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Those people shouldn't be raising children, and if they're on
disability for those reasons, they should be put into a mandatory treatment program and let their disability checks pay for it. Joy === "teachrmama" wrote in message ... "Joy B" wrote in message om... NO PARENT SHOULD EVER DO ANY KIND OF MIND ALTERING SUBSTANCE, THEN GET BEHIND THE WHEEL OF A CAR WITH THEIR CHILD IN IT!!!! I don't care if you are CP, NCP or what! Bigger picture, it should NEVER be done by anyone, parent or not a parent. Now, I don't drink or do drugs, but nor am I a prude. I think it is acceptable for a parent to have a glass or two of an alcoholic beverage while caring for a child as long as it is in moderation and does not affect the quality of care given to the child. I stress, IN MODERATION!!! I would have no problem with dad having a couple of drinks at home if he had no intention of going anywhere. I also feel that drugs, in any amount are unacceptable while caring for a child. As far as your question, absolutely! If a mother is doing excessive drinking, while caring for the child, the father should step up and "react". Now to open another can of worms, since you brought up the welfare issue, I believe that a law should be passed that anyone who collects welfare should have mandatory periodoc drug testing before handing out any kind of benefits to them. This would help identify the parents who are on drugs and raising children, then perhaps our less fortunate children could have a better chance of survival. I wouldn't object to that, Joy. But how about the welfare recipients who run out of benefits and are placed on SSI because of the "disability" that causes them to drink and/or drug? Since they are "disabled" in their ability to refuse alcohol/drugs, surely you wouldn't expect them to pass a drug test, would you? |
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HMM...I knew I was opening a can of worms. You're right but as I said,
my position is still that no parent should do drugs, or anyone for that matter. It's not a foolproof plan but it is a place to start. Yes, it is about protecting tax dollars as well. That's because those tax dollars are meant for the less fortunate children of those parents. In a roundabout way the protection would eventually make it to the child. I know other chlidren are less fortunate in many different ways and when you come up with a way to help fix that, let me know and I'll jump on your bandwagon. As I said, it's a start. Joy === "gini52" wrote in message ... "Joy B" wrote in message om... NO PARENT SHOULD EVER DO ANY KIND OF MIND ALTERING SUBSTANCE, THEN GET BEHIND THE WHEEL OF A CAR WITH THEIR CHILD IN IT!!!! I don't care if you are CP, NCP or what! Bigger picture, it should NEVER be done by anyone, parent or not a parent. Now, I don't drink or do drugs, but nor am I a prude. I think it is acceptable for a parent to have a glass or two of an alcoholic beverage while caring for a child as long as it is in moderation and does not affect the quality of care given to the child. I stress, IN MODERATION!!! I would have no problem with dad having a couple of drinks at home if he had no intention of going anywhere. I also feel that drugs, in any amount are unacceptable while caring for a child. As far as your question, absolutely! If a mother is doing excessive drinking, while caring for the child, the father should step up and "react". Now to open another can of worms, since you brought up the welfare issue, I believe that a law should be passed that anyone who collects welfare should have mandatory periodoc drug testing before handing out any kind of benefits to them. === And I presume you would also require those receiving corporate welfare to have the same testing? I can see it all now! (More) === This would help identify the parents who are on drugs and raising children, === No, this would identify parents who are on welfare and are using drugs and raising children. Do you really believe there are more welfare drug users than non-welfare drug users? And how is it that you would justify testing welfare parents for drugs but not non-welfare parents? Is it about protecting children from drug using parents or protecting tax dollars? (More) === then perhaps our less fortunate children could have a better chance of survival. Joy === "Less fortunate" is not defined as simply without financial means. I can assure you that there are many unfortunate kids in the homes of non-welfare working poor, in middle income homes and in high income homes. Unless you are prepared to mandate drug testing for all parents (and hey, why not do annual home inspections as well), I think you should reconsider your position. Do you know how many wealthy parents use mood-altering substances? Surely you are not that naive! == == |
