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Old January 8th 08, 04:33 AM posted to misc.kids
mom0f4boys
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Default BOYS... starts with B just like BAD

No! Naughty! Don't do that! Bad, bad boys... I have 4 of them,
ages 6 to 14. One suspended for giving the middle-school art-teacher
too much attitude, one taking Latin, one bringing a Halloween fake-
foot to school and chasing the first-grade girls with it and one not
taking his ADD medication.
One son had a Mountain Dew, another asked for a sip. The first
one made a show of pouring a capful of soda. They both laughed, but
the first said, 'Come on, give me some!'
Boy with soda: (pretends to give it but takes it back)
Brother: (waits)
Boy with soda: (sits still)
Brother: (Whacks his brother on the forehead) Come on!
Boy with soda: (Offfers the bottle, but pulls it back last
second, saying) "Promise?"..(meaning promise you won't chug it)
Brother: Yes! (reaches for the bottle)
Boy with soda: (holds up his pinky) Pinky swear? [he is just
being a dog]
Brother: (links pinkies with his brother and bends his pinky
backwards)
Boy with soda: Ahhhh! (dissolves into laughter and gives up
the soda)
Brother: (takes a sip and hands it back)
BOTH: (smiling)

I don't know why I shared this stupid little thing. Maybe because it
isn't PC to enjoy such exchanges. Boys using power plays and
aggression. It is not allowed on school grounds, no matter how much
they enjoy it.
Thoughts about boys?
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Old January 8th 08, 01:27 PM posted to misc.kids
deja.blues
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Default BOYS...


"mom0f4boys" wrote in message
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Thoughts about boys?

Boys aren't bad.


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Old January 8th 08, 05:11 PM posted to misc.kids
Stephanie[_2_]
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Default BOYS... starts with B just like BAD

mom0f4boys wrote:
No! Naughty! Don't do that! Bad, bad boys... I have 4 of them,
ages 6 to 14. One suspended for giving the middle-school art-teacher
too much attitude, one taking Latin, one bringing a Halloween fake-
foot to school and chasing the first-grade girls with it and one not
taking his ADD medication.




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One son had a Mountain Dew, another asked for a sip. The first
one made a show of pouring a capful of soda. They both laughed, but
the first said, 'Come on, give me some!'
Boy with soda: (pretends to give it but takes it back)
Brother: (waits)
Boy with soda: (sits still)
Brother: (Whacks his brother on the forehead) Come on!
Boy with soda: (Offfers the bottle, but pulls it back last
second, saying) "Promise?"..(meaning promise you won't chug it)
Brother: Yes! (reaches for the bottle)
Boy with soda: (holds up his pinky) Pinky swear? [he is just
being a dog]
Brother: (links pinkies with his brother and bends his pinky
backwards)
Boy with soda: Ahhhh! (dissolves into laughter and gives up
the soda)
Brother: (takes a sip and hands it back)
BOTH: (smiling)

I don't know why I shared this stupid little thing. Maybe because it
isn't PC to enjoy such exchanges. Boys using power plays and
aggression. It is not allowed on school grounds, no matter how much
they enjoy it.
Thoughts about boys?



Boys like to be productive members of their group as much as anyone else as
long as their models value it, teach it, demonstrate it. Nasty antagonism is
not a boy position. It is a break down in the teaching of empathy, respect
and self respect.


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Old January 8th 08, 06:32 PM posted to misc.kids
Beliavsky
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Default BOYS... starts with B just like BAD

On Jan 8, 11:11*am, "Stephanie" wrote:
mom0f4boys wrote:


Boys like to be productive members of their group as much as anyone else as
long as their models value it, teach it, demonstrate it. Nasty antagonism is
not a boy position. It is a break down in the teaching of empathy, respect
and self respect.


Good parenting may reduce the chance that someone will grow up to be a
bad person, but holding the environment constant, a much higher
percentage of males than females will go bad. Men commit far more
violent crimes than women in all societies I know of.
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Old January 8th 08, 07:54 PM posted to misc.kids
hedgehog42
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Default BOYS... starts with B just like BAD

On Jan 8, 11:32 am, Beliavsky wrote:
On Jan 8, 11:11 am, "Stephanie" wrote:

mom0f4boys wrote:
Boys like to be productive members of their group as much as anyone else as
long as their models value it, teach it, demonstrate it. Nasty antagonism is
not a boy position. It is a break down in the teaching of empathy, respect
and self respect.


Good parenting may reduce the chance that someone will grow up to be a
bad person, but holding the environment constant, a much higher
percentage of males than females will go bad. Men commit far more
violent crimes than women in all societies I know of.


Two of my three kids are boys, and for someone growing up with only
sisters, it's been challenging and eye-opening in some ways I hadn't
expected. They do test each other physically in ways that my sisters
and I really didn't (I suspect part of that was the constant "ladies
don't..." corrections so common at the time -- and remember, girls can
have their own particular brand of meanness. Just look to any middle
school).

However, even when my boys are particularly mischievous, I certainly
don't think of them -- because of or despite their gender-- as "bad".
They've both proven to be pretty empathetic and giving to others -- a
lot of community service -- and when the chips were down, I've seen
them come through for one another in ways I might not have expected.

Think of a kid as bad for long enough, and he probably won't
disappoint you.

Lori G.





Lori G.
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Old January 8th 08, 10:12 PM posted to misc.kids
Stephanie[_2_]
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Default BOYS... starts with B just like BAD

Beliavsky wrote:
On Jan 8, 11:11 am, "Stephanie" wrote:
mom0f4boys wrote:


Boys like to be productive members of their group as much as anyone
else as long as their models value it, teach it, demonstrate it.
Nasty antagonism is not a boy position. It is a break down in the
teaching of empathy, respect and self respect.


Good parenting may reduce the chance that someone will grow up to be a
bad person, but holding the environment constant, a much higher
percentage of males than females will go bad. Men commit far more
violent crimes than women in all societies I know of.



I certainly agree that boys and girls can have very different temperments.
We actually did not beleive it when we had our first. He convinced us rather
quickly that at least *he* was quintisential boy, whatever one might say
about gender difference. But the behavior the OP described did not seem like
being bad or rotten, lost children. They sounded like children who were
*expected* to be that way and as such are.

I think channelling comptetiveness, even aggression is a challenging thing
to do but a worthwhile thing to attempt. I don't believe that a given trait
born into a person is necessarily a bad or damaging thing, unless the tools
to manage or use the trait are never attained.


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Old January 9th 08, 03:14 AM posted to misc.kids
deja.blues
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Default BOYS... starts with B just like BAD


"mom0f4boys" wrote in message
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No! Naughty! Don't do that! Bad, bad boys... I have 4 of them,
ages 6 to 14. One suspended for giving the middle-school art-teacher
too much attitude, one taking Latin, one bringing a Halloween fake-
foot to school and chasing the first-grade girls with it and one not
taking his ADD medication.
One son had a Mountain Dew, another asked for a sip. The first
one made a show of pouring a capful of soda. They both laughed, but
the first said, 'Come on, give me some!'
Boy with soda: (pretends to give it but takes it back)
Brother: (waits)
Boy with soda: (sits still)
Brother: (Whacks his brother on the forehead) Come on!
Boy with soda: (Offfers the bottle, but pulls it back last
second, saying) "Promise?"..(meaning promise you won't chug it)
Brother: Yes! (reaches for the bottle)
Boy with soda: (holds up his pinky) Pinky swear? [he is just
being a dog]
Brother: (links pinkies with his brother and bends his pinky
backwards)
Boy with soda: Ahhhh! (dissolves into laughter and gives up
the soda)
Brother: (takes a sip and hands it back)
BOTH: (smiling)

I don't know why I shared this stupid little thing. Maybe because it
isn't PC to enjoy such exchanges. Boys using power plays and
aggression. It is not allowed on school grounds, no matter how much
they enjoy it.


Do your boys go to Catholic school?


 




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