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How long will we have to wait?
SnTHoliday wrote:
My fiance has tried to find out why he stopped, and all he says is he's working on it. That's the answer everytime. What you people don't seem to realize is child support is a court order. What some people fail to realize is that if you don't have the money, you can't pay even if you want to. If the money isn't there, it isn't there. Maybe he got saddled with a ton of marital debt. Maybe his job sucks. Maybe he has health problems. Obviously we don't know the true situation, but it is conceivable that when he says he's "working on it" he means "I don't have the money but I'm trying to get it". Not all non-paying NCPs are deadbeats. Maybe this guy is, maybe he isn't. Without facts we're all just pushing our own agendas. ... We would like to get married but don't have the money. It's not easy to take a 500.00 hit each month. Did you ever consider maybe it's not easy (or possible) for him to take a $500 hit every month either? Just because he has a job doesn't necessarily mean he has a spare $500/month. That doesn't necessarily excuse his behavior, I'm just trying to point out that these situations are rarely as cut and dried as it seems as the radicals from either side make it out to be. |
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"P. Fritz" paulfritz ATvoyager DOTnet wrote in message ... "SnTHoliday" wrote in message oups.com... If anyone is familiar with the Dept of Child Support Services in CA, can you tell me how long it takes to start receiving payments from deadbeat dads? My fiancee' has a child support order since 2004, and the ex has decided he just doesn't want to pay anymore. My fiancee' provided the DCSS here in Sacramento with all the ex's information such as home address, employer, child supprt order, etc. This situation has us in a real bind since we are short over Free hint for the clueless.........that is between your "fiancee' " and her ex, NOT you. This case sounds suspiciously familiar. There was a guy here a few months ago who was talking about encouraging his GF in the Bay Area to move in with him in the Sacramento area. He wanted her to get away from the child's father and let him be the "new daddy." That guy, if it's a different guy, got the same advice - Stay out of it. It is none of your business. But that guy also got the advice here that if he forced the issue the CS might get cut off. I think this is the same guy. |
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"SnTHoliday" wrote in three kids of my own. We would like to get married but don't have the money. It's not easy to take a 500.00 hit each month. There it is again, so what you are saying is your income is around $2000/mth, she doesn't work and so her only contribution was the tax free $500 from her ex. Sounds like you lot don't have much going for you and I'm wondering why she would bother marrying a guy that can't support the household? Let me introduce myself, I am a real live Dead Beat with $54,000 in arrearages and now a convicted felon as mandated by your precious Child Support kourts. The answer to your original question, you could wait up to 6 years before you see a dime if he gets any jail time. Your best bet is to get a better paying job and she needs to get out on her ass and earn an income. Glad you take so much pride in demanding a hand out, have you people no shame? |
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"Moon Shyne" wrote in Wouldn't that judgement hold true for the men here who don't think they should have to pay child support? Paying CS is no problem, paying the extortionate government rates is where the real problem lies. Just suppose some senior activist group started pushing for laws to force siblings to finance their aging parent's medical bills to save the tax payers money, how would you feel about the government agencies confiscating half of your paycheck? This would all be legal becuase they passed a law to do so! |
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"Bob Whiteside" wrote in message k.net... "SnTHoliday" wrote in message oups.com... It doesn't matter what the deadbeat ex thinks, he still has an obligation to pay court ordered child support. Did you ever stop to think that I am paying this man's child support? Pretty pathetic if you ask me. You sound like another NCP who owes back child support and the only support you do provide is to deadbeats. Your story is changing again. First you said your household budget was running over $500 short each because he was not paying his CS. Now you are trying to claim you have been making up his CS obligation. Which is it? English not your first language? How about... his household is running short by approximately 500 a month BECAUSE he is covering the other guy's unpaid support. If you need further clarification, feel free to ask. The facts are - If he figured out you and your fiancé were diverting his CS payments to pay for other children, That's an if, not a fact. he has the right to go to the court and ask for relief. Which it doesn't appear he did. The court can force your fiancé to account for how the CS money is spent and on whom. No one has said that accounting for CS would be a problem. Of course, if it hasn't been paid, it's pretty easy to account for it. You have referred back twice to him being ordered by the court to pay. That court order is very specific about who he is paying for by naming the judgment creditor and the child in addition to the amount he is to pay. And the OP started out by asking about the child support due to the child's mother. If the court's order is not being followed he can ask for a contempt of court order and other sanctions. He, who? The he in the court order is the one who is in contempt of court. |
