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Paul Fritz wrote in message ... "lm" wrote in message ... On Tue, 17 Feb 2004 18:58:17 -0500 (EST), (Bebe lestrnge) wrote: Hello, way long sorry..... Group: alt.support.single-parents Date: Tue, Feb 17, 2004, 2:27pm (EST+5) From: (lm) It's not too late for the baby to be given up for adoption. lm You are not serious right? Is any of what I am saying making any sense. I will not ever have my own family abandoned, to be part of another family like that,,,,,why? I have made it clear I am not built that way, it is not what my father taught me and that is that. My daughter does not want that and she is doing a fine job and that is the way it is . Oh and Yes should she ever decide she can't be a good mom then yes I will indeed raise my geanddaughter. In a heartbeat ........ I understand your choice and I'll not mention it again as you've made your choice clear. However, your comments on adoption (in several of your posts) compel me to point out that giving up a child for adoption is not equivalent to abandoning it; it is probably the most selfless decision someone could possibly make. lm It is quite evident that this baby is all about the grandmother's wants and needs, and NOT what is truely in the best interests of the baby, or it's mother. Its sometimes hard for a grandparent to see a grandbaby go to another family. Especially of they have none. This women already has a few. My mother was insistent that my baby not be given up, that she would help tons, ect. But she did make it clear she wasn't going to raise another child. She has been a great help but now she is older and ill. Had she at that point decided to take on a baby, she would be having a very hard time at it now. Actually, she couldn't physically do it. I have seen this happen with many grandparents who take care of grandkids. The kids suffer in the end as the are not able to live a normal kids life full of activity and fun. T |
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"V" wrote in message ... "Paul Fritz" wrote in message ... "V" wrote in message ... "Paul Fritz" wrote in message ... Child support is the guvmint mandating what ONE parent spends on their child, without ANY accounting of how that money is spent by the other parent. It further sets a different for NCP's vs. ALL other types of parents. It is patently unconstitutional, Then why did the Appellate Court of Florida rule in Bennett v. Bennett? And that has what bearing on the other 49 states?......whatever the decision was. Usually other states follow other states in these types of decisions. A factor in child support, which occurs in all states. No, State Court opinions hod almost no value in other state courts unless they have been challenged in Fed. court and upheld. but since it is so PC, it is allowed to continue. It has also further eroded the stability of marriage in this country, as well as encourages out of wedlock births. You can not blame out of marriage births on child support. Wanna bet? Sure. How can it erode the stability of marriage? States that have instituted a default joint physical custody have experienced a drop in the significant drop in the divorce rate. Combined with the fact that 70-80% of divorces are the initiated by women. When mom doesn't get automatic custody and CS, the divorce rate drops. And what percentage is because of the male's infidelity? Low, as is for abuse. The number one reason is women wanting to 'find themselves' or wanting to move on etc. Lies, More lies and statistics..... The new significant drop has been how long? Other factors should be correlated with the drop. A tremendous drop can not be determined without much more study. Was it a covenant marriage state? What were the other things that would have assisted in the big drop? No. Assuming one parent can leave and live off 33% of the other parents salary? It allows women to escape financial responsibility for their sole and unilateral choices. Most single mothers work and I find that it appauling that you generalize women and state that they are eluding responsibility. Women have the AAA unilateral choices. They can abort, adopt, or abandon without the approval or consent of the father. Yet they are NOT solely financially responsible for those sole and unilateral choices they make. There is no generalizations.....just a statement of FACT. We do have choices , we ahem, women.... You sound like you have been burnt seriously and these "unilateral triple choices" you speak of are a sore spot. Do not generalize women like this and I won't consider my run in with you as a predetermination that all men are asswipes. YAWN.....in other words you cannot refute the FACT that women have sole and unilateral choices that they are not soley financially responsible for. And ASSuming anything about me will just make you look foolish It irks me when people so blindly accept it as 'the way it should be' It irks me when people take what is best for the children and twist it to appear like the non custodial parent is going without to support some gold diggin' biatch or bassard that he or she injected sperm or casted out an egg for. Come on. Do you really believe this is how it truly is? You just don't get it do you? V Obviously you don't get "it" either. Literally! I am done with you. YAWN......if you can't take the heat...................... V |
