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In article .com,
wrote: For now we have placed an ad in the local university employment help for part time mother's helper(s), 20 hours a week with the schedule to be determine by the wife. We have also signed up for a 9 week gymboree class so 19 month old can play and so wife can meet other moms with similar age kids. If things don't work out we will try daycare for him, twice a week and go on from there. It sounds like you have come up with several good plans. Please consider updating us when you see how things are working for you. P.S. In my posts I hardly mention the 2 month old and that's not because we are not paying him enough attention...we try to give them both them equal treatment. The 2 month old so far is very easy, just takes the bottle and sleeps most of the time. Don't worry, I don't think anyone thinks you are ignoring the baby! It's only with your second child that you realize just how easy a two-month-old is. ;-) Didn't it seem much harder the first time around? My second child was by far my most difficult infant (he had food allergies that presented as colic and GE reflux), but I'll be the first to say that my firstborn got way more "attention" when his brother was a baby. And he was almost 3yo! Before the baby is mobile, he needs to be held, fed, talked to, rocked, etc. but that is nothing compared to making sure the older child doesn't kill himself, which at that age seems to be a constant goal ;-) Enjoy your boys, Robyn (mom to 3 boys, ages 4, 8, 11) |
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In article . com,
wrote: I think all 5 days is better, myself; little kids don't have a sense of time so much as a sense of routine, and it's easier on them if something happens every day (a predictable interval) than at vague unpredictable intervals like 2 or 3 times a week. (However, I found that out only when my kids taught it to me. It didn't occur to me before. I didn't know any little kids before mine.) We did do the "It's Tuesday! You get to go to school today!" bit. But at 19 months or 36 months or 48 months, 7 day cycles are just plain hard to understand. But you still have a 7-day cycle because the weekend days are different. I don't see an inherent difficulty with learning that Saturday and Sunday and Tuesday and Thursday, for example, are days that they don't go to school. On the other hand, in the preschool we have used, the kids who went all week were in the same classes as the kids who went part-time, and that made my middle son feel that he was missing out on things (even though activities were always planned in such a way that every child got to do them). So, for that child, we went up to 5 days even though we didn't need it for childcare reasons. My youngest, on the other hand, knows that some of the other kids are there when he is not, but doesn't mind staying home on the days when his school is "closed" for him. Certain schedules do work better for different children. For example, some children my do better with alternate days on and off, while mine always seemed to prefer a block of days on, and then a block of days off including the weekend, although this did make going back at the beginning of the next block a bit harder when they were younger. Anyhow, IME, there isn't one schedule that works best for all "little kids". And you probably won't know what will work best for your child until you experiment a bit. --Robyn |
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Robyn Kozierok wrote: But you still have a 7-day cycle because the weekend days are different. I don't see an inherent difficulty with learning that Saturday and Sunday and Tuesday and Thursday, for example, are days that they don't go to school. You're right, the weekend is different. But it's sufficiently different that it feels different, I think. All the parents are home. If you drive past the school, you can see no one's there. (Yes, we did that.) On the other hand, in the preschool we have used, the kids who went all week were in the same classes as the kids who went part-time, and that made my middle son feel that he was missing out on things (even though activities were always planned in such a way that every child got to do them). So, for that child, we went up to 5 days even though we didn't need it for childcare reasons. I rather suspect that's what happened with us, too. It was certainly a factor in our going from half to full days. The kiddo talked us into *trying* it for a week, and then was determined not to go back... My youngest, on the other hand, knows that some of the other kids are there when he is not, but doesn't mind staying home on the days when his school is "closed" for him. Mine didn't mind staying home, exactly -- but they really wanted to be in preschool. Anyhow, IME, there isn't one schedule that works best for all "little kids". And you probably won't know what will work best for your child until you experiment a bit. I'd agree with that. My guys threw out all my preconceptions. Rupa |
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Robyn Kozierok wrote: Certain schedules do work better for different children. For example, some children my do better with alternate days on and off, while mine always seemed to prefer a block of days on, and then a block of days off including the weekend, although this did make going back at the beginning of the next block a bit harder when they were younger. My daughter did better with a block too. I would not have predicted this. She used to be in full time "care" but was by herself with grandma 3 days a week, and at day care 2 days a week. She had a wonderful time playing with other children at day care, but preferred grandma (more personal attention, plus having friends over). Each morning that she was to go to day care, I would tell her in the morning and hear lots of complaining. "I don't want to go to day care!!" Anyway, we switched schedules around fairly frequently based on convenience for grandma and a flexible day care. Day care Tues& Fri, then Mon & Wed, etc. When we switch to two days in a row (I think it was Tues & Wed) the whole complaining about day care thing got much better. I think the schedule became much more predictable to her: You don't go for a long time, then two days, then not for a long time. Even Tuesdays (after 5 days off) weren't a problem. This lasted until she started gaining awareness of the days of the week around the age of 3.5. Once she knew that she went day X and day Y, she would ask us each day "what day is today" and felt like she knew what was going on. Then the pattern of days didn't seem to matter to her any more, just that there was a pattern and she knew what it was. Go figure. Jan PS Her preschool teacher was very impressed that she always knew the day of the week. Seems they talked about "what day is today" each morning. My daughter quizzed me every morning before school and thus could shout out the answer. |
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On Tue, 17 May 2005 18:50:35 EDT, "Anon E. Mouse"
wrote: Many of them have the job because it is *easy*, for god's sake!--easy and it is the only work they can get with practically zero qualifications and almost certain no children of their own. I have no idea where you get the idea that daycare workers believe that this is easy work. It's not easy work at all and many workers burn out after a few years. Many women do take this work *because* they have children of their own and they can take their children to their workplace more easily or for a discounted price for the care. And others take the work because they are unskilled in other areas, but love children. I am sure they could get jobs at McDonald's or other unskilled retail jobs, but this doesn't appeal to them (the pay is comparable). Now, as a matter of fact, most daycares do require some qualifications for those who work in centers and most states have requirements that need to be filled. I have had good aides who were not academically able, but were good with children. These folks did not do well in the junior college classes that they had to take despite the fact that they did very well with the kids. I am not sure that academic requirements are what is necessary for a job like this one. It's more like carpentry where experience and apprenticeship to a good carpenter is better than going to school to *learn* without practicing the skills. -- Dorothy There is no sound, no cry in all the world that can be heard unless someone listens .. The Outer Limits |
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