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HMM...I knew I was opening a can of worms. You're right but as I said,
my position is still that no parent should do drugs, or anyone for that matter. It's not a foolproof plan but it is a place to start. Yes, it is about protecting tax dollars as well. That's because those tax dollars are meant for the less fortunate children of those parents. In a roundabout way the protection would eventually make it to the child. I know other chlidren are less fortunate in many different ways and when you come up with a way to help fix that, let me know and I'll jump on your bandwagon. As I said, it's a start. Joy === "gini52" wrote in message ... "Joy B" wrote in message om... NO PARENT SHOULD EVER DO ANY KIND OF MIND ALTERING SUBSTANCE, THEN GET BEHIND THE WHEEL OF A CAR WITH THEIR CHILD IN IT!!!! I don't care if you are CP, NCP or what! Bigger picture, it should NEVER be done by anyone, parent or not a parent. Now, I don't drink or do drugs, but nor am I a prude. I think it is acceptable for a parent to have a glass or two of an alcoholic beverage while caring for a child as long as it is in moderation and does not affect the quality of care given to the child. I stress, IN MODERATION!!! I would have no problem with dad having a couple of drinks at home if he had no intention of going anywhere. I also feel that drugs, in any amount are unacceptable while caring for a child. As far as your question, absolutely! If a mother is doing excessive drinking, while caring for the child, the father should step up and "react". Now to open another can of worms, since you brought up the welfare issue, I believe that a law should be passed that anyone who collects welfare should have mandatory periodoc drug testing before handing out any kind of benefits to them. === And I presume you would also require those receiving corporate welfare to have the same testing? I can see it all now! (More) === This would help identify the parents who are on drugs and raising children, === No, this would identify parents who are on welfare and are using drugs and raising children. Do you really believe there are more welfare drug users than non-welfare drug users? And how is it that you would justify testing welfare parents for drugs but not non-welfare parents? Is it about protecting children from drug using parents or protecting tax dollars? (More) === then perhaps our less fortunate children could have a better chance of survival. Joy === "Less fortunate" is not defined as simply without financial means. I can assure you that there are many unfortunate kids in the homes of non-welfare working poor, in middle income homes and in high income homes. Unless you are prepared to mandate drug testing for all parents (and hey, why not do annual home inspections as well), I think you should reconsider your position. Do you know how many wealthy parents use mood-altering substances? Surely you are not that naive! == == |
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"teachrmama" wrote in message ... "Joy B" wrote in message om... NO PARENT SHOULD EVER DO ANY KIND OF MIND ALTERING SUBSTANCE, THEN GET BEHIND THE WHEEL OF A CAR WITH THEIR CHILD IN IT!!!! I don't care if you are CP, NCP or what! Bigger picture, it should NEVER be done by anyone, parent or not a parent. Now, I don't drink or do drugs, but nor am I a prude. I think it is acceptable for a parent to have a glass or two of an alcoholic beverage while caring for a child as long as it is in moderation and does not affect the quality of care given to the child. I stress, IN MODERATION!!! I would have no problem with dad having a couple of drinks at home if he had no intention of going anywhere. I also feel that drugs, in any amount are unacceptable while caring for a child. As far as your question, absolutely! If a mother is doing excessive drinking, while caring for the child, the father should step up and "react". Now to open another can of worms, since you brought up the welfare issue, I believe that a law should be passed that anyone who collects welfare should have mandatory periodoc drug testing before handing out any kind of benefits to them. This would help identify the parents who are on drugs and raising children, then perhaps our less fortunate children could have a better chance of survival. I wouldn't object to that, Joy. But how about the welfare recipients who run out of benefits and are placed on SSI because of the "disability" that causes them to drink and/or drug? Since they are "disabled" in their ability to refuse alcohol/drugs, surely you wouldn't expect them to pass a drug test, would you? OMG!! you are not seriously telling me addicts in your Country are put onto disability benefits??????? ROFLMAO you have got to be kidding me DAMN the US is worse off than I thought......... |
