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Well, I sent DH out to go buy me both a carrier and a sling today. I'm
not sure which one Quinn will prefer so that's why I'm going with both. I can't get Quinn to lay down by himself and sleep during the day for the most part though he'll sleep if he's laying on my chest or if I'm holding him. He seems to lie down in his crib a little better at night. If I try and let him go to sleep by himself he'll cry inconsolably for as long as I let him lie there. That's not conducive to having time or mobility to do laundry, wash dishes, wash bottles, fix lunch, pump breast milk, etc. SO, we're going to try this out. I'm about ready to go bonkers if I don't get a little more mobility back and am getting a little desperate so lets just pray that this works out for the both of us. I think we're going to try the most inexpensive items to start out with and work our way up if need be. We're starting out with a Snugli classic carrier and a NOJO sling. The reviews I found were generally good for both. Wish me and what's remaining of my sanity luck! I think I'll feel much better if Quinn takes well to either one! Angela Quinn Alexander 5/07/04 P.S. He did really well sleeping through the night last night. We even had to wake him up to make him eat at one point. I didn't want him to sleep past 4-4.5 hours straight without eating... it just seemed like too long to me. |
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"Angela Schepers" wrote and I snipped...
I can't get Quinn to lay down by himself and sleep during the day for the most part though he'll sleep if he's laying on my chest or if I'm holding him. He seems to lie down in his crib a little better at night. If I try and let him go to sleep by himself he'll cry inconsolably for as long as I let him lie there. That's not conducive to having time or mobility to do laundry, wash dishes, wash bottles, fix lunch, pump breast milk, etc. I'm about ready to go bonkers if I don't get a little more mobility back and am getting a little desperate so lets just pray that this works out for the both of us. Angela Quinn Alexander 5/07/04 Oh my gosh! Your babe is only 11 days old! You just gave birth 11 days ago! What did you think having a newborn would be like? You will look back on this period as such a tiny little blip in your relationship. It hasn't been even 2 weeks. He really and truly needs nearly all your attention right now. Does anyone else know what I'm trying to express? I don't want to sound harsh, but, geez..... I suggest you slow down and give both yourselves a break. I don't know your story about the pumping and bottles, but let DH or other family/friends do the laundry, dishes, and meals. Your DS isn't likely to be *ready* to sleep by himself. He's still so *new*. This is a very short time in his life when you and he can lie around getting used to each other and he used to being in the world. Please don't expect so much of yourself or of him. Good luck, -Patty, mom to Corinne (6y) and Nathan (nearly 4y!) and stepmom to Victoria (14y) |
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I am begining to think I had the easiest baby in the world until she was 6
weeks old. My daughter did not care where she was or where she slept. I could put her down anytime and she would not complain. At 6 weeks she developed Colic and that is when I decided I would give her away to any traveling gypsies that I saw.. Luckily their are not many Gypsies in NH so I never ran into any Tori -- Bonnie 3/20/02 Anna or Xavier due 10/17/04 "PattyMomVA" wrote in message ... "Angela Schepers" wrote and I snipped... I can't get Quinn to lay down by himself and sleep during the day for the most part though he'll sleep if he's laying on my chest or if I'm holding him. He seems to lie down in his crib a little better at night. If I try and let him go to sleep by himself he'll cry inconsolably for as long as I let him lie there. That's not conducive to having time or mobility to do laundry, wash dishes, wash bottles, fix lunch, pump breast milk, etc. I'm about ready to go bonkers if I don't get a little more mobility back and am getting a little desperate so lets just pray that this works out for the both of us. Angela Quinn Alexander 5/07/04 Oh my gosh! Your babe is only 11 days old! You just gave birth 11 days ago! What did you think having a newborn would be like? You will look back on this period as such a tiny little blip in your relationship. It hasn't been even 2 weeks. He really and truly needs nearly all your attention right now. Does anyone else know what I'm trying to express? I don't want to sound harsh, but, geez..... I suggest you slow down and give both yourselves a break. I don't know your story about the pumping and bottles, but let DH or other family/friends do the laundry, dishes, and meals. Your DS isn't likely to be *ready* to sleep by himself. He's still so *new*. This is a very short time in his life when you and he can lie around getting used to each other and he used to being in the world. Please don't expect so much of yourself or of him. Good luck, -Patty, mom to Corinne (6y) and Nathan (nearly 4y!) and stepmom to Victoria (14y) |