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'Kate wrote in message ... On Tue, 17 Feb 2004 23:04:31 -0500, "Paul Fritz" "V" wrote in message ... "Paul Fritz" wrote in message ... Child support is the guvmint mandating what ONE parent spends on their child, without ANY accounting of how that money is spent by the other parent. It further sets a different for NCP's vs. ALL other types of parents. It is patently unconstitutional, Then why did the Appellate Court of Florida rule in Bennett v. Bennett? And that has what bearing on the other 49 states?......whatever the decision was. but since it is so PC, it is allowed to continue. It has also further eroded the stability of marriage in this country, as well as encourages out of wedlock births. You can not blame out of marriage births on child support. Wanna bet? How can it erode the stability of marriage? States that have instituted a default joint physical custody have experienced a drop in the significant drop in the divorce rate. Combined with the fact that 70-80% of divorces are the initiated by women. When mom doesn't get automatic custody and CS, the divorce rate drops. Assuming one parent can leave and live off 33% of the other parents salary? It allows women to escape financial responsibility for their sole and unilateral choices. Most single mothers work and I find that it appauling that you generalize women and state that they are eluding responsibility. Women have the AAA unilateral choices. They can abort, adopt, or abandon without the approval or consent of the father. Yet they are NOT solely financially responsible for those sole and unilateral choices they make. There is no generalizations.....just a statement of FACT. It irks me when people so blindly accept it as 'the way it should be' It irks me when people take what is best for the children and twist it to appear like the non custodial parent is going without to support some gold diggin' biatch or bassard that he or she injected sperm or casted out an egg for. Come on. Do you really believe this is how it truly is? You just don't get it do you? Oh boo hoo. Life sucks. Then you pick yourself up, get over it, and move on. Staying stuck in the same old pit that has neither increased or decreased will get you nowhere. The pit keeps increasing, just the majority of those not in IT turn a blind eye until they fall in IT themsleves......which of course is too late. The Anti-Father Police State by Stephen Baskerville Columnist Cathy Young is known for her even-handed attempts to cut through the pretensions of both the left and right. She has also shown considerable courage by delving into what for many journalists is a no-go zone: divorce and fathers' rights. So it is a little awkward to find myself cast as one of her combatants, with my own views and others' whom I typify characterized as "extreme." In the December issue of Reason magazine, Young sorts out, with her customary balance, a debate between proponents of Clinton-Bush family engineering schemes and those of us who take a more laissez-faire attitude toward government intervention in family life. Actually, it is not my positions that are extreme but my "rhetoric" - specifically, the words I use to describe how government is systematically destroying families and fathers. "Political speech and writing are largely the defense of the indefensible," wrote George Orwell. "Thus political language has to consist largely of euphemism." If my language seems direct, it may be because euphemism currently obfuscates the most indefensible politics of our time. That a writer as informed and astute as Young has difficulty grasping the larger trend at work here validates Orwell's observation about the power of language. Clichés about "divorce" and "custody" do not begin to convey the civil liberties disaster taking place. We are facing questions of who has primary authority over children, their parents or the state, and whether the state's penal apparatus can seize control over both the children and the private lives of citizens who have done nothing wrong. Rephrased, the question is, Is there any private sphere of life that