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"teachrmama" wrote in message ... "Joy B" wrote in message om... NO PARENT SHOULD EVER DO ANY KIND OF MIND ALTERING SUBSTANCE, THEN GET BEHIND THE WHEEL OF A CAR WITH THEIR CHILD IN IT!!!! I don't care if you are CP, NCP or what! Bigger picture, it should NEVER be done by anyone, parent or not a parent. Now, I don't drink or do drugs, but nor am I a prude. I think it is acceptable for a parent to have a glass or two of an alcoholic beverage while caring for a child as long as it is in moderation and does not affect the quality of care given to the child. I stress, IN MODERATION!!! I would have no problem with dad having a couple of drinks at home if he had no intention of going anywhere. I also feel that drugs, in any amount are unacceptable while caring for a child. As far as your question, absolutely! If a mother is doing excessive drinking, while caring for the child, the father should step up and "react". Now to open another can of worms, since you brought up the welfare issue, I believe that a law should be passed that anyone who collects welfare should have mandatory periodoc drug testing before handing out any kind of benefits to them. This would help identify the parents who are on drugs and raising children, then perhaps our less fortunate children could have a better chance of survival. I wouldn't object to that, Joy. But how about the welfare recipients who run out of benefits and are placed on SSI because of the "disability" that causes them to drink and/or drug? Since they are "disabled" in their ability to refuse alcohol/drugs, surely you wouldn't expect them to pass a drug test, would you? OMG!! you are not seriously telling me addicts in your Country are put onto disability benefits??????? ROFLMAO you have got to be kidding me DAMN the US is worse off than I thought......... |
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"teachrmama" wrote in message ... "Bob Whiteside" wrote in message nk.net... "teachrmama" wrote in message ... "Bob Whiteside" wrote in message ink.net... "Tiffany" wrote in message ... Joy B wrote in message om... Thanks, I apreciate the good advice. She's actually turning 12 now but that's not so relevant to the issue at hand. It's the second day of the party that he is available and I have already sent an e-mail suggesting he do something later that day. He still has yet to respond. I will definitely however, address the issue of the drinking and driving with him. My daughter is the one who told me about it the last time so I will have a talk with her also and take the advice of one of the other posters and give her my cell phone to take just in case. I have only met his new wife once but my ex-mother in law tells me that she is a very heavy drinker as well so that doesn't comfort me too much either. I try so hard to keep an open mind but can't help but feel he is going to hurt her again by not calling for another 8+ months. We'll just have to wait and see. Thanks again. Joy === I would suggest easing into the drinking and driving issue very carefully. If he is like most folks, he will say that having one or two drinks doesn't impair his driving and whatnot and it could turn into a BIG fight. I have also had this come up with my daughters father, she is old enough to tell me that he has a few beers and it is very disturbing. As of the last visit, there has been no more visits so I have not had to worry. I am not against drinking but in 12 years of raising my daughter I have never found it necessary to drink any alcohol and drive with her in the car. He would see her a handful of times but have to drink?!?! I realize you and others are trying to give situational advice on a couple of NCP's drinking while parenting. But the bigger picture is the courts and the states do not care about this issue if it is the CP mothers doing the drinking or doing drugs. In my state part of the demographics published on the state's web site shows 50% of welfare clients (92% are mothers) admit they have drug and alcohol problems. I have always wondered how many more there are who don't admit they have a problem. So for me the larger question is - if it is appropriate for CP mothers to react to NCP fathers drinking or doing drugs, isn't it just as appropriate to have a similar reaction to CP mothers drinking or doing drugs? Since the CP mothers have custody on average 80-100% of the time, I consider the mothers' drinking and drug use to be a bigger issue and impact on the children than a father using alcohol or drugs during a visitation time. That may well be true, Bob. But individual CPs have the absolute right to tell indicidual NCPs that they may not drink and drive with the children in the car, and use legal means to prevent them from doing so. Not according to custody