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"Gini" wrote in message news:lJ8bg.7339$pI5.4898@trndny05... "Bob Whiteside" wrote ................. The facts are - If he figured out you and your fiancé were diverting his CS payments to pay for other children, he has the right to go to the court and ask for relief. The court can force your fiancé to account for how the CS money is spent and on whom. == That's pretty clear by: "How long will we have to wait," and "we are short over $500.00 a month..." Clearly he doesn't think it's the child who is short, but "we." Who do you think is doing the actual paying of the bills in that house, the "we" or the child? Pretty telling. That you can't consider who is the person or persons actually paying the bills? Wanna guess why he won't answer the question of WHY the NCP stopped paying? Maybe he doesn't know? Maybe it coincided with the advent of new beau moving in his three kids who just happen to have a mom in prison and a dad who can't afford to support them. And what would any of that have to do with one man supporting his own child? == |
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"SnTHoliday" wrote in message
ups.com... My fiance has tried to find out why he stopped, and all he says is he's working on it. That's the answer everytime. What you people don't seem to realize is child support is a court order. Willfully withholding child support is contempt of court (at least in CA, I don't know about other states). He is breaking the law and his kid is suffering the consequences of the parents always at each other's throats over money. We know he still has a job, he verified it last night when my fiance asked him for money. don't lump me into the "you people" category. I just simply asked why he stopped paying. Most of these issues can be resolved without involving any state agencies. In fact if the agencies are not involved chances are the outcome will be better than involving them because no one likes to be in a situation where they feel forced. You should be able to relate to what I just said - regardless of the situation. She should be using the relationship between her and her child's father to achieve the desired outcome. It takes more work, but the outcome is more desirable. I'm sorry I called him a deadbeat, I am upset because my fiance is very stressed about this. She does not want me picking up the slack for her ex not paying child support which I would gladly do if I did not have three kids of my own. We would like to get married but don't have the money. It's not easy to take a 500.00 hit each month. I'm sure you are upset, and that I can relate to. I'm not sure what plans you and your fiance are making for your wedding, but my husband and I married on less than $5,000. Keep on thing in mind - it isn't the money you dump into a wedding that makes a marriage, but the love & respect you have for each other. Keeping things simple by establishing healthy relationships between all parents is a key to love & respect. She should be talking to him about her financial concern and how it is impacting her life. If they have a good relationship he would do what he can to make things better. She may consider accepting less than $500/month in support for a period of time if he is experiencing hardship. It would help improve the overall relationship; communication; and situation. The long-term outcome will be more desirable. -- Tracy http://www.hornschuch.net/tracy/ |
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"P. Fritz" paulfritz ATvoyager DOTnet wrote in message ... "SnTHoliday" wrote in message oups.com... If anyone is familiar with the Dept of Child Support Services in CA, can you tell me how long it takes to start receiving payments from deadbeat dads? My fiancee' has a child support order since 2004, and the ex has decided he just doesn't want to pay anymore. My fiancee' provided the DCSS here in Sacramento with all the ex's information such as home address, employer, child supprt order, etc. This situation has us in a real bind since we are short over Free hint for the clueless.........that is between your "fiancee' " and her ex, NOT you. If their finances are combined, then it does involve him. -- Tracy http://www.hornschuch.net/tracy/ |
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"Tracy" wrote in If their finances are combined, then it does involve him. Even if this one child did not exist, their living expenses would not be that much different. Taking a hit means they are living far above their income, not the NCP's problem if this Brady bunch has wedding plans they can't afford. |
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"Tracy" wrote "P. Fritz" paulfritz ATvoyager DOTnet wrote "SnTHoliday" wrote If anyone is familiar with the Dept of Child Support Services in CA, can you tell me how long it takes to start receiving payments from deadbeat dads? My fiancee' has a child support order since 2004, and the ex has decided he just doesn't want to pay anymore. My fiancee' provided the DCSS here in Sacramento with all the ex's information such as home address, employer, child supprt order, etc. This situation has us in a real bind since we are short over Free hint for the clueless.........that is between your "fiancee' " and her ex, NOT you. If their finances are combined, then it does involve him. == IF their collective financial wellbeing depends on this 500.00 to the extent that they can't marry without it, they have bigger issues to take care of. == |
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