remains off-limits to state intervention? Bryce Christensen of Southern Utah University (and not a fathers' rights activist, extreme or otherwise) has characterized fatherhood policies as creating a "police state." Developments in only the last few days amount to government admissions of Christensen's charge. Under pressure from the American Civil Liberties Union (ACLU), a Montgomery County, Pennsylvania, judge has just freed some 100 prisoners who had been incarcerated without due process for allegedly failing to pay child support. The fathers were sentenced with no notice given of their hearings and no opportunity to obtain legal representation. Fathers relate that hearings typically last between 30 seconds and two minutes, during which they are sentenced to months in prison. ACLU lawyer Malia Brink says courts across Pennsylvania routinely jail such men for civil contempt without proper notice or in time for them to get lawyers. Lawrence County was apparently jailing fathers with no hearings at all. Nothing indicates that Pennsylvania is unusual. After a decade of hysteria over "deadbeat dads," one hundred such prisoners in each of the America's 3,500 counties is by no means unlikely. Also last week, a federal appeals court finally ruled unconstitutional the Elizabeth Morgan Act, a textbook bill of attainder whereby Congress legislatively separated father and child and "branded" as "a criminal child abuser" a father against whom no evidence was ever presented. "Congress violated the constitutional prohibition against bills of attainder by singling out plaintiff for legislative punishment," the court said. The very fact that a bill of attainder was used at all indicates something truly extreme is taking place. Bills of attainder are rare, draconian measures used for one purpose: to convict politically those who cannot be convicted with evidence. So do these decisions demonstrate that justice eventually prevails? Hardly. In both cases, the damage is done. Foretich's daughter has been irreparably robbed of her childhood and estranged from her father. Moreover, millions of fathers continue to be permanently separated from their children and presumed guilty, even when no evidence exists against them. The Pennsylvania men will fare worse. For many, the incarceration has already cost them their jobs and thus their ability to pay future child support. As a result, they will be returned to the penal system, from which they are unlikely ever to escape. Permanently insolvent, they are farmed out to trash companies and similar concerns, where they work 14-16 hour days. Most of their earnings are confiscated for child support, the costs of their incarceration, and mandatory drug testing. This gulag recalls the description of the Soviet forced-labor system, described by Carl Friedrich and Zbigniew Brzezinski in their classic study of totalitarianism: "Not infrequently the secret police hired out its prisoners to local agencies for the purpose of carrying out some local project.. Elaborate contracts were drawn up.specifying all the details and setting the rates at which the secret police is to be paid. At the conclusion of their task, the prisoners, or more correctly the slaves, were returned to the custody of the secret police." New repressive measures against fathers are enacted almost daily. Last week, Staten Island joined a nationwide trend when it opened a new "integrated domestic violence court." The purpose of these courts, says Chief Judge Judith Kaye, is not to dispense justice as such but to "make batterers and abusers take responsibility for their actions." In other words, to declare men guilty. Anyone who doubts this need only look to Canada, where domestic violence courts are already empowered to seize the property, including the homes, of men accused of domestic violence, even though they are not necessarily convicted or even formally charged. Moreover, they may do so "ex parte," without the men being present to defend themselves. "This bill is classic police-state legislation," writes Robert Martin, of the University of Western Ontario. Walter Fox, a Toronto lawyer, describes these courts as "pre-fascist," and editor Dave Brown writes in the Ottawa Citizen, "Domestic violence courts.are designed to get around the protections of the Criminal Code. The burden of proof is reduced or removed, and there's no presumption of innocence." Special courts to try special crimes that can only be committed by certain people are a familiar device totalitarian regimes adopted to replace established standards of justice with ideological justice. New courts created during the French Revolution led to the Reign of Terror and were consciously imitated in the Soviet Union. In Hitler's dreaded Volksgerichte or "people's courts," write Friedrich and Brzezinski, "only expediency in terms of National Socialist standards served as a basis for judgment." Even more astounding, legislation announced in Britain will require the police to consider fathers guilty of domestic violence, even after they have been acquitted in court. Fathers found "not guilty" are to be kept away from their children and treated as if they are guilty. As Melanie Phillips writes in the Daily Mail, "This measure will destroy the very concept of innocence itself." These are only the most recent developments. Young herself has written eloquently on the practice of extracting coerced confessions from fathers like Massachusetts minister Harry Stewart. In Warren County, Pennsylvania, fathers like Robert Pessia are told they will be jailed unless they sign confessions stating, "I have physically and emotionally battered my partner." The father must then describe the violence, even if he insists he committed none. The documents require him to state, "I am responsible for the violence I used. My behavior was not provoked." Again, the words of Friedrich and Brzezinski are apposite: "Confessions are the key to this psychic coercion. The inmate is subjected to a constant barrage of propaganda and ever-repeated demands that he 'confess his sins,' that he 'admit his shame.'" G.K. Chesterton argued that the most enduring check on government tyranny is the family. Ideological correctness notwithstanding, little imagination is required to comprehend that the household member most likely to defend the family against the state is the father. Yet as Margaret Mead once pointed out, the father is also the family's weakest link. The easiest and surest way to destroy the family, therefore, is to remove the father. Is it extreme to wonder if government is quietly engaged in a search-and-destroy operation against the principal obstacle to the expansion of its power? December 23, 2003 Stephen Baskerville, Ph.D., [send him mail], teaches political science at Howard University. Copyright © 2003 Stephen Baskerville 'Kate |
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'Kate wrote in message ... snip for brevity: applied to the Family Therapy professional psych program. I want to know what it takes to build stronger families so that they won't become a statistic. snip 'Kate Kate: I did not know that! Well wishes and I hope you get in! Keep us posted. V |
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'Kate wrote in message ... On Wed, 18 Feb 2004 11:54:23 -0500, "P.Fritz" The pit keeps increasing, just the majority of those not in IT turn a blind eye until they fall in IT themsleves......which of course is too late. So you can keep reading the type of articles that inflame you or you can do something about it, something that is real. The reaction that you've received here is, by and large, an understanding of the issues. We know what is going on. The assumption of the number of people affected is a common bias. ?????????...............It goes much further than just NCP fathers BTW The facts you are posting are confounded in that way and in many others. My bottom line is that you can post whatever you want but it's affect on you concerns me. I'd like to see you move past this and be happy, content, and feel like you've done something tangible about the state of families in the US. Now who is making assumptions? That, BTW, is one of the reasons why I applied to the Family Therapy professional psych program. I want to know what it takes to build stronger families so that they won't become a statistic. Improve the lives of families, improve marital relationships, and divorce will not happen. That's the real issue. 'Kate |
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Hello, way long sorry.....
"V" wrote in message ... "Bebe lestrnge" wrote in message ... Hello, way long sorry..... Group: alt.support.single-parents Date: Tue, Feb 17, 2004, 7:19am From: (Paul Fritz) "Bebe lestrnge" wrote in message ... Hello, way long sorry..... Group: alt.support.single-parents Date: Mon, Feb 16, 2004, 4:33pm From: (P.Fritz) Paul wrote: Nope, you just don't want to hear opiniions that you don't agree with. Well so what, do I have to agree with your opinion ? I don't agree .....Oh Well . Paul wrote: Did you read the enabling drivel before you posted it? Yep I did and you sit around and wonder why she is in the situation that she is? Nope I don't You are dooming her and your grandchild to repeat the same cycle. How ? You are how old and making 22k a year. Well I am a 42 year old woman no college education . I cook for 6o elderly folks in a small nursing home in Pennsylvania. 