law. CP's have the right to make decisions about a child's education, religious training, and medical treatment, but they have no legal authority over what the NCP does while parenting. They may disagree with how an NCP acts during parenting time, but the CP has no legal right to tell an NCP how to behave or parent. You are headed down a slippery slope with an argument where one parent can exercise control over the behavior of another parent based on their personal whims of how they should parent. Come on, Bob! It is illegal to drive while impaired by alcohol or drugs. I could never just shrug it off and say "Well, the kid is with dad, so what the heck." It would not be about my telling the NCP how to parent--it would be about getting another drunk driver off the road. I wish someone had cared enough to keep the (*&*% drunk who smashed into our car and injured my daughters off the road. I'm sure he thought that just a few drinks wouldn't impair him, either. CP, NCP, or whoever the heck else--they should NEVER drive while under the influence. And if I had to go so far as hiring someone to take pictures of him drinking and call the police when he got behind the wheel, I'd do so. The children of folks who drive under the influence didn't ask to have an idiot for a parent. I am just as sensitive about this issue as you are because I tried to get help from a judge to stop it. The defining moment for me was when my children were in the car with their mom after she had been out partying late with "friends" and she drove off the road through a ditch and into a fence. My children told me she was drunk. Of course, my ex denied she had been drinking. All the judge would do is require mutually stipulated language in the decree that neither parent would drink and drive with the children in the car. It was like a joke and meaningless because the words on a piece of paper did nothing to stop the problem. And the illegal part of driving under the influence of alcohol and drug abuse is just the tip of the iceberg. The lack of care for the children in the home, and the way children are forced to adapt to compensate for the lack of care, leave emotional scars for life. My point was to state an objection to one parent having the ability to act as judge and jury when they don't like the other parent's behavior. I tried to use the system and it failed me. I tried getting help from Children Services and they told me they only get involved after the fact and never before something bad happens to the children. I tried letting my children not return to their mother's care, and I was threatened with jail for custodial interference. The sad truth is there is no solution to the problem of parental drug and alcohol abuse and the legal system has a track record of ignoring this problem. |
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"teachrmama" wrote in message ... "Bob Whiteside" wrote in message nk.net... "teachrmama" wrote in message ... "Bob Whiteside" wrote in message ink.net... "Tiffany" wrote in message ... Joy B wrote in message om... Thanks, I apreciate the good advice. She's actually turning 12 now but that's not so relevant to the issue at hand. It's the second day of the party that he is available and I have already sent an e-mail suggesting he do something later that day. He still has yet to respond. I will definitely however, address the issue of the drinking and driving with him. My daughter is the one who told me about it the last time so I will have a talk with her also and take the advice of one of the other posters and give her my cell phone to take just in case. I have only met his new wife once but my ex-mother in law tells me that she is a very heavy drinker as well so that doesn't comfort me too much either. I try so hard to keep an open mind but can't help but feel he is going to hurt her again by not calling for another 8+ months. We'll just have to wait and see. Thanks again. Joy === I would suggest easing into the drinking and driving issue very carefully. If he is like most folks, he will say that having one or two drinks doesn't impair his driving and whatnot and it could turn into a BIG fight. I have also had this come up with my daughters father, she is old enough to tell me that he has a few beers and it is very disturbing. As of the last visit, there has been no more visits so I have not had to worry. I am not against drinking but in 12 years of raising my daughter I have never found it necessary to drink any alcohol and drive with her in the car. He would see her a handful of times but have to drink?!?! I realize you and others are trying to give situational advice on a couple of NCP's drinking while parenting. But the bigger picture is the courts and the states do not care about this issue if it is the CP mothers doing the drinking or doing drugs. In