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-- -=-=-=-=-=-=- Looking to find a match/hookup/sex partner? http://acc17901.com:1000/match/index.html "Angela Schepers" wrote in message news8vqc.31574$6f5.2986582@attbi_s54... Well, I sent DH out to go buy me both a carrier and a sling today. I'm not sure which one Quinn will prefer so that's why I'm going with both. I can't get Quinn to lay down by himself and sleep during the day for the most part though he'll sleep if he's laying on my chest or if I'm holding him. He seems to lie down in his crib a little better at night. If I try and let him go to sleep by himself he'll cry inconsolably for as long as I let him lie there. That's not conducive to having time or mobility to do laundry, wash dishes, wash bottles, fix lunch, pump breast milk, etc. SO, we're going to try this out. I'm about ready to go bonkers if I don't get a little more mobility back and am getting a little desperate so lets just pray that this works out for the both of us. I think we're going to try the most inexpensive items to start out with and work our way up if need be. We're starting out with a Snugli classic carrier and a NOJO sling. The reviews I found were generally good for both. Wish me and what's remaining of my sanity luck! I think I'll feel much better if Quinn takes well to either one! Angela Quinn Alexander 5/07/04 P.S. He did really well sleeping through the night last night. We even had to wake him up to make him eat at one point. I didn't want him to sleep past 4-4.5 hours straight without eating... it just seemed like too long to me. |
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PattyMomVA wrote:
|| "Angela Schepers" wrote and I snipped... ||| I can't get Quinn to lay down by himself and sleep during the day ||| for the most part though he'll sleep if he's laying on my chest or ||| if I'm holding him. He seems to lie down in his crib a little ||| better at night. If I try and let him go to sleep by himself ||| he'll cry inconsolably for as long as I let him lie there. That's ||| not conducive to having time or mobility to do laundry, wash ||| dishes, wash bottles, fix lunch, pump breast milk, etc. I'm about ||| ready to ||| go bonkers if I don't get a little more mobility back and am ||| getting a little desperate so lets just pray that this works out ||| for the both of us. ||| ||| Angela ||| Quinn Alexander 5/07/04 || || Oh my gosh! Your babe is only 11 days old! You just gave birth 11 || days ago! What did you think having a newborn would be like? You || will look back on this period as such a tiny little blip in your || relationship. It hasn't been even 2 weeks. He really and truly || needs nearly all your attention right now. || || Does anyone else know what I'm trying to express? I don't want to || sound harsh, but, geez..... I know what you are trying to express Patty I think us Mums that have BTDT end up with that knowing smile on our faces when we read posts like these. Most ppl never have been around newborns 24/7 so the shock of just how much most need in the beginning can be overwhelming. I've found personally that the difference between a 0-1 month can be extraordinary with respect to being able to do more with and without the little one. To the OP: I hope the carrier or sling work out for you. Either can be a lifesaver! --? Jenn -DS Feb'92 -DD Feb'97 -34 weeks! |
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"PattyMomVA" wrote in message
"Angela Schepers" wrote and I snipped... I can't get Quinn to lay down by himself and sleep during the day for the most part though he'll sleep if he's laying on my chest or if I'm holding him. He seems to lie down in his crib a little better at night. If I try and let him go to sleep by himself he'll cry inconsolably for as long as I let him lie there. That's not conducive to having time or mobility to do laundry, wash dishes, wash bottles, fix lunch, pump breast milk, etc. I'm about ready to go bonkers if I don't get a little more mobility back and am getting a little desperate so lets just pray that this works out for the both of us. Angela Quinn Alexander 5/07/04 Oh my gosh! Your babe is only 11 days old! You just gave birth 11 days ago! What did you think having a newborn would be like? You will look back on this period as such a tiny little blip in your relationship. It hasn't been even 2 weeks. He really and truly needs nearly all your attention right now. Does anyone else know what I'm trying to express? I don't want to sound harsh, but, geez..... I remember this early newborn period very well. I was so overwhelmed by how drastically my life had changed and desperately wanted some sense of "normal" to return. I was fairly well prepared to have a baby, I thought, but some of the changes really slapped me in the face. I think I can identify with how Angela might be feeling--during those early days, it was hard to look forward into the future and see that things would be any different. I felt like I was just going to be submerged for the rest of my life! Everything felt like a huge deal and like it was very significant (i.e. if xyz doesn't happen *now* is my baby going to be warped and/or am I an evil mom for feeling like I miss my old life and feel trapped and confused now?). For me, things picked up and felt much more "normal" and routine after about 2 months. It took a while for me to stop wondering when my "real life" was going to return! -- Em mama to L-baby, almost 8 months old |
