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"Vicky Bilaniuk" wrote in message
... Jamie Clark wrote: But what if your kids aren't skeptical about Santa. What if they are buying into the fantasy of Santa Clause? I'll explain it to them. But why can't he believe in Santa if he wants? Will you tell your kids how magic tricks are done? Yup. The most fun about magic tricks is figuring out how they're done. For you. Not for everyone. After all, those are "lies" too. I just don't see that you need to pop those bubbles from the very beginning. They aren't bubbles. They're intriguing mysteries that should be solved. Solving them is far more fun than remaining mystified, IMO. I like to foster healthy curiosity. :-) Again, this is not the same for everyone. Some people like the fact that there are mysteries in the world, and have no interest in solving them. I like to foster a healthy curiosity too, I just don't need to see behind every curtain... I don't consider those lies. I guess we're just going to fundamentally disagree on this one. I guess so. ;-) I just don't think it's my job to calm down my child's imagination and fantasy, but rather encourage it and stoke the fires of creativity. Reminding them of reality does not calm down imagination and fantasy. It just reminds them of reality. It also doesn't hamper creativity. I really don't know why people think it does. I guess it just depends on personality. Maybe part of the problem is that some people don't know how to tell the truth without doing damage, or something. Honestly, I think it's a problem with our culture. (I'm going to stop here before I go into rant mode, heh heh) Now I only used the phrase "my job to calm down my child's imagination and fantasy" because that's exactly what you said. You said it was your job to calm down their imagination and fantasy. I disagree. I also do agree that some people don't understand the concept of telling the truth in a tactful or even healthy way. Some people think that they only way to be honest is to be hurtful. Not all truth needs to be spoken. Sometimes if the truth does more harm than good, it doesn't need to be told. Here is something where we'll definitely have to agree to disagree. I do not believe that it's better to keep a secret if the truth will harm someone. It's far better to know and to deal with the problem. Also, there are ways of telling the truth so that you don't hurt someone. Being kindly truthful is a skill that I've been trying to work on forever, because it's not one that I was ever taught (hence my belief that it's a cultural problem - people value in-your-face attitudes too much these days, especially in snobby Ontario). The going has been tough (and I'm not entirely sure that I've made a whole heck of a lot of progress, either), but I don't intend to quit, and it's definitely something I intend to teach Max. I'm not saying that other people, such as you, aren't going to do the same thing - I'm just saying that I intend to go farther (like, as far as I can). I'm sure you are, and are going to continue to be, a great mom, Vicki. But as I'm sure you are aware (or at least now are), not everyone thinks that the best part of a magic trick is figuring out how it was done. There are different types of people in the world -- those who love to find out the inner workings on things, who love to figure out how things work, how magic tricks are done, etc, and those other people, like me, who honestly don't want to know how the magic trick is done. For me, once I know how the magic trick is done, it's not magic any longer, it's just a fast hand, or a clever ruse. I like believing in magic, and I make an effort not to spoil it for myself. I don't read ahead to the end of the book, I suspend disbelief, I love surprises. My point here is that I'd hope that if your son turned out to be one of the people who didn't think the best part of a magic trick was figuring out how it was done, that you wouldn't spoil it for him. That you'd let him be who he is, and not spoil things for him just because you like it that way. -- Jamie Earth Angels: Taylor Marlys, 1/3/03 Addison Grace, 9/30/04 Check out the family! -- www.MyFamily.com, User ID: Clarkguest1, Password: Guest Become a member for free - go to Add Member to set up your own User ID and Password |
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