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How long will we have to wait?
"SnTHoliday" wrote in message
oups.com... If anyone is familiar with the Dept of Child Support Services in CA, can you tell me how long it takes to start receiving payments from deadbeat dads? My fiancee' has a child support order since 2004, and the ex has decided he just doesn't want to pay anymore. My fiancee' provided the DCSS here in Sacramento with all the ex's information such as home address, employer, child supprt order, etc. This situation has us in a real bind since we are short over $500.00 a month because this deadbeat has decided not to pay for the past several months. It could take months, or it could take years. Her best bet is to attempt to work with him directly. Why did he stop paying? Are there unresolved issues from their relationship that would cause him to just stop? It is not common to find a NCP who has been paying support for a couple of years to just suddenly stop. There has to be a reason. BTW - you shouldn't call him a deadbeat just because he recently stopped paying child support. I would suspect the DCSS will issue a wage assignment since the guy is still employed. Depending on the reason why he stopped as wage assignment may cause him to quit his job. Tracy http://www.hornschuch.net/tracy/ |
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How long will we have to wait?
"SnTHoliday" wrote in message
oups.com... It doesn't matter what the deadbeat ex thinks, he still has an obligation to pay court ordered child support. Did you ever stop to think that I am paying this man's child support? Speaking from experience, supporting someone else's children financially when the should be contributing can cause problems in a relationship. There are days I would like to separate our financial affairs to put an end to issues involving money. Again - speaking from experience you should find out the truth behind the sudden stop in support payments before passing judgement. -- Tracy http://www.hornschuch.net/tracy/ |
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How long will we have to wait?
So you think a household of six can "parasite" off an NCP for 500.00 a
month. You've got to be kidding. The NCP has one kid he is supposed to support, you do the math. |
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How long will we have to wait?
"SnTHoliday" wrote in message
ups.com... So you think a household of six can "parasite" off an NCP for 500.00 a month. You've got to be kidding. The NCP has one kid he is supposed to support, you do the math. Correct me if I'm wrong, but he's paying $500/month for one child? Tracy http://www.hornschuch.net/tracy/ |
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How long will we have to wait?
"SnTHoliday" wrote in message oups.com... It doesn't matter what the deadbeat ex thinks, he still has an obligation to pay court ordered child support. Did you ever stop to think that I am paying this man's child support? Pretty pathetic if you ask me. You sound like another NCP who owes back child support and the only support you do provide is to deadbeats. Your story is changing again. First you said your household budget was running over $500 short each because he was not paying his CS. Now you are trying to claim you have been making up his CS obligation. Which is it? The facts are - If he figured out you and your fiancé were diverting his CS payments to pay for other children, he has the right to go to the court and ask for relief. The court can force your fiancé to account for how the CS money is spent and on whom. You have referred back twice to him being ordered by the court to pay. That court order is very specific about who he is paying for by naming the judgment creditor and the child in addition to the amount he is to pay. If the court's order is not being followed he can ask for a contempt of court order and other sanctions. |
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How long will we have to wait?
"SnTHoliday" wrote So you think a household of six can "parasite" off an NCP for 500.00 a month. You've got to be kidding. The NCP has one kid he is supposed to support, you do the math. == So, why did he stop? What is the mother's percent share and how much of that is she contributing? Does he see the child? Why do you avoid these questions (repeatedly)? == |
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My fiance has tried to find out why he stopped, and all he says is he's
working on it. That's the answer everytime. What you people don't seem to realize is child support is a court order. Willfully withholding child support is contempt of court (at least in CA, I don't know about other states). He is breaking the law and his kid is suffering the consequences of the parents always at each other's throats over money. We know he still has a job, he verified it last night when my fiance asked him for money. I'm sorry I called him a deadbeat, I am upset because my fiance is very stressed about this. She does not want me picking up the slack for her ex not paying child support which I would gladly do if I did not have three kids of my own. We would like to get married but don't have the money. It's not easy to take a 500.00 hit each month. |
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How long will we have to wait?
"SnTHoliday" wrote in message oups.com... If anyone is familiar with the Dept of Child Support Services in CA, can you tell me how long it takes to start receiving payments from deadbeat dads? My fiancee' has a child support order since 2004, and the ex has decided he just doesn't want to pay anymore. My fiancee' provided the DCSS here in Sacramento with all the ex's information such as home address, employer, child supprt order, etc. This situation has us in a real bind since we are short over Free hint for the clueless.........that is between your "fiancee' " and her ex, NOT you. $500.00 a month because this deadbeat has decided not to pay for the past several months. I would suspect the DCSS will issue a wage assignment since the guy is still employed. |
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How long will we have to wait?
"Bob Whiteside" wrote .................. The facts are - If he figured out you and your fiancé were diverting his CS payments to pay for other children, he has the right to go to the court and ask for relief. The court can force your fiancé to account for how the CS money is spent and on whom. == That's pretty clear by: "How long will we have to wait," and "we are short over $500.00 a month..." Clearly he doesn't think it's the child who is short, but "we." Pretty telling. Wanna guess why he won't answer the question of WHY the NCP stopped paying? Maybe it coincided with the advent of new beau moving in his three kids who just happen to have a mom in prison and a dad who can't afford to support them. == |
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How long will we have to wait?
"SnTHoliday" wrote in message oups.com... It doesn't matter what the deadbeat ex thinks, he still has an obligation to pay court ordered child support. Did you ever stop to think that I am paying this man's child support? Pretty pathetic if you ask me. You sound like another NCP who owes back child support and the only support you do provide is to deadbeats. I confess to being a "deadbeat" who is not afraid of taking on greedy women and their live-in boyfriends who try to live off of another man's income without regard for the impact on the children involved. And I confess to being a "deadbeat" who advocates for fathers rights particularly when CS is set, collected, disbursed, and spent in ways other than the CS guidelines underlying assumptions and the intention of state laws. |
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