22k isn't too shabby for no education. But I am a damn good cook ! You have a live in 'partner' Some role model Yes I have a live in partner.......... should I be ashamed that we are not married? Well the guvment denies me that right Or is it that I am a lesbian Paul? V wrote: Well if you are, I am glad gays and lesbians are allowed to get married. In the 50's it was interracial marriages or marriage with "foriegners" were taboo and it is accepted now. Apples and oranges. I am thinking it will lower insurance premiums for family coverage because there will be more in my pool. My aunt did not marry her live in partner, who is a male, because she would lose some type of social security benefits. I think people personally should not cohabitate, for reasons such as the low committment level, persons in and out of the home, possibly hurting the child....monetary reasons, etc. but if it is a loving long term relationship, that is a bit different. Just my two cents. snip the rest for brevity |
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'Kate wrote in message ... On Wed, 18 Feb 2004 11:54:23 -0500, "P.Fritz" The pit keeps increasing, just the majority of those not in IT turn a blind eye until they fall in IT themsleves......which of course is too late. So you can keep reading the type of articles that inflame you or you can do something about it, something that is real. The reaction that you've received here is, by and large, an understanding of the issues. We know what is going on. The assumption of the number of people affected is a common bias. The facts you are posting are confounded in that way and in many others. And the pit gets deeper Child-support claim of daughter, now 21, reaches back to birth February 17, 2004, 7:38 PM GRAND RAPIDS, Mich. (AP) -- The Michigan Court of Appeals has upheld a lower court's ruling that a local pharmacist owes a lump-sum child-support payment to a 21-year-old daughter he never has met and, until a little more than five years ago, did not know he had fathered. A Grand Rapids lawyer representing the father, Kent Balliet, said her client could end up owing the woman more than $100,000. "This is going to turn paternity cases on their heads," attorney Amy Rademaker said. Balliet, 41, said his daughter, Heather Clough, resulted from a brief college fling in spring 1982. He said he did not know she was his child until her maternal grandparents, who also are her legal guardians, sued him from Florida in August 1998. "I can't even tell you the color of her eyes," Balliet told The Grand Rapids Press for a story published Tuesday. He lives near Bailey, a hamlet about 23 miles northwest of Grand Rapids. After a blood test confirmed that he was her biological father, Balliet made weekly child-support payments of $200 to $250 until Clough graduated from Fort Myers (Fla.) North High School in 2001. Then, Clough turned 18 and sued Balliet on her own, claiming that he owed her support dating to the day of her birth in January 1983. Last week, the state appeals court affirmed a decision by Kent County Circuit Judge Paul Sullivan in favor of the daughter's claim. The issue of how much money Balliet must pay Clough probably will be determined at a hearing in Kent County Family Court. "Now, a mom can say, "I'm not going to deal with dad, with parenting time or any other of those troubling issues until my kid turns 18,' and she can file a lawsuit for the total amount in bulk," Rademaker said. "It will plunge unsuspecting men into debt. This is a crushing blow because of what it means statewide. It's huge." The law usually does not allow responsibility for child support to go on forever, said Kristine Mullendore, an associate professor of legal studies at Grand Valley State University and a former assistant Kent County prosecutor. Under paternity laws, the statute of limitations generally caps claims at 6 years. But the window of opportunity for the daughter to make her claim as a new adult was one year after turning 18, which Clough met, according to the Court of Appeals. The daughter said she is not interested in setting a legal precedent. "I'd much rather have had a relationship with my father, but sometimes it can't be that way," said Clough, who now lives in a Fort Myers duplex near her grandparents' home. "I've never seen him, not even a picture of him." She was raised by grandparents Larry and Suzane Clough from age 5, when her mother was declared mentally disabled. Becky Sue Clough was diagnosed with schizophrenia and made a ward of her parents, her daughter said. Heather Clough said she discovered her father's address on the Internet four years ago and briefly exchanged e-mail messages with him. She said it appeared for a time he was interested in meeting her. Then Balliet wrote her to say their conversations had been a mistake, she said. That was when her