Sorta stood up to MIL

Anita,
I was in no way ungracious. We thanked SIL on the spot AND sent a Thank
You note, as I did with everyone. My kids loved this toy so much, that
they fought over it. I think they have the right to have their own. They
also ride the toys together. I think that you shouldn't make negative
assumptions. I am not going to turn around and treat my new neice or
nephew badly, b/c I didn't agree with the present his/her mother gave my
kids. THAT would be vindictive.


~Megan~
Aidan Matthew & Alexis Valerie
Born September 28, 2002

www.babiesonline.com/babies/a/aidannalexis

Nik,
Thanks for your post. I am sure ML didn't like me talking about her
daughter. MIL and I do not mix well. Not a positive thing to say about
MIL. As for SIL, she is quite well off, but very "tight".


~Megan~
Aidan Matthew & Alexis Valerie
Born September 28, 2002

www.babiesonline.com/babies/a/aidannalexis

Nik,
Thanks for your post. I am sure ML didn't like me talking about her
daughter. MIL and I do not mix well. Not a positive thing to say about
MIL. As for SIL, she is quite well off, but very "tight".


~Megan~
Aidan Matthew & Alexis Valerie
Born September 28, 2002

www.babiesonline.com/babies/a/aidannalexis

Anita,
Your trying to make a jole of things does not help the fact that you
have no idea what you are talking about. Why start if you know it wall
cause a "flame war"? If you just responded to stir up something, then
just stop! My kids are 2, not 1. That is the whole point.


~Megan~
Aidan Matthew & Alexis Valerie
Born September 28, 2002

www.babiesonline.com/babies/a/aidannalexis

Anita,
Your trying to make a jole of things does not help the fact that you
have no idea what you are talking about. Why start if you know it wall
cause a "flame war"? If you just responded to stir up something, then
just stop! My kids are 2, not 1. That is the whole point.


~Megan~
Aidan Matthew & Alexis Valerie
Born September 28, 2002

www.babiesonline.com/babies/a/aidannalexis

Helen, I have the same idea, too. If anyone dosen't like clutter, it's
an OCD neatfreak like me. No, I really don't need a firetruck and pink
hippo in my living room, but comes with the territory!


~Megan~
Aidan Matthew & Alexis Valerie
Born September 28, 2002

www.babiesonline.com/babies/a/aidannalexis

Helen, I have the same idea, too. If anyone dosen't like clutter, it's
an OCD neatfreak like me. No, I really don't need a firetruck and pink
hippo in my living room, but comes with the territory!


~Megan~
Aidan Matthew & Alexis Valerie
Born September 28, 2002

www.babiesonline.com/babies/a/aidannalexis

Julie,
The whole onepresent thing just put the 'icing on the cake' as to how my
IL's treat my kids compared to the other nephew's. My kids are treated
like **** time and time again. You tell me, why is it fair that all the
other nephews be given their OWN ride-on toy for their first b-day, but
my kids don't. Is that fair? No, my kids don't know what "fair" is, but
when is the way they are treated going to stop? They are innocent. Alkl
the gratitude in the world is there. I thanked SIL for the gift and I
meant it. I was hoping she would get them a ride-on toy.


~Megan~
Aidan Matthew & Alexis Valerie
Born September 28, 2002

www.babiesonline.com/babies/a/aidannalexis

Julie,
The whole onepresent thing just put the 'icing on the cake' as to how my
IL's treat my kids compared to the other nephew's. My kids are treated
like **** time and time again. You tell me, why is it fair that all the
other nephews be given their OWN ride-on toy for their first b-day, but
my kids don't. Is that fair? No, my kids don't know what "fair" is, but
when is the way they are treated going to stop? They are innocent. Alkl
the gratitude in the world is there. I thanked SIL for the gift and I
meant it. I was hoping she would get them a ride-on toy.


~Megan~
Aidan Matthew & Alexis Valerie
Born September 28, 2002

www.babiesonline.com/babies/a/aidannalexis

Subject: Sorta stood up to MIL
From: Julie Seely ess
Date: Thu, Oct 23, 2003 6:59 PM
Message-id:

Anita --

You had the guts to say what I've been thinking for days, namely "where
is the gratitude?" I simply cannot believe that full-grown adults are
comparing what *their* kids got to what other kids got, when their kids
are far too young to have any awareness. Give me a break.

And *I* simply cannot believe that a parent would sit quietly by and smile when
their children are deliberately slighted in this way. If you do not nip this is
the bud *now*, it will not change.

What happens when they are 10 and they are talking to their cousins about the
great DVD Aunt whatever bought them and they find that their cousins each got
one and they had to share. You don't think that will hurt their feelings?
This isn't about being rude but about protecting your kids from being hurt by
thoughtless relatives. They will be hurt plenty by others in their lives. It
isn't too much to expect some courtesy from *family*.

I want to be clear about one thing. I am not saying that it is never
appropriate to give a joint gift. Not at all. My girls have been given
several joint gifts from various relatives and friends -- things like blocks,
videos, a Little People house, and sidewalk chalk. But these are all things
they can play with alone or *together*. And those kinds of gifts are
wonderful.

What makes Megan's situation different is the choice of gift and the way she
shortchanged her kids compared to other cousins -- IMO that warrants something
more than merely being grateful.





As for the issue of treating twins as one, these are ONE-YEAR-OLDS!!!!
They have no clue!!! They are not offended!!!

Not yet anyway. So you would rather just sit by quietly and not say anything
until they *do* understand? How about nipping this in the bud *now* so
feelings aren't hurt later on.


Lori