Co-sleeping question

I am a new mom and co-sleep with my baby.

I adore this arrangement. Every night my baby flings his little arms
around my neck and puts his little face right up to mine, and every
morning I wake up to his smiling face and he gives me the most
heartwarming hugs.

I'm so thankful I get to experience all of these precious moments.

As of now, baby waits for me to get up - or he tugs on my hair or
babbles to wake me. He always stays right next to me, lying on his
back, or his side.

Now that he is 7 months old and beginning to crawl & get more active,
I'm wondering if he'll just get up one morning and crawl or roll off
the bed while I'm asleep?

We have a king-sized bed and baby sleeps on the inside between my
husband and I. (baby sleeps right next to me, while hubby is closer
to the other edge). I can push his crib right next to my side as a
barrier, but what about the foot of the bed and the other edge. Will
my baby crawl over me to get to freedom?

Do babie's get curious and check-out the boundries of the bed, or do
they continue to stay close? What did YOUR babie's do?

Thank You,

'worried co-sleeper'

wrote:
Do babie's get curious and check-out the boundries of the bed, or do
they continue to stay close? What did YOUR babie's do?

Yes but there are ways to make your family bed safer. Take it off
the posts and put it in the corner of your room. The baby should
be between you and the wall and the father should be on the edge:

wall - baby - mom - dad - end of bed

It's believed that your maternal instinct will prevent you from
rolling over your baby and that father's don't possess this
instinct.

Whatever, do some research on it. See what you turn up and
share

We've had this problem. My son has rolled/crawled off the bed a few
times... but usually, he hits the floor and keeps going, so I think maybe he
taught himself to scoot off.

One thing you can do is teach him to scoot off backwards, 7 months shouldn't
be too early for that.

Also, if he wakes you up now, chances are he'll keep doing it. Our son
usually slaps me and pulls my hair for a while, trying to wake me up, if I
ignorehim... he crawls over me and does it to his dad. :-)

When he got to be very good at crawling, I set up a sidecar. The crib is
right next to the bed, with the drop side completely removed... it's also
against the wall so it can't move the other direction. This way... he has
even more room to travel before he can think of getting off the bed.

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Now that he is 7 months old and beginning to crawl & get
more active, I'm wondering if he'll just get up one morning
and crawl or roll off the bed while I'm asleep?

my co-sleeper is 3.4 years old & he's *never* got up & out of
bed without me. he fell off the bed a couple times between 7-
15 months, but never when he was sleeping or getting up. he
was jumping around & fell.

We have a king-sized bed and baby sleeps on the inside
between my husband and I. (baby sleeps right next to me,
while hubby is closer to the other edge). I can push his
crib right next to my side as a barrier, but what about the
foot of the bed and the other edge. Will my baby crawl
over me to get to freedom?

i have a queen size bed. at around 12 months Boo kicked daddy
out because he just kicked & wiggled so much in his sleep. now
that he's older he sleeps without kicking & there's room for
all of us again. you might want to be prepared for that phase
i attempted to put him on the other side of me so daddy
didn't get kicked, but he still pushed me so far over there
wasn't room...
i'm pretty sure that if your baby tries climbing over you,
you will wake up. it's not like they're sneaky or careful...
lee

I am the mother of a two & a half yr old, and we originally co-slept in a
queen bed on a frame. One day my daughter crawled over me in my sleep, and
right off the bed. I was very upset - and SWORE I wouldn't sleep through
being crawled over again - unfortunately, I did. She was fine, but my
husband decided we were taking the bed off it's frame the next day. We did,
and we've been thrilled since. She rolled off the edge a few times (we have
a thin foam mattress under the futon on the floor) but it's not enough of a
distance that she even wakes up, LOL. Sometimes we wake with her butt in bed
& her head on the floor, or vice versa. We're very happy this way, and when
she graduates to her own bed, we'll put ours on a frame again.

Good luck!!
Corinne
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I am a new mom and co-sleep with my baby.

I adore this arrangement. Every night my baby flings his little arms
around my neck and puts his little face right up to mine, and every
morning I wake up to his smiling face and he gives me the most
heartwarming hugs.

I'm so thankful I get to experience all of these precious moments.

As of now, baby waits for me to get up - or he tugs on my hair or
babbles to wake me. He always stays right next to me, lying on his
back, or his side.

Now that he is 7 months old and beginning to crawl & get more active,
I'm wondering if he'll just get up one morning and crawl or roll off
the bed while I'm asleep?

We have a king-sized bed and baby sleeps on the inside between my
husband and I. (baby sleeps right next to me, while hubby is closer
to the other edge). I can push his crib right next to my side as a
barrier, but what about the foot of the bed and the other edge. Will
my baby crawl over me to get to freedom?

Do babie's get curious and check-out the boundries of the bed, or do
they continue to stay close? What did YOUR babie's do?

Thank You,

'worried co-sleeper'

I am the original poster (see post below). Oh my GOD, just out of
pure coincidence-the next day my baby fell off the bed. But it wasn't
while we were sleeping.

I got out of bed to use the bathroom. As i've done time and time
again without incident. I made sure baby was in the middle of my bed
and gave him his favorite toy, ran to the bathroom & I SWEAR not even
10 seconds went by when I heard the most horrifying THUD.

It was the most gut-wrenching sound and I screamed because I knew he
fell off the bed. I was shaking when I saw him face down motionless
and quiet. I think he was stunned! I am so, so lucky that he fell on
a pillow & didn't get hurt, but he bit his tongue. As he cried on my
shoulder-seeing his blood on my nightgown made me feel like the most
horrible mother created. I cried more than he did. I hate myself for
allowing this happen.

