Positive Parenting Moment

DS (29mo) has to either hold my hand or be carried through parking areas, but
has resented hand-holding for quite a long time. I have dragged him or picked
him up when necessary, and always explained that "we hold hands in parking
areas", but wasn't really getting anywhere with it.

The solution is: "I like holding hands with you!"

Works like a charm; hope it helps someone else!

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Chookie -- Sydney, Australia
(Replace "foulspambegone" with "optushome" to reply)

"...children should continue to be breastfed... for up to two years of age
or beyond." -- Innocenti Declaration, Florence, 1 August 1990

You go girl!

Our 'parking lot' rules have always included holding hands! I do recall
some bit of fighting it when they learned to walk and were looking or some
independence. We wouldn't move until they'd cooperate or we'd pack back up
in the car and go back home - no mall, no pool, no where ever they wanted to
be. Both my girls will stand right by the car when they get out and hold
their hand up. They're 3 and 5.

Kim

DS (29mo) has to either hold my hand or be carried through parking areas, but

has resented hand-holding for quite a long time. I have dragged him or
picked
him up when necessary, and always explained that "we hold hands in parking
areas", but wasn't really getting anywhere with it.

The solution is: "I like holding hands with you!"

Works like a charm; hope it helps someone else!

We do something very similar. I always tell DS, "Please hold my hand. I feel
safer when you do." He readily complies. Sometimes he will beat me to the
request and say, "I hold your hand, Mommy, to keep you safe!"



koa
Still nursing James, 02/06/01
EP'ing for Joey 04/02/03 (BCP)

I do both, I say, we have to hold hands in the parking lot since it is
dangerous. Good hting I LOVE holding hands with you!

The thing - alas- that really worked for me was getting down on my haunches
and explaining that if he would not hold my hand, I would have to carry him.
I did not want my precious boy to get hurt. He did not want to hold hands,
but he wanted to be carried even less!

S



"Chookie" wrote in message
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DS (29mo) has to either hold my hand or be carried through parking areas,
but
has resented hand-holding for quite a long time. I have dragged him or
picked
him up when necessary, and always explained that "we hold hands in parking
areas", but wasn't really getting anywhere with it.

The solution is: "I like holding hands with you!"

Works like a charm; hope it helps someone else!

--
Chookie -- Sydney, Australia
(Replace "foulspambegone" with "optushome" to reply)

"...children should continue to be breastfed... for up to two years of age
or beyond." -- Innocenti Declaration, Florence, 1 August 1990