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"teachrmama" wrote in message
... "djohnson" wrote in message ps.com... Gini wrote: "djohnson" wrote ............................... Well as in the Murtari case $120 a week seems reasonable to expect. == Really? That means that 240. a week should be spent on the child given the CP's share. That's about right. We have two kids so that would mean we are paying about $1000/month for them. We are in the city where housing is high everywhere, so $350/month goes to their bedrooms. If they only eat $10/day ($5 each) that adds on $300. I'll take out only $50 for utilities. That leaves $300/month or $10/day or $5/day for each kid beyond just food and lodging. You can nitpick the exact numbers if you want but that's about it. You are paying $1000/month for 2 children. So that's $500/month per child. So then the NCP's share for 1 child would be $250 per month, which would be--let's see--uh--$60 per week. Wow! Mr. Murtari seems to have hit it on the head! Actually, he overpaid. 52 weeks divided by (/) 12 months in a year = 4.333 $250 per month / 4.333 = $57.70 per week $60 - $57.70 = $2.30 weekly overpayment "I'm such a stinka!" Buggs Bunny :P |
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"djohnson" wrote .................... Again, kids take a ton of time and dedication. They suck the life out of you whether you're a CP or a NCP. Every situation has to be looked at individually. In my case, my wife's ex is addicted to strip clubs and prostitutes, before and after their divorce. He needs to pay, one way or another. I'm making no assumptions about anyone else. == Perhaps his choice of women, one of whom you chose as well? No matter, his chosen lifestyle is none of your business--none. Your *wife's* business is whether he pays his share of the children's basic needs and that she covers her share as well. You might also consider that if those children are such a burden, perhaps he should have custody? |
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"djohnson" wrote in message
ups.com... Bob Whiteside wrote: "djohnson" wrote in message ups.com... A parent who provides their kids with no significant amount of money to support their needs such as a roof over their head, food, school expenses, medical care, etc etc etc. Perfect description for a parent on welfare. Zero financial contribution to the children while relying on the government to provide housing, food stamps, public education with free meals including during Summers, and state Medicaid/health plan coverage. Lock 'em up! Or do you mean only fathers can be deadbeats? Are you suggesting that if the CP can live on welfare the NCP should be able to as well? Hmm. I guess you have a point. I never thought of it like that. In theory you make a very good point. But I'm an economic liberal who thinks necessities should be free so I'm very generous in my analysis. Okay. Now we understand you are an economic liberal and where I come from that means you are a socialist. Here's my point - the status quo, which you seem to favor, is a socialist-oriented approach when is comes to supporting CP's. However, when the CS system goes after NCP's they apply free market thinking. Assumptions about CP responsibilites are far different than assumptions about NCP responsibilities. Thing is, realistically, being a CP is not a piece of cake. Kids take an enormous amount of time and dedication. So I guess that's why the CPs are treated better. Is it entirely fair? No, not really, but that's parenthood. Being an NCP is not a piece of cake either. Not having regular time with your children is mentally challenging. Being forced to subsidize two households financially is a real strain. Having the full force of the government work against you is impossible to overcome. Having all of your financial affairs scrutinized is an invasion of privacy. Snooping into your financial affairs with sniffer programs is like a warrant-less government wiretap not overseen by the judiciary. Listing all citizens in a Federal Parent Locator System is like a government database to track everybody's personal situations. You missed my point. Because I am an economic liberal it was hard for me to stay on track justifying the system. As you implied, and I agree, the child support system is not economically liberal. If we were in a liberal economy most child support laws would be unnecessary. Snooping and sniffing programs are a negative side effect of unbridled capitalism. I'm sorry for the NCPs who do not have regular time with their kids. But actually, if NCPs have weekends and/or summer time with their kids that's a significant amount of time when you consider CP who work during the week who only have weekends to spend with their kids. It sucks for the CP who has scant time left over from work that is taken away by the NCP. As far as subsidizing two household goes, what's the big deal about a $500 per child payment? Don't parents think about these things beforehand? They're your kids for gosh sake (just an expression, not you personally). I would give most my income, and do, to my kids. Fortunately I do not have kids from a prior marriage but if I did I would make my payment and expect a payment from my wife's ex. What if I had to make a payment and then got no payment in return??? Again, kids take a ton of time and dedication. They suck the life out of you whether you're a CP or a NCP. Every situation has to be looked at individually. In my case, my wife's ex is addicted to strip clubs and prostitutes, before and after their divorce. He needs to pay, one way or another. I'm making no assumptions about anyone else. Wow. What an attitude. |
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Okay I goofed; I gave two kids the amount of money the CS expects for
