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Screaming toddler
I know that screaming is quite normal behavior in toddlers. Vernon's
screaming doesn't generally bother me, and it's mostly of the good-natured, happy squealing variety (although we do, of course, get the occasional temper-tantrum version as well). The reason I'm posting is because there are two situations when he starts this sort of screaming that I find genuinely intolerable: the first is when I'm driving in the car and the second is when we are in a public, enclosed space like a restroom. In both situations, the scream is so loud as to be deafening. At least in the car, it's only my husband and I who are subjected to it, but in public restrooms and the like, *other* people's hearing is being damaged. I can tell by some of the dirty looks and comments I've heard that people are irritated that I can't "control" him and keep him from screaming, but I'm sort of stumped as to how to stop it when I'm sitting on the toilet (or driving, for the matter). It doesn't help that he has discovered that bathrooms echo, and he loves to hear the sound of his screams reverberating! So, my question is--what, if anything, can I do to curb/reduce this behavior when I'm incapable of stopping it by physically intervening? I'm sure it will pass eventually, but it seems to me that this has been going on for at least six months now. -- Be well, Barbara (Julian [6], Aurora [4], and Vernon's [19mo] mom) This week's special at the English Language Butcher Shop: "Together we help the future grow." -- School slogan Daddy: You're up with the chickens this morning. Aurora: No, I'm up with my dolls! All opinions expressed in this post are well-reasoned and insightful. Needless to say, they are not those of my Internet Service Provider, its other subscribers or lackeys. Anyone who says otherwise is itchin' for a fight. -- with apologies to Michael Feldman |
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Circe wrote:
So, my question is--what, if anything, can I do to curb/reduce this behavior when I'm incapable of stopping it by physically intervening? I'm sure it will pass eventually, but it seems to me that this has been going on for at least six months now. We are experiencing the same problem. Usually I have to resort to either singing a song in a soft voice or whispering to him. Since DS is still in the stage where he will imitate everything we do, he will follow our lead and usually stops screaming. However, in places were there is a good acoustics, he still needs to test it at least once or twice. I let him, but after that it's enough and I try to distract him. We also try to tell him "we don't like it when you scream", but that's mainly for future purposes, as he is too young to really grasp our meaning. Although, sometimes it works. -- -- I mommy to DS (14m) guardian of DH EDD 05-17-2004 War doesn't decide who's right - only who's left |
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So, my question is--what, if anything, can I do to curb/reduce this behavior when I'm incapable of stopping it by physically intervening? I'm sure it will pass eventually, but it seems to me that this has been going on for at least six months now. -- Be well, Barbara Oh Lewis *loves* to scream in public bathrooms - lol. Luckily it's sing-songy noises and I can hear people in the other stalls giggling I think Patrick was the screamer. In the car I just turned the radio up - way up. Not giving attention to it was better with him. 6 months is quite a while. Sometimes I pat my hand on Lewis' mouth if he's screaming/yelling/talking loudly so he ends up making that wah-wah-wah sound then he laughs and forgets about being loud. Lots of distraction is involved. Good luck. |
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On Tue, 14 Oct 2003 08:13:50 -0700, "Circe" wrote:
I know that screaming is quite normal behavior in toddlers. Vernon's screaming doesn't generally bother me, and it's mostly of the good-natured, happy squealing variety (although we do, of course, get the occasional temper-tantrum version as well). The reason I'm posting is because there are two situations when he starts this sort of screaming that I find genuinely intolerable: the first is when I'm driving in the car and the second is when we are in a public, enclosed space like a restroom. In both situations, the scream is so loud as to be deafening. At least in the car, it's only my husband and I who are subjected to it, but in public restrooms and the like, *other* people's hearing is being damaged. I can tell by some of the dirty looks and comments I've heard that people are irritated that I can't "control" him and keep him from screaming, but I'm sort of stumped as to how to stop it when I'm sitting on the toilet (or driving, for the matter). It doesn't help that he has discovered that bathrooms echo, and he loves to hear the sound of his screams reverberating! So, my question is--what, if anything, can I do to curb/reduce this behavior when I'm incapable of stopping it by physically intervening? I'm sure it will pass eventually, but it seems to me that this has been going on for at least six months now. When you are driving, stop the car and pull over to the side of the road as soon as it begins. Calmly say: *If you scream, the car stops because I cannot drive safely with that noise.* Go on only when he stops and stop every time. If possible, leave him with dad when you must use the restroom when you are out. Find some lovely tunnels in a park where he can scream and make the echos so that he has a chance to get it out of his system. Tell him *we can go to the park tunnel and scream after we finish this errand* and keep your promise. You might also try whispering to him. *Vernon, can you hear the song I am whispering?* If you sing softy, he may get interested in that and stop. Try also to sing your directions to him and have some special toy he can play with that only comes out when you are in the rest room. -- Dorothy There is no sound, no cry in all the world that can be heard unless someone listens .. The Outer Limits |