my state part of the demographics published on the state's web site shows 50% of welfare clients (92% are mothers) admit they have drug and alcohol problems. I have always wondered how many more there are who don't admit they have a problem. So for me the larger question is - if it is appropriate for CP mothers to react to NCP fathers drinking or doing drugs, isn't it just as appropriate to have a similar reaction to CP mothers drinking or doing drugs? Since the CP mothers have custody on average 80-100% of the time, I consider the mothers' drinking and drug use to be a bigger issue and impact on the children than a father using alcohol or drugs during a visitation time. That may well be true, Bob. But individual CPs have the absolute right to tell indicidual NCPs that they may not drink and drive with the children in the car, and use legal means to prevent them from doing so. Not according to custody law. CP's have the right to make decisions about a child's education, religious training, and medical treatment, but they have no legal authority over what the NCP does while parenting. They may disagree with how an NCP acts during parenting time, but the CP has no legal right to tell an NCP how to behave or parent. You are headed down a slippery slope with an argument where one parent can exercise control over the behavior of another parent based on their personal whims of how they should parent. Come on, Bob! It is illegal to drive while impaired by alcohol or drugs. I could never just shrug it off and say "Well, the kid is with dad, so what the heck." It would not be about my telling the NCP how to parent--it would be about getting another drunk driver off the road. I wish someone had cared enough to keep the (*&*% drunk who smashed into our car and injured my daughters off the road. I'm sure he thought that just a few drinks wouldn't impair him, either. CP, NCP, or whoever the heck else--they should NEVER drive while under the influence. And if I had to go so far as hiring someone to take pictures of him drinking and call the police when he got behind the wheel, I'd do so. The children of folks who drive under the influence didn't ask to have an idiot for a parent. I am just as sensitive about this issue as you are because I tried to get help from a judge to stop it. The defining moment for me was when my children were in the car with their mom after she had been out partying late with "friends" and she drove off the road through a ditch and into a fence. My children told me she was drunk. Of course, my ex denied she had been drinking. All the judge would do is require mutually stipulated language in the decree that neither parent would drink and drive with the children in the car. It was like a joke and meaningless because the words on a piece of paper did nothing to stop the problem. And the illegal part of driving under the influence of alcohol and drug abuse is just the tip of the iceberg. The lack of care for the children in the home, and the way children are forced to adapt to compensate for the lack of care, leave emotional scars for life. My point was to state an objection to one parent having the ability to act as judge and jury when they don't like the other parent's behavior. I tried to use the system and it failed me. I tried getting help from Children Services and they told me they only get involved after the fact and never before something bad happens to the children. I tried letting my children not return to their mother's care, and I was threatened with jail for custodial interference. The sad truth is there is no solution to the problem of parental drug and alcohol abuse and the legal system has a track record of ignoring this problem. |
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"gini52" wrote in message ... "Bob Whiteside" wrote in message news "Joy B" wrote in message om... NO PARENT SHOULD EVER DO ANY KIND OF MIND ALTERING SUBSTANCE, THEN GET BEHIND THE WHEEL OF A CAR WITH THEIR CHILD IN IT!!!! I don't care if you are CP, NCP or what! Bigger picture, it should NEVER be done by anyone, parent or not a parent. Now, I don't drink or do drugs, but nor am I a prude. I think it is acceptable for a parent to have a glass or two of an alcoholic beverage while caring for a child as long as it is in moderation and does not affect the quality of care given to the child. I stress, IN MODERATION!!! I would have no problem with dad having a couple of drinks at home if he had no intention of going anywhere. I also feel that drugs, in any amount are unacceptable while caring for a child. As far as your question, absolutely! If a mother is doing excessive drinking, while caring for the child, the father should step up and "react". Now to open another can of worms, since you brought up the welfare issue, I believe that a law should be passed