grandparents filed for child support. "I have a father who didn't want anything to do with me," Clough said. "My mother had told me that's how it was, but I had my family who loved me. I'm not a bitter person. Life is too short." My bottom line is that you can post whatever you want but it's affect on you concerns me. I'd like to see you move past this and be happy, content, and feel like you've done something tangible about the state of families in the US. That, BTW, is one of the reasons why I applied to the Family Therapy professional psych program. I want to know what it takes to build stronger families so that they won't become a statistic. Improve the lives of families, improve marital relationships, and divorce will not happen. That's the real issue. 'Kate |
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On Wed, 18 Feb 2004 16:33:33 -0500, "P.Fritz"
wrote: 'Kate wrote in message ... On Wed, 18 Feb 2004 11:54:23 -0500, "P.Fritz" The pit keeps increasing, just the majority of those not in IT turn a blind eye until they fall in IT themsleves......which of course is too late. So you can keep reading the type of articles that inflame you or you can do something about it, something that is real. The reaction that you've received here is, by and large, an understanding of the issues. We know what is going on. The assumption of the number of people affected is a common bias. The facts you are posting are confounded in that way and in many others. And the pit gets deeper Child-support claim of daughter, now 21, reaches back to birth February 17, 2004, 7:38 PM GRAND RAPIDS, Mich. (AP) -- The Michigan Court of Appeals has upheld a lower court's ruling that a local pharmacist owes a lump-sum child-support payment to a 21-year-old daughter he never has met and, until a little more than five years ago, did not know he had fathered. A Grand Rapids lawyer representing the father, Kent Balliet, said her client could end up owing the woman more than $100,000. "This is going to turn paternity cases on their heads," attorney Amy Rademaker said. Balliet, 41, said his daughter, Heather Clough, resulted from a brief college fling in spring 1982. He said he did not know she was his child until her maternal grandparents, who also are her legal guardians, sued him from Florida in August 1998. "I can't even tell you the color of her eyes," Balliet told The Grand Rapids Press for a story published Tuesday. He lives near Bailey, a hamlet about 23 miles northwest of Grand Rapids. After a blood test confirmed that he was her biological father, Balliet made weekly child-support payments of $200 to $250 until Clough graduated from Fort Myers (Fla.) North High School in 2001. Then, Clough turned 18 and sued Balliet on her own, claiming that he owed her support dating to the day of her birth in January 1983. Last week, the state appeals court affirmed a decision by Kent County Circuit Judge Paul Sullivan in favor of the daughter's claim. The issue of how much money Balliet must pay Clough probably will be determined at a hearing in Kent County Family Court. "Now, a mom can say, "I'm not going to deal with dad, with parenting time or any other of those troubling issues until my kid turns 18,' and she can file a lawsuit for the total amount in bulk," Rademaker said. "It will plunge unsuspecting men into debt. This is a crushing blow because of what it means statewide. It's huge." The law usually does not allow responsibility for child support to go on forever, said Kristine Mullendore, an associate professor of legal studies at Grand Valley State University and a former assistant Kent County prosecutor. Under paternity laws, the statute of limitations generally caps claims at 6 years. But the window of opportunity for the daughter to make her claim as a new adult was one year after turning 18, which Clough met, according to the Court of Appeals. The daughter said she is not interested in setting a legal precedent. "I'd much rather have had a relationship with my father, but sometimes it can't be that way," said Clough, who now lives in a Fort Myers duplex near her grandparents' home. "I've never seen him, not even a picture of him." She was raised by grandparents Larry and Suzane Clough from age 5, when her mother was declared mentally disabled. Becky Sue Clough was diagnosed with schizophrenia and made a ward of her parents, her daughter said. Heather Clough said she discovered her father's address on the Internet four years ago and briefly exchanged e-mail messages with him. She said it appeared for a time he was interested in meeting her. Then Balliet wrote her to say their conversations had been a mistake, she said. That was when her grandparents filed for child support. "I have a father who didn't want anything to do with me," Clough said. "My mother had told me that's how it was, but I had my family who loved me. I'm not a bitter person. Life is too short." Yowza! If she's going to sue anyone, it ought to be grammy and gramps, for not letting her know about her father. Good Gracious! lm |