I realize now why books/magazines say to NEVER leave a baby alone even
for an instant. I would never leave him in a bath for an instant, so
why did I leave him on the bed?

*Because I stupidly thought I "knew" my baby and he's always stayed on
his back & played with his toy in the past when I used the bathroom.

*Because I was never gone more than a minute and I was less than 10
feet from him.

*Because I didn't want to put him in his crib because he hates it so
much and screams the second he's in it

*Because I didn't think he could get into any trouble in mere seconds.

Lots of reasons, but no excuse for what happened.

Thanks to those that responded, and I hope what happened to my baby
won't discourage anyone from co-sleeping. What happened isn't even
classified as a co-sleeping 'accident'. It was just a stupid mistake
where mommy left baby on the bed for 'a few seconds' alone and he
crawled off. .

After this scare, I'm going to use a mattress on the floor in a guest
room. Even still, I wont EVER leave baby alone again for a potty
break - even for a second. I'll just put him in his crib until I'm
done!



'worried co-sleeper'




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I am a new mom and co-sleep with my baby.

I adore this arrangement. Every night my baby flings his little arms
around my neck and puts his little face right up to mine, and every
morning I wake up to his smiling face and he gives me the most
heartwarming hugs.

I'm so thankful I get to experience all of these precious moments.

As of now, baby waits for me to get up - or he tugs on my hair or
babbles to wake me. He always stays right next to me, lying on his
back, or his side.

Now that he is 7 months old and beginning to crawl & get more active,
I'm wondering if he'll just get up one morning and crawl or roll off
the bed while I'm asleep?

We have a king-sized bed and baby sleeps on the inside between my
husband and I. (baby sleeps right next to me, while hubby is closer
to the other edge). I can push his crib right next to my side as a
barrier, but what about the foot of the bed and the other edge. Will
my baby crawl over me to get to freedom?

Do babie's get curious and check-out the boundries of the bed, or do
they continue to stay close? What did YOUR babie's do?

Thank You,

'worried co-sleeper'

wrote in message
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I am the original poster (see post below). Oh my GOD, just out of
pure coincidence-the next day my baby fell off the bed. But it wasn't
while we were sleeping.

Stop kicking yourself.

Accidents happen no matter how hard you try to prevent them

Once kids start trying to walk it gets really bad!

Just a thought: Have you got all your child locks installed on the kitchen
drawers, have you got an RCD security cut off on your electricity supply,
put a stair gate up to stop baby from crawling down the stairs, remember to
switch off any appliance that could draw water while you are washing the
baby to prevent scalding... etcetera !?

Don't worry co-sleeper the best thing you can do is to get some sleep
yourself so you can be allert when you are awake ;-)

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It was the most gut-wrenching sound and I screamed because I knew he
fell off the bed. I was shaking when I saw him face down motionless
and quiet. I think he was stunned! I am so, so lucky that he fell on
a pillow & didn't get hurt, but he bit his tongue. As he cried on my
shoulder-seeing his blood on my nightgown made me feel like the most
horrible mother created. I cried more than he did. I hate myself for
allowing this happen.

Then you'll be hating yourself a lot, as kids will fall and
we can't always control it. My two year old has fallen 3-5
times in a "significant" way, IMO. It happens. Heck, you
even took precautions to lessen any possible injury, and
the kid probably doesn't know what happened anyway.
Everything turned out fine, so relax. It's not worth
raising your blood pressure over.


P. Tierney

Thanks for the support and as each day goes by, i'm realizing that
accidents will happen, and I just have to try my best to prevent them.
I went through so much to have this baby, and tend to worry about him
a lot.

Chris, you mentioned 'RCD security', what is that? I have my baby
gates on order and have already babyproofed the cupboards, toilets and
electrical outlets.

For a BRIEF moment I had second thoughts about co-sleeping, but when I
awoke to his smiling face and hands on my face this morning-I knew I
made the right decision.

'co-sleeping mommy'



On Fri, 23 Jan 2004 02:46:45 GMT, "P. Tierney"
wrote:


wrote:

It was the most gut-wrenching sound and I screamed because I knew he
fell off the bed. I was shaking when I saw him face down motionless
and quiet. I think he was stunned! I am so, so lucky that he fell on
a pillow & didn't get hurt, but he bit his tongue. As he cried on my
shoulder-seeing his blood on my nightgown made me feel like the most
horrible mother created. I cried more than he did. I hate myself for
allowing this happen.

Then you'll be hating yourself a lot, as kids will fall and
we can't always control it. My two year old has fallen 3-5
times in a "significant" way, IMO. It happens. Heck, you
even took precautions to lessen any possible injury, and
the kid probably doesn't know what happened anyway.
Everything turned out fine, so relax. It's not worth
raising your blood pressure over.


P. Tierney

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Thanks for the support and as each day goes by, i'm realizing that
accidents will happen, and I just have to try my best to prevent them.
I went through so much to have this baby, and tend to worry about him
a lot.

Chris, you mentioned 'RCD security', what is that? I have my baby
gates on order and have already babyproofed the cupboards, toilets and
electrical outlets.

For a BRIEF moment I had second thoughts about co-sleeping, but when I
awoke to his smiling face and hands on my face this morning-I knew I
made the right decision.

I'd keep going with it too. There are various ways to make
things more secure, like more the pillow on the ground thing.
We also create a short pile of pillows on each border, as needed,
if one of us isn't in the bed with her. I'm not now, for example,
so my spouse is on one end, the child is in the middle, and a
pile of pillows takes the edge of the bed where I sleep. Another
option that I've read, depending on the layout of the room,
is pushing the bed against a wall, thus creating one solid border.


P. Tierney