go of the first lawyer and hire this second lawyer. Problem was, Norm had originally signed for B (with first lawyer) because I was not able to. It's to my understanding that I was unable to sign because I was the driver of the vehicle, and even though I am the legal guardian of both kids, it might come down to them having to sue me, and I guess me signing for the kids to sue me, as the driver, is a big no-no. Norm was able to sign, however, as he was not involved at all. The problem now is, who is able to sign the rest of anything for this new lawyer? I had to basically hunt Norm down this evening to sign the release from lawyer 1 to lawyer 2, as technically by signing originally, HE hired that first lawyer on behalf of B. I hunted him down only because this is important and not something I want to put off, I also have no one else who can sign for either kid... Neither of my parents can sign, even though they're not directly involved with the accident, they are involved because the insurance was under their name, and this again comes down to signing papers to have someone sue yourself. Norm said he'd continue to sign anything for the new lawyer, and when I guess I looked down, he asked what was wrong with that, and I calmly and not at all rudely expressed my feelings about it, saying that this is important to me (and he said it was important to him as well) and then I expressed the concern that is clear and obvious to the world about how I felt that he is very unreliable - he will not return my phone calls if I call and leave a message, he leaves in the rare case I am dropping by his mom's house (where he's living), does not call when he promises he will, does not show up when promised, etc. - all, I feel, valid reasons to have the feeling that for the last while he's been anything but reliable. With these lawyer dealings, I do really think I need someone who is there and reliable. He's not reliable enough, or shows he cares at all, to bring a carton of milk over when I had said there was no milk for the baby. If he can't keep his word when it's as simple as, "I will call you tonight" why would he be responsible or reliable enough for this lawyer business, which NEEDS to be dealt with as often as something - anything - comes up. Does anyone have any insight as to what I should do? Both my parents are out for signatures. I am out as well. I'm not comfortable with my oldest brother being responsible for this, and the other brother is not of legal age, which means he can't sign anything as far as this goes. Should I see if my little (the oldest of my younger brothers) could/would do this? Again, I'm not sure I feel he's a good candidate for this at all. Should I just continue with Norm being the one to sign, and hope he can and will do this, and deal with this together? Again, I really am not confident that he will be reliable and there when needed (to talk to the lawyer, sign things so I can return them ASAP, etc.) but I really don't know where to go with this. Kinda feeling like I'm stuck between a rock and a really hard place. Obviously the best and easiest thing for me would be that Norm and I could work together with this for the kids. Is this something I should try and have a serious talk about with him? Talk about this issue at hand, and this issue only and leave out any personal emotions and feelings and deal with this for now? As far as the relationship of any sort goes, I'm not ready or willing to risk hurting myself or B and A. Our relationship together is basically on hold until the time comes that it feels right and there's a turn around - if ever. I'm just not in a place that I want to deal with that right now. We do talk on occasion, and when we are together, it's good and we're both friendly, caring, good, whatever. Does talking about this lawyer issue have any benefit (does it seem?) or should I just maybe talk to the lawyer myself and tell him I just don't have anyone who can sign the papers and see if there's a way around it or I could sign to possibly sue myself anyways? Kind of a ****ty situation, I know, but really stuck on what to do with it all If you're going to stand on your own two feet and deal with life on your own, there's really no time like the present. I'd call the lawyer and tell him that it's you and 2 children. No one else. No one else to 'co-sign' the paperwork. He either takes the case or not. I can't imagine there isn't a single lawyer out there who won't take the case, when clearly all three of you were injured. (And if the children are going to sue you, they need to get their own lawyer to sue you - you're hiring a lawyer to sue the OTHER driver, right?) |
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"xkatx" wrote in message news:KfdFg.11774$tP4.7632@clgrps12... Wondering if any of the wise owls here might have some info... You really need to talk about this with the attorney. That last thing you need to Norm to have any control over any situation in your life. Is the insurance company not paying your medical bills? If they are paying, why do you want to pursue this, especially when its so complicated? |
