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Sorta stood up to MIL
My kids are TWO people, not ONE.
~Megan~ Aidan Matthew & Alexis Valerie Born September 28, 2002 www.babiesonline.com/babies/a/aidannalexis |
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Thank you Kim. If there is anyone "grateful" out there, it is me. I was
brought up well. I am very big on "thank you's" Be it a written letter, phone call or a gift. And believe me, I was very happy that they got the firetruck. I guess, it just stems back to the way my kids are treated vs. the way the other nephews are treated. ~Megan~ Aidan Matthew & Alexis Valerie Born September 28, 2002 www.babiesonline.com/babies/a/aidannalexis |
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Thank you Kim. If there is anyone "grateful" out there, it is me. I was
brought up well. I am very big on "thank you's" Be it a written letter, phone call or a gift. And believe me, I was very happy that they got the firetruck. I guess, it just stems back to the way my kids are treated vs. the way the other nephews are treated. ~Megan~ Aidan Matthew & Alexis Valerie Born September 28, 2002 www.babiesonline.com/babies/a/aidannalexis |
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This op was case-specific as was the followed post that was discussed. In
general, I think we all choose to parent our children with a sense of gratitude for gifts that are not necessary, but appreciated if offered. I thought it was clear that this was the intent for frustrations by the posters. I understand sometimes people read things differently, but reading the posters posts several years, I felt confidant of what they meant. Many people have differing opinions, which had been discussed respectfully, regarding one vs. two toys per child. Like many, my kids *did* have only one ride on toy. They currently have one bike they share even. That will change as they get older depending on the toy and circumstance, not to do with money or room but other factors. With that said, I think these posts were case-specific and dealt with more than the money spent on a gift or how many gifts given! There were deeper issues that completely made sense to me. In their shoes, I would have been deeply hurt and offended. They clearly had valid points. I also believe the posts weren't titled as "give me advice". They were "vents". I know some of you will say, "but this is a ng, we can volley topics all day". True, and I do get benefit from seeing other points of view. But, it got a little beyond that and probably made the posters feel worse than before they came here to vent about their problem. So, if turning this into a "I'm trying to teach my child differently than you behave"...it may be okay to do, but I guess it isn't a "nice" trait a child should have either IMO. I guess I'll need that flame suit, too now. Chalk it up to lack of sleep and sitting on my hands for a few days. Missy in Indiana http://hometown.aol.com/mhrust/overviewforng.html Morgan Olivia & Julia Lucille 4/28/01 (YAY!) |
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This op was case-specific as was the followed post that was discussed. In
general, I think we all choose to parent our children with a sense of gratitude for gifts that are not necessary, but appreciated if offered. I thought it was clear that this was the intent for frustrations by the posters. I understand sometimes people read things differently, but reading the posters posts several years, I felt confidant of what they meant. Many people have differing opinions, which had been discussed respectfully, regarding one vs. two toys per child. Like many, my kids *did* have only one ride on toy. They currently have one bike they share even. That will change as they get older depending on the toy and circumstance, not to do with money or room but other factors. With that said, I think these posts were case-specific and dealt with more than the money spent on a gift or how many gifts given! There were deeper issues that completely made sense to me. In their shoes, I would have been deeply hurt and offended. They clearly had valid points. I also believe the posts weren't titled as "give me advice". They were "vents". I know some of you will say, "but this is a ng, we can volley topics all day". True, and I do get benefit from seeing other points of view. But, it got a little beyond that and probably made the posters feel worse than before they came here to vent about their problem. So, if turning this into a "I'm trying to teach my child differently than you behave"...it may be okay to do, but I guess it isn't a "nice" trait a child should have either IMO. I guess I'll need that flame suit, too now. Chalk it up to lack of sleep and sitting on my hands for a few days. Missy in Indiana http://hometown.aol.com/mhrust/overviewforng.html Morgan Olivia & Julia Lucille 4/28/01 (YAY!) |
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Ugh, all this is exactly why I didn't post about this in the first
place. My "event" happened weeks before Brigitte's twins b-day, but when she posted about the one card thing, it just got me more angry, so I felt the need to vent also. Sorry that this blew up into such silliness and took away from Brigitte's OP. Believe me, there is much more than toys that gave me negative feelings from my IL's, but it would take years to type it all! ~Megan~ Aidan Matthew & Alexis Valerie Born September 28, 2002 www.babiesonline.com/babies/a/aidannalexis |
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Ugh, all this is exactly why I didn't post about this in the first
place. My "event" happened weeks before Brigitte's twins b-day, but when she posted about the one card thing, it just got me more angry, so I felt the need to vent also. Sorry that this blew up into such silliness and took away from Brigitte's OP. Believe me, there is much more than toys that gave me negative feelings from my IL's, but it would take years to type it all! ~Megan~ Aidan Matthew & Alexis Valerie Born September 28, 2002 www.babiesonline.com/babies/a/aidannalexis |
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I had a whole reply to this all typed up but I think I am going to send it
to you privately because this is where we have more in common than not and I don't care to post about it publicly. Hope you will read it and see that I do understand but maybe have chosen a different path. Hopefully it will be helpful to you...or maybe your thoughts will be helpful to me. A. "Megan Byrne" wrote in message ... Anita, My IL's are the number one argument in my house. I am not proud to say that, but I feel that they are such a strain on my marriage. It is horrible. My DH hates when I say anything negative about them, but there is just so much to say. He, finally, did go down and talk to his mother and father, b/c one of his sisters was heard saying that my son had "learning disabilities", due to the fact he is in PT. You can only imagine how upset I was over that. ~Megan~ Aidan Matthew & Alexis Valerie Born September 28, 2002 www.babiesonline.com/babies/a/aidannalexis --- Outgoing mail is certified Virus Free. Checked by AVG anti-virus system (http://www.grisoft.com). Version: 6.0.528 / Virus Database: 324 - Release Date: 16/10/2003 |
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I had a whole reply to this all typed up but I think I am going to send it
to you privately because this is where we have more in common than not and I don't care to post about it publicly. Hope you will read it and see that I do understand but maybe have chosen a different path. Hopefully it will be helpful to you...or maybe your thoughts will be helpful to me. A. "Megan Byrne" wrote in message ... Anita, My IL's are the number one argument in my house. I am not proud to say that, but I feel that they are such a strain on my marriage. It is horrible. My DH hates when I say anything negative about them, but there is just so much to say. He, finally, did go down and talk to his mother and father, b/c one of his sisters was heard saying that my son had "learning disabilities", due to the fact he is in PT. You can only imagine how upset I was over that. ~Megan~ Aidan Matthew & Alexis Valerie Born September 28, 2002 www.babiesonline.com/babies/a/aidannalexis --- Outgoing mail is certified Virus Free. Checked by AVG anti-virus system (http://www.grisoft.com). Version: 6.0.528 / Virus Database: 324 - Release Date: 16/10/2003 |
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Megan --
Sorry. Yes, I misunderstood. Julie Megan Byrne wrote: My kids are TWO people, not ONE. ~Megan~ Aidan Matthew & Alexis Valerie Born September 28, 2002 www.babiesonline.com/babies/a/aidannalexis |
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