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Children's preferences
I have a case in California where I am seeking custody of my three children
ages 15 (female), 13 (male) and 11 (female). Went through the process of having an attorney/mediator assigned in court, both parents agreeing on the person to be assigned. The children went through the interview process in June 2006. Then spent the summer with me from the last week of June 2006 through the first week in August 2006. Another interview of the children took place in the first week of August 2006. The court date for review was August 10 2006. The guardian ad litem wrote a report and basically stated all three children are mature enough and have a strong desire to live with me (father). The mother did agree the oldest could make the change, but did not agree with the other two. The mother did not file a response, as pointed out by the judge on August 10. The judge also stated he could just default the matter. The judge asked the mother if she would be open to a temporary change, for six months or so, and the mother said no. The mother did not have an attorney. The judge stated persons representing themselves are held accountable just as much as those represented by attorney. The judge did find both parents to be fit, at least there is not an attempt to discredit one parent or the other, and could not make a ruling based on the children's preferences alone. The judge will allow more time for the mother to attain an attorney and the matter will be continued and status checked on August 30 2006. The mother lives in California, and I live in Pennsylvania. I have been in Pennsylvania for about ten years, and have regularly visited the children for the weeks of their birthdays, and have had them for the last three summers. I am in constant contact with the children by phone, email, teleconferencing, etc., at a minimum of every other day. The summer visits came about after long negotiations with the mother. The mother keeps claiming it is her kindness and desire for the kids to have time with their father the she allows the summer visits. Both parents are in another relationship, mother is officially engaged to be married, without a date set. Part of the children's preference is the significant other involved. They all really like and get along very well with mine, and do not like her's at all. There's more, but I'll wait for the bombardment of comments and questions... TNK |
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"TNK" wrote in message . .. I have a case in California where I am seeking custody of my three children ages 15 (female), 13 (male) and 11 (female). Went through the process of having an attorney/mediator assigned in court, both parents agreeing on the person to be assigned. The children went through the interview process in June 2006. Then spent the summer with me from the last week of June 2006 through the first week in August 2006. Another interview of the children took place in the first week of August 2006. The court date for review was August 10 2006. The guardian ad litem wrote a report and basically stated all three children are mature enough and have a strong desire to live with me (father). The mother did agree the oldest could make the change, but did not agree with the other two. The mother did not file a response, as pointed out by the judge on August 10. The judge also stated he could just default the matter. The judge asked the mother if she would be open to a temporary change, for six months or so, and the mother said no. The mother did not have an attorney. The judge stated persons representing themselves are held accountable just as much as those represented by attorney. The judge did find both parents to be fit, at least there is not an attempt to discredit one parent or the other, and could not make a ruling based on the children's preferences alone. The judge will allow more time for the mother to attain an attorney and the matter will be continued and status checked on August 30 2006. The mother lives in California, and I live in Pennsylvania. I have been in Pennsylvania for about ten years, and have regularly visited the children for the weeks of their birthdays, and have had them for the last three summers. I am in constant contact with the children by phone, email, teleconferencing, etc., at a minimum of every other day. The summer visits came about after long negotiations with the mother. The mother keeps claiming it is her kindness and desire for the kids to have time with their father the she allows the summer visits. Both parents are in another relationship, mother is officially engaged to be married, without a date set. Part of the children's preference is the significant other involved. They all really like and get along very well with mine, and do not like her's at all. There's more, but I'll wait for the bombardment of comments and questions... TNK Are you just venting your story or do you have questions about child support? |
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TNK wrote: I have a case in California where I am seeking custody of my three children ages 15 (female), 13 (male) and 11 (female). Went through the process of having an attorney/mediator assigned in court, both parents agreeing on the person to be assigned. The children went through the interview process in June 2006. Then spent the summer with me from the last week of June 2006 through the first week in August 2006. Another interview of the children took place in the first week of August 2006. The court date for review was August 10 2006. The guardian ad litem wrote a report and basically stated all three children are mature enough and have a strong desire to live with me (father). The mother did agree the oldest could make the change, but did not agree with the other two. The mother did not file a response, as pointed out by the judge on August 10. The judge also stated he could just default the matter. The judge asked the mother if she would be open to a temporary change, for six months or so, and the mother said no. The mother did not have an attorney. The judge stated persons