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Does anybody have any useful advice on how to collect a child
teachrmama wrote: wrote in message ... On Nov 15, 8:56 pm, Sarah Gray wrote: snip Actually, I am not particularly well off. When we go to the movies, it is only once in a while, and usually to the dollar show. I just don't think the government should be mandating "extras"; the parents in intact families are not put in jail for not buying their kids ipods. Kids don't need lots of stuff to be happy. Kids need love, understanding and (an appropriate degree of) respect. -- Sarah Gray- Hide quoted text - - Show quoted text - Going to the movies is not something you need in order to survive. It is more practical, and cose efficent to wait for the movie to come out on DVD. $3.50 to watch a movie as many times as you want for 5 days, or $9.50 a ticket to watch a movie one time in a theater with a bunch of people you don't even know. I see now why you want your ex to "help support" your daughter. Geesh, Leda, she said she went to the dollar show. And not very often. I am sorry, but if you are saying that you need money from your ex, you should not be going to the movies, or even have the internet. Live within your means and then you won't need to depend on him for suport. She said that, now that the dad has moved out of state, he does not have the daughter half the time, and she is going to have to pay for child care. She would like the dad to contribute for the child's needs, because that will help her pay for thye now-necessary child care. I though you were of the opinion that fathers should provide for their children? Did you change your mind No I haven't. I just think that the CP needs to live within the means they have. |
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wrote in message ... teachrmama wrote: wrote in message ... On Nov 15, 8:56 pm, Sarah Gray wrote: snip Actually, I am not particularly well off. When we go to the movies, it is only once in a while, and usually to the dollar show. I just don't think the government should be mandating "extras"; the parents in intact families are not put in jail for not buying their kids ipods. Kids don't need lots of stuff to be happy. Kids need love, understanding and (an appropriate degree of) respect. -- Sarah Gray- Hide quoted text - - Show quoted text - Going to the movies is not something you need in order to survive. It is more practical, and cose efficent to wait for the movie to come out on DVD. $3.50 to watch a movie as many times as you want for 5 days, or $9.50 a ticket to watch a movie one time in a theater with a bunch of people you don't even know. I see now why you want your ex to "help support" your daughter. Geesh, Leda, she said she went to the dollar show. And not very often. I am sorry, but if you are saying that you need money from your ex, you should not be going to the movies, or even have the internet. Live within your means and then you won't need to depend on him for suport. She said that, now that the dad has moved out of state, he does not have the daughter half the time, and she is going to have to pay for child care. She would like the dad to contribute for the child's needs, because that will help her pay for thye now-necessary child care. I though you were of the opinion that fathers should provide for their children? Did you change your mind No I haven't. I just think that the CP needs to live within the means they have. She is living in within the means she has. You seem to be talking from both directions. The father is not demonstrating any responsibility, having walked away from their 50/50 shared parenting plan. Sarah is managing with what she has, but would also like a bit of help from the dad to cover new expenses created by his walking away, such as child care. What other suggestions do you have for her? |
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"Bob Whiteside" wrote in
: "Sarah Gray" wrote in message . 17.102... "Bob Whiteside" wrote in : "Sarah Gray" wrote in message . 33.102... wrote in Going to the movies is not something you need in order to survive. It is more practical, and cose efficent to wait for the movie to come out on DVD. $3.50 to watch a movie as many times as you want for 5 days, or $9.50 a ticket to watch a movie one time in a theater with a bunch of people you don't even know. I see now why you want your ex to "help support" your daughter. I am sorry, but if you are saying that you need money from your ex, you should not be going to the movies, or even have the internet. Live within your means and then you won't need to depend on him for suport. I live within my means. I don't see how spending three dollars on two movie tickets every few months should negate my ex-husband's responsibility towards his daughter... I am not asking for him to pay for extras! If he was taking care of his responsibilities to his daughter, maybe I wouldn't have to put off seeing movies until they were already on DVD, but playing at the dollar show. At our court date on Tuesday, I found out that he was "laid off" three weeks ago. (Of course, it was a coincidence that that happened right after he got the paperwork from the court) So right now, he's not supporting her at all, not even the 70 dollars a month or so that he had been.... I am just amazed at the number of mothers who believe a child's father being laid off from his job is somehow the manipulation of the father. Lay-offs are employer decisions, not father decisions. He was "laid off" a week after he threatened to quit his job to come up here and "keep dragging me in to court" with the intention of *me* losing *my* job over it. He claims he moved down there because jobs are plentiful, but he has been out of work for nearly a month? I don't buy that. Maybe he wasn't laid off. Maybe he just quit. Or maybe he is still working but telling you he was laid off. If the father is as flakey as you have described, why are you taking his statement about being laid off at face value without verifying it? I have no way of verifiying it, other than the fact that I have not recieved child support monies this month. (Automatic deductions from paycheck). For what it's worth, he told the referee he had been laid off, and I don't think he's together enough to find work without it getting garnished... |
