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SpiderHam's comments below represent the typical feminist approach to
this issue. However, this approach fails to think the issue through. It is crucial to make a distinction between PRE-conception reproductive choice and POST-conception reproductive choice. In the pre-conception situation, both sexes are approximately equal. Both have access to the options of birth control or abstinence. However, the feminist "pro-choice" line of argument has been to say that women must have choices that are not confined to the pre-conception situation. For decades U.S. feminists have argued that women must have POST-conception rights in addition to their pre-conception rights. And in the U.S. legislators and judges (the latter category having transformed themselves into only another form of politician) have responded to this feminist argument. By legislation and by court decisions these two groups of politicians have given feminist women what they said they wanted -- as many post-conception choices as possible. So, women have the abortion option. Women have the new-born drop-off option. Women have the unilateral adoption option. Every post-conception option -- up to and including infanticide via the nauseating partial birth abortion procedure -- has been given to women. Meantime, what post-conception options have been given to men? Precisely none, nada, zilch. In fact, men's post-conception options have been significantly NARROWED. The option that Mother Nature has given men, that of walking away from unwanted pregnancies, is constantly being narrowed in the U.S. by ever more rigorous "child support" (that is, mother support) enforcement techniques. As for the idea that "as a father you have every claim" to a child that the mother wants to put up for adoption, that is complete nonsense -- as I suspect SpiderHam knows very well. In the U.S. rules on adoption vary by state, but my understanding is that most states give fathers only a very limited window of opportunity to say that they want to raise the child, and won't agree to an adoption. All the mother needs to do is tell the authorities she doesn't know who the father is. Her ability to make a unilateral decision in this matter can be enhanced by moving temporarily to the state whose adoption rules are most favorable to the mother. And the notion that a father could object to an adoption, take the child himself, and then force the mother to pay child support is ludicrous. Does SpiderHam know of one real-life situation where this has happened? The central issue here is: why have women been given so many rights that are denied to men? And a subsidiary issue is why so many women who very actively support post-conception reproductive choices for women are just as determined to deny similar choices to men. "Poor planning," as SpiderHam calls it in his/her posting, is something of which both sexes can be guilty. However, SpiderHam (black widow?) seems to think that only women should be carefully protected against the results of their poor planning. "SpiderHam77" wrote in message oups.com... I have to agree with charlotte on principle here. I only ever hear the argument of having equal rights in this regard from men who have been forced into fatherhood through a result of poor planning. I have yet to hear from one father who wanted to be a father complain that they were unable to force their partner to abort the pregancy. I also have yet to hear from men who are not fathers, and are responsible adults, they are being treated unfairly in this regard. So far the only people I have ever heard complain about this part of life are the ones who feel that were somehow screwed over. Yet they were willing partner in the bedroom. On the whole adoption issue though. If the mother does put the child up for the adoption, she is right in saying that as a father you have every claim to that child. And can even go as far as to making her pay child support to help raise her child. But the heart of the matter is simple to me. No sperm donation, no pregnacy, no birth of a child that you are responsible for. And I have had sex with women on birth control, and I knew they were as I was in the room when she recieved their Depo shot. And I still chose to wear a condom, and she also chose to use a diaphram. Now we both understood that there was still a slim chance that a child could be created as a result of our actions. Luckly none was as we were both in College at the time. But part of the fun of sex is the inate risk involved. If you take the time to make responsible choices in reproductive matters, i.e. not allowing your sperm to be given to anyone by any means until your ready to part with it. Your not going to produce a child that you don't want. I might of missed the day in Bio Class that taught about a womaning becoming pregnant without sperm. I know I was there for learning about Worms having A-Sexual reproduction. But I didn't know women could do it, and then just randomly pick the guy and have the DNA prove it was them... Hmm.. I might have to go back an re-read my Bio Books... SpiderHam77 |