representing themselves are held accountable just as much as those represented by attorney. The judge did find both parents to be fit, at least there is not an attempt to discredit one parent or the other, and could not make a ruling based on the children's preferences alone. The judge will allow more time for the mother to attain an attorney and the matter will be continued and status checked on August 30 2006. The mother lives in California, and I live in Pennsylvania. I have been in Pennsylvania for about ten years, and have regularly visited the children for the weeks of their birthdays, and have had them for the last three summers. I am in constant contact with the children by phone, email, teleconferencing, etc., at a minimum of every other day. The summer visits came about after long negotiations with the mother. The mother keeps claiming it is her kindness and desire for the kids to have time with their father the she allows the summer visits. Both parents are in another relationship, mother is officially engaged to be married, without a date set. Part of the children's preference is the significant other involved. They all really like and get along very well with mine, and do not like her's at all. There's more, but I'll wait for the bombardment of comments and questions... TNK Why do you live so far from your kids? |
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wrote in message ps.com... TNK wrote: I have a case in California where I am seeking custody of my three children ages 15 (female), 13 (male) and 11 (female). Went through the process of having an attorney/mediator assigned in court, both parents agreeing on the person to be assigned. The children went through the interview process in June 2006. Then spent the summer with me from the last week of June 2006 through the first week in August 2006. Another interview of the children took place in the first week of August 2006. The court date for review was August 10 2006. The guardian ad litem wrote a report and basically stated all three children are mature enough and have a strong desire to live with me (father). The mother did agree the oldest could make the change, but did not agree with the other two. The mother did not file a response, as pointed out by the judge on August 10. The judge also stated he could just default the matter. The judge asked the mother if she would be open to a temporary change, for six months or so, and the mother said no. The mother did not have an attorney. The judge stated persons representing themselves are held accountable just as much as those represented by attorney. The judge did find both parents to be fit, at least there is not an attempt to discredit one parent or the other, and could not make a ruling based on the children's preferences alone. The judge will allow more time for the mother to attain an attorney and the matter will be continued and status checked on August 30 2006. The mother lives in California, and I live in Pennsylvania. I have been in Pennsylvania for about ten years, and have regularly visited the children for the weeks of their birthdays, and have had them for the last three summers. I am in constant contact with the children by phone, email, teleconferencing, etc., at a minimum of every other day. The summer visits came about after long negotiations with the mother. The mother keeps claiming it is her kindness and desire for the kids to have time with their father the she allows the summer visits. Both parents are in another relationship, mother is officially engaged to be married, without a date set. Part of the children's preference is the significant other involved. They all really like and get along very well with mine, and do not like her's at all. There's more, but I'll wait for the bombardment of comments and questions... TNK Why do you live so far from your kids? That's an interesting question and TNK can answer for himself. What I found was as a father I was confronted with two choices: 1.) Putting my career on hold to be available as a parent to my children, or 2.) Go with career advancement moves that could take me anywhere away from the children. I chose #1 and have never regretted it. Some fathers select #2. Each case if different but the decisions fathers make boil down to a choice between one of those two. Of course, some fathers have to deal with the mother moving the children away from them. I am just responding from the father's moving perspective. |
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"Bob Whiteside" wrote in message ... wrote in message ps.com... TNK wrote: I have a case in California where I am seeking custody of my three children ages 15 (female), 13 (male) and 11 (female). Went through the process of having an attorney/mediator assigned in court, both parents agreeing on the person to be assigned. The children went through the interview process in June 2006. Then spent the summer with me from the last week of June 2006 through the first week in August 2006. Another interview of the children took place in the first week of August 2006. The court date for review was August 10 2006. The guardian ad litem wrote a report and basically stated all three children are mature enough and have a strong desire to live with me (father). The mother did agree the oldest could make the change, but did not agree with the other two. The mother did not file a response, as pointed out by the judge on August 10. The judge also stated he could just default the matter. The judge asked the mother if she would be open to a temporary change, for six months or so, and the mother said no. The mother did not have an attorney. The judge stated persons representing themselves are held accountable just as much as those represented by attorney. The judge did find both parents to be fit, at least there is not an attempt to discredit one parent or the other, and could not make a ruling based on the children's preferences alone. The judge will allow more time for the mother to attain an attorney and the matter will be continued and status checked on August 30 2006. The mother lives in California, and I live in Pennsylvania. I