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On Dec 9, 10:08 pm, "teachrmama" wrote:
wrote in message ... teachrmama wrote: wrote in message ... On Nov 15, 8:56 pm, Sarah Gray wrote: snip Actually, I am not particularly well off. When we go to the movies, it is only once in a while, and usually to the dollar show. I just don't think the government should be mandating "extras"; the parents in intact families are not put in jail for not buying their kids ipods. Kids don't need lots of stuff to be happy. Kids need love, understanding and (an appropriate degree of) respect. -- Sarah Gray- Hide quoted text - - Show quoted text - Going to the movies is not something you need in order to survive. It is more practical, and cose efficent to wait for the movie to come out on DVD. $3.50 to watch a movie as many times as you want for 5 days, or $9.50 a ticket to watch a movie one time in a theater with a bunch of people you don't even know. I see now why you want your ex to "help support" your daughter. Geesh, Leda, she said she went to the dollar show. And not very often. I am sorry, but if you are saying that you need money from your ex, you should not be going to the movies, or even have the internet. Live within your means and then you won't need to depend on him for suport. She said that, now that the dad has moved out of state, he does not have the daughter half the time, and she is going to have to pay for child care. She would like the dad to contribute for the child's needs, because that will help her pay for thye now-necessary child care. I though you were of the opinion that fathers should provide for their children? Did you change your mind No I haven't. I just think that the CP needs to live within the means they have. She is living in within the means she has. You seem to be talking from both directions. The father is not demonstrating any responsibility, having walked away from their 50/50 shared parenting plan. Sarah is managing with what she has, but would also like a bit of help from the dad to cover new expenses created by his walking away, such as child care. What other suggestions do you have for her?- Hide quoted text - - Show quoted text - Make oneself more employable, or get a second job. Sometimes the only way to get something is by the sweat of ones own brow. That's why the government implemented child support. Sara's ex is just one of many that walk away from thier responsibilities to the children they have a 50/50 cocreateation and responsibility of. It proves my point that there is a reason the CS system exists. For all of the fathers that do want to do right, there are men like Sarah's ex. |
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On Dec 10, 1:22 am, Sarah Gray wrote:
wrote : teachrmama wrote: wrote in message news:3574ed2e-87e9-4e85-ac3a-1f056953c1c1 @j20g2000hsi.googlegroups.com ... On Nov 15, 8:56 pm, Sarah Gray wrote: snip Actually, I am not particularly well off. When we go to the movies, it is only once in a while, and usually to the dollar show. I just don't think the government should be mandating "extras"; the parents in intact families are not put in jail for not buying their kids ipods. Kids don't need lots of stuff to be happy. Kids need love, understanding and (an appropriate degree of) respect. -- Sarah Gray- Hide quoted text - - Show quoted text - Going to the movies is not something you need in order to survive. It is more practical, and cose efficent to wait for the movie to come out on DVD. $3.50 to watch a movie as many times as you want for 5 days, or $9.50 a ticket to watch a movie one time in a theater with a bunch of people you don't even know. I see now why you want your ex to "help support" your daughter. Geesh, Leda, she said she went to the dollar show. And not very often. I am sorry, but if you are saying that you need money from your ex, you should not be going to the movies, or even have the internet. Live within your means and then you won't need to depend on him for suport. She said that, now that the dad has moved out of state, he does not have the daughter half the time, and she is going to have to pay for child care. She would like the dad to contribute for the child's needs, because that will help her pay for thye now-necessary child care. I though you were of the opinion that fathers should provide for their children? Did you change your mind No I haven't. I just think that the CP needs to live within the means they have. But if "the means I have" is cut into by having to take care of *all* of our child's expenses, should that mean my daughter should go without and *only* have bare-bones basic everything because I don't make enough money to cover both of her parent's shares of her expenses, *and* have enough for extras?- Hide quoted text - - Show quoted text - Sometimes it's a struggle to do what you have to do. My husband and I ate dry potatoe's every night for a bit over three months, no furinature in our apartment, and no television-all so that my stepdaughter did not go without. The ex was going to school full time, and working full time, and we were not going to let her not advance her education and work two full time jobs. That would have been easy, but in the long run, more expensive. Finally my husband was able to better employ himself, and now we struggle, but not near as bad as before. The ex is well employed because she has her credentials, and she owes them to us. |