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Well thanks for the little interlude there Kennth. But you have my
opinions on this all wrong. I do agree full heartedly with alot of you that men ahould have more "Post-Conception" rights. The problem I look at is that in everyday life. The group of men who care enough about this issue to want to change it make up such a small portion of the population that it will never get enough support from the genral population. Next question is, when these laws were in fact being created to favour women as your group puts it, where was this group. Why was there no press on the this issue then in genral media. Again simple explanation. Not enough interest from the population at large to fight against it. One of the reasons such laws were created to give women rights in this regard is because there was a huge interest from about half the population. The woman half. And well with that kind of pressure going at the gov, and courts.. they pretty much have to listen. But again this whole group of men who feel they are at some major disadvantage I willing to bet only make up about 10-20% of all men out there.. And thats being very generous. Think about how many children are born each year. Get your stats together and research it. I believe right now the average is about 1 child ever 2-5 min. But we'll go on the 5 min mark. So that would approximate to 105,120 children born in any given year. That means 105,120 times in which conception occured. So if this group who feel they need to represent the majority of men out there, would have to find at least 52,560 different times in which a man was forced into fatherhood against their will. So when the group can come back with these kind of figures you might start to peak the interest of law makers. However I know this is not possible, as that number does not exsist. And even if you did manage to find this number of cases to support your case. Then you have to factor the number of men out there this actually represents, compared to the actual male population. So my suggestion is instead of arguing a battle you really have no hope in hell of winning, try a different approach. Cut them off at the legs and these nasty women who have all these nasty rights over us weak men. Deny them the one substance they need to infact gain control over our lives. SPERM. It's really that simple. I'm all for equal rights of the sexes. And the country as a whole decided that women shall have the right to decide what to do with their body. But by virtue of being half the equation in creating a child we can simply remove the ingredient they need. You can't bake a cake without flour type thing. The Central issue is why there are so many of you that seem hell bent on trying to change something that most of popluation doesn't care enough about. My father taught to fight the battles I can win. And well we can win this battle, just need to try a different approach, education of our youth to ensure they don't make the mistakes we did. Teach them the nasty nature of the system.. Warn them. Show them what can happen if they are dumb enough to spread their seed if they're not ready. Sure there will always be the dummies who don't listen, but we will catch the vast majority, and we can turn this tide back into our favour of having no child born without our explicit consent. I don't know how to make this simpler. It has nothing to do with me being a feminist. It has nothing to do with feeling that the Women are bringing the man down. It has to do with that the support you all need to infct change this is not there. SpiderHam77 |
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Whether or nor you accept it, the law of the land is that women do not have
to accept responsibility for their actions that result in pregnancy yet men do *if* the mother decides to give birth *and* inform him of the birth, sometimes years later. So women don't ever have to pay child support? Women, the majority of the time get placement, where as the father typically pays support. We both know the support rewarded is typically only a minor amount of what it takes to rear a child. 