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The faces of foster care
The faces of foster care
Chad Morelli Of the Suburban Journals Collinsville Herald 05/24/2006 Michael Stockley looks back at a childhood filled with pain and suffering, and he smiles. "I think about it, and honestly, I'm just glad I'm alive," Stockley said. "It was rough back then. Sometimes I can't believe I made it through all of that." Stockley, now 29, was born to a cocaine-addicted mother in Belleville, never knew his father, and was raised by his uncle through much of his early childhood. By the time he was 12, he had lived in six different cities and was already experiencing a wide-range of emotional and psychological distress. The only thing that saved him, he said, was foster care. "I think you'll hear a lot of people that came through the system say that," Stockley said. "It might be the only time I ever felt safe in my life." Stockley's experience with foster parents was far from perfect. He first entered the foster care system when he was 13, after his mother went to prison on drug-related charges and his other family members were no longer able to care for him. He was rowdy, uncontrollable and prone to violent outbursts. "I already felt like I was the worst kid in the world, and no one was going to change that," Stockley said. "I felt like I didn't deserve parents." Stockley's first experience with a foster family lasted less than a year. He takes the blame for that, saying he refused to let people help him. By the time he was 14, he was living in a shelter in Granite City and was ready to give foster parents another opportunity. In this case, the second time was a charm. Stockley was placed into a home in Edwardsville and started to settle down. His life was still far from perfect, but he was on the right track. He lived with his foster family for the next three years, received a GED, and started working as a delivery driver. By the time he was 20, he was entirely on his own, working full time and living in a small apartment just outside of St. Louis. He now works as an assistant supervisor for an overnight delivery company in Chicago and is looking at buying a house. "Honestly, without having those foster parents to get me straightened out, I don't know where I would be," Stockley said. "Probably dead." Experts in the foster care system will say that Stockley's story is not unique. Every day there are tragedies that leave youngsters without a place to live. For many local caseworkers, those stories hit home. Finding families At the Catholic Charities center on State Street in Granite City, area director Mary Phillips hears about the need for foster care on a daily basis. Her organization works around the clock recruiting foster families, training parents to deal with the challenges of having a foster child, and placing kids into warm, loving environments. "I don't think anyone would say that it's an easy thing to do," Phillips said. "But it is a vitally important process. And we're there for support every step of the way." Catholic Charities runs a month-long campaign during May, officially recognized as National Foster Care Month, hoping to recruit foster parents. Carolyn Yinger, the foster home licensing representative for Catholic Charities, said there continues to be an enormous need for foster parents. "We get calls every day from local shelters," Yinger said. "They have children there that need a home. These kids need something more stable than a shelter." Yinger said that foster care is a far better alternative than many of the other services provided to children who are wards of the state. Yinger's goal is to get kids off the street and out of the shelter and place them into a home with well-trained foster parents. "Shelters are meant for temporary housing, and it's no place for a child to grow up," Yinger said. "That's what foster care is for." The goal of foster care is to reunite families, Yinger said. In a typical case, a child will stay with a foster family for about a year. During that time, the court system attempts to rehabilitate the child's biological family. The natural parents may be sent to rehabilitation clinics, counseling, or be asked to enroll in therapy. When the situation has been repaired, the foster kids may return to their biological families, Yinger said. Finding families is not always easy. About 17,000 kids will be placed into foster care this year in Illinois, placing some huge demands on the system. Yinger is doing her part, and as a licensed foster care provider, she currently serves as the foster mother for a 15-year-old girl. Yinger has welcomed other foster children into her home over the past several years, providing a stable environment for children who need her assistance. She hopes other families in the area will also look into becoming caregivers. "If you can look beyond their behavior and try to understand what these kids have been through, you can be a foster parent," Yinger said. "Most of all, you have to be patient and compassionate." Requirements and support Michael Bollman, a resources specialist with the Department of Children and Family Services, said he receives around 20 inquiries per month from Metro East residents interested in becoming foster parents. Only a few of those individuals actually take the next step, coming in to discuss the possibility of becoming a registered foster care provider. Even after a person agrees to become registered, they face weeks of training and mountains of paperwork before they will ever be allowed to take in a child. "It's a rather extensive process, but we do that for the health and safety of everyone involved," Bollman said. "We want these parents to be as prepared as possible. To be successful, it has to be a team effort between the case worker and the foster parents. That's the only way to succeed." Illinois requires foster parents to receive 27 hours of training classes. Many parents will attend additional seminars and learning sessions to gather more information on everything from behavioral disorders to the developmental needs of young children. "This isn't parent training; it's foster parent training," Bollman explained. "Some of these foster parents may face situations that ordinary people would never have to deal with." The Department of Children and Family Services has offices throughout Madison County, with a local branch in Granite City on Johnson Road. The agency sponsors a number of training and information seminars every year, Bollman said. There are also dozens of programs that provide support for foster parents, he said. Foster parents often receive anywhere between $15,000 and $35,000 annually for each child in their care, depending on the needs of the individual foster children. In cases where families are caring for multiple foster children, even more money can be available. "Most people become foster parents just out of the goodness of their hearts," Bollman said. "Money really isn't the issue. With all of the training and time and effort, it's something you have to be committed to. You have to have your heart in it." Bollman agrees that there is a definite need for more foster parents, especially for people who are willing to take in teenagers with behavioral issues. He said his agency is always seeking dedicated, talented individuals to provide foster care. "We're basically asking people to meet these kids and give them a chance, to give them a home," Bollman said. "When people step forward and offer to do that, it's amazing thing to be a part of." For more information about becoming a registered foster care provider, call 800-572-2390 http://www.stltoday.com/stltoday/nei...0?OpenDocument Defend your civil liberties! 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