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ubject: Need a couple of ideas and resources
From: "slykitten" ms Date: 9/16/2004 10:57 PM Eastern Standard Time Message-id: do you have any clue about anything??? he IS my son's STEP DAD!!!! he's the ONLY DAD my son has EVER known! He became DAD when my son was 15 months old and he accepted US. Yes, he IS STEP DAD. -- No Sly she does not have a clue... I do though , I understand 100%. My daughters had a step mom, from the time the oldest was 5 1/2 and the youngest she was 6 months old, would we have married over 20 years ago probably, but we were denied that right. What do I feel about the paperwork now F%$# it, means nothing what we had was more than any piece of paper could give us. Our vows were etched within our hearts . Stay strong let it roll off it doesn't matter if there are people so shallow that they don't get it. Take care Bev |
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ubject: Need a couple of ideas and resources
From: oaway (Joelle) Date: 9/16/2004 11:11 PM Eastern Standard Time Message-id: Yes, he IS STEP DAD. Sigh. Okay. I tried. That's all you heard. That's all you want to focus on. thats exactly why you put it out there slick LOL! I'm very sorry. For your son. there it is the Joellism ! She always has some holier than thou, I feel so so sorry for your son/daughter/grandchild/ let us pray ! Statement roflmfao !!!!!!! Who the hell is your therapist girl? Not a keeper ........... Joelle The world is a book and those who do not travel read only one page - St Augustine Joelle |
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On Thu, 16 Sep 2004 08:11:46 GMT, "Betsy" wrote:
You don't say what his diagnosis is, or why he's on meds. Certain medications can cause such outbursts, as well as these same outbursts being part of the condition for which he is being treated. For example, I know a child who has ADHD, and at the drop of a hat, he'll start crying, or suddenly scream at his mother, "I HATE YOU!" It's an unfortunate part of the ADHD. Gotta tell you, that's not ADHD. ADHD is about attention and lack thereof. Whatever else emerges, can be fallout from mismanagement of ADHD, can be fallout from the stress of dealing with ADHD, can be because the child isn't really ADHD and has been misdiagnosed, but in and of itself, that's not ADHD. ADHD is about attention and activity level, full stop. The other stuff is kind of extra embellishment, which may or may not happen, depending on a whole host of exciting life circumstances. Sorry to be pedantic, but I had a flash of accuracy and it grabbed me and put me in a lockhold until I made this post...... Cele |
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"Cele" wrote in message ... On Thu, 16 Sep 2004 08:11:46 GMT, "Betsy" wrote: You don't say what his diagnosis is, or why he's on meds. Certain medications can cause such outbursts, as well as these same outbursts being part of the condition for which he is being treated. For example, I know a child who has ADHD, and at the drop of a hat, he'll start crying, or suddenly scream at his mother, "I HATE YOU!" It's an unfortunate part of the ADHD. Gotta tell you, that's not ADHD. ADHD is about attention and lack thereof. Whatever else emerges, can be fallout from mismanagement of ADHD, can be fallout from the stress of dealing with ADHD, can be because the child isn't really ADHD and has been misdiagnosed, but in and of itself, that's not ADHD. ADHD is about attention and activity level, full stop. The other stuff is kind of extra embellishment, which may or may not happen, depending on a whole host of exciting life circumstances. Sorry to be pedantic, but I had a flash of accuracy and it grabbed me and put me in a lockhold until I made this post...... Cele No Problem Cele. I didn't say her son had ADHD. I said I have seen similar behaviors in children with ADHD. I would never try to diagnose or reccommend a disorder to anyone. Just pointing out that her son's behavior may well be a part of his diagnosis; something to be dealt with in that manner, rather than a slam from him to her parenting style. That was the intent of my post. Betsy |
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It counts without minimising what others of us have
