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Another Potty question
Bonnie (31 months?) has been stripping herself naked and running arround..
no big deal she is young but some times she goes potty on the potty chair when no one is paying attention. She WILL NOT go potty on the potty chair if you ARE paying attention. The other day I noticed pee in the chair and thought DH left it there so I could see she went but it turns out that he did not know she did it. so this leaves me in a pickle I guess. 1.) She knows what the potty chair is for and that she needs to use it BUT she does not want to for the most part. 2.) She pooped on the floor today right after using the potty chair to go pee. What can I do to encourage the good behavior (using the potty chair) without too much emphasis on the bad behavior (pooping on the floor) Not that the story of that wasnt funny.. DH said she walked up to him with it in her hand saying poopie poopie.. lol he just put it in the toilet.. I dont know if there was also a punishment to go along with it since he gets the morning shift while I catch up on sleep. Tori -- Bonnie 3/20/02 Xavier 10/27/04 |
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On Thu, 2 Dec 2004 14:50:34 -0600, "Tori M."
scribbled: Bonnie (31 months?) has been stripping herself naked and running arround.. no big deal she is young but some times she goes potty on the potty chair when no one is paying attention. She WILL NOT go potty on the potty chair if you ARE paying attention. The other day I noticed pee in the chair and thought DH left it there so I could see she went but it turns out that he did not know she did it. so this leaves me in a pickle I guess. 1.) She knows what the potty chair is for and that she needs to use it BUT she does not want to for the most part. 2.) She pooped on the floor today right after using the potty chair to go pee. What can I do to encourage the good behavior (using the potty chair) without too much emphasis on the bad behavior (pooping on the floor) Not that the story of that wasnt funny.. DH said she walked up to him with it in her hand saying poopie poopie.. lol he just put it in the toilet.. I dont know if there was also a punishment to go along with it since he gets the morning shift while I catch up on sleep. We used sticker charts. Every time dd used the potty, she put a sticker on her chart. For the pooping, I finally resorted to bribes with chocolate. I'd do it again in a heartbeat ;-) I'd just ignore the accidents. My dd didn't like the idea of a potty chair, but she liked using an insert on the big toilet. Maybe Bonnie would go for that idea? Nan |
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"Nan" wrote in message ... On Thu, 2 Dec 2004 14:50:34 -0600, "Tori M." scribbled: Bonnie (31 months?) has been stripping herself naked and running arround.. no big deal she is young but some times she goes potty on the potty chair when no one is paying attention. She WILL NOT go potty on the potty chair if you ARE paying attention. The other day I noticed pee in the chair and thought DH left it there so I could see she went but it turns out that he did not know she did it. so this leaves me in a pickle I guess. 1.) She knows what the potty chair is for and that she needs to use it BUT she does not want to for the most part. 2.) She pooped on the floor today right after using the potty chair to go pee. What can I do to encourage the good behavior (using the potty chair) without too much emphasis on the bad behavior (pooping on the floor) Not that the story of that wasnt funny.. DH said she walked up to him with it in her hand saying poopie poopie.. lol he just put it in the toilet.. I dont know if there was also a punishment to go along with it since he gets the morning shift while I catch up on sleep. We used sticker charts. Every time dd used the potty, she put a sticker on her chart. For the pooping, I finally resorted to bribes with chocolate. I'd do it again in a heartbeat ;-) LOL! I did the same thing. I don't really know if it worked, or if it was just time for them to learn anyway. What I did was always have a jar with m&ms in a very noticable spot in the bathroom. The temptation was always there, and they got some for peeing, and more for pooping in the potty. They probably peed more often than they needed to, but hey, anything that works. : ) Shel |
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"Nan" wrote in message ... On Thu, 2 Dec 2004 14:50:34 -0600, "Tori M." scribbled: Bonnie (31 months?) has been stripping herself naked and running arround.. no big deal she is young but some times she goes potty on the potty chair when no one is paying attention. She WILL NOT go potty on the potty chair if you ARE paying attention. The other day I noticed pee in the chair and thought DH left it there so I could see she went but it turns out that he did not know she did it. so this leaves me in a pickle I guess. 1.) She knows what the potty chair is for and that she needs to use it BUT she does not want to for the most part. 2.) She pooped on the floor today right after using the potty chair to go pee. What can I do to encourage the good behavior (using the potty chair) without too much emphasis on the bad behavior (pooping on the floor) Not that the story of that wasnt funny.. DH said she walked up to him with it in her hand saying poopie poopie.. lol he just put it in the toilet.. I dont know if there was also a punishment to go along with it since he gets the morning shift while I catch up on sleep. We used sticker charts. Every time dd used the potty, she put a sticker on her chart. For the pooping, I finally resorted to bribes with chocolate. I'd do it again in a heartbeat ;-) LOL! I did the same thing. I don't really know if it worked, or if it was just time for them to learn anyway. What I did was always have a jar with m&ms in a very noticable spot in the bathroom. The temptation was always there, and they got some for peeing, and more for pooping in the potty. They probably peed more often than they needed to, but hey, anything that works. : ) Shel |