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wrote in message ... On Dec 9, 10:08 pm, "teachrmama" wrote: wrote in message ... teachrmama wrote: wrote in message ... On Nov 15, 8:56 pm, Sarah Gray wrote: snip Actually, I am not particularly well off. When we go to the movies, it is only once in a while, and usually to the dollar show. I just don't think the government should be mandating "extras"; the parents in intact families are not put in jail for not buying their kids ipods. Kids don't need lots of stuff to be happy. Kids need love, understanding and (an appropriate degree of) respect. -- Sarah Gray- Hide quoted text - - Show quoted text - Going to the movies is not something you need in order to survive. It is more practical, and cose efficent to wait for the movie to come out on DVD. $3.50 to watch a movie as many times as you want for 5 days, or $9.50 a ticket to watch a movie one time in a theater with a bunch of people you don't even know. I see now why you want your ex to "help support" your daughter. Geesh, Leda, she said she went to the dollar show. And not very often. I am sorry, but if you are saying that you need money from your ex, you should not be going to the movies, or even have the internet. Live within your means and then you won't need to depend on him for suport. She said that, now that the dad has moved out of state, he does not have the daughter half the time, and she is going to have to pay for child care. She would like the dad to contribute for the child's needs, because that will help her pay for thye now-necessary child care. I though you were of the opinion that fathers should provide for their children? Did you change your mind No I haven't. I just think that the CP needs to live within the means they have. She is living in within the means she has. You seem to be talking from both directions. The father is not demonstrating any responsibility, having walked away from their 50/50 shared parenting plan. Sarah is managing with what she has, but would also like a bit of help from the dad to cover new expenses created by his walking away, such as child care. What other suggestions do you have for her?- Hide quoted text - - Show quoted text - Make oneself more employable, or get a second job. Sometimes the only way to get something is by the sweat of ones own brow. That's why the government implemented child support. Sara's ex is just one of many that walk away from thier responsibilities to the children they have a 50/50 cocreateation and responsibility of. It proves my point that there is a reason the CS system exists. For all of the fathers that do want to do right, there are men like Sarah's ex. So let the system deal with those who refuse to take on their own responsibilities--and leave the rest alone. I have no idea why you have chosen to be so hard on Sarah who, from what she has written here, is working very hard to do what is right by her child, and is asking for a minimal amount of help. She has stated that her job has great advancement potential, and that she is very fortunate to have such a job, so she IS becoming more employable just by working there. That is far, far better than some of the CPs who come through, complaining endlessly about how much they are "owed" for simply being parents to their children. |
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wrote in message ... On Dec 10, 1:22 am, Sarah Gray wrote: wrote : teachrmama wrote: wrote in message news:3574ed2e-87e9-4e85-ac3a-1f056953c1c1 @j20g2000hsi.googlegroups.com ... On Nov 15, 8:56 pm, Sarah Gray wrote: snip Actually, I am not particularly well off. When we go to the movies, it is only once in a while, and usually to the dollar show. I just don't think the government should be mandating "extras"; the parents in intact families are not put in jail for not buying their kids ipods. Kids don't need lots of stuff to be happy. Kids need love, understanding and (an appropriate degree of) respect. -- Sarah Gray- Hide quoted text - - Show quoted text - Going to the movies is not something you need in order to survive. It is more practical, and cose efficent to wait for the movie to come out on DVD. $3.50 to watch a movie as many times as you want for 5 days, or $9.50 a ticket to watch a movie one time in a theater with a bunch of people you don't even know. I see now why you want your ex to "help support" your daughter. Geesh, Leda, she said she went to the dollar show. And not very often. I am sorry, but if you are saying that you need money from your ex, you should not be going to the movies, or even have the internet. Live within your means and then you won't need to depend on him for suport. She said that, now that the dad has moved out of state, he does not have the daughter half the time, and she is going to have to pay for child care. She would like the dad to contribute for the child's needs, because that will help her pay for thye now-necessary child care. I though you were of the opinion that fathers should provide for their children? Did you change your mind No I haven't. I just think that the CP needs to live within the means they have. But if "the means I have" is cut into by having to take care of *all* of our child's expenses, should that mean my daughter should go without and *only* have bare-bones basic everything because I don't make enough money to cover both of her parent's shares of her expenses, *and* have enough for extras?