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I too was warned that limitation might make candy into too much of
an issue, but I don't see that this is happening at all. Since we believe all things should be eaten in moderation - also cakes, cookies, potato chips and other snacks - we have similar limitations on all of these, and look at it as educating them to eat sensibly. In Exactly. What a wacky world it is, where we're afraid to teach our kids that desserts ARE a treat and should be eaten only after more nutricious foods. Don't overthink this one. |
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On Mon, 10 Jan 2005 15:25:47 +0200, LisaBell
wrote: I am with you. We don't keep a lot of candy around the house as a rule (though we usually have a little chocolate) and we limit eating it to after dinner, and then only allow a small piece (two squares, or half of a candy bar). When they go to parties and come home with a bag of candy they have to put it in the fridge, and may eat one piece every evening. I too was warned that limitation might make candy into too much of an issue, but I don't see that this is happening at all. Since we believe all things should be eaten in moderation - also cakes, cookies, potato chips and other snacks - we have similar limitations on all of these, and look at it as educating them to eat sensibly. In fact last Friday they both came home from a birthday party with plates of snacks and candy, plonked them down on the kitchen table and *asked* for dinner! --Lisa bell Mom to Gabriella (6) and Michaela (almost 5) We have little candy in the house (although my fifteen year old grabs a bar sometimes), We DO have as part of a rounded diet a lot of home baked goods and I do not limit them within reason. We have a baked dessert a couple times a week. Additionally I make homemade rolls , hmemade cinnamon rolls and such. We also have a certain amount of snacks on hand that we eat in moderation. Sweet and buttery popcorn sunday watching the game for example. Barb |
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eggs wrote: I basically agree with your DH - don't make candy some special treat that is very limited in nature. I think this can lead to bingeing and other food related health issues in later life. We keep a jar of candy on top of the fridge for the kids (DH & I don't eat it). They ask for some ( a very small handful in a bowl) maybe once or twice a week. I let them have it if there is more than an hour to go before a scheduled meal. They are more likely to ask for fruit than candy, but that's their preference, as I buy cheap generic chocolate candy but keep a lot of very nice fruit in the house. I agree with this concept, and try (yeah, I'm still working on it!), to keep healthy snacks always accessible, like fruit, veggies, nuts, crackers even, and occasionally I'll put in their baskets chocolate or hard candy. It's very funny how differently my kids' palates are attuned, after the same -- or similar -- attitudes from me for both of them. My 5 y.o. will eat candy until she's sick (and used to do this with fruit when she was a baby -- I guess it takes her awhile to figure out 'fullness') just because she loves it so much! The 3 y.o. doesn't like sweets, hardly at all, and most of the time, three quarters of her candy is given to her sister. It's not that we ration it, and they're certainly allowed treats at least as much as any healthy household I know, but our older daughter has her Dad's attitude toward food, I think, and our younger has mine. I'm the kind of person who will be at the store and think "I love chocolate donuts!", and buy a dozen of my favorite donuts, eat half of one, put them away and then end up wasting them because I forget to eat the rest. And I don't like to waste food, so I get out of the habit of buying them. My husband, apparently looks at it like "She bought donuts, and she hardly ever does, I'd better eat all of them before they go bad." Which brings me to your next point... It does seem, however, that *you* and *DH* have a problem with having candy in the house and it would seem to be just easier to throw it in the trash can than to keep fighting over it. It's not like candy is a vital food group. If the kids really want some, they'll ask for it at the checkout or wherever and get their fix that way. We have ended up with less in the house lately, for kind of this reason. We weren't fighting so much, but my husband doesn't want to eat sweets, we don't like to *offer* them to the kids too much, and it's not worth the worry or annoyance. If my kids are eating pasta and veggies, I sure don't want them to 'save room' for sweets! I remember as a kid -- with no rationing, really -- having to throw out what was left of my Halloween candy before the Easter Bunny could come, and then doing the same thing with leftover Easter candy before going trick or treating. So I do think the no rationing thing can work, but it takes the right kind of palate. My younger daughter and I could probably have dinner every day with a chocolate sculpture centerpiece, and not take a bite for weeks; older daughter and husband, not so much. (Oh -- and the only weight issues in our family are not gaining fast enough, so really if they wanted to keep eating candy, I'd probably let them!) (And we do still have Halloween candy sitting in the pantry. Maybe we end up not loving the candy because it's so darn old!) Tina. |
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Tina Petrone wrote:
I remember as a kid -- with no rationing, really -- having to throw out what was left of my Halloween candy before the Easter Bunny could come, and then doing the same thing with leftover Easter candy before going trick or treating. So I do think the no rationing thing can work, but it takes the right kind of palate. My younger daughter and I could probably have dinner every day with a chocolate sculpture centerpiece, and not take a bite for weeks; older daughter and husband, not so much. (Oh -- and the only weight issues in our family are not gaining fast enough, so really if they wanted to keep eating candy, I'd probably let them!) (And we do still have Halloween candy sitting in the pantry. Us too. I have to keep weeding out the candy, because the progression from Halloween to Christmas to Valentine's Day to Easter pretty much keeps the candy dish full. The kids are quite good about it. They know they can't snack on candy night and day. Our general rule is that you can have what you want after you've eaten a respectable amount of "growing food." Both boys are very thin, so clearly weight is not an issue. Our rules probably restrict their eating sweets more than they might do on their own, but they have plenty of access to sweets as well as to healthy foods and they eat reasonably well overall. Best wishes, Ericka |
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Tina Petrone wrote: I remember as a kid -- with no rationing, really -- having to throw out what was left of my Halloween candy before the Easter Bunny could come, and then doing the same thing with leftover Easter candy before going trick or treating. So I do think the no rationing thing can work, but it takes the right kind of palate. My younger daughter and I could probably have dinner every day with a chocolate sculpture centerpiece, and not take a bite for weeks; older daughter and husband, not so much. I confess I have zero willpower when it comes to sweets. If it's in the house, I'll eat and eat and eat it. That's why I have learned to throw it away after Halloween, Easter, etc. Better not to tempt *myself* (much less the kids)! (Yep, I'm the mom who'd raid the kids' candy supply while they weren't at home). Also, on the subject of associating food with feelings, I must've been raised that way myself. When my DD's are feeling sad or had a bad day, my knee-jerk reaction is to try and offer food to cheer them up. I have to bite my tongue constantly and try a different approach. I don't always succeed in that. If sweets are not in the house, it's easier to resist offering them as a pick-me-up. Instead, I offer hugs, or suggest a warm soothing bath. Sometimes, I do suggest tea. Tea is nice and comforting, without all the empty calories. jen |
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In article . com, shinypenny
says... Also, on the subject of associating food with feelings, I must've been raised that way myself. When my DD's are feeling sad or had a bad day, my knee-jerk reaction is to try and offer food to cheer them up. I have to bite my tongue constantly and try a different approach. I don't always succeed in that. If sweets are not in the house, it's easier to resist offering them as a pick-me-up. Instead, I offer hugs, or suggest a warm soothing bath. THAT's the problem, I think, in a lot of families w.r.t. food. Not so much the forbidden fruit thing. For a candy to have 'forbidden fruit' appeal, I really think allowing it sometimes, at appropriate times, as a treat, as all that's necessary. If the candy isn't around all the time in the household, then you also don't set up that temptation-guilt cycle by forbidding it but also having it available. What IME is damaging is getting candy, sweets = love associated. Sometimes, I do suggest tea. Tea is nice and comforting, without all the empty calories. Well, that's better. But I still think having food, drink, any of that, too associated with comfort isn't a great idea. Talk, hugs, support to pursue interests - THOSE are the things that should be associated with comfort. Banty |
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Banty wrote:
In article . com, shinypenny says... Also, on the subject of associating food with feelings, I must've been raised that way myself. When my DD's are feeling sad or had a bad day, my knee-jerk reaction is to try and offer food to cheer them up. I have to bite my tongue constantly and try a different approach. I don't always succeed in that. If sweets are not in the house, it's easier to resist offering them as a pick-me-up. Instead, I offer hugs, or suggest a warm soothing bath. THAT's the problem, I think, in a lot of families w.r.t. food. Not so much the forbidden fruit thing. For a candy to have 'forbidden fruit' appeal, I really think allowing it sometimes, at appropriate times, as a treat, as all that's necessary. If the candy isn't around all the time in the household, then you also don't set up that temptation-guilt cycle by forbidding it but also having it available. What IME is damaging is getting candy, sweets = love associated. Sometimes, I do suggest tea. Tea is nice and comforting, without all the empty calories. Well, that's better. But I still think having food, drink, any of that, too associated with comfort isn't a great idea. Talk, hugs, support to pursue interests - THOSE are the things that should be associated with comfort. Banty I think hot tea is nice as a pick-up or soother. But I never liked baths myself - possibly because we didn't put enough water in the tub for it to be warm very long. And it is such a chore to fill the tub and empty and clean out. Nor would hugs have done, because I'm not a huggy type person. Totally turns me off. I might kiss a boo-boo to make it better but that's about it. What *I* would like is to be able to read a book or maybe go swimming. Anyway. to the original question. There's a BIG difference between making candy a 'forbidden fruit' and allowing a child to fill up on nothing but candy. grandma Rosalie |
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