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This subject is really a sore spot for me. I believe parents ought to be
able to do whatever works (to a point), but it seems I just know people who don't know when to stop. A coworker of mine, a mother of five and a grandma, lives with her daughter and grandchildren. I don't know how much of her grandchildren's parenting is from her influence or not, but she definitely agrees with the methods. When her last grandchild was just born, she told me about not holding the child or else he would always want to be held. At four months, she told me he outcried them both. After an hour, they finally had to go get him. The kid is now 7 months and he was left crying all by himself in a room and got himself so worked up that he held his breath and passed out. The grandmother thought her daughter picked him up, but when she went to see, she found him not breathing and blue. Of course, they went to the ER, but the doctor told her he had held his breath because he was so upset. I can see the grandmother is looking at this more like a case of a toddler having a tantrum. The daughter is now paranoid about putting the baby down and letting him cry. The grandma still does it, but now stays in the room and watches him in his coral instead of leaving, all the while telling him he's okay. She still refuses to pick him up. She can't understand why he doesn't like his walker and his cute coral they got him. She thinks he's just being difficult. When she told me the story about him passing out, I said, "Poor thing." She said, "Poor him?? Poor us! We had to sit there and listen to him cry!" Honestly, I believe when something works, it works pretty quickly. By the time she sees her method working, the child will be an adult. Well, not that bad, but I'm saying he would not be clingy anyway because of his age and not her method. Babies are only babies for so long, why try so hard to force them to grow up? Why make them cry by themselves in a lonely room for hours on end? I just don't get it. |
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toypup wrote:
snip sad story When she told me the story about him passing out, I said, "Poor thing." She said, "Poor him?? Poor us! We had to sit there and listen to him cry!" Honestly, I believe when something works, it works pretty quickly. By the time she sees her method working, the child will be an adult. Well, not that bad, but I'm saying he would not be clingy anyway because of his age and not her method. Babies are only babies for so long, why try so hard to force them to grow up? Why make them cry by themselves in a lonely room for hours on end? I just don't get it. Nor I. I can understand tired parents leaving a child that has been unsettled for some time to cry while they go outside to take several breaths and calm themselves but it's beyond me how anyone could listen to their child scream in lonely distress for an hour without picking him up and comforting him. Poor baby. Tai |
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"toypup" wrote in message . net... This subject is really a sore spot for me. I believe parents ought to be able to do whatever works (to a point), but it seems I just know people who don't know when to stop. A coworker of mine, a mother of five and a grandma, lives with her daughter and grandchildren. I don't know how much of her grandchildren's parenting is from her influence or not, but she definitely agrees with the methods. When her last grandchild was just born, she told me about not holding the child or else he would always want to be held. At four months, she told me he outcried them both. After an hour, they finally had to go get him. The kid is now 7 months and he was left crying all by himself in a room and got himself so worked up that he held his breath and passed out. The grandmother thought her daughter picked him up, but when she went to see, she found him not breathing and blue. When children hold their breath deliberately they pass out and their reflexes quickly resume breathing. A child could not hold it's breath and continue to hold it after it has passed out. There is something else going on here. Of course, they went to the ER, but the doctor told her he had held his breath because he was so upset. I can see the grandmother is looking at this more like a case of a toddler having a tantrum. The daughter is now paranoid about putting the baby down and letting him cry. The grandma still does it, but now stays in the room and watches him in his coral instead of leaving, all the while telling him he's okay. She still refuses to pick him up. She can't understand why he doesn't like his walker and his cute coral they got him. She thinks he's just being difficult. When she told me the story about him passing out, I said, "Poor thing." She said, "Poor him?? Poor us! We had to sit there and listen to him cry!" Honestly, I believe when something works, it works pretty quickly. By the time she sees her method working, the child will be an adult. Well, not that bad, but I'm saying he would not be clingy anyway because of his age and not her method. Babies are only babies for so long, why try so hard to force them to grow up? Why make them cry by themselves in a lonely room for hours on end? I just don't get it. I believe in using controlled crying to teach my child to go to sleep. But this is a whole other kettle of fish. We go in often while the baby is crying for a safety check and to reassure the baby. The few times I have done it, it has worked within days and never more than three bouts of ten minutes crying. I wouldn't consider allowing a baby to cry indefinitely. This sort of story annoys me because it makes it look like anyone who chooses to use this method is heartless. When we are far from it. Judy |