17% gross for a single child, and the mother isn't picking up the slack of the remaining amount required? The vast majority of women do accept responsibility of their actions, and unfortunately, judging from how many dead beat fathers there are, they are taking a far greater responsibility then men. I was married for nine years and have two children by my ex. He pays 25% of his gross. A lousy 800 dollars a month. My rent ALONE is 885. My utilities are another 400 dollars, groceries are 800, lets not count transportation, clothing, insurance, school costs, or the myriad of other bills of mine. His support is pretty minor compared to what I shell out every month. I know my situation is the norm when it comes to child support being a minimal ammount of total bills, so why am I hearing that women do not have to accept responsibility for their pregnancy? As far as the case in which women do not inform the fathers for years, I agree that its a unethical occurance. Every child deserves to have both parents as long as both are fit. I would agree to a law in which women could not acrue back-support for their children if they deliberately did not inform the father of the child's existence. How this could be implemented though is beyond me. Considering that it could be claimed the father was unlocatable. |
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You fail the simple logic test.......the only reason a birth occurs is
because of the sole and unilateral choices made by the woman. Woman should be responsible for their sole and unilateral choices. As a former student of logic, I have had the misfortune to sit through far too many vinn diagram sessions. But in this case, I'm glad I had the misfortune because logic does support the argument that it requires male and female to bring forth a child. It seems as if you want to consistently forget the act of conception, the foundation for which birth even becomes a possibility. 1. Sex occurs between man and woman: conception 2. Woman gestates resulting JOINT conceived zygote/embryo/fetus 3. Woman gives birth to fetus Numbers two and three are constigent upon number one. The Male is the middle term of this equation and hence, it is ILLOGICAL to say a woman has "sole, unilateral" choice in bringing forth a child. A meaningless point, since rape victims have been forced to pay child support. Just like female victims of rape have reared the product of the event. Maybe you should pick up a book on logical thinking. And maybe you should stop trying to sweep the willfull and consentual act of conception under the rug so that you can demonize all women as the trappers of males in cases of unwanted pregnancy. |
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There is no such thing as "birth control" for men......only women have that
option, Oh sure there is, birth control is literally a catch term for any implement that would control the act of conception/birth. Hence, condoms are birth control, and can be used solely by men Spermicidal lubricant is another birth control men can utilize. and then demand that a pregnancy which results from their willfull negligence be terminated simply because they all of a sudden have to pay. Nobody said anything about demanding pregnancy termination.......you arrived at that conclusion through your own ignorance. I didn't arrive at this through ignorance, I carefully read many posts in which YOU yourself said that it was the "sole unilateral" choice of a woman to "give birth" because they did not relinquish nor abort the fetus they were carrying. You think it is unfair that a man has to pay support for a child they did not want, you think it is unfair that a woman has access to post conception options, where as a man does not. Its almost as if you are railing against biology itself. Men can not gestate, hence, why would men have post-conception options? Unless you make it law for a man to either impose his will on the gestating woman, or to abandon his child. And that's percisely what you want to do. Give the option to the man to neglect his child financially because he was denied post-conception options. Women have the sole and unilateral choice in determining whether a conception results in a birth. Why do you not think women should be responsible for their sole and unilateral choices? Your idea that a woman has a sole and unilateral choice in determining a conception results in birth completely makes flippant of the hardship women face in such a dillema. For some, there is no "choice". For the anti-abortionist who believes she will committ a mortal sin, abortion is not an option. For the woman who finds out she has conceived beyond the second trimester, there is no choice. For the woman who can not psychologically handle the trauma of relinquishing her child for adoption, there is no choice. I am not saying by any means that women should not be responsible for their choices, what I am saying is that conception resulting in birth is not necessarily the "sole and unilateral choice" you make it out to be. Then you are anti abortion? Not at all, I'm vehemently pro-choice. But we are talking about the ceasing of a potential life here, hence, it is optimum to exercise responsibilty PRIOR to conception. Options such as adoption and abortion should be last resorts, considering there are far more less invasive and traumatic means to avoid birth. |
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Not what I said, is it?
