UPDATE: playgroup fiasco

Anonymama wrote:

It's a reference to a 1974 movie (later remade) where the husbands of
uppity women in a nice American suburb replace their wives with demure,
passive robots. Here's Banty and some friends, happily shopping:

http://www.bergen-filmklubb.no/images/The_Stepford_Wives.jpg

It's also a term used for a woman who has no original thought of her
own, who lives and breathes the typical female stereotype of housewife
and Mooother, and is basically a bore.

-L.

-L. wrote:
Catherine Woodgold wrote:
"-L." ) writes:
I am not one to send "unconscious signals".

Everyone gives off unconscious signals. How would
you know if you don't? By definition, you wouldn't
be aware of them.

I have never been around the lady, ever, before she showed the
behavior. You can't get signals from someone you have never been
around. Furthermore, there is no mistaking how I feel about someone.
I am pretty much an open book in that regard. I never even looked at
the woman, had no opinion of her, thought nothing about her, until
after the incident. You can't get "signals" if there are none to get.

You know that for a fact. You know that she's never seen you and your
kid in the supermarket, drugstore, mall or park. You know that you
don't have acqaintances in common. This woman just walked in, out of
the miasma. And your kid IMMEDIATELY walked up to her. She didn't
have any time at all to observe you; not even 10 seconds had passed
from her entrance to her snubbing of you and your child. It was a
BEELINE on his part. But she had somehow settled herself in during
that 10 seconds, and ignored your son as he was innocently trying to
play with her.

You've spent the past week telling women on this group that their kids
should shut the **** up and derogating those kids who fall below your
definition of perfection. You've spent the same week calling women on
this group Stepford Wives, entitlemoos and ****s. And we're wondering
why someone in a playgroup might not like you?

Barbara (Running for President of the Entitlemoos -- Vote for Me!)

Barbara wrote:

You know that for a fact. You know that she's never seen you and your
kid in the supermarket, drugstore, mall or park. You know that you
don't have acqaintances in common. This woman just walked in, out of
the miasma. And your kid IMMEDIATELY walked up to her. She didn't
have any time at all to observe you; not even 10 seconds had passed
from her entrance to her snubbing of you and your child. It was a
BEELINE on his part. But she had somehow settled herself in during
that 10 seconds, and ignored your son as he was innocently trying to
play with her.

You've spent the past week telling women on this group that their kids
should shut the **** up and derogating those kids who fall below your
definition of perfection. You've spent the same week calling women on
this group Stepford Wives, entitlemoos and ****s. And we're wondering
why someone in a playgroup might not like you?

Maybe she's reading the group!

Beth

Barbara wrote:

You know that for a fact.

Pretty much.

You know that she's never seen you and your
kid in the supermarket, drugstore, mall or park.

I only shop at 2 stores, one Dept store in the area, and I have never
seen her at the park (don't do malls). I would remember her if I had
seen her - she has very distinctive children and a very distinctive
face.

You know that you
don't have acqaintances in common.

I don't know if we do or not - she certainly does not know my name,
even if we do.

This woman just walked in, out of
the miasma. And your kid IMMEDIATELY walked up to her. She didn't
have any time at all to observe you; not even 10 seconds had passed
from her entrance to her snubbing of you and your child. It was a
BEELINE on his part. But she had somehow settled herself in during
that 10 seconds, and ignored your son as he was innocently trying to
play with her.

She was sitting in an area with her back to us so there is no way she
could have "observed us". We came in, we played a bit, and eventually
he worked his way over to where she was. She may have heard our
voices, but in the hub-bub of the play group I doubt we stood out , as
DS is quiet and my voice isn't noticible, AFAIK.



You've spent the past week telling women on this group that their kids
should shut the **** up

One woman with an ADHD kid, in public. Yes. No one needs to put up
with ill-behaved brats in public.


and derogating those kids who fall below your
definition of perfection.

Nope. I merely told Michelle or whatever her name was to enjoy her
"organically deficient" child. That's because I am not a believer in
ADHD-type diagoses, for the most part.

You've spent the same week calling women on
this group Stepford Wives, entitlemoos and ****s.

As they are. If the shoe fits....

And we're wondering
why someone in a playgroup might not like you?

She doesn't know me from Adam. shrug How is she supposed to know
some stranger on the internet is the same stranger in the playgroup?
That has to be the stupidest statement made yet - and yet a number of
you have made it.

Barbara (Running for President of the Entitlemoos -- Vote for Me!)

You're more of the **** type, actually. You can be Queen ****.

-L.

On 1 Feb 2006 15:49:19 -0800, "-L." wrote:


Barbara wrote:

You've spent the same week calling women on
this group Stepford Wives, entitlemoos and ****s.

As they are. If the shoe fits....

Better lace up your own shoe, hon. If you claimed EIC or Child Tax
Credit on your return, you fit the CF definition of entitlemoo.

Nan

-L. wrote:
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and derogating those kids who fall below your
definition of perfection.

Nope. I merely told Michelle or whatever her name was to enjoy her
"organically deficient" child. That's because I am not a believer in
ADHD-type diagoses, for the most part.

Let me clairfy something. It should read "I am not a believer in
ADHD-type "disorders" being organically derived, for the most part, nor
that most diagnoses as such are valid."

It's amazing how, with you moo-types, one statement to one person about
one specific child becomes me "derogating those kids who fall below
your definition of perfection."

But that type of thing is what makes you all Stepfordmoos.

-L.

On 1 Feb 2006 15:21:29 -0800, "Barbara" wrote:

Barbara (Running for President of the Entitlemoos -- Vote for Me!)

Okay, you can be President. I'm the Queen :-)

Nan

"-L." wrote in message
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Catherine Woodgold wrote:
) writes:
It might be someone who disapproves of mixed race adoptions. I've
heard of people who feel that this deprives the children of their
heritage. I don't think of this belief as racism, but some might.

If their way of expressing that disapproval is to
shun the children, it sure looks like racism to me.

Yeah, me too, but I have little tolerance for people who don't support
"mixed race" anything.

-L.


I wound up splitting with a girlfriend who tried to couch her racism behind
"what's best for the children." She was not terribly successful. Kinda sad,
but she beleived her own nonsense.

Nan wrote:
Better lace up your own shoe, hon. If you claimed EIC or Child Tax
Credit on your return, you fit the CF definition of entitlemoo.

Nan

No, ****y, you wouldn't recognize an entitlemoo if it bit you on the
ass. Entitlemoo isn't merely anyone who is a Mother. It is a mother
who thinks she's "speshul" because she's sprogged and seeks and expects
"speshul" treatment because of it.

Unlike you, I am a PNB.

-L.

Stephanie wrote:
I wound up splitting with a girlfriend who tried to couch her racism behind
"what's best for the children." She was not terribly successful. Kinda sad,
but she beleived her own nonsense.

WRT trans racial adoption: When kids are going into foster homes, and
being shipped off to places like the Netherlands and Canada, for lack
of families, simply because they are black, it becomes abundantly clear
what the "best interest of the child" is. I have absolutley no
tolerance for people who haven't a clue about the plight of African
American children in this country, yet make such ludicrous statements.

But again, I have little tolerance for people who seek to adopt
Internationally when so many kids here need homes.

-L.