Strange visit to Pediatrician

I spoke with another mom who went to see the same doctor once and she said
that the doctor seemed judgemental to her as well.

I've decided to stick with my own doctor, who by the way encouraged me to
breastfeed for as long as I wanted. He commended me for lasting longer than
the 6 weeks he sees most of his patients bf.

He did say that it would be difficult to get Morgan into her own bed the
longer I waited.

In any case, thank you all for your outstanding input. I feel much better.

I'll take my time with the co sleeping. The bfing, though, I would like to
cut down on. It seems she nurses 6 times a day AND at nite. It's just too
much for me.

It would be easier if we didn't work together. But, we do and I have to
figure out a way to get her to stop saying, "I want Milk" or "May I have it
please" so many times a day.

I don't mind nursing to sleep, though. It is just the daytime that is
getting to me.

~Carol Ann

Carol Ann wrote:
I spoke with another mom who went to see the same doctor once and she
said that the doctor seemed judgemental to her as well.

I've decided to stick with my own doctor, who by the way encouraged me
to breastfeed for as long as I wanted. He commended me for lasting
longer than the 6 weeks he sees most of his patients bf.

He did say that it would be difficult to get Morgan into her own bed the
longer I waited.

In any case, thank you all for your outstanding input. I feel much better.

I'll take my time with the co sleeping. The bfing, though, I would like
to cut down on. It seems she nurses 6 times a day AND at nite. It's
just too much for me.

It would be easier if we didn't work together. But, we do and I have
to figure out a way to get her to stop saying, "I want Milk" or "May I
have it please" so many times a day.

I don't mind nursing to sleep, though. It is just the daytime that is
getting to me.

Hi Carol Ann,

With DS1, when he was about 18mo, I got to this point too, and started
tell him that nursing was only for night time. I don't remember it
being difficult at all (YMMV may vary of course), but I think the script
is:

DD: "I want milk"
Carol Ann: "Sorry honey, mommy milk is for night time now. How about
we cuddle./Would you like some cow milk?/Let's read a story/etc"

Emily
--
DS1 5/02
DS2 9/05

Editing my post:

wrote:

Or supporting the claim that they can

NOT

learn to sleep on their own
iff 2.5 current age "7 or 8" ?

Can you tell I was up late wrapping? :-)

--
C, mama to three year old nursling

Carol Ann wrote:

I'm so confused. Am I harming Morgan?

Doctors are great for MEDICAL advice. Sleeping arrangements are not a
medical issue, they're a parenting issue. Unless you've had an
opportunity to watch this doctor with her children, and you've decided
that you like what you see and that you want to emulate her, don't
listen to a word she says about where and how the three of you sleep.
It's none of her business. Broken arms, medical. Ear infections,
medical. Sleeping arrangements, social. I think it's rather arrogant
of doctors to think that their MD gives them the right to dictate
non-medical issues to parents - and parents listen because doctors wear
a white coat and have a title. Our doctor is our age, maybe a bit
older. He has three kids. I'm sure they're all lovely, but that STILL
doesn't give him the right to tell me how to raise my kid. When it
really comes down to it, he has no more qualifications as a parent than
I do. I don't know his kids, and I don't know his parents, and I don't
know if the way they parent in that family is the way I want to parent
in my family.

the benedryl - while it certainly wouldn't hurt her, it's also not
going to train her in any meaningful way. