Do kids learn abusive behaviors from parents?

I'm sure there's a better place to post this but I just can't find it
right now.

I'm looking for information about children who live with an
emotionally and/or verbally abusive parent. What I'm specifically
looking for is the affects that this kind of abuse can have on
children. Do these children grow up to treat their children the same
way? Can verbal and/or emotional abuse be more, less, or equally as
harmful as physical or sexual abuse?

I recall seeing a movie a few years ago where I believe the man was
emotionally and verbally abusive to his wife. When their son got to be
a teenager he became angry and became abusive to his mother. I believe
it was said at the end of the movie that the son had learned this
behavior from the father. That if the father hadn't been abusive then
the son most likely wouldn't have been abusive either.

Does anyone have any opinions or experiences on this subject that
they'd like to share?

"Mike" wrote in message
om...
I'm sure there's a better place to post this but I just can't find it
right now.

I'm looking for information about children who live with an
emotionally and/or verbally abusive parent. What I'm specifically
looking for is the affects that this kind of abuse can have on
children. Do these children grow up to treat their children the same
way? Can verbal and/or emotional abuse be more, less, or equally as
harmful as physical or sexual abuse?

Yes, verbal abuse can be has harmful as physical abuse.

I recall seeing a movie a few years ago where I believe the man was
emotionally and verbally abusive to his wife. When their son got to be
a teenager he became angry and became abusive to his mother. I believe
it was said at the end of the movie that the son had learned this
behavior from the father. That if the father hadn't been abusive then
the son most likely wouldn't have been abusive either.

Does anyone have any opinions or experiences on this subject that
they'd like to share?

On 4 Jun 2004 22:45:07 -0700, (Mike) wrote:

I recall seeing a movie a few years ago where I believe the man was
emotionally and verbally abusive to his wife. When their son got to be
a teenager he became angry and became abusive to his mother. I believe
it was said at the end of the movie that the son had learned this
behavior from the father. That if the father hadn't been abusive then
the son most likely wouldn't have been abusive either.

Let me guess... you were watching the Lifetime channel?

Your local library should have several books on the subject that you can
check out and find what you are looking for.

Kim
"Mike" wrote in message
om...
I'm sure there's a better place to post this but I just can't find it
right now.

I'm looking for information about children who live with an
emotionally and/or verbally abusive parent. What I'm specifically
looking for is the affects that this kind of abuse can have on
children. Do these children grow up to treat their children the same
way? Can verbal and/or emotional abuse be more, less, or equally as
harmful as physical or sexual abuse?

I recall seeing a movie a few years ago where I believe the man was
emotionally and verbally abusive to his wife. When their son got to be
a teenager he became angry and became abusive to his mother. I believe
it was said at the end of the movie that the son had learned this
behavior from the father. That if the father hadn't been abusive then
the son most likely wouldn't have been abusive either.

Does anyone have any opinions or experiences on this subject that
they'd like to share?

(PF Riley) wrote in message ...
On 4 Jun 2004 22:45:07 -0700, (Mike) wrote:

I recall seeing a movie a few years ago where I believe the man was
emotionally and verbally abusive to his wife. When their son got to be
a teenager he became angry and became abusive to his mother. I believe
it was said at the end of the movie that the son had learned this
behavior from the father. That if the father hadn't been abusive then
the son most likely wouldn't have been abusive either.

Let me guess... you were watching the Lifetime channel?


If you can't say anything helpful, then don't say anything at all.
Abuse is a serious matter, no matter what form it comes in.

well,my 4.5 y.o son hears my husband yell at me , so now he thinks it's OK
for him to yell at me too !!! D
"Mike" wrote in message
om...
I'm sure there's a better place to post this but I just can't find it
right now.

I'm looking for information about children who live with an
emotionally and/or verbally abusive parent. What I'm specifically
looking for is the affects that this kind of abuse can have on
children. Do these children grow up to treat their children the same
way? Can verbal and/or emotional abuse be more, less, or equally as
harmful as physical or sexual abuse?

I recall seeing a movie a few years ago where I believe the man was
emotionally and verbally abusive to his wife. When their son got to be
a teenager he became angry and became abusive to his mother. I believe
it was said at the end of the movie that the son had learned this
behavior from the father. That if the father hadn't been abusive then
the son most likely wouldn't have been abusive either.

Does anyone have any opinions or experiences on this subject that
they'd like to share?

Does anyone have any opinions or experiences on this subject that
they'd like to share?

I think children learn from adults.
My friends mum was always living in a messy house and always yelling F*ck
this and F*ck that, your f*cking hopeless, go to your room, your a b*tch
etc

Now my friend has grown up and her son always hears his mum say F*ck this
and F*ck that, your f*cking hopeless, go to your room, your a b*tch etc My
friend refuses to live in a messy house and is really a clean freak.
She has even tried to cut down her swearing in the last few years but it
still comes out a lot.

My friends, sisters and brothers on the other hand (whom also have grown
up) also swear much much worse and they also live in messy houses. (messier
then what they grew up in)

So I think children learn from adults in something's. Sometimes thou
children hate something so much that they vow not to do it the way they grew
up. (eg friends house is never a mess as she hated living it in whilst
growing up but had no choice but now she does)

I also know of another friend whom spanked her child and then that child
thought that they could spanked smaller children. The mother was at a loss
how to explain that her child isn't allowed to do something yet the mother
was allowed to do it.

Abuse is abuse, doesn't matter how it comes.
So YES, I think children learn abusive behaviours (and swearing) from
parents.

Nic

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(Mike) wrote in message . com...
I'm sure there's a better place to post this but I just can't find it
right now.

I'm looking for information about children who live with an
emotionally and/or verbally abusive parent. What I'm specifically
looking for is the affects that this kind of abuse can have on
children. Do these children grow up to treat their children the same
way? Can verbal and/or emotional abuse be more, less, or equally as
harmful as physical or sexual abuse?

No experiences, but an opinion. I think it's often overlooked
in discussions of this sort that the child and the parent are
usually genetically related. Since some kinds of things that
might make a person abusive seem to have hereditary
components (mental illness, temperament), the child might not only
be learning the behavior from the parent, but might have been
somewhat predisposed towards that kind of behavior in the first
place.

Beth