I said "wome do no have to accept responsibility for their actions that result in pregnancy...." Try addressing the words stated instead of the words you wishi I'd said. You may believe that C$ is less than cost, but I know better. Whether the women accept the consequences of their action or not is hardly the point; the point is that they do not *have* to. As far as how many "dead-beat" fathers there are, care to venture your authoritative guess? You seem totally unaware that when it comes to paying support when ordered, mothers have a far worst track record than fathers. YOUR expenses have absolutely nothing to do with the costs of children, yours, mine or Homer Simpson's. Your desire to control your ex by means of grabbing his income also has nothing to do with the norm. The difference between what you claim to shell out and what you legally extract from his gross income is that you are under no obligation to spend anything above that necessary to barely feed, clothe and shelter the children while he has to give you a set amount whether needed or not or face the possibility of all sorts of punitive actions that are guaranteed to make it even more difficult to pay. Even at that, he has effectively lost his children and your complaint? Money. How typical. Now, what I was addressing was the fact that women have gained additional legal remedies for their plight when finding themselves preganant unintentionally: in addition to abstinence that is naturally afforded to men as well (at least most of the time), women have the option of abortion as post conception birth control, adopting the child out, abandoning the child in one of the many states that allow such actions and keeping the child. The only way this can be untrue is that if 1) women do not have these remedies, which they do; 2) men also have these remedies, which they do not. Phil #3 wrote in message ups.com... Whether or nor you accept it, the law of the land is that women do not have to accept responsibility for their actions that result in pregnancy yet men do *if* the mother decides to give birth *and* inform him of the birth, sometimes years later. So women don't ever have to pay child support? Women, the majority of the time get placement, where as the father typically pays support. We both know the support rewarded is typically only a minor amount of what it takes to rear a child. 17% gross for a single child, and the mother isn't picking up the slack of the remaining amount required? The vast majority of women do accept responsibility of their actions, and unfortunately, judging from how many dead beat fathers there are, they are taking a far greater responsibility then men. I was married for nine years and have two children by my ex. He pays 25% of his gross. A lousy 800 dollars a month. My rent ALONE is 885. My utilities are another 400 dollars, groceries are 800, lets not count transportation, clothing, insurance, school costs, or the myriad of other bills of mine. His support is pretty minor compared to what I shell out every month. I know my situation is the norm when it comes to child support being a minimal ammount of total bills, so why am I hearing that women do not have to accept responsibility for their pregnancy? As far as the case in which women do not inform the fathers for years, I agree that its a unethical occurance. Every child deserves to have both parents as long as both are fit. I would agree to a law in which women could not acrue back-support for their children if they deliberately did not inform the father of the child's existence. How this could be implemented though is beyond me. Considering that it could be claimed the father was unlocatable. |
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wrote in message ups.com... Whether or nor you accept it, the law of the land is that women do not have to accept responsibility for their actions that result in pregnancy yet men do *if* the mother decides to give birth *and* inform him of the birth, sometimes years later. So women don't ever have to pay child support? Women, the majority of the time get placement, where as the father typically pays support. We both know the support rewarded is typically only a minor amount of what it takes to rear a child. 17% gross for a single child, ***I'm very interested where you come up with the figure you mention above. Child support only covers 17% of a child's expenses? Can you post a cite for where you got that information?*** and the mother isn't picking up the slack of the remaining amount required? The vast majority of women do accept responsibility of their actions, and unfortunately, judging from how many dead beat fathers there are, they are taking a far greater responsibility then men. I was married for nine years and have two children by my ex. He pays 25% of his gross. A lousy 800 dollars a month. My rent ALONE is 885. My utilities are another 400 dollars, groceries are 800, lets not count transportation, clothing, insurance, school costs, or the myriad of other bills of mine. His support is pretty minor compared to what I shell out every month. I know my situation is the norm when it comes to child support being a minimal ammount of total bills, so why am I hearing that women do not have to accept responsibility for their pregnancy? As far as the case in which women do not inform the fathers for years, I agree that its a unethical occurance. Every child deserves to have both parents as long as both are fit. I would agree to a law in which women could not acrue back-support for their children if they deliberately did not inform the father of the child's existence. How this could be implemented though is beyond me. Considering that it could be claimed the father was unlocatable. |