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"Bev" wrote in message ups.com... I read through this Kat....my advice is that you talk to the 2nd lawyer about your options. Norm may mess things up for it, due to the fact he is not reliable . Do what you need for the kids and try to avoid his involvement at this point. Bev I would have to imagine that there's ways around this... What happens to the people who have absolutely NO friends or family at all and have to deal with something like this? I would assume there's a way? I would just hate to have to rely on someone I don't feel at this point I can rely on... I also don't want something this major to be the thing that he can prove himself as reliable with... Just too risky, which I kind of see as sad for so many reasons... |
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"Tiffany" wrote in message news:cXMFg.423$hP6.380@trnddc04... "xkatx" wrote in message news:KfdFg.11774$tP4.7632@clgrps12... Wondering if any of the wise owls here might have some info... You really need to talk about this with the attorney. That last thing you need to Norm to have any control over any situation in your life. Well, this, I see, is more control over a particular situation with the kids and their life. Either way, no, I'd rather rely on no one but myself with this, but yea, I guess I do need to talk to the current lawyer about it. Is the insurance company not paying your medical bills? If they are paying, why do you want to pursue this, especially when its so complicated? Every insurance company has this 'Section B' part that pays for certain medical expenses. This basically includes something like the chiropractor, and it covers any and all occupants of the vehicle no matter what. This doesn't affect premiums if you're in an accident, and doesn't matter if you're at fault or the other driver is. It's standard coverage for ALL insurance, be it full coverage or something like PLPD. AB health care also has coverage that doesn't have a thing to do with the insurance of a vehicle. It's standard for all residents of Alberta. This covers basically everything medically necessary - B's surgery was fully covered, no expense at all to me or him or anything. The problem is, for one, he now has some MAJOR scarring from that laceration he had and was in the OR for. This scar treatment or removal is not covered by health care, nor will insurance cover it because it is not seen as 'medically necessary'. Having his scars treated would be out of pocket, and at this point, it does not look like the scars will heal any better as time goes on. The plastic surgeon said that we can look at scar removal, which would definitely bring the scar down to almost nothing, but the $$ this will cost? I didn't even ask. The scar is fairly visible and obvious. I'm also having major issues getting just the ambulance bill covered by the car's insurance, as well as the kids' health insurance. They have the health benefit for children - it's a free health benefit for all children in low income families. They have this coverage. Right on the card it says that there is 100% coverage for optical, dental, perscription and ground ambulance only within the province. Air ambulance and something like orthodontics are not covered. I had called the (car) insurance and was told that they do not cover the ambulance bill IF there's other health coverage that pays for that - they told me to talk to the people for the child health benefit that the kids have. I talked to them, and the lady told me that yes, they do cover ground ambulance but NOT in the case of a motor vehicle accident. I was nearly blown away, as really, when would your average, healthy child need an ambulance? The average healthy child probably would need an ambulance in the case of an MVA far before they'd need one for something like a heart attack or a fall down the stairs? I dunno... Ambulance is ambulance, AFAIC... They won't cover it, and neither will the insurance company, as they are telling me to fight it out with the kids' health insurance. Just a headache. |
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"Moon Shyne" wrote in message ... "xkatx" wrote in message news:KfdFg.11774$tP4.7632@clgrps12... Wondering if any of the wise owls here might have some info... First off, I'm currently dealing with an injury lawyer, mainly for B's injuries after that accident. This lawyer said he'd take B's case on, and also recommended for A as well. B's injuries were obvious and clear as day... Hauled off to the children's hospital on a stretcher in an ambulance, rushed in for surgery, on meds, hospitalized, chiropractor and so on. A's 'injuries' weren't major, I don't think. She did see the chiropractor, was checked out by paramedics and at the hospital as well, not admitted. Her sleeping patterns were all wonky, but she was also teething at the time, so really, whatever - lawyer took on both kids as the same case. I am not involving myself with a lawyer, but did see the chiropractor along with the kids. Injured or not, I just feel that the chiropractor was a