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RE how long does it take for your milk to dry up?
NL wrote:
I'm glad you're such a mature person, and able to deal with criticism. I'm glad you're such a mature person, and able to admit to a mistake and apologise. Sarah -- http://www.goodenoughmummy.typepad.com But how do we _know_ that no-one ever said on their deathbed that they wished they'd spent more time at the office? |
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Sarah Vaughan wrote:
NL wrote: I'm glad you're such a mature person, and able to deal with criticism. I'm glad you're such a mature person, and able to admit to a mistake and apologise. Please read my post and tell me what exactly I should apologize for. I wans't the one using the f-word. cu nicole |
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NL wrote: Sarah Vaughan wrote: NL wrote: I'm glad you're such a mature person, and able to deal with criticism. I'm glad you're such a mature person, and able to admit to a mistake and apologise. Please read my post and tell me what exactly I should apologize for. For misreading her post and hence claiming she was neglecting the needs of her child when, in fact, she wasn't doing anything of the sort. I wans't the one using the f-word. I think Betsy owes you an apology as well, for that, and I thought she was well out of line even given that she'd been provoked. But, at the same time, I couldn't help feeling some sympathy for her - she's been dealing with PPD and on top of it she has people accusing her of being a bad mother, doing it wrong, and neglecting her child (and I know the first claim wasn't from you, but the thread's been a little heated) when in fact they just haven't bothered to read her posts properly and find out what's actually going on. I can understand her losing her temper. I don't think that _excuses_ the way she spoke to you, and IMNSHO she owes you an apology too, as I said. But the post of yours I quoted bugged me because there was something so... subtly unpleasant about the way you were trying to score points rather than just say "Sorry, read your post wrong before, my bad". Sarah -- http://www.goodenoughmummy.typepad.com But how do we _know_ that no-one ever said on their deathbed that they wished they'd spent more time at the office? |
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"NL" wrote in message
I don't know if you realize this, but english is not my native language. I'm pretty good, but I didn't grow up speaking english, so sometimes I might use the wrong words to express myself and come across as being harsher than I actually am, I guess it'd be the same if you were writing in german. So please don't asume that everyone on usenet is from the US or the UK, some of us don't have english as their first language. No excuse for being judgemental and rude and dissing another mother when you don't have all the facts. -- Sue (mom to three girls) |
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Good God, people, can we please let this thread die?
I know childrearing is a hot issue, but, really, don't we have enough trolls around here already? (That circumcision thing is really getting on my nerves.) -- Cheri Stryker Mom to DS1 - 6 yrs old preg w/ DS2 - due Feb 19 |
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Sue wrote:
"NL" wrote in message I don't know if you realize this, but english is not my native language. I'm pretty good, but I didn't grow up speaking english, so sometimes I might use the wrong words to express myself and come across as being harsher than I actually am, I guess it'd be the same if you were writing in german. So please don't asume that everyone on usenet is from the US or the UK, some of us don't have english as their first language. No excuse for being judgemental and rude and dissing another mother when you don't have all the facts. Ok, versuchen wir's auf deutsch. Vielleicht komme ich dabei ja besser weg als auf englisch. Ich habe nicht versucht orgenonchick runter zu putzen. Aber ich finde nunmal das sie keine phantastische Mutter ist. Sie ist sicherlich ganz ok, aber wenn ich mir durchlese was sie schreibt, dann geht's ihr verdammt gut, sie geht skifahren, sie macht ihre Turnuebungen, sie hat jemanden der ihr die Kinder abnimmt, aber alles ist nicht genug. Sie hat keinen Bock alle 5 minuten nach der kleinen zu schauen weil sie ja schliesslich auch noch ein Leben hat und weil sie auch wichtig ist. Klar. Wir haben alle auch ein Leben. Aber sie hat fuer sich entschieden noch ein Kind zu haben. Das ist ihr neuer job. Und ich finde sie macht ihn nicht besonders gut. Ein Kind ist kein 20 Stunden die Woche job, ein Saeugling ist nicht mal ein 40 Stunden die Woche job. Man kann ein Kind nicht abstellen wenn es einem auf den Geist geht, und wenn sie schon eine achtjaehrige Tochter hat sollte sie das wirklich wissen. Trotzdem hat sie sich fuer ein zweites Kind entschieden, und dafuer bei diesem Kind zu Hause zu bleiben. Also sollte sie sich auch darueber im klaren gewesen sein was das fuer Konsequenzen beinhaltet. Man hat mit einem Baby eben kein eigenes Leben. Nicht in den ersten Wochen. Das kommt mit der Zeit wieder, aber zu erwarten das ein 6 wochen alter Saeugling 30 minuten still ist waehrend man selbst irgendwelche gymnastik macht... MfG Nicole |
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Anybody want a translation. I could probably use the practice.
I'm not great, but I'm sure I'd be better than babelfish! Larry NL writes: : Sue wrote: : "NL" wrote in message : :I don't know if you realize this, but english is not my native language. :I'm pretty good, but I didn't grow up speaking english, so sometimes I :might use the wrong words to express myself and come across as being :harsher than I actually am, I guess it'd be the same if you were writing :in german. So please don't asume that everyone on usenet is from the US :or the UK, some of us don't have english as their first language. : : : No excuse for being judgemental and rude and dissing another mother when you : don't have all the facts. : Ok, versuchen wir's auf deutsch. Vielleicht komme ich dabei ja besser : weg als auf englisch. : Ich habe nicht versucht orgenonchick runter zu putzen. Aber ich finde : nunmal das sie keine phantastische Mutter ist. Sie ist sicherlich ganz : ok, aber wenn ich mir durchlese was sie schreibt, dann geht's ihr : verdammt gut, sie geht skifahren, sie macht ihre Turnuebungen, sie hat : jemanden der ihr die Kinder abnimmt, aber alles ist nicht genug. : Sie hat keinen Bock alle 5 minuten nach der kleinen zu schauen weil sie : ja schliesslich auch noch ein Leben hat und weil sie auch wichtig ist. : Klar. Wir haben alle auch ein Leben. Aber sie hat fuer sich entschieden : noch ein Kind zu haben. Das ist ihr neuer job. Und ich finde sie macht : ihn nicht besonders gut. Ein Kind ist kein 20 Stunden die Woche job, ein : Saeugling ist nicht mal ein 40 Stunden die Woche job. Man kann ein Kind : nicht abstellen wenn es einem auf den Geist geht, und wenn sie schon : eine achtjaehrige Tochter hat sollte sie das wirklich wissen. : Trotzdem hat sie sich fuer ein zweites Kind entschieden, und dafuer bei : diesem Kind zu Hause zu bleiben. Also sollte sie sich auch darueber im : klaren gewesen sein was das fuer Konsequenzen beinhaltet. Man hat mit : einem Baby eben kein eigenes Leben. Nicht in den ersten Wochen. Das : kommt mit der Zeit wieder, aber zu erwarten das ein 6 wochen alter : Saeugling 30 minuten still ist waehrend man selbst irgendwelche : gymnastik macht... : MfG : Nicole |
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Well we are just going to have to agree to disagree. I agree that once you
have children, that it's your job to raise them. But, this idea that a mom cannot do anything else but take care of the child is something that I am never going to agree with. Mom can have a little bit of a life besides baby. Taking care of yourself is also a responsibility to the child and exercising and being happy is also important. And you don't seem to understand that this mom is taking care of her child. Just because she does it different than you doesn't mean she is a bad mother. And I am done. Case closed. -- Sue (mom to three girls) |
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