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"Angela Schepers" wrote in message
That's not conducive to having time or mobility to do laundry, wash dishes, wash bottles, fix lunch, pump breast milk, etc. SO, we're going to try this out. I'm about ready to go bonkers if I don't get a little more mobility back and am getting a little desperate so lets just pray that this works out for the both of us. snip I just wanted to remind you that you do not *have* to do any of these things now. You're still on your "babymoon" and need time to just get to know your baby and to recover from the birth. Even if you had a smooth labor and delivery, it is still a *massive* physical and emotional experience and it takes some time to adjust and recover. As I said in another post in this thread, I remember how I felt in the early newborn days. I felt like that was how my life was going to be from that point forward. Babies change quickly though and those days of being totally submerged by the needs of a newborn are very, very fleeting. I felt like I needed to be doing more and that I somehow wasn't measuring up--i.e. "all the other mothers seem to have their acts together and know what they're doing" (I hadn't been around many mothers of brand new babies and was judging my feelings/experiences based on mothers who had been mothering for some time). I felt like others mother handled things better than I did and like I wasn't adjusting well. I had an absurd idea that adjusting would apparently take a nanosecond and because I didn't immediately feel composed and confident, that it meant it would never come and that I must not be as good of a mother as the nebulous "everyone else." I felt like something was wrong with me, like I wasn't handling it well, because I hadn't just bounced back to "normal." I felt like I couldn't *do* anything, but hold and nurse the baby. It took me a while to realize that was all I really *had* to do, once it was all boiled down. I did feel desperate to do something that would make me feel HUMAN again--which usually meant something work related or something around the house. Anyway, this is really short period of your lives. When I was in it, it felt like it would go on forever and I didn't know if I could handle it. I also felt like maybe all of my intense and often conflicted feelings meant that I wasn't cut out to be a mother. In retrospect, I recognize that I was just adjusting to a hugely, huge change in our lives and no wonder I felt a bit freaked out and insecure for a time! I don't know if this helps you at all, or if you can identify with anything I wrote, but I thought I'd share my experience with you anyway :-) Also, in my experience, the sling was invaluable. There was a time when I actually wondered how I would possibly survive without a sling (I had a few panicked thoughts of "what if I lost it, how I would I handle things?!"). That is how useful and helpful it was to me. Highly recommended! Also, make sure to try the sling several times. I think people may have a tendency to think slings are "weird" and so if they try it and it doesn't feel comfortable and work instantly, they think, "I KNEW this was weird" and don't give it another chance. A sling is well worth a second chance, because they are absolutely wonderful! -- Em mama to L-baby, almost 8 months old (and worn in the sling at the grocery store today!). |
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Angela,
Taylor went through the exact same thing -- wide awake unless I was holding her, then she'd drift off to sleep. She was like the reverse of the baby dolls -- rather than have her eyes close as I laid her down, her sleepy eyes would pop wide open as soon as I laid her horizontal. Like you, I was exhausted and going stir crazy, so I decided that I'd take a week and battle it out. I was determined to win the battle and the war, and I did. And if it didn't work, I'd be no worse off than I already was. Basically, I let her just fall asleep in my arms, then gently laid her down in her bassinet or crib. We had a bassinet downstairs right next to the couch, so I didn't have to run up and down the stairs. Of course, she'd wake right up, but I'd leave her there for 5 minutes before picking her up. Then, I'd pick her up and soothe her, and let her just fall asleep again, and lay her down. I also found that the bassinet was cold feeling to her, so I'd wrap her in a blanket -- her against me, and the blanket around her, so that when I laid her down, I laid her on the already warm blanket. For the first two days, I basically did nothing but hold her, let her start to fall asleep, then put her down for 5 minutes (or until she cried enough to merit picking her back up). But, if I wasn't doing this, I'd have been doing nothing anyway. By the end of the week, she could stand to be put in her bassinet and would stay asleep or at least quiet for a 10-20 minutes. It was such a relief. Slowly, it gets better and better, until it wasn't a big deal at all. But it took a conscious effort, and a belief that "I was mommy, and I was going to win this!" Hugs! -- Jamie & Taylor Earth Angel, 1/3/03 Check out Taylor Marlys -- www.MyFamily.com, User ID: Clarkguest1, Password: Guest Become a member for free - go to Add Member to set up your own User ID and Password Check out our Adoption Page at http://home.earthlink.net/~jamielee6 |