big waste of time and effort, as I notice no difference at all - still the same headaches, as well as general aches and pains in my neck, arm, hip and back. I'm not a fan of lawyers and insurance companies and suing. I mainly did this for B and his obvious injuries. Now, though, we hired this one lawyer shortly after the accident. He's proved to be useless (no contact with him since the initial day he came to the house, no returned emails or phone calls, no papers sent out, no updates whatsoever in the span of 6 months now) Went to see another lawyer (the one who said he'd take both kids at the same time) and he's great to contact, good about returning calls, lets me know that he's still alive, unlike Lawyer #1. In the mail today, I had 2 packages of papers - one for A and one for B. Inside were release forms of all sorts, fee info and bla bla bla. Also included was the papers we needed to basically let go of the first lawyer and hire this second lawyer. Problem was, Norm had originally signed for B (with first lawyer) because I was not able to. It's to my understanding that I was unable to sign because I was the driver of the vehicle, and even though I am the legal guardian of both kids, it might come down to them having to sue me, and I guess me signing for the kids to sue me, as the driver, is a big no-no. Norm was able to sign, however, as he was not involved at all. The problem now is, who is able to sign the rest of anything for this new lawyer? I had to basically hunt Norm down this evening to sign the release from lawyer 1 to lawyer 2, as technically by signing originally, HE hired that first lawyer on behalf of B. I hunted him down only because this is important and not something I want to put off, I also have no one else who can sign for either kid... Neither of my parents can sign, even though they're not directly involved with the accident, they are involved because the insurance was under their name, and this again comes down to signing papers to have someone sue yourself. Norm said he'd continue to sign anything for the new lawyer, and when I guess I looked down, he asked what was wrong with that, and I calmly and not at all rudely expressed my feelings about it, saying that this is important to me (and he said it was important to him as well) and then I expressed the concern that is clear and obvious to the world about how I felt that he is very unreliable - he will not return my phone calls if I call and leave a message, he leaves in the rare case I am dropping by his mom's house (where he's living), does not call when he promises he will, does not show up when promised, etc. - all, I feel, valid reasons to have the feeling that for the last while he's been anything but reliable. With these lawyer dealings, I do really think I need someone who is there and reliable. He's not reliable enough, or shows he cares at all, to bring a carton of milk over when I had said there was no milk for the baby. If he can't keep his word when it's as simple as, "I will call you tonight" why would he be responsible or reliable enough for this lawyer business, which NEEDS to be dealt with as often as something - anything - comes up. Does anyone have any insight as to what I should do? Both my parents are out for signatures. I am out as well. I'm not comfortable with my oldest brother being responsible for this, and the other brother is not of legal age, which means he can't sign anything as far as this goes. Should I see if my little (the oldest of my younger brothers) could/would do this? Again, I'm not sure I feel he's a good candidate for this at all. Should I just continue with Norm being the one to sign, and hope he can and will do this, and deal with this together? Again, I really am not confident that he will be reliable and there when needed (to talk to the lawyer, sign things so I can return them ASAP, etc.) but I really don't know where to go with this. Kinda feeling like I'm stuck between a rock and a really hard place. Obviously the best and easiest thing for me would be that Norm and I could work together with this for the kids. Is this something I should try and have a serious talk about with him? Talk about this issue at hand, and this issue only and leave out any personal emotions and feelings and deal with this for now? As far as the relationship of any sort goes, I'm not ready or willing to risk hurting myself or B and A. Our relationship together is basically on hold until the time comes that it feels right and there's a turn around - if ever. I'm just not in a place that I want to deal with that right now. We do talk on occasion, and when we are together, it's good and we're both friendly, caring, good, whatever. Does talking about this lawyer issue have any benefit (does it seem?) or should I just maybe talk to the lawyer myself and tell him I just don't have anyone who can sign the papers and see if there's a way around it or I could sign to possibly sue myself anyways? Kind of a ****ty situation, I know, but really stuck on what to do with it all If you're going to stand on your own two feet and deal with life on your