have been in Pennsylvania for about ten years, and have regularly visited the children for the weeks of their birthdays, and have had them for the last three summers. I am in constant contact with the children by phone, email, teleconferencing, etc., at a minimum of every other day. The summer visits came about after long negotiations with the mother. The mother keeps claiming it is her kindness and desire for the kids to have time with their father the she allows the summer visits. Both parents are in another relationship, mother is officially engaged to be married, without a date set. Part of the children's preference is the significant other involved. They all really like and get along very well with mine, and do not like her's at all. There's more, but I'll wait for the bombardment of comments and questions... TNK Why do you live so far from your kids? That's an interesting question and TNK can answer for himself. What I found was as a father I was confronted with two choices: 1.) Putting my career on hold to be available as a parent to my children, or 2.) Go with career advancement moves that could take me anywhere away from the children. I chose #1 and have never regretted it. Some fathers select #2. Each case if different but the decisions fathers make boil down to a choice between one of those two. Of course, some fathers have to deal with the mother moving the children away from them. I am just responding from the father's moving perspective. I forgot to mention one important factor. By deciding to place my career on hold I ended up 2 CS modifications being based on imputed incomes. A company I worked for filed bankruptcy and closed. By staying in the same area as my children I could not replicate my prior earnings. If I had moved away I could have found a job at the level or just below I had been at. It took me nearly 6 years to get my earnings back up to stop the imputed income game. Fathers who cannot afford the extra CS obligation created by imputed incomes are forced to move away from their children to keep their earnings at the expected levels since the courts don't recognize parenting as being more important than money. |
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"Bob Whiteside" wrote in message ... "Bob Whiteside" wrote in message ... wrote in message ps.com... TNK wrote: I have a case in California where I am seeking custody of my three children ages 15 (female), 13 (male) and 11 (female). Went through the process of having an attorney/mediator assigned in court, both parents agreeing on the person to be assigned. The children went through the interview process in June 2006. Then spent the summer with me from the last week of June 2006 through the first week in August 2006. Another interview of the children took place in the first week of August 2006. The court date for review was August 10 2006. The guardian ad litem wrote a report and basically stated all three children are mature enough and have a strong desire to live with me (father). The mother did agree the oldest could make the change, but did not agree with the other two. The mother did not file a response, as pointed out by the judge on August 10. The judge also stated he could just default the matter. The judge asked the mother if she would be open to a temporary change, for six months or so, and the mother said no. The mother did not have an attorney. The judge stated persons representing themselves are held accountable just as much as those represented by attorney. The judge did find both parents to be fit, at least there is not an attempt to discredit one parent or the other, and could not make a ruling based on the children's preferences alone. The judge will allow more time for the mother to attain an attorney and the matter will be continued and status checked on August 30 2006. The mother lives in California, and I live in Pennsylvania. I have been in Pennsylvania for about ten years, and have regularly visited the children for the weeks of their birthdays, and have had them for the last three summers. I am in constant contact with the children by phone, email, teleconferencing, etc., at a minimum of every other day. The summer visits came about after long negotiations with the mother. The mother keeps claiming it is her kindness and desire for the kids to have time with their father the she allows the summer visits. Both parents are in another relationship, mother is officially engaged to be married, without a date set. Part of the children's preference is the significant other involved. They all really like and get along very well with mine, and do not like her's at all. There's more, but I'll wait for the bombardment of comments and questions... TNK Why do you live so far from your kids? That's an interesting question and TNK can answer for himself. What I found was as a father I was confronted with two choices: 1.) Putting my career on hold to be available as a parent to my children, or 2.) Go with career advancement moves that could take me anywhere away from the children. I chose #1 and have never regretted it. Some fathers select #2. Each case if different but the decisions fathers make boil down to a choice between one of those two. Of course, some fathers have to deal with the mother moving the children away from them. I am just responding from the father's moving perspective. I forgot to mention one important factor. By deciding to place my career on hold I ended up 2 CS modifications being based on imputed incomes. A company I worked for filed bankruptcy and closed. By staying in the same area as my children I could not replicate my prior earnings. If I had moved away I could have found a job at the level or just below I had been at. It took me nearly 6 years to get my earnings back up to stop the imputed income game. Fathers who cannot afford the extra CS obligation created by imputed incomes are forced to move away from their children to keep their earnings at the expected levels since the courts don't recognize parenting as being more important than money. 1 Timothy 6:10 describes these folks to a tee! |
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