one kid. There.... I admit it! But please take into consideration that I did not include a few things: 1) I did not include clothes. 2) I did not include toiletries (you wouldn't believe what teenage girls go through). 3) I only estimated $5/day for food per kid which is kind of low. 4) I did not include school expenses. 5) Do you think your kids do not deserve to see a movie with their friends (at least $10 a pop)? 6) Have you ever thought they might deserve an allowance ($10-50 per week) or you don't believe in that? 7) I'm sure you think this is a luxury but the majority of kids have cell phones and computers these days. Or would you prefer your kids to go without, just because you can't make it? I guess you would. 8) Transportation costs. Either by car or here in the city they need bus fares to go to school. 9) Health insurance the NCP might provide does not pay for everything. Co-pays, deducticles, prescriptions the insurance does not cover, bandades, ointments, and more things that I can not think of right now. You probably don't want to think about these things.... 9) It goes without saying nobody's thinking about saving for college are they???? 10) I'm sure my wife's ex will fork up the money for the marriage ceremony later on... ya right..... In a situation like mine, I never got a response, is it right that my wife's ex pays nothing????? teachrmama wrote: "djohnson" wrote in message ps.com... Gini wrote: "djohnson" wrote ............................... Well as in the Murtari case $120 a week seems reasonable to expect. == Really? That means that 240. a week should be spent on the child given the CP's share. That's about right. We have two kids so that would mean we are paying about $1000/month for them. We are in the city where housing is high everywhere, so $350/month goes to their bedrooms. If they only eat $10/day ($5 each) that adds on $300. I'll take out only $50 for utilities. That leaves $300/month or $10/day or $5/day for each kid beyond just food and lodging. You can nitpick the exact numbers if you want but that's about it. You are paying $1000/month for 2 children. So that's $500/month per child. So then the NCP's share for 1 child would be $250 per month, which would be--let's see--uh--$60 per week. Wow! Mr. Murtari seems to have hit it on the head! |
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"djohnson" wrote in message ups.com... Okay I goofed; I gave two kids the amount of money the CS expects for one kid. There.... I admit it! But please take into consideration that I did not include a few things: 1) I did not include clothes. 2) I did not include toiletries (you wouldn't believe what teenage girls go through). 3) I only estimated $5/day for food per kid which is kind of low. 4) I did not include school expenses. 5) Do you think your kids do not deserve to see a movie with their friends (at least $10 a pop)? 6) Have you ever thought they might deserve an allowance ($10-50 per week) or you don't believe in that? 7) I'm sure you think this is a luxury but the majority of kids have cell phones and computers these days. Or would you prefer your kids to go without, just because you can't make it? I guess you would. 8) Transportation costs. Either by car or here in the city they need bus fares to go to school. 9) Health insurance the NCP might provide does not pay for everything. Co-pays, deducticles, prescriptions the insurance does not cover, bandades, ointments, and more things that I can not think of right now. You probably don't want to think about these things.... 9) It goes without saying nobody's thinking about saving for college are they???? 10) I'm sure my wife's ex will fork up the money for the marriage ceremony later on... ya right..... In a situation like mine, I never got a response, is it right that my wife's ex pays nothing????? I take it you start to get the drift of the thinking, in this newsgroup? teachrmama wrote: "djohnson" wrote in message ps.com... Gini wrote: "djohnson" wrote ............................... Well as in the Murtari case $120 a week seems reasonable to expect. == Really? That means that 240. a week should be spent on the child given the CP's share. That's about right. We have two kids so that would mean we are paying about $1000/month for them. We are in the city where housing is high everywhere, so $350/month goes to their bedrooms. If they only eat $10/day ($5 each) that adds on $300. I'll take out only $50 for utilities. That leaves $300/month or $10/day or $5/day for each kid beyond just food and lodging. You can nitpick the exact numbers if you want but that's about it. You are paying $1000/month for 2 children. So that's $500/month per child. So then the NCP's share for 1 child would be $250 per month, which would be--let's see--uh--$60 per week. Wow! Mr. Murtari seems to have hit it on the head! |
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"djohnson" wrote Okay I goofed; I gave two kids the amount of money the CS expects for one kid. There.... I admit it! But please take into consideration that I did not include a few things: 1) I did not include clothes. 2) I did not include toiletries (you wouldn't believe what teenage girls go through). 3) I only estimated $5/day for food per kid which is kind of low. 4) I did not include school expenses. 5) Do you think your kids do not deserve to see a movie with their friends (at least $10 a pop)? 6) Have you ever thought they might deserve an allowance ($10-50 per week) or you don't believe in that? 7) I'm sure you think this is a luxury but the majority of kids have cell phones and computers these days. Or would you prefer your kids to go without, just because you can't make it? I guess you would. 8) Transportation costs. Either by car or here in the city they need bus fares to go to school. 9) Health insurance the NCP might provide does not pay for everything. Co-pays, deducticles, prescriptions the insurance does not cover, bandades, ointments, and more things that I can not think of right now. You probably don't want to think about these things.... 9) It goes without saying nobody's thinking about saving for college are they???? 10) I'm sure my wife's ex will fork up the money for the marriage ceremony later on... ya right..... == Whoa! Wait a minute--those are not things child support is intended for! You'd have him pay every expense you can dream up, wouldn't you? No damn wonder he works "under the table!" I'm guessing your tune will change when you are the NCP! Anyway, NCPs should not be required to pay any child costs that any other parent is not mandated to pay. Do you realize what would happen if the government began telling CPs and parents in intact relationships that they have to spend 15-20% of their income on their kids and if they don't, they're hauled off to jail? |
