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14 yr old son anger management
I know everyone must have asked for help with this matter. I have a 14
yr son. He has always has anger problem over the years we had worked threw them alright. These last few mouth he uncontrolable. Here is an example. Last week I told him he needed to get up I did the routing like I was told to do. After everything I finally got him up and he threw a swored at me. It scared the other children. I just know here in a few weeks or month he going to hit me. I asked his father to take him. But until then how so I handle my son Thank you Becka |
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14 yr old son anger management
wrote in message oups.com... I know everyone must have asked for help with this matter. I have a 14 yr son. He has always has anger problem over the years we had worked threw them alright. These last few mouth he uncontrolable. Here is an example. Last week I told him he needed to get up I did the routing like I was told to do. After everything I finally got him up and he threw a swored at me. It scared the other children. I just know here in a few weeks or month he going to hit me. I asked his father to take him. But until then how so I handle my son It sounds like you need to work with your son's school, his father, as well as mental health professionals, like social workers, family counselors or psychologists. Unfortunately, you didn't provide us with enough details to give more advice. Jeff Thank you Becka |
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14 yr old son anger management
In article zh9Vh.1102$Da6.388@trnddc02, Jeff says...
wrote in message roups.com... I know everyone must have asked for help with this matter. I have a 14 yr son. He has always has anger problem over the years we had worked threw them alright. These last few mouth he uncontrolable. Here is an example. Last week I told him he needed to get up I did the routing like I was told to do. After everything I finally got him up and he threw a swored at me. It scared the other children. I just know here in a few weeks or month he going to hit me. I asked his father to take him. But until then how so I handle my son It sounds like you need to work with your son's school, his father, as well as mental health professionals, like social workers, family counselors or psychologists. Unfortunately, you didn't provide us with enough details to give more advice. Right. There are too few details. But one thing that strikes me is, if I wake up my 14 year old the wrong way, he's awful surly. And he's by most accounts a pretty easy kid. I also know that a kid picks up on a parent's fear or desire to send him off to someone else, and that it really hurts. Otherwise, since I have no idea what "routing" is being referred to or what much of the rest of the post means. Banty |
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14 yr old son anger management
Banty wrote:
In article zh9Vh.1102$Da6.388@trnddc02, Jeff says... wrote in message groups.com... I know everyone must have asked for help with this matter. I have a 14 yr son. He has always has anger problem over the years we had worked threw them alright. These last few mouth he uncontrolable. Here is an example. Last week I told him he needed to get up I did the routing routing is probably really meant to be routine like I was told to do. After everything I finally got him up and he threw a swored at me. It scared the other children. I just know here in a few weeks or month he going to hit me. I asked his father to take him. But until then how so I handle my son It sounds like you need to work with your son's school, his father, as well as mental health professionals, like social workers, family counselors or psychologists. Unfortunately, you didn't provide us with enough details to give more advice. Right. There are too few details. But one thing that strikes me is, if I wake up my 14 year old the wrong way, he's awful surly. And he's by most accounts a pretty easy kid. I also know that a kid picks up on a parent's fear or desire to send him off to someone else, and that it really hurts. Otherwise, since I have no idea what "routing" is being referred to or what much of the rest of the post means. I want to know what a kid is doing with a swored. Is that a swear word or a sword? I agree that there aren't enough details to be credible or to offer any help. Who is telling her to do the routine. |
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14 yr old son anger management
"Rosalie B." wrote in message ... I want to know what a kid is doing with a swored. Is that a swear word or a sword? He's probably into fantasy gaming or reenactments. It could even be an epee. It's unlikely to have an edge or a point, but would still be dangerous if thrown, the way any other heavy or possibly pointed object would. Good pick up on "routine." I thought she was referring to some specific technique she'd learned. Bizby |
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14 yr old son anger management
wrote in message oups.com... I know everyone must have asked for help with this matter. I have a 14 yr son. He has always has anger problem over the years we had worked threw them alright. These last few mouth he uncontrolable. Here is an example. Last week I told him he needed to get up I did the routing like I was told to do. After everything I finally got him up and he threw a swored at me. It scared the other children. I just know here in a few weeks or month he going to hit me. I asked his father to take him. But until then how so I handle my son Thank you First, do get professional help. If you are at the point where you are afraid of him, then you need outside help. Second, do not do battle over anything non-essential, like not picking up his shoes, or hanging his coat up or so forth. Third, allow others to impose consequences where appropriate. For example, perhaps if he slept in and got to school late, he'd face punishment there. Fourth, talk to him at a neutral time about things like getting up in the morning, "I know you don't like to get up, but you do have to go to school and if you don't get up, I have to get you up. How do you want to handle this?" My daughter and I had this same situation (minus the sword!) and this same conversation. It turns out that she just didn't like to be yelled at, and of course the longer it took her to get up, the louder I got. Now I watch my tone better, and she's better about not taking it out on me in the morning even if she does wake up grumpy and mad. Fifth, try to avoid situations that you know are going to be hard for him to handle. I don't know what triggers his anger other than being woken up, but my daughter tends to get angry when she's embarrassed, unsure, or when she feels she's being criticized. Sixth, offer incentives for things that are important. For example, it's important to me that my daughter go to her therapy sessions, so we have a deal that every fourth week she gets to go out for fast food afterward. Seventh, remember to praise him and brag on him when you can. When we battle with our children, it can be so hard to feel like we can find anything good to say. But imagine how he must feel if he hears you on the phone with his dad saying, "You've got to take him -- I can't handle him anymore!" versus "Can you believe he got a B on his science project? I knew when I saw it how good it was!" Number 1 is the most important -- none of us can tell how volatile he really is, or whether you or the other kids are in danger. However, you wouldn't believe how much of a difference the rest has made in this household! Bizby |
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