- Hide quoted text - - Show quoted text - Sometimes it's a struggle to do what you have to do. My husband and I ate dry potatoe's every night for a bit over three months, no furinature in our apartment, and no television-all so that my stepdaughter did not go without. The ex was going to school full time, and working full time, and we were not going to let her not advance her education and work two full time jobs. That would have been easy, but in the long run, more expensive. Finally my husband was able to better employ himself, and now we struggle, but not near as bad as before. The ex is well employed because she has her credentials, and she owes them to us. And if she decides to be a b*tch, it will not matter that you made it possible for her to have great employment, because the CS system does not see it that way. She can decide to work part time as a waitress, and guess who the system will decide needs to take up the slack--whether it puts you back on dry potatoes or not. It's good that things are working out well in your case--but they do not always work out so well. |
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On Dec 10, 9:19 am, "teachrmama" wrote:
wrote in message ... On Dec 9, 10:08 pm, "teachrmama" wrote: wrote in message ... teachrmama wrote: wrote in message ... On Nov 15, 8:56 pm, Sarah Gray wrote: snip Actually, I am not particularly well off. When we go to the movies, it is only once in a while, and usually to the dollar show. I just don't think the government should be mandating "extras"; the parents in intact families are not put in jail for not buying their kids ipods. Kids don't need lots of stuff to be happy. Kids need love, understanding and (an appropriate degree of) respect. -- Sarah Gray- Hide quoted text - - Show quoted text - Going to the movies is not something you need in order to survive. It is more practical, and cose efficent to wait for the movie to come out on DVD. $3.50 to watch a movie as many times as you want for 5 days, or $9.50 a ticket to watch a movie one time in a theater with a bunch of people you don't even know. I see now why you want your ex to "help support" your daughter. Geesh, Leda, she said she went to the dollar show. And not very often. I am sorry, but if you are saying that you need money from your ex, you should not be going to the movies, or even have the internet. Live within your means and then you won't need to depend on him for suport. She said that, now that the dad has moved out of state, he does not have the daughter half the time, and she is going to have to pay for child care. She would like the dad to contribute for the child's needs, because that will help her pay for thye now-necessary child care. I though you were of the opinion that fathers should provide for their children? Did you change your mind No I haven't. I just think that the CP needs to live within the means they have. She is living in within the means she has. You seem to be talking from both directions. The father is not demonstrating any responsibility, having walked away from their 50/50 shared parenting plan. Sarah is managing with what she has, but would also like a bit of help from the dad to cover new expenses created by his walking away, such as child care. What other suggestions do you have for her?- Hide quoted text - - Show quoted text - Make oneself more employable, or get a second job. Sometimes the only way to get something is by the sweat of ones own brow. That's why the government implemented child support. Sara's ex is just one of many that walk away from thier responsibilities to the children they have a 50/50 cocreateation and responsibility of. It proves my point that there is a reason the CS system exists. For all of the fathers that do want to do right, there are men like Sarah's ex. So let the system deal with those who refuse to take on their own responsibilities--and leave the rest alone. I have no idea why you have chosen to be so hard on Sarah who, from what she has written here, is working very hard to do what is right by her child, and is asking for a minimal amount of help. She has stated that her job has great advancement potential, and that she is very fortunate to have such a job, so she IS becoming more employable just by working there. That is far, far better than some of the CPs who come through, complaining endlessly about how much they are "owed" for simply being parents to their children.- Hide quoted text - - Show quoted text - She has stated that her job has great advancement potential, and that she is very fortunate to have such a job, so she IS becoming more employable just by working there. That is far, far better than some of the CPs who come through, complaining endlessly about how much they are "owed" for simply being parents to their children.- I don't see where she is not complaining about the cost of raising the child, or the fact that the ex left the state. She has a recourse-she can allow her child to live with the ex and his parents until she has advanced in her job and is able to offord the essintals, and the *extras*. |
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