own, there's really no time like the present. I agree. I'd call the lawyer and tell him that it's you and 2 children. No one else. No one else to 'co-sign' the paperwork. He either takes the case or not. I can't imagine there isn't a single lawyer out there who won't take the case, when clearly all three of you were injured. I will be calling. There just has to be a way to deal with this without giving myself more worries and a bigger headache. (And if the children are going to sue you, they need to get their own lawyer to sue you - you're hiring a lawyer to sue the OTHER driver, right?) They have this lawyer to sue the insurance company (either mine or his, just depends who is found at fault) I don't have a lawyer for myself, just the one single lawyer for both of the kids. If in the case I decide to sue, I would need my own separate lawyer, one different from B and A. |
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"'Kate" wrote in message ... On Sun, 20 Aug 2006 04:57:31 GMT, "xkatx" the following was posted in blue dry erase marker: "Bev" wrote in message roups.com... I read through this Kat....my advice is that you talk to the 2nd lawyer about your options. Norm may mess things up for it, due to the fact he is not reliable . Do what you need for the kids and try to avoid his involvement at this point. Bev I would have to imagine that there's ways around this... What happens to the people who have absolutely NO friends or family at all and have to deal with something like this? I would assume there's a way? Court appointed guardian ad litem, probably. I would just hate to have to rely on someone I don't feel at this point I can rely on... I also don't want something this major to be the thing that he can prove himself as reliable with... Just too risky, which I kind of see as sad for so many reasons... Are you sad for you or him? More for him, I think. He should be the one who is able and willing to sign, yet really, I don't see that as a likely possibility. Quite frankly, I think if my child's other parent didn't trust me enough (for whatever reason) to make choices and such for my kid, I would see it as being fairly sad (not in a crying way) |
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xkatx wrote: Wondering if any of the wise owls here might have some info... First off, I'm currently dealing with an injury lawyer, mainly for B's injuries after that accident. This lawyer said he'd take B's case on, and also recommended for A as well. B's injuries were obvious and clear as day... Hauled off to the children's hospital on a stretcher in an ambulance, rushed in for surgery, on meds, hospitalized, chiropractor and so on. A's 'injuries' weren't major, I don't think. She did see the chiropractor, was checked out by paramedics and at the hospital as well, not admitted. Her sleeping patterns were all wonky, but she was also teething at the time, so really, whatever - lawyer took on both kids as the same case. I am not involving myself with a lawyer, but did see the chiropractor along with the kids. Injured or not, I just feel that the chiropractor was a big waste of time and effort, as I notice no difference at all - still the same headaches, as well as general aches and pains in my neck, arm, hip and back. I'm not a fan of lawyers and insurance companies and suing. I mainly did this for B and his obvious injuries. Now, though, we hired this one lawyer shortly after the accident. He's proved to be useless (no contact with him since the initial day he came to the house, no returned emails or phone calls, no papers sent out, no updates whatsoever in the span of 6 months now) Went to see another lawyer (the one who said he'd take both kids at the same time) and he's great to contact, good about returning calls, lets me know that he's still alive, unlike Lawyer #1. In the mail today, I had 2 packages of papers - one for A and one for B. Inside were release forms of all sorts, fee info and bla bla bla. Also included was the papers we needed to basically let go of the first lawyer and hire this second lawyer. Problem was, Norm had originally signed for B (with first lawyer) because I was not able to. It's to my understanding that I was unable to sign because I was the driver of the vehicle, and even though I am the legal guardian of both kids, it might come down to them having to sue me, and I guess me signing for the kids to sue me, as the driver, is a big no-no. Norm was able to sign, however, as he was not involved at all. The problem now is, who is able to sign the rest of anything for this new lawyer? I had to basically hunt Norm down this evening to sign the release from lawyer 1 to lawyer 2, as technically by signing originally, HE hired that first lawyer on behalf of B. I hunted him down only because this is important and not something I want to put off, I also have no one else who can sign for either kid... Neither of my parents can sign, even though they're not directly involved with the accident, they are involved because the insurance was under their name, and this again comes down to signing papers to have someone sue