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On Wed, 18 Feb 2004 21:55:09 GMT, lm
wrote: On Wed, 18 Feb 2004 16:33:33 -0500, "P.Fritz" wrote: 'Kate wrote in message ... On Wed, 18 Feb 2004 11:54:23 -0500, "P.Fritz" The pit keeps increasing, just the majority of those not in IT turn a blind eye until they fall in IT themsleves......which of course is too late. So you can keep reading the type of articles that inflame you or you can do something about it, something that is real. The reaction that you've received here is, by and large, an understanding of the issues. We know what is going on. The assumption of the number of people affected is a common bias. The facts you are posting are confounded in that way and in many others. And the pit gets deeper Child-support claim of daughter, now 21, reaches back to birth February 17, 2004, 7:38 PM GRAND RAPIDS, Mich. (AP) -- The Michigan Court of Appeals has upheld a lower court's ruling that a local pharmacist owes a lump-sum child-support payment to a 21-year-old daughter he never has met and, until a little more than five years ago, did not know he had fathered. A Grand Rapids lawyer representing the father, Kent Balliet, said her client could end up owing the woman more than $100,000. "This is going to turn paternity cases on their heads," attorney Amy Rademaker said. Balliet, 41, said his daughter, Heather Clough, resulted from a brief college fling in spring 1982. He said he did not know she was his child until her maternal grandparents, who also are her legal guardians, sued him from Florida in August 1998. "I can't even tell you the color of her eyes," Balliet told The Grand Rapids Press for a story published Tuesday. He lives near Bailey, a hamlet about 23 miles northwest of Grand Rapids. After a blood test confirmed that he was her biological father, Balliet made weekly child-support payments of $200 to $250 until Clough graduated from Fort Myers (Fla.) North High School in 2001. Then, Clough turned 18 and sued Balliet on her own, claiming that he owed her support dating to the day of her birth in January 1983. Last week, the state appeals court affirmed a decision by Kent County Circuit Judge Paul Sullivan in favor of the daughter's claim. The issue of how much money Balliet must pay Clough probably will be determined at a hearing in Kent County Family Court. "Now, a mom can say, "I'm not going to deal with dad, with parenting time or any other of those troubling issues until my kid turns 18,' and she can file a lawsuit for the total amount in bulk," Rademaker said. "It will plunge unsuspecting men into debt. This is a crushing blow because of what it means statewide. It's huge." The law usually does not allow responsibility for child support to go on forever, said Kristine Mullendore, an associate professor of legal studies at Grand Valley State University and a former assistant Kent County prosecutor. Under paternity laws, the statute of limitations generally caps claims at 6 years. But the window of opportunity for the daughter to make her claim as a new adult was one year after turning 18, which Clough met, according to the Court of Appeals. The daughter said she is not interested in setting a legal precedent. "I'd much rather have had a relationship with my father, but sometimes it can't be that way," said Clough, who now lives in a Fort Myers duplex near her grandparents' home. "I've never seen him, not even a picture of him." She was raised by grandparents Larry and Suzane Clough from age 5, when her mother was declared mentally disabled. Becky Sue Clough was diagnosed with schizophrenia and made a ward of her parents, her daughter said. Heather Clough said she discovered her father's address on the Internet four years ago and briefly exchanged e-mail messages with him. She said it appeared for a time he was interested in meeting her. Then Balliet wrote her to say their conversations had been a mistake, she said. That was when her grandparents filed for child support. "I have a father who didn't want anything to do with me," Clough said. "My mother had told me that's how it was, but I had my family who loved me. I'm not a bitter person. Life is too short." Yowza! If she's going to sue anyone, it ought to be grammy and gramps, for not letting her know about her father. Good Gracious! lm On second thought, maybe he ought to counter-sue for not being told about his daughter. Who sounds like a peach. lm |
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