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Kid is fussy
"Bob Whiteside" wrote in message k.net... "Stevie" wrote in message ups.com... You don't need to "pump the kids for information" when they are in the habit of blurting things out. My 13 year old tells me all the time that his dad has not changed with the new CL wife from what he was like when we split 6 years ago. He vents because his stepmom is lazy compared to me and his dad makes him clean the second bathroom (powder room) and do his own laundry. Then he goes on to say that his dad STILL doesn't help out around the house (which was a major complaint of mine). I don't NEED to pump for info, I get it whether I like it or not! The problem of using children to report in on their other parent is well illustrated above. At 13 this child is most likely "programmed" to deliver a full report after each contact with his father. Note all of the child's comments, as related by the mother, are in the context of discussing his father in terms of his relationship and habits with his new wife and comparing it to the former relationship and habits with his mother. The child's comments are calculated to please his mother and do not relate to the father/child relationship. The mother could refocus these reports by relating them back to the father/child relationship. Saying things like: Your father is teaching you responsibility by asking you to clean the bathroom and do your laundry. It's your dad's house and the rules in his house may be different than in this house, but you need to follow the rules set by your parents. Your dad and his new wife are adults and the important thing is they work together to take care of you while you visit them. Kids are notorious for telling the other parent what they beleive that parent wants to hear. |
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