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"djohnson" wrote in message oups.com... Gini wrote: "Dusty" wrote "djohnson" wrote Hello, I just discovered this group so I will try to be polite. Interesting question. Morally a biological father must financially provide for his kids. If he doesn't there should be the threat of jail as an incentive. .................... Morality has nothing to do with it when it comes to government. ........................................ == He has posted that he's a second husband. That is the perspective from which he views child support. You know, the ones who think the ex owes them a standard of living and should expose every dime he earns. I agree, and the same should go for the biological father. My income is all exposed to the government unlike my wife's ex who only works under the counter to avoid paying child support. If you were a REAL man, you would take care of your own family WITHOUT attempting to extort money from some poor schmuck! |
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"Moon Shyne" wrote in message ... "Gini" wrote in message news:F6KDg.11684$yE1.729@trndny02... "djohnson" wrote ............................... Well as in the Murtari case $120 a week seems reasonable to expect. == Really? That means that 240. a week should be spent on the child given the CP's share. == Even a minimum wage job would be enough to pay that. == Surely you jest. You didn't think think through very well, did you? You do realize that the NCP must also survive? == Yes the father has to make sacrifices. == Hopefully, leaving the mother to live in leisure? == Do you think I enjoy having to pay $150 in school fees tommorow for my stepkid, == That's pretty steep and appears you are squandering money and living beyond your means. LMAO!! On school fees? Just the fee for the books, alone, is $60 (junior high) and $75 (high school). This fee is required, and not optional. And if the mother lacks such funds? Perhaps we should tell the school, that imposed the fees, that they are squandering money and living beyond their means? The NCP is not responsible for your poor spending habits or your auto repairs. You are living beyond your means By paying his step-child's school fees? and expecting the ex to fund you. Shouldn't the father of the child be helping pay for the support of the child? It appears you haven't a clue how child support is supposed to be used and what it is intended for. == |
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"djohnson" wrote in message ups.com... Dusty wrote: "djohnson" wrote in message oups.com... First of all I take your word for what you are saying. It all sounds reasonable. I just don't have the same analysis. [snipped for brevity] "..how can you expect a woman to pay child support when a woman, say for instance, gets pregnant?" What I expect is that the law be applied equally, not with willy-nilly sexual bias. The courts demand that men who are out of work (for any reason whatsoever) to cough up cash they don't have, why should it be any different for a woman?? Yes it's a bit unfair. It has to do with priorities. If you have to pay $500/month then that's the first thing a NCP should pay and then worry about everything else. That's exactly how our budget is. All kids' expenses come first. With all due respect, what the heck is wrong with you? My guess is that eating needs to come first. If you don't eat, then you can't work; thus you will have ZERO for a budget. Am I missing something here? I'll try to focus on your point more though. I'm saying the NCPs should be jailed if they make no reasonable attempt. Now I know you're going to say how come the CP can make no reasonable attempt? Well actually the CP has other legal threats to deal with, like The Department of Child and Human Services and other legal problems kids can get their parents into. We have to deal with a ton of legal threats that the NCP doesn't have to worry about. I know this thinking is more subjective than what you want. But in reality it balances out. If it balances out, then it follows that the mother would have NO problem letting the father determine custody. Afterall, the positions of CP and NCP are equal......... |
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"Dusty" wrote in message ... "djohnson" wrote in message oups.com... First of all I take your word for what you are saying. It all sounds reasonable. I just don't have the same analysis. [snipped for brevity] "..how can you expect a woman to pay child support when a woman, say for instance, gets pregnant?" What I expect is that the law be applied equally, not with willy-nilly sexual bias. Which is why the gender identities of the litigating parents ought to be concealed. Gee, I wonder why they aren't? The courts demand that men who are out of work (for any reason whatsoever) to cough up cash they don't have, why should it be any different for a woman?? |
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