yourself. Norm said he'd continue to sign anything for the new lawyer, and when I guess I looked down, he asked what was wrong with that, and I calmly and not at all rudely expressed my feelings about it, saying that this is important to me (and he said it was important to him as well) and then I expressed the concern that is clear and obvious to the world about how I felt that he is very unreliable - he will not return my phone calls if I call and leave a message, he leaves in the rare case I am dropping by his mom's house (where he's living), does not call when he promises he will, does not show up when promised, etc. - all, I feel, valid reasons to have the feeling that for the last while he's been anything but reliable. With these lawyer dealings, I do really think I need someone who is there and reliable. He's not reliable enough, or shows he cares at all, to bring a carton of milk over when I had said there was no milk for the baby. If he can't keep his word when it's as simple as, "I will call you tonight" why would he be responsible or reliable enough for this lawyer business, which NEEDS to be dealt with as often as something - anything - comes up. Does anyone have any insight as to what I should do? Both my parents are out for signatures. I am out as well. I'm not comfortable with my oldest brother being responsible for this, and the other brother is not of legal age, which means he can't sign anything as far as this goes. Should I see if my little (the oldest of my younger brothers) could/would do this? Again, I'm not sure I feel he's a good candidate for this at all. Should I just continue with Norm being the one to sign, and hope he can and will do this, and deal with this together? Again, I really am not confident that he will be reliable and there when needed (to talk to the lawyer, sign things so I can return them ASAP, etc.) but I really don't know where to go with this. Kinda feeling like I'm stuck between a rock and a really hard place. Obviously the best and easiest thing for me would be that Norm and I could work together with this for the kids. Is this something I should try and have a serious talk about with him? Talk about this issue at hand, and this issue only and leave out any personal emotions and feelings and deal with this for now? As far as the relationship of any sort goes, I'm not ready or willing to risk hurting myself or B and A. Our relationship together is basically on hold until the time comes that it feels right and there's a turn around - if ever. I'm just not in a place that I want to deal with that right now. We do talk on occasion, and when we are together, it's good and we're both friendly, caring, good, whatever. Does talking about this lawyer issue have any benefit (does it seem?) or should I just maybe talk to the lawyer myself and tell him I just don't have anyone who can sign the papers and see if there's a way around it or I could sign to possibly sue myself anyways? Kind of a ****ty situation, I know, but really stuck on what to do with it all Kat, I am really confused , why are you married to Norm and he is the biological father of 3 plus "one on the way" children in another group? Is this a game? Which is the truth ? How can we help you if we are being lied to? Bev |
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"Bev" wrote in message oups.com... xkatx wrote: Wondering if any of the wise owls here might have some info... First off, I'm currently dealing with an injury lawyer, mainly for B's injuries after that accident. This lawyer said he'd take B's case on, and also recommended for A as well. B's injuries were obvious and clear as day... Hauled off to the children's hospital on a stretcher in an ambulance, rushed in for surgery, on meds, hospitalized, chiropractor and so on. A's 'injuries' weren't major, I don't think. She did see the chiropractor, was checked out by paramedics and at the hospital as well, not admitted. Her sleeping patterns were all wonky, but she was also teething at the time, so really, whatever - lawyer took on both kids as the same case. I am not involving myself with a lawyer, but did see the chiropractor along with the kids. Injured or not, I just feel that the chiropractor was a big waste of time and effort, as I notice no difference at all - still the same headaches, as well as general aches and pains in my neck, arm, hip and back. I'm not a fan of lawyers and insurance companies and suing. I mainly did this for B and his obvious injuries. Now, though, we hired this one lawyer shortly after the accident. He's proved to be useless (no contact with him since the initial day he came to the house, no returned emails or phone calls, no papers sent out, no updates whatsoever in the span of 6 months now) Went to see another lawyer (the one who said he'd take both kids at the same time) and he's great to contact, good about returning calls, lets me know that he's still alive, unlike Lawyer #1. In the mail today, I had 2 packages of papers - one for A and one for B. Inside were release forms of all sorts, fee info and bla bla bla. Also included was the papers