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"Tori M." ) writes: What can I do to encourage the good behavior (using the potty chair) without too much emphasis on the bad behavior (pooping on the floor) I think the best thing to do is to do very little. Apparently she needs or wants privacy in order to use the potty. I believe some humans instinctively won't be able to go if people are watching. It may not seem like it, but I believe little kids experience embarassment around potty issues: about being watched, just as adults would, and also about not being able to do it when they want to. They cover up the embarassment by pretending not to care, etc. I think the best way to support her is to respect her privacy. This may mean not saying anything about the potty either to her, or about her to others (especially when she's listening). It could mean discreetly emptying the potty when she's not looking. She already knows what the potty is for; she just needs some practice. I think she'll do that fine on her own. I would avoid any rewards, punishments, or reminders -- they just bring unwelcome attention when privacy is wanted. If using praise about the potty, I suggest making it very low-key, as in "Ah, you used the potty." in a quiet, calm voice. Not making a big fuss about it. -- Cathy |
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"Catherine Woodgold" wrote in message ... "Tori M." ) writes: What can I do to encourage the good behavior (using the potty chair) without too much emphasis on the bad behavior (pooping on the floor) I think the best thing to do is to do very little. Apparently she needs or wants privacy in order to use the potty. Kinda what I figured since in general she goes poop in her room and gets verry defensive if you go in there before she is done. She will come right out and declare she has poopies though and want to be changed. It could mean discreetly emptying the potty when she's not looking. I do usualy empty it when she is not looking just because i notice it when she is not arround for the most part. I would avoid any rewards, punishments, or reminders -- they just bring unwelcome attention when privacy is wanted. ok.. Looks like I have a self sufficiant potty trainer.. makes it easy on me but that is kinda sad to If using praise about the potty, I suggest making it very low-key, as in "Ah, you used the potty." in a quiet, calm voice. Not making a big fuss about it. Yup I will have to tell dh about that.. She was running arround naked the other day (her prefer mode of dress) and she ran into the bathroom and then a tiny bit later she ran back out. Dh asked if she went Potty and she said Yeah all cute like and Dh said good job but Bonnie was just running arround.. I went in later and she really had gone potty! Tori -- Bonnie 3/20/02 Xavier 10/27/04 |
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I'd say she just wants privacy. With Natalie, my daughter who was born
in January of 02, we use the insert on the big potty and then leave the room. Sometimes she will order us to sit on the tub beside her and wait with her, but for the most part she wants her privacy. I guess I don't blame them, I want mine too (not that you get it with a toddler). We used the sticker chart and then every once in a while would go get her a special treat and really emphasize that it was for being SUCH a good potty trainer! I mean we'd practically YELL it out for everyone to hear.. "You get these Barbie clothes for being SUCH a good POTTY TRAINER!! YAY Natalie!!" kind of thing! She would giggle, smile and then say "good potty girl." It makes me happy to see that she understands that using it is a good thing and that for being such a big girl, she gets treats. For punishment, we tend to scold her for messing her pullups or panties when she could tell us she has to go and we are near a toilet. She has to be asked most of the time if she has to potty, so if we forget, she'll mess her pants. We will tell her that only babies potty in their pants and that it is very very naughty. She loves chocolate milk, so if she does it more than once a day, we take chocolate milk away. This is devastating to the child, so she tends to remember to potty then. We are the type of parents who will spank as well, so if she is continuing to have accidents for little to no reason, she will get a swat on the butt. We have also used time outs for messes in panties. Basically we really go all out rewarding the good but when she is bad, she knows it. We don't just ignore the bad and go "oh well" when she KNOWS when she has to go and that she is supposed to. When she does, she gets huge cheers and praise and stickers. She is to the point now that if her dad or I go potty, we too get stickers!! "Momma peed? Great job momma, big girl, you get stickers!!" |
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