experienced. I'm not minimizing anything you've gone through. But what she described about her son is so close to what my son has gone through....is what I meant. I don't know what you've gone through with your daughter. You don't know what I've gone through with my son. Some similarities, but I think I know more about kit's son than you do. Doesn't diminish anything you've been through. Remember what I said about getting defensive under pressure? ;-) Hey, say a few for us over here, if you're willing. I'll take all the prayers I can get, any time. Life's hard enough, without turning down the prayers and good wishes people offer.... I'll pray for anyone, whether they turn them down or not :-) Joelle The world is a book and those who do not travel read only one page - St Augustine Joelle |
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On Fri, 17 Sep 2004 09:24:09 GMT, "Betsy" wrote:
"Cele" wrote in message .. . On Thu, 16 Sep 2004 08:11:46 GMT, "Betsy" wrote: You don't say what his diagnosis is, or why he's on meds. Certain medications can cause such outbursts, as well as these same outbursts being part of the condition for which he is being treated. For example, I know a child who has ADHD, and at the drop of a hat, he'll start crying, or suddenly scream at his mother, "I HATE YOU!" It's an unfortunate part of the ADHD. Gotta tell you, that's not ADHD. ADHD is about attention and lack thereof. Whatever else emerges, can be fallout from mismanagement of ADHD, can be fallout from the stress of dealing with ADHD, can be because the child isn't really ADHD and has been misdiagnosed, but in and of itself, that's not ADHD. ADHD is about attention and activity level, full stop. The other stuff is kind of extra embellishment, which may or may not happen, depending on a whole host of exciting life circumstances. Sorry to be pedantic, but I had a flash of accuracy and it grabbed me and put me in a lockhold until I made this post...... Cele No Problem Cele. I didn't say her son had ADHD. I said I have seen similar behaviors in children with ADHD. I would never try to diagnose or reccommend a disorder to anyone. Just pointing out that her son's behavior may well be a part of his diagnosis; something to be dealt with in that manner, rather than a slam from him to her parenting style. That was the intent of my post. Betsy Fair enough, Betsy. I agree with that. I truly wasn't looking to be all critical. It's just that in my line of work, these days, practically *everyone* has ADHD, whether they do or not, if you see what I mean. :-) Take care. Cele |
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"Bebelestrnge0721" wrote in message ... ubject: Need a couple of ideas and resources From: oaway (Joelle) Date: 9/16/2004 11:11 PM Eastern Standard Time Message-id: Yes, he IS STEP DAD. Sigh. Okay. I tried. That's all you heard. That's all you want to focus on. thats exactly why you put it out there slick LOL! I'm very sorry. For your son. there it is the Joellism ! She always has some holier than thou, I feel so so sorry for your son/daughter/grandchild/ let us pray ! Statement roflmfao !!!!!!! Who the hell is your therapist girl? Not a keeper .......... Joelle The world is a book and those who do not travel read only one page - St Augustine Joelle From someone who is reading this and not experiencing the issues you all are going through, meaning I'm not defensive and emotional, YOU are the one who looks bad, not Joelle. You might want to think about that. I'll start holding my breath... now. Christine |
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"Bebelestrnge0721" wrote in message ... ubject: Need a couple of ideas and resources From: "slykitten" ms Date: 9/16/2004 10:57 PM Eastern Standard Time Message-id: do you have any clue about anything??? he IS my son's STEP DAD!!!! he's the ONLY DAD my son has EVER known! He became DAD when my son was 15 months old and he accepted US. Yes, he IS STEP DAD. -- No Sly she does not have a clue... I do though , I understand 100%. My daughters had a step mom, from the time the oldest was 5 1/2 and the youngest she was 6 months old, would we have married over 20 years ago probably, but we were denied that right. What do I feel about the paperwork now F%$# it, means nothing what we had was more than any piece of paper could give us. Our vows were etched within our hearts . Stay strong let it roll off it doesn't matter if there are people so shallow that they don't get it. Take care Bev Are you on medication because I think you missed a dose. You see what you want to see, but I'm telling you, your judgement is clouded by your personal vendetta against Joelle. But then again, why am I wasting my breath when I'm supposed to be holding it. Good luck to you in life, I sincerely think you'll need it. Christine |
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