we needed to basically let go of the first lawyer and hire this second lawyer. Problem was, Norm had originally signed for B (with first lawyer) because I was not able to. It's to my understanding that I was unable to sign because I was the driver of the vehicle, and even though I am the legal guardian of both kids, it might come down to them having to sue me, and I guess me signing for the kids to sue me, as the driver, is a big no-no. Norm was able to sign, however, as he was not involved at all. The problem now is, who is able to sign the rest of anything for this new lawyer? I had to basically hunt Norm down this evening to sign the release from lawyer 1 to lawyer 2, as technically by signing originally, HE hired that first lawyer on behalf of B. I hunted him down only because this is important and not something I want to put off, I also have no one else who can sign for either kid... Neither of my parents can sign, even though they're not directly involved with the accident, they are involved because the insurance was under their name, and this again comes down to signing papers to have someone sue yourself. Norm said he'd continue to sign anything for the new lawyer, and when I guess I looked down, he asked what was wrong with that, and I calmly and not at all rudely expressed my feelings about it, saying that this is important to me (and he said it was important to him as well) and then I expressed the concern that is clear and obvious to the world about how I felt that he is very unreliable - he will not return my phone calls if I call and leave a message, he leaves in the rare case I am dropping by his mom's house (where he's living), does not call when he promises he will, does not show up when promised, etc. - all, I feel, valid reasons to have the feeling that for the last while he's been anything but reliable. With these lawyer dealings, I do really think I need someone who is there and reliable. He's not reliable enough, or shows he cares at all, to bring a carton of milk over when I had said there was no milk for the baby. If he can't keep his word when it's as simple as, "I will call you tonight" why would he be responsible or reliable enough for this lawyer business, which NEEDS to be dealt with as often as something - anything - comes up. Does anyone have any insight as to what I should do? Both my parents are out for signatures. I am out as well. I'm not comfortable with my oldest brother being responsible for this, and the other brother is not of legal age, which means he can't sign anything as far as this goes. Should I see if my little (the oldest of my younger brothers) could/would do this? Again, I'm not sure I feel he's a good candidate for this at all. Should I just continue with Norm being the one to sign, and hope he can and will do this, and deal with this together? Again, I really am not confident that he will be reliable and there when needed (to talk to the lawyer, sign things so I can return them ASAP, etc.) but I really don't know where to go with this. Kinda feeling like I'm stuck between a rock and a really hard place. Obviously the best and easiest thing for me would be that Norm and I could work together with this for the kids. Is this something I should try and have a serious talk about with him? Talk about this issue at hand, and this issue only and leave out any personal emotions and feelings and deal with this for now? As far as the relationship of any sort goes, I'm not ready or willing to risk hurting myself or B and A. Our relationship together is basically on hold until the time comes that it feels right and there's a turn around - if ever. I'm just not in a place that I want to deal with that right now. We do talk on occasion, and when we are together, it's good and we're both friendly, caring, good, whatever. Does talking about this lawyer issue have any benefit (does it seem?) or should I just maybe talk to the lawyer myself and tell him I just don't have anyone who can sign the papers and see if there's a way around it or I could sign to possibly sue myself anyways? Kind of a ****ty situation, I know, but really stuck on what to do with it all Kat, I am really confused , why are you married to Norm and he is the biological father of 3 plus "one on the way" children in another group? Is this a game? Which is the truth ? How can we help you if we are being lied to? Bev If you're talking about groups like m.k., that's how it's always been there. Back when I had first started with that group, years and years ago, we were living common. He is only the biological father of Z and A, not B. And he also is for this next one. When I joined here a few years back, I was on my own with just B. It stayed that way until a couple years ago - when Norm and I got together, but since then, we have NOT lived or claimed common law. The other groups, like m.k., I never really disappeared from in that time. I believe I was pregnant with Z with other groups and it was just after B's was born that I found this place, as, technically, I was a single parent. |
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