that anyone who collects welfare should have mandatory periodoc drug testing before handing out any kind of benefits to them. This would help identify the parents who are on drugs and raising children, then perhaps our less fortunate children could have a better chance of survival. I couldn't agree more. We, as a society, are paying welfare mothers hard earned tax dollars to "lift them out of poverty." What is really going on is tax dollars are being diverted to mothers with drug and alcohol problems to continue their addictions. The money is paid "for the children" but the children never see the money. The crack dealers brag about when "mothers' payday" occurs and how good their business is that time of the month. == Oh puleeze, Bob. Aren't you always (rightly) clamouring for statistics to back assertions and for equal protection rights? So tell me: 1. Where is your proof that there is a systemic problem of welfare mothers on drugs? Enter "welfare mothers AND drugs" into your favorite search engine and you'll get results like this: http://www.cwla.org/programs/bhd/aodcwfactsheet.htm Note that surveys show between 40-80% of welfare mothers are drug and alcohol abusers creating extra costs for the system related to their abuse and neglect of children. In 1997 a CWLA survey concluded 67% of welfare mothers needed alcohol and drug abuse therapy. My state reports 50% of welfare clients have drug and alcohol abuse problems. 2. Where is your tax waste data that proves welfare mothers on drugs is a greater tax waste than other areas such as corporate welfare? My concern is not about corporate welfare. The incidence of child abuse and neglect skyrockets when poverty is mixed with alcohol and drug abuse. One of the major problems we have in America is the widespread involvement of welfare mothers in drug dealing. They are dealing to get money and drugs to support their habits, not their children. Note that the reference I posted above cites a Columbia University study that estimates welfare mother drug and alcohol abuse costs this country $10 billion per year. |
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"gini52" wrote in message ... "Bob Whiteside" wrote in message news "Joy B" wrote in message om... NO PARENT SHOULD EVER DO ANY KIND OF MIND ALTERING SUBSTANCE, THEN GET BEHIND THE WHEEL OF A CAR WITH THEIR CHILD IN IT!!!! I don't care if you are CP, NCP or what! Bigger picture, it should NEVER be done by anyone, parent or not a parent. Now, I don't drink or do drugs, but nor am I a prude. I think it is acceptable for a parent to have a glass or two of an alcoholic beverage while caring for a child as long as it is in moderation and does not affect the quality of care given to the child. I stress, IN MODERATION!!! I would have no problem with dad having a couple of drinks at home if he had no intention of going anywhere. I also feel that drugs, in any amount are unacceptable while caring for a child. As far as your question, absolutely! If a mother is doing excessive drinking, while caring for the child, the father should step up and "react". Now to open another can of worms, since you brought up the welfare issue, I believe that a law should be passed that anyone who collects welfare should have mandatory periodoc drug testing before handing out any kind of benefits to them. This would help identify the parents who are on drugs and raising children, then perhaps our less fortunate children could have a better chance of survival. I couldn't agree more. We, as a society, are paying welfare mothers hard earned tax dollars to "lift them out of poverty." What is really going on is tax dollars are being diverted to mothers with drug and alcohol problems to continue their addictions. The money is paid "for the children" but the children never see the money. The crack dealers brag about when "mothers' payday" occurs and how good their business is that time of the month. == Oh puleeze, Bob. Aren't you always (rightly) clamouring for statistics to back assertions and for equal protection rights? So tell me: 1. Where is your proof that there is a systemic problem of welfare mothers on drugs? Enter "welfare mothers AND drugs" into your favorite search engine and you'll get results like this: http://www.cwla.org/programs/bhd/aodcwfactsheet.htm Note that surveys show between 40-80% of welfare mothers are drug and alcohol abusers creating extra costs for the system related to their abuse and neglect of children. In 1997 a CWLA survey concluded 67% of welfare mothers needed alcohol and drug abuse therapy. My state reports 50% of welfare clients have drug and alcohol abuse problems. 2. Where is your tax waste data that proves welfare mothers on drugs is a greater tax waste than other areas such as corporate welfare? My concern is not about corporate welfare. The incidence of child abuse and neglect skyrockets when poverty is mixed with alcohol and drug abuse. One of the major problems we have in America is the widespread involvement of welfare mothers in drug dealing. They are dealing to get money and drugs to support their habits, not their children. Note that the reference I posted above cites a Columbia University study that estimates welfare mother drug and alcohol abuse costs this country $10 billion per year. |