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Now, what I was addressing was the fact that women have gained additional legal remedies for their plight when finding themselves preganant unintentionally: in addition to abstinence that is naturally afforded to men as well (at least most of the time), women have the option of abortion as post conception birth control, adopting the child out, abandoning the child in one of the many states that allow such actions and keeping the child. The only way this can be untrue is that if 1) women do not have these remedies, which they do; 2) men also have these remedies, which they do not. Phil #3 My whole argument in all of this. By a show of hands. How many men out there really care that they do not have these rights aforded to them. I mean I have to say as a man, one of the things I'm glad I will never have to go through is the whole Pregnacy, and child birthing thing. And what more do we as men need to ensure that a women does not bear a child with our DNA attached to it. Very simple as you put it, abstinence. Or simply ensuring that we take all the needed measures to ensure our sperm is not given to anyone at anytime until we say they can have it. To me this seems like a simple point of view. Maybe I'm a little simple minded. But as my father always taught me. KISS - KEEP IT SIMPLE STUPID. If you don't want a child. Then don't give your sperm to anyone. Make sure that if you have intercourse you are ready for the consequences. If you don't know what will happen as a result of sex. Then maybe you need to re-attend the Sex Ed classes in highschool, I recall this being covered. And one of the key elements in conceiving a child is a man's sperm. Can't be done without it. Well maybe science has figured out a way for A-Sexual reproduction in women, and giving them the ability to randomly select the man who's DNA will be present in the child. If this is the case, please direct me to the info sources which prove this, because it would be an interesting read. I would love to see exaclty how they accomplished this. SpiderHam77 |
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"SpiderHam77" wrote in message oups.com... Now, what I was addressing was the fact that women have gained additional legal remedies for their plight when finding themselves preganant unintentionally: in addition to abstinence that is naturally afforded to men as well (at least most of the time), women have the option of abortion as post conception birth control, adopting the child out, abandoning the child in one of the many states that allow such actions and keeping the child. The only way this can be untrue is that if 1) women do not have these remedies, which they do; 2) men also have these remedies, which they do not. Phil #3 My whole argument in all of this. By a show of hands. How many men out there really care that they do not have these rights aforded to them. I mean I have to say as a man, one of the things I'm glad I will never have to go through is the whole Pregnacy, and child birthing thing. Non sequitar And what more do we as men need to ensure that a women does not bear a child with our DNA attached to it. Very simple as you put it, abstinence. Or simply ensuring that we take all the needed measures to ensure our sperm is not given to anyone at anytime until we say they can have it. Doesn't matter......case law is alreadt established that male victims of rape have been ordered to pay CS To me this seems like a simple point of view. Maybe I'm a little simple minded. quite possible. But as my father always taught me. KISS - KEEP IT SIMPLE STUPID. If you don't want a child. Then don't give your sperm to anyone. Make sure that if you have intercourse you are ready for the consequences. If you don't know what will happen as a result of sex. Then maybe you need to re-attend the Sex Ed classes in highschool, I recall this being covered. And one of the key elements in conceiving a child is a man's sperm. Can't be done without it. Well maybe science has figured out a way for A-Sexual reproduction in women, and giving them the ability to randomly select the man who's DNA will be present in the child. If this is the case, please direct me to the info sources which prove this, because it would be an interesting read. I would love to see exaclty how they accomplished this. SpiderHam77 |
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wrote in message oups.com... You fail the simple logic test.......the only reason a birth occurs is because of the sole and unilateral choices made by the woman. Woman should be responsible for their sole and unilateral choices. As a former student of logic, I have had the misfortune to sit through far too many vinn diagram sessions. But in this case, I'm glad I had the misfortune because logic does support the argument that it requires male and female to bring forth a child. It seems as if you want to consistently forget the act of conception, the foundation for which birth even becomes a possibility. 1. Sex occurs between man and woman: conception 2. Woman gestates resulting JOINT conceived zygote/embryo/fetus 3. Woman gives birth to fetus Numbers two and three are constigent upon number one. The Male is the middle term of this equation and hence, it is ILLOGICAL to say a woman has "sole, unilateral" choice in bringing forth a child. You could not be more wrong. But considering your viewpoint.....it is not surprising. Women have the sole and unilateral choice of whether conception will result in a birth or not.....and all the tap dancing in the worlf will not change that FACT. A meaningless point, since rape victims have been forced to pay child support. Just like female victims of rape have reared the product of the event. No, not just like that.......the female rape victims made that CHOICE. Are you really that clueless......... Maybe you should pick up a book on logical thinking. And maybe you should stop trying to sweep the willfull and consentual act of conception under the rug so that you can demonize all women as the trappers of males in cases of unwanted pregnancy. LMAO.........typical feminitwit response. The conception need not be willful of consentual...... Now provide the proof that I have "demonized all women as the trappers of men" What a mar00n. |
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