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toypup wrote:
This subject is really a sore spot for me. I believe parents ought to be able to do whatever works (to a point), but it seems I just know people who don't know when to stop. A coworker of mine, a mother of five and a grandma, lives with her daughter and grandchildren. I don't know how much of her grandchildren's parenting is from her influence or not, but she definitely agrees with the methods. When her last grandchild was just born, she told me about not holding the child or else he would always want to be held. ------------- Complete Lie. At four months, she told me he outcried them both. After an hour, they finally had to go get him. The kid is now 7 months and he was left crying all by himself in a room and got himself so worked up that he held his breath and passed out. The grandmother thought her daughter picked him up, but when she went to see, she found him not breathing and blue. Of course, they went to the ER, but the doctor told her he had held his breath because he was so upset. I can see the grandmother is looking at this more like a case of a toddler having a tantrum. ------------- Grandma's an insensitive asshole. Lots of older people were abused so much worse than people now that they are criminal emotionally. The daughter is now paranoid about putting the baby down and letting him cry. The grandma still does it, but now stays in the room and watches him in his coral instead of leaving, all the while telling him he's okay. She still refuses to pick him up. She can't understand why he doesn't like his walker and his cute coral they got him. She thinks he's just being difficult. -------------------- She's a ****ing sicko, they should get the child away from her. When she told me the story about him passing out, I said, "Poor thing." She said, "Poor him?? Poor us! We had to sit there and listen to him cry!" Honestly, I believe when something works, it works pretty quickly. By the time she sees her method working, the child will be an adult. Well, not that bad, but I'm saying he would not be clingy anyway because of his age and not her method. Babies are only babies for so long, why try so hard to force them to grow up? Why make them cry by themselves in a lonely room for hours on end? I just don't get it. ---------------------- You are right, and she is a ****ing criminal. Children who are abused grow up to abuse their children, and they are all criminals, generation after generation of them. Steve |
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Kereru wrote:
"toypup" wrote in message . net... This subject is really a sore spot for me. I believe parents ought to be able to do whatever works (to a point), but it seems I just know people who don't know when to stop. A coworker of mine, a mother of five and a grandma, lives with her daughter and grandchildren. I don't know how much of her grandchildren's parenting is from her influence or not, but she definitely agrees with the methods. When her last grandchild was just born, she told me about not holding the child or else he would always want to be held. At four months, she told me he outcried them both. After an hour, they finally had to go get him. The kid is now 7 months and he was left crying all by himself in a room and got himself so worked up that he held his breath and passed out. The grandmother thought her daughter picked him up, but when she went to see, she found him not breathing and blue. When children hold their breath deliberately they pass out and their reflexes quickly resume breathing. A child could not hold it's breath and continue to hold it after it has passed out. There is something else going on here. ------------------ Yes, they then vomit and aspirate and die. Of course, they went to the ER, but the doctor told her he had held his breath because he was so upset. I can see the grandmother is looking at this more like a case of a toddler having a tantrum. The daughter is now paranoid about putting the baby down and letting him cry. The grandma still does it, but now stays in the room and watches him in his coral instead of leaving, all the while telling him he's okay. She still refuses to pick him up. She can't understand why he doesn't like his walker and his cute coral they got him. She thinks he's just being difficult. When she told me the story about him passing out, I said, "Poor thing." She said, "Poor him?? Poor us! We had to sit there and listen to him cry!" Honestly, I believe when something works, it works pretty quickly. By the time she sees her method working, the child will be an adult. Well, not that bad, but I'm saying he would not be clingy anyway because of his age and not her method. Babies are only babies for so long, why try so hard to force them to grow up? Why make them cry by themselves in a lonely room for hours on end? I just don't get it. I believe in using controlled crying to teach my child to go to sleep. ------------- That's because you're a brutal abused sicko. It destroys their self- esteem and their reserve of confidence. Children raised that way have no ability to venture out. But this is a whole other kettle of fish. We go in often while the baby is crying for a safety check and to reassure the baby. The few times I have done it, it has worked within days and never more than three bouts of ten minutes crying. ---------------- Your child gave up on trusting you, they are now incapable of deep love and trust. They threw that part of themselves away. I wouldn't consider allowing a baby to cry indefinitely. This sort of story annoys me because it makes it look like anyone who chooses to use this method is heartless. When we are far from it. Judy --------------- Oh sure, you brainless moron. Steve |
