help me keep my son from perpetuating the cycle of abuse (very long)

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Tiffany wrote:

Why is one need to be worse then the other?

YOU are the one who just said that what I was doing was worse.

Why does there have to be fault?

Again, YOU blamed ME, as usual.

I didn't say you abuse Paul, but again, you are only reading
what you want.

Yes you did. You said I name called by pointing out that he is a woman
abuser, and you equated that to him calling me a bitch, which I of course
think is not the same thing.

Why not answer my question on why you let this become
abuse?

It's not within my control to let it become anything, it is HIS
responsibility and HIS intention to make it so. It is HIS campaign of
hatred targeted at me and his fixation on me which is clear by his
specific
name calling of me "Looney Lorain" and how he has dug up peterd's old name
calling of me "maroon" to continue that legacy of hate and how he uses my
women's studies education against me and my feminist ideals against me,
anything pertaining to anything womanly about me in particular not to the
other women on this newsgroup but only on me. That is abuse.


Look, Lorian... you are letting his words have power. Ignore him. What you
are doing though, is making what he says have value to you. Look at it this
way, if he did to ME what he does to you, I'd tell him to **** off, tell him
he's a quack and leave it at that. If he continued to be abusive, I'd
ignore him because NOTHING I CAN DO WILL CHANGE WHAT HE DOES... only I can
change my reaction to him. So please, for yourself, and others who post
here, don't give him that power.


Why do you read posts or take it to heart when you don't even
know these people?

Would you say that about the positive posts on here? No? Then why would
you
say it about the negative ones?


Good point, but only you can chose what has value here...

Christine