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My son won't stop pooping in his pants and I don't know what to do
I have a four year old son that keeps having poppie in his pants. My husband and I are fighting all the time because we are both so frustrated with what to do. We tried going to the doctor and they gave us some powder stuff to put in his drink and an enema. But then that just makes it liquid and he can't sit on the potty all day. I get so embrassed when I go to pick him up from daycare and have to hear about the accidents that he has had. They have even been putting him on the potty every hour and a half for me. We ask him why and he says I don't know. I am at my wits end. The funny thing is up until two months ago, he would go potty every night on the toilet. Now he refuses to go so then it comes out in his pants. When he does sit on the toilet, he pulls up and holds it. I just don't know what to do. Any ideas?
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My son won't stop pooping in his pants and I don't know what to do
I could suggest that maybe he is being sexually abused but that would
be sadistic on my part considering the way I feel about the whole thing. Talk to the child about it calmly and quitly than maybe your son could tell you why he dose not go poop in the potty. There have been some strange stories such as the child coming to believe they are losing a part of themself like some usefull part of their body is falling into the potty or other such things. Also if you can't get into his head try a shrink they may be able to help. |
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My son won't stop pooping in his pants and I don't know what to do
You need a better doctor. Its a common problem, particularly in boys.
Its called encopresis or "withholding". What happens is that for whatever reason, a child starts trying to hold in his or her stool. This can start from some painful constipation, fear or dislike of the toilet, whatever. A vicious cycle gets set up. The child's colon becomes packed with stool and stretched out. Eventually, normal function and sensation is compromised. The kid really cannot TELL when they need to go. The colon gets so packed with stool that it HAS to go somewhere, and small amounts are involuntarily squeezed out - hence the endless small stools ending up in their pants. They cannot control this. They cannot tell when they need to go. It is not their fault. Unfortunately the reason I know all this is because MY middle son had this issue at the age of 4, and like you I was completely pulling my hair out because I thought he was doing it on purpose (you know, smart healthy kid, what the heck is wrong that he seemingly won't use the toilet and is continually pooping in his pants???). It was a really intractable and frustrating problem, and we realize now that we should have been to our pediatrician sooner about it. I had never heard about this problem prior to our family experience with it, but it is actually much more common than I ever would have realized. Fortunately, our pediatrician knew all about this problem, and knew what to do. It did take several months to get the problem completely under control. What we had to do was start with mild laxatives. We started with mineral oil, which didn't work that well, and had to move up to ducolax. The doctor had us play with the dosages until we got him having at least two TWO good bowel movements a day. The purpose of this was to get his colon empty, and keep it as empty as possible, to allow it to shrink back to normal size, and allow normal function and sensation to return. This will not happen overnight - be prepared for it to take a while, for the kid to be able to recognize and act on the urge to have a bowel movement. Here is an article - you will find lots of info on the nethttp://www.keepkidshealthy.com/welcome/conditions/encopresis.html Mary G. Mom of three (now 7, 11 and 14) |
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My son won't stop pooping in his pants and I don't know what to do
maybe he does'nt like the water to hit his bottom or he's fallen in the
toilet and now he's afraid he'll fall again. Also he could just be putting going to the potty off because he thinks he's going to miss out on any activities that are going on aroung him. My son had that same problem. Only he didn't mess his pants he peed his pants. Try limit some sweets or putting him back on a toileting schedule |
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My son won't stop pooping in his pants and I don't know what to do
Try this....
COMPLETELY IGNORE IT!!! When he has an accident, don't give any attention to it at all. Just say, "We have dirty pants... lets go change those." That is it! Do not punish him. Don't ask him why. Don't argue or make faces of disgust. Don't let him see you and dad arguing about it. When he has accidents at school, just take his stuff home and wash it without a word. It would also be very good to get his teachers cooperation on this. Using shame is such a poor poor use of discipline. It damages their spirit. I'm not saying you are doing that at all, I was just wanting to point that out. Some parents feel that they can embarrass their child into behaving, and that doesn't work. It will just make it worse. But here is the important part. When he goes in the toilet, make it a very BIG DEAL!!! Praise him. Talk about it. Say things like, "Doesn't it feel great not to have dirty pants!" "You are such a big boy!" etc... Consider a reward, like taking a bike ride, going to the park, renting a special movie, or going to the movies, etc... The point here is this: Give attention to the behavior that you want. Giving attention to the behavior you don't want, can create anxiety in the child. An then you are just in a vicious cycle. Or perhaps he is doing it for attention. He is wanting attention from you or Dad, and he is finding that by going in his pants, he is getting that, even if it is negative attention. Do you have a new baby at home? He may really have another problem going on, as some of the previous posts mentions. Even if he does, it is not his fault. Just bringing attention to it by punishing him or shaming him won't help. And one more thing... give him a big hug & tell him you love him no matter what! Good Luck, Necole! He will get it. Keep in mind, he is not the only 4 year old who has had trouble potty training. |
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