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Unusual Child Custody Arrangement
Have any of you heard of a joint custody arrangement where the children
stay in the home and the parents each take turns visiting/living with the kids in the home? i.e.: one week Mom comes to live with the kids , one week Dad comes to live w/ the kids This seems to be of best interest to the children...instead of the children living a "gyspy" life with all the moving around...the parents do it. Helen |
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oups.com... Have any of you heard of a joint custody arrangement where the children stay in the home and the parents each take turns visiting/living with the kids in the home? i.e.: one week Mom comes to live with the kids , one week Dad comes to live w/ the kids This seems to be of best interest to the children...instead of the children living a "gyspy" life with all the moving around...the parents do it. Helen I have heard of this, but for the life of me, I don't remember where I read it. I kind of like the idea, but it does have some draw backs.. Namely, it requires that the parents actually cooperate and keep any arguments to a minimum. This would be a hot area of contention for the radfems. They would say that this is unfair for Mommie because it takes away from her having complete and total control over the situation. Also, who's house is it really? Is it Moms? Is it Dads? Or someone else's house? Who gets the household tax breaks, or do they get shared every other year? And who is the custodial parent, or is this a 50/50 arrangement (again, this is also something the radfems would go nuts over)? |
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wrote in message oups.com... Have any of you heard of a joint custody arrangement where the children stay in the home and the parents each take turns visiting/living with the kids in the home? i.e.: one week Mom comes to live with the kids , one week Dad comes to live w/ the kids This seems to be of best interest to the children...instead of the children living a "gyspy" life with all the moving around...the parents do it. Helen How is it in the best interest of the children. Now two parents are supporting 3 households. The "gypsy" life is a strawman arguement. The kids have stable permanent homes in two places. |
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What is a strawman argument?
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wrote in message ups.com... What is a strawman argument? I believe he is making reference to the implied argument that the only alternative to living in one home is to live in two homes thus not in the best interest of the child. There IS a third option. False dilemma more accurately describes your statement. |
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"Chris" wrote in message news:VZFof.40$qF5.30@fed1read02... wrote in message ups.com... What is a strawman argument? I believe he is making reference to the implied argument that the only alternative to living in one home is to live in two homes thus not in the best interest of the child. There IS a third option. False dilemma more accurately describes your statement. I was aiming at here "gypsy living" comment. |
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"P Fritz" wrote in message ... wrote in message ups.com... What is a strawman argument? http://just****inggoogleit.com/ Pretty funny. |
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"Chris" wrote in message news:QUZof.141$qF5.116@fed1read02... "P Fritz" wrote in message ... wrote in message ups.com... What is a strawman argument? http://just****inggoogleit.com/ Pretty funny. I like that site.... |
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Unusual Child Custody Arrangement
wrote in message oups.com... Have any of you heard of a joint custody arrangement where the children stay in the home and the parents each take turns visiting/living with the kids in the home? i.e.: one week Mom comes to live with the kids , one week Dad comes to live w/ the kids This seems to be of best interest to the children...instead of the children living a "gyspy" life with all the moving around...the parents do it. Helen This arrangement is known to family lawyers as "birds nesting." I suspect it is relatively uncommon, but I did it myself for a period during the separation prior to my divorce many years ago. My ex suggested it, and in retrospect I think it probably was a device that she never intended to be of anything more than temporary duration, designed to get me to move out of the family home, which I was refusing to do. After a while, she said she wanted to have her own place and full custody of the children, and that's what happened. Given reasonableness on both sides, I think the arrangement could work, but there are practical questions to be settled. In addition, there is the underlying problem that mothers are unlikely to agree to it, because they prefer to get full custody, with the father paying them CS money. Mothers normally call the shots in these matters. One of the practical issues is, where do the parents live when they are not in the family home? In my case, my ex went out and rented an apartment, and we alternated living in the family home and the apartment. There is also the issue of how often the changeovers take place. In addition, there is plenty of scope for friction over such matters as cleaning of the different places, stocking the refrigerators, etc. Nevertheless, the arrangement has much to recommend it -- not least because it is designed around the children and puts the parents on an even footing, instead of the normal situation, which amounts to the father being expelled from the family and the mother assuming unilateral control of the children. |
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