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"Bob Whiteside" wrote in message ink.net... "gini52" wrote in message ... "Bob Whiteside" wrote in message news "Joy B" wrote in message om... NO PARENT SHOULD EVER DO ANY KIND OF MIND ALTERING SUBSTANCE, THEN GET BEHIND THE WHEEL OF A CAR WITH THEIR CHILD IN IT!!!! I don't care if you are CP, NCP or what! Bigger picture, it should NEVER be done by anyone, parent or not a parent. Now, I don't drink or do drugs, but nor am I a prude. I think it is acceptable for a parent to have a glass or two of an alcoholic beverage while caring for a child as long as it is in moderation and does not affect the quality of care given to the child. I stress, IN MODERATION!!! I would have no problem with dad having a couple of drinks at home if he had no intention of going anywhere. I also feel that drugs, in any amount are unacceptable while caring for a child. As far as your question, absolutely! If a mother is doing excessive drinking, while caring for the child, the father should step up and "react". Now to open another can of worms, since you brought up the welfare issue, I believe that a law should be passed that anyone who collects welfare should have mandatory periodoc drug testing before handing out any kind of benefits to them. This would help identify the parents who are on drugs and raising children, then perhaps our less fortunate children could have a better chance of survival. I couldn't agree more. We, as a society, are paying welfare mothers hard earned tax dollars to "lift them out of poverty." What is really going on is tax dollars are being diverted to mothers with drug and alcohol problems to continue their addictions. The money is paid "for the children" but the children never see the money. The crack dealers brag about when "mothers' payday" occurs and how good their business is that time of the month. == Oh puleeze, Bob. Aren't you always (rightly) clamouring for statistics to back assertions and for equal protection rights? So tell me: 1. Where is your proof that there is a systemic problem of welfare mothers on drugs? Enter "welfare mothers AND drugs" into your favorite search engine and you'll get results like this: http://www.cwla.org/programs/bhd/aodcwfactsheet.htm Note that surveys show between 40-80% of welfare mothers are drug and alcohol abusers creating extra costs for the system related to their abuse and neglect of children. In 1997 a CWLA survey concluded 67% of welfare mothers needed alcohol and drug abuse therapy. My state reports 50% of welfare clients have drug and alcohol abuse problems. 2. Where is your tax waste data that proves welfare mothers on drugs is a greater tax waste than other areas such as corporate welfare? My concern is not about corporate welfare. The incidence of child abuse and neglect skyrockets when poverty is mixed with alcohol and drug abuse. One of the major problems we have in America is the widespread involvement of welfare mothers in drug dealing. They are dealing to get money and drugs to support their habits, not their children. Note that the reference I posted above cites a Columbia University study that estimates welfare mother drug and alcohol abuse costs this country $10 billion per year. == That's not what it says, Bob. It is referencing this article (which I have not read and I presume you have not read): The National Center on Addiction and Substance Abuse. (1999). No safe haven: Children of substance abusing parents. New York: Author. There is no indication that this article states that these parents are *on* state welfare roles as the article you referenced seems to co-mingle "child welfare" (which is a compilation of hundreds of organizations and state "child welfare system" which are not interchangeable). And from Donna Shalala's remarks to the Child Welfare League: "Our message to parents is clear: if you're not providing for your children, we'll garnish your wages, suspend your driver's and professional licenses, track you across state lines, and, if necessary, make you work off what you owe. That's our vision. And, that's real welfare reform." How much has the Child Welfare League contributed to the family court mess we have today and how does the CWL benefit from from that mess and these "statistics" which are clearly exaggerated and manipulated? == == |
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