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I'm about ready to
go bonkers if I don't get a little more mobility back and am getting a little desperate so lets just pray that this works out for the both of us. Well, I will agree with the others who have said, give yourself a break! :-) With such a young baby you should not be worrying about washing dishes. OTOH, I understand how frustrating it can be to feel immobilized, and that is precisely what slings are FOR, so you are on the right track. DH and I wore our son All The Time for the first 5-6 months, and continued to use the sling at times until he was 2 years old, so on a per-use basis, even a very expensive sling would be one of the best possible values in baby gear. ;-) I think we're going to try the most inexpensive items to start out with and work our way up if need be. We're starting out with a Snugli classic carrier and a NOJO sling. The reviews I found were generally good for both. Wish me and what's remaining of my sanity luck! I think I'll feel much better if Quinn takes well to either one! Angela Quinn Alexander 5/07/04 I wish you luck, but if it turns out that either or both of those are not comfortable, don't hesitate to return them and get something else. I'm surprised that you found good reviews of either, in fact, because I've never heard anything but complaints about both. For a front carrier, the Baby Bjorn really *is* enough better than a Snugli to justify its price, and you can pick up used ones in good condition for $30 or so. For a sling, the Nojo is possibly the most despised brand out there; although it does work pretty well for some people, most moms find it to be too large, too difficult to adjust, and a bit too narrow for baby's security. I would recommend taking a look at Kangaroo Korner's pouches and slings instead (www.kangarookorner.com), since they offer several different types at reasonable prices ($50ish). There are other good brands that cost less, too; check out the reviews at thebabywearer.com Best of luck! Holly Mom to Camden, 3yo EDD #2 6/8/04 |
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I do want to add, that I think I started this "war" when Taylor was about 4
weeks old -- not 11 days. I keep forgetting that Angela's baby is so young. Angela, I feel for you sweetie, but I think you need to sit down on the couch and do nothing but hold this baby for another week or two. Really. Watch videos, put her in the car seat and go for a drive, put her in the stroller or carrier and take a walk. But stop trying to DO SO MUCH. This too shall pass. -- Jamie & Taylor Earth Angel, 1/3/03 Check out Taylor Marlys -- www.MyFamily.com, User ID: Clarkguest1, Password: Guest Become a member for free - go to Add Member to set up your own User ID and Password Check out our Adoption Page at http://home.earthlink.net/~jamielee6 "Jamie Clark" wrote in message .net... Angela, Taylor went through the exact same thing -- wide awake unless I was holding her, then she'd drift off to sleep. She was like the reverse of the baby dolls -- rather than have her eyes close as I laid her down, her sleepy eyes would pop wide open as soon as I laid her horizontal. Like you, I was exhausted and going stir crazy, so I decided that I'd take a week and battle it out. I was determined to win the battle and the war, and I did. And if it didn't work, I'd be no worse off than I already was. Basically, I let her just fall asleep in my arms, then gently laid her down in her bassinet or crib. We had a bassinet downstairs right next to the couch, so I didn't have to run up and down the stairs. Of course, she'd wake right up, but I'd leave her there for 5 minutes before picking her up. Then, I'd pick her up and soothe her, and let her just fall asleep again, and lay her down. I also found that the bassinet was cold feeling to her, so I'd wrap her in a blanket -- her against me, and the blanket around her, so that when I laid her down, I laid her on the already warm blanket. For the first two days, I basically did nothing but hold her, let her start to fall asleep, then put her down for 5 minutes (or until she cried enough to merit picking her back up). But, if I wasn't doing this, I'd have been doing nothing anyway. By the end of the week, she could stand to be put in her bassinet and would stay asleep or at least quiet for a 10-20 minutes. It was such a relief. Slowly, it gets better and better, until it wasn't a big deal at all. But it took a conscious effort, and a belief that "I was mommy, and I was going to win this!" Hugs! -- Jamie & Taylor Earth Angel, 1/3/03 Check out Taylor Marlys -- www.MyFamily.com, User ID: Clarkguest1, Password: Guest Become a member for free - go to Add Member to set up your own User ID and Password Check out our Adoption Page at http://home.earthlink.net/~jamielee6 |
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