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"toto" wrote in message
... When you are driving, stop the car and pull over to the side of the road as soon as it begins. Calmly say: *If you scream, the car stops because I cannot drive safely with that noise.* Go on only when he stops and stop every time. I knew someone was going to suggest this, but it truly isn't practical. When you're flying down the freeway at 65mph, you can't just pull over mid-scream. And usually, when we're in the car, we're on the way to someplace with a time limitation--taking one of the other kids to school or picking him/her up, driving to a soccer game/practice, etc. Aside from which, I don't believe for one instant it would phase him or stop him. *He* has no particular desire to go anywhere and if he likes screaming, he'll scream whether the car is motionless or not. I simply can't sit parked by the side of the road for 10 minutes while waiting for him to stop; I don't have the time to do that. And if he *did* stop after 10 minutes and we started moving again, I don't believe he'd view that as any sort of reward for stopping the screaming--again, he has no particular interest in going to soccer games or driving Aurora to school, so why would it matter to him whether we stopped or started? If possible, leave him with dad when you must use the restroom when you are out. I usually have to run errands without my husband along. I avoid using the restroom altogether when I have only Vernon with me, but if one of the kids has to use the toilet while we're out, we all have to go in and if I need to go, I won't *not* go. Even if I don't go, I can't stop Vernon from screaming while I'm helping Aurora with wiping and hand-washing (she's not tall enough to reach the sinks in most public restrooms). Find some lovely tunnels in a park where he can scream and make the echos so that he has a chance to get it out of his system. Tell him *we can go to the park tunnel and scream after we finish this errand* and keep your promise. You might also try whispering to him. *Vernon, can you hear the song I am whispering?* If you sing softy, he may get interested in that and stop. Try also to sing your directions to him and have some special toy he can play with that only comes out when you are in the rest room. These are good ideas, although I'm not sure he's old enough/verbally aware enough to understand a promise of a future scream-fest in exchange for not screaming now--he *is* only 19 months old, after all! Thanks, Dorothy. -- Be well, Barbara (Julian [6], Aurora [4], and Vernon's [19mo] mom) This week's special at the English Language Butcher Shop: "Together we help the future grow." -- School slogan Daddy: You're up with the chickens this morning. Aurora: No, I'm up with my dolls! All opinions expressed in this post are well-reasoned and insightful. Needless to say, they are not those of my Internet Service Provider, its other subscribers or lackeys. Anyone who says otherwise is itchin' for a fight. -- with apologies to Michael Feldman |
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LOL, Barb. I went through this. I don't really think I did much of anything
though. It was hard to stop, especially so young. They didn't really understand. I used quiet voices, but mostly I ignored it and it did go away. -- Sue (mom to three girls) I'm Just a Raggedy Ann in a Barbie Doll World... Circe wrote in message news:GnUib.19220$hp5.2604@fed1read04... I know that screaming is quite normal behavior in toddlers. Vernon's screaming doesn't generally bother me, and it's mostly of the good-natured, happy squealing variety (although we do, of course, get the occasional temper-tantrum version as well). The reason I'm posting is because there are two situations when he starts this sort of screaming that I find genuinely intolerable: the first is when I'm driving in the car and the second is when we are in a public, enclosed space like a restroom. In both situations, the scream is so loud as to be deafening. At least in the car, it's only my husband and I who are subjected to it, but in public restrooms and the like, *other* people's hearing is being damaged. I can tell by some of the dirty looks and comments I've heard that people are irritated that I can't "control" him and keep him from screaming, but I'm sort of stumped as to how to stop it when I'm sitting on the toilet (or driving, for the matter). It doesn't help that he has discovered that bathrooms echo, and he loves to hear the sound of his screams reverberating! So, my question is--what, if anything, can I do to curb/reduce this behavior when I'm incapable of stopping it by physically intervening? I'm sure it will pass eventually, but it seems to me that this has been going on for at least six months now. -- Be well, Barbara (Julian [6], Aurora [4], and Vernon's [19mo] mom) This week's special at the English Language Butcher Shop: "Together we help the future grow." -- School slogan Daddy: You're up with the chickens this morning. Aurora: No, I'm up with my dolls! All opinions expressed in this post are well-reasoned and insightful. Needless to say, they are not those of my Internet Service Provider, its other subscribers or lackeys. Anyone who says otherwise is itchin' for a fight. -- with apologies to Michael Feldman |
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"Circe" wrote in message news:O9Zib.19379$hp5.16851@fed1read04...