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What a sad, sad story. When is the mother going to put her foot down,
and not ley cooky grandma kill her child. Brandy "toypup" wrote in message .net... This subject is really a sore spot for me. I believe parents ought to be able to do whatever works (to a point), but it seems I just know people who don't know when to stop. A coworker of mine, a mother of five and a grandma, lives with her daughter and grandchildren. I don't know how much of her grandchildren's parenting is from her influence or not, but she definitely agrees with the methods. When her last grandchild was just born, she told me about not holding the child or else he would always want to be held. At four months, she told me he outcried them both. After an hour, they finally had to go get him. The kid is now 7 months and he was left crying all by himself in a room and got himself so worked up that he held his breath and passed out. The grandmother thought her daughter picked him up, but when she went to see, she found him not breathing and blue. Of course, they went to the ER, but the doctor told her he had held his breath because he was so upset. I can see the grandmother is looking at this more like a case of a toddler having a tantrum. The daughter is now paranoid about putting the baby down and letting him cry. The grandma still does it, but now stays in the room and watches him in his coral instead of leaving, all the while telling him he's okay. She still refuses to pick him up. She can't understand why he doesn't like his walker and his cute coral they got him. She thinks he's just being difficult. When she told me the story about him passing out, I said, "Poor thing." She said, "Poor him?? Poor us! We had to sit there and listen to him cry!" Honestly, I believe when something works, it works pretty quickly. By the time she sees her method working, the child will be an adult. Well, not that bad, but I'm saying he would not be clingy anyway because of his age and not her method. Babies are only babies for so long, why try so hard to force them to grow up? Why make them cry by themselves in a lonely room for hours on end? I just don't get it. |
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On Thu, 21 Aug 2003 04:26:23 GMT, "toypup" wrote:
This subject is really a sore spot for me. I believe parents ought to be able to do whatever works (to a point), but it seems I just know people who don't know when to stop. A coworker of mine, a mother of five and a grandma, lives with her daughter and grandchildren. I don't know how much of her grandchildren's parenting is from her influence or not, but she definitely agrees with the methods. When her last grandchild was just born, she told me about not holding the child or else he would always want to be held. At four months, she told me he outcried them both. After an hour, they finally had to go get him. The kid is now 7 months and he was left crying all by himself in a room and got himself so worked up that he held his breath and passed out. The grandmother thought her daughter picked him up, but when she went to see, she found him not breathing and blue. Of course, they went to the ER, but the doctor told her he had held his breath because he was so upset. I can see the grandmother is looking at this more like a case of a toddler having a tantrum. The daughter is now paranoid about putting the baby down and letting him cry. The grandma still does it, but now stays in the room and watches him in his coral instead of leaving, all the while telling him he's okay. She still refuses to pick him up. She can't understand why he doesn't like his walker and his cute coral they got him. She thinks he's just being difficult. When she told me the story about him passing out, I said, "Poor thing." She said, "Poor him?? Poor us! We had to sit there and listen to him cry!" Honestly, I believe when something works, it works pretty quickly. By the time she sees her method working, the child will be an adult. Well, not that bad, but I'm saying he would not be clingy anyway because of his age and not her method. Babies are only babies for so long, why try so hard to force them to grow up? Why make them cry by themselves in a lonely room for hours on end? I just don't get it. This post brought tears to my eyes. Poor sweet baby ( Marie |
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"toypup" wrote in message .net...
When she told me the story about him passing out, I said, "Poor thing." She said, "Poor him?? Poor us! We had to sit there and listen to him cry!" Honestly, I believe when something works, it works pretty quickly. By the time she sees her method working, the child will be an adult. Well, not that bad, but I'm saying he would not be clingy anyway because of his age and not her method. Babies are only babies for so long, why try so hard to force them to grow up? Why make them cry by themselves in a lonely room for hours on end? I just don't get it. That's awful. We used a controlled-crying method with our son, but it's been obvious to us that if it's going to work, it works within ten minutes. If a kid has been on a cry-it-out system all his life and is still crying for hours, IT'S NOT WORKING. Poor little guy, I wish I could hug him. Beth |
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