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Should I put my 3 year old back in diapers?
I just had my fourth baby a little more than a month ago. The other
three, youngest to oldest are 13 months old, two years old and three years and two months old. The oldest, Sarah, was potty trained about six months ago and had been doing really well until Rachel first came home. With Rachel home, there were three girls in diapers and something must have happened because Sarah started making in her pants. The first couple times it happened, we weren't concerned but after a little while, it started happening quite often, sometimes more than once a day. Just this afternoon, I asked Sarah if she had to go potty and she said no. I didn't want to push her so I just let it be. Not more than 10 minutes later, she was soaked. In the past few days, she has started wetting the bed at night also. We're really thinking about putting her back in diapers because there seems to be no other way. We never used pull-ups with her because they're really expensive and they're just like diapers anyway. I'd greatly appreciate any advice on what to do here!! |
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Should I put my 3 year old back in diapers?
Jaime wrote in message om... I just had my fourth baby a little more than a month ago. The other three, youngest to oldest are 13 months old, two years old and three years and two months old. The oldest, Sarah, was potty trained about six months ago and had been doing really well until Rachel first came home. With Rachel home, there were three girls in diapers and something must have happened because Sarah started making in her pants. The first couple times it happened, we weren't concerned but after a little while, it started happening quite often, sometimes more than once a day. Just this afternoon, I asked Sarah if she had to go potty and she said no. I didn't want to push her so I just let it be. Not more than 10 minutes later, she was soaked. In the past few days, she has started wetting the bed at night also. We're really thinking about putting her back in diapers because there seems to be no other way. We never used pull-ups with her because they're really expensive and they're just like diapers anyway. I'd greatly appreciate any advice on what to do here!! I'd leave it a bit longer. Dd has been trained since last August, and a couple of months ago I went through a bad patch in pregnancy and she started to have more accidents. I think it was a way of guarenteeing immediate attention. She's at the moment tending to dribble occasionally on her pants before going, but she hasn't had an accident since then. I just made slightly more fuss about how good she was to go, and made sure I asked her frequently. I'm taking her to the dr's tomorrow just to rule out an infection, as she was complaining of pain when she went, but I think it's just a bit sore round there with the heat. Possible making a bit of how she's a "big girl" and can do things-like maybe spend time making a cake, which only "big girls" can do. Dd's very pleased to tell people now that you can only do ballet if you're a "big girl" and baby won't be able to do it until they're big. I guess also being careful not to say "you're a big girl, big girl's don't do that" means that she can feel more secure at not being a baby. Dd also likes being told/looking at pictures of her as a baby, and how she was in my tummy etc. Debbie Ps I like the names: We were undecided until dd was born whether to call her Rachel or Sarah. When she came out I decided she looked like a Rachel! |
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Should I put my 3 year old back in diapers?
This could be short-lived behavior caused by the change in family
circumstance. But when I learn of a sudden change in the voiding situation -- especially at night, I wonder about a bladder infection. True, bladder infections usually include fever, pain on urination, urgency, frequency. But not always. Jaime wrote: I just had my fourth baby a little more than a month ago. The other three, youngest to oldest are 13 months old, two years old and three years and two months old. The oldest, Sarah, was potty trained about six months ago and had been doing really well until Rachel first came home. With Rachel home, there were three girls in diapers and something must have happened because Sarah started making in her pants. The first couple times it happened, we weren't concerned but after a little while, it started happening quite often, sometimes more than once a day. Just this afternoon, I asked Sarah if she had to go potty and she said no. I didn't want to push her so I just let it be. Not more than 10 minutes later, she was soaked. In the past few days, she has started wetting the bed at night also. We're really thinking about putting her back in diapers because there seems to be no other way. We never used pull-ups with her because they're really expensive and they're just like diapers anyway. I'd greatly appreciate any advice on what to do here!! |
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Should I put my 3 year old back in diapers?
Very, very true. My dd had none of those symtoms, but had a raging bladder
infection. Brandy This could be short-lived behavior caused by the change in family circumstance. But when I learn of a sudden change in the voiding situation -- especially at night, I wonder about a bladder infection. True, bladder infections usually include fever, pain on urination, urgency, frequency. But not always. Jaime wrote: I just had my fourth baby a little more than a month ago. The other three, youngest to oldest are 13 months old, two years old and three years and two months old. The oldest, Sarah, was potty trained about six months ago and had been doing really well until Rachel first came home. With Rachel home, there were three girls in diapers and something must have happened because Sarah started making in her pants. The first couple times it happened, we weren't concerned but after a little while, it started happening quite often, sometimes more than once a day. Just this afternoon, I asked Sarah if she had to go potty and she said no. I didn't want to push her so I just let it be. Not more than 10 minutes later, she was soaked. In the past few days, she has started wetting the bed at night also. We're really thinking about putting her back in diapers because there seems to be no other way. We never used pull-ups with her because they're really expensive and they're just like diapers anyway. I'd greatly appreciate any advice on what to do here!! |
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Should I put my 3 year old back in diapers?
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appreciate any advice on what to do here!! The best advice *I* can offer is to put her back in diapers for a while, and slow down on the baby making a little so you can give all your children the attention they need. Kids often regress when a new baby enters the house because THEY want to be 'the baby' too. (Looks like your oldest never really had the chance to be 'the baby.') Also, realistically, it's not at all unusual for just turned 3's to be still wetting the bed anyway. You might want to use pull-ups at night, as a way to let her know that THIS is a normal 3 year old thing. (They don't' have to be that expensive, because if she wakes up dry some mornings, you can re-use them.) (Of course it isn't unsual for 3's to be in diapers during the day either, but if she's been potty trained for 6 months, we'll assume that she's fully capable of being dry during the day if she wants to be.) Naomi CAPPA Certified Lactation Educator (either remove spamblock or change address to to e-mail reply.) |
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Should I put my 3 year old back in diapers?
"Shannon" wrote in message ...
I say no dont, just talk to her lirk a person when she does it and explain over adn over again where she is suppose to go eventually she will get it also give her lots of attention for all the good things she does, after all that is most likely why she is doing it. She wants your attention if she only gets it for bad things or for things like that she wont stop. Im not saying you dont give her attention btu i can see how it must be hard to give them al the attention they need. You may feel you give her lots but maybe she sees it differently. Good Luck!!! Shannon due Sept 12 I agree she just needs some special attention, give her some quality one on one time and maybe she will come around. |
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Should I put my 3 year old back in diapers?
Friends of ours came up with an interesting suggestion
that is food for thought: have her wear nothing over the diaper, so maybe when people see a child her age in diapers, they'll comment and maybe she will decide she doesn't want to wear diapers anymore. Your thoughts? I wouldn't do it. First of all, it really isn't all that uncommon to see 3 year olds in diapers, so people aren't likely to comment on it. Second, humiliation really isn't a very good form of discipline, especially in a situation like this. (All the kid wants, probably, is some attention from her mother. Why would you want to embarrass her in public? [The embarrment coming less from the diapers themselves then from the running around in her underwear aspect of it.]) Naomi CAPPA Certified Lactation Educator (either remove spamblock or change address to to e-mail reply.) |
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Should I put my 3 year old back in diapers?
"Tsu Dho Nimh" wrote in message ... (Jaime) wrote: Thank you all very much for your kind words of advice. After much consideration, we've decided to put Sarah back in diapers for a little while anyway. Friends of ours came up with an interesting suggestion that is food for thought: have her wear nothing over the diaper, so maybe when people see a child her age in diapers, they'll comment and maybe she will decide she doesn't want to wear diapers anymore. No ... humiliation will do NOTHING to help her. It will be bad enough when her favorite things don't fit over the diapers. If I remember correctly, the OP's child is only three. *My* 3 year olds (I have twins) couldn't care less about what other people say. As they came closer to 4, they began to care a bit. But only a bit. My twins will be 4 next Friday, and we're just getting the one potty trained now. She has run around in a diaper only, MANY times, and people have seen her and made no comment. Why would they? Unless the OP was *soliciting* negative comments from people....? Now, in my case, there were complicating factors that held us back from potty training her, namely, my being hospitalized for 2 months (we'd begun potty training her before that, but when I went in the hospital, it was one thing too many for my DH to deal with), and because she has a g-tube we hadn't quite figured how to work around. Surely, our daughter could have trained younger. But she didn't, and it doesn't make any difference - in the 2 weeks since we started, she's had all of 3 accidents, and *this* is *very* good for her self-esteem, as we praise her highly for the behavior we want to encourage (and since she's been almost completely successful, she gets a lot of praise), and tell her she'll do better next time when she has an accident. That's all. If the OP's child is regressing due to the presence of a newborn, why humiliate her for it? It's very common, normal behavior. It won't last. --angela |
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