These are good ideas, although I'm not sure he's old enough/verbally aware enough to understand a promise of a future scream-fest in exchange for not screaming now--he *is* only 19 months old, after all! I don't have much to offer, Barbara except for sympathy. My oldest *still* at age EIGHT does this sudden yelling thing. Usually its a "Woo-hoo!" because he's looking at something he thinks is cool or a very, very loud yawn or similar. It's just to break the silence or to turn the attention to him. And youngest boy (maybe it's truly a guy thing) simply has a loud speaking voice. We were in a restaurant the other day and I got up to use the restroom which was ALL the way on the other side of a good-sized dining area. I could hear my youngest all the way there and all the way back. He was just talking about his food, the surroundings, etc. But it sounded like he was yelling. I can't get him to be any quieter unless he's asleep! Is Vernon just screaming for the heck of it or is he mad about something at the time? (You may have said...can't go back easily in Google.) Daddy: You're up with the chickens this morning. Aurora: No, I'm up with my dolls! This is really why I wanted to respond. This reminds me of an exchange with my husband and my daughter when Korinna was about 3. She was standing by the TV, video cassette in one hand, well-worn and taped up box for cassette on the shelf beside her. Dad says: "Put the tape in the machine." She gave him a blank look. "The tape sweetie, in your hand." (Dad points to cassette.) She says: "Dis not 'tape.'" (Points to box) "*Dat's* tape." - Bev |
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On Tue, 14 Oct 2003 14:00:48 -0400, "Sophie" wrote:
I think Patrick was the screamer. In the car I just turned the radio up - way up. Not giving attention to it was better with him. That's exactly what I do when DD#2 starts yelling in the car. Both of the girls are screamers and their screams, I swear, could shatter glass. In public, when DD#2 starts (and she will throw a full-blown tantrum if she's even slightly tired and gets mad), I'll take her aside and tell her very clearly if she doesn't stop screaming, we're going to go home *right now* and take a nap. Usually she's able to get herself under control because she seems to operate under the notion that Naps Are Bad Things. Tracy ====================================== We child proofed our home 3 years ago and they're still getting in! ====================================== |
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"Bev Brandt" wrote in message
om... "Circe" wrote in message news:O9Zib.19379$hp5.16851@fed1read04... These are good ideas, although I'm not sure he's old enough/verbally aware enough to understand a promise of a future scream-fest in exchange for not screaming now--he *is* only 19 months old, after all! I don't have much to offer, Barbara except for sympathy. Hey, sympathy is good. Ear plugs might be better g. Is Vernon just screaming for the heck of it or is he mad about something at the time? (You may have said...can't go back easily in Google.) Depends on the context. Sometimes when he's screaming in the car, he seems to be annoyed about something: a dropped toy or drink, the fact that we're not moving (he'll scream "Go, go!" when we're idling at stoplights), etc. Other times, though, it's more of a happy, testing-my-volume sort of squeal. That's definitely what he's doing in public spaces with an echo. In general, he just seems to like to scream and hear the sound of his own voice. It doesn't help that his sister, in particular, is wont to egg him on by screaming back (though she gets roundly chastized for doing so and certainly knows she shouldn't!). Honestly, screaming is such a common thing in the 1-2yo set that I wouldn't even have posted about it except that it doesn't seem to be the intermittent behavior it was with the first two. My husband was complaining about it the other day and I said, "Well, you know, it's just a phase." And he said, "This phase has been going on for six months, though!" He has a point. I think both of the other kids went through brief screaming phases, but never for more than a few weeks at a stretch without giving it up for a while and then coming back to it. Vernon just never quits g! Of course, he's the Energizer Bunny toddler anyway, so it's probably to be expected given his personality. (Like your youngest, he seems on course to have the gross motor skills of a 3yo before he turns two--he already walks down stairs without holding the railing or a hand, which can be quite hair raising to watch!) Daddy: You're up with the chickens this morning. Aurora: No, I'm up with my dolls! This is really why I wanted to respond. This reminds me of an exchange with my husband and my daughter when Korinna was about 3. She was standing by the TV, video cassette in one hand, well-worn and taped up box for cassette on the shelf beside her. Dad says: "Put the tape in the machine." She gave him a blank look. "The tape sweetie, in your hand." (Dad points to cassette.) She says: "Dis not 'tape.'" (Points to box) "*Dat's* tape." LOL! Great story. -- Be well, Barbara (Julian [6], Aurora [4], and Vernon's [19mo] mom) This week's special at the English Language Butcher Shop: "Together we help the future grow." -- School slogan Daddy: You're up with the chickens this morning. Aurora: No, I'm up with my dolls! All opinions expressed in this post are well-reasoned and insightful. Needless to say, they are not those of my Internet Service Provider, its other subscribers or lackeys. Anyone who says otherwise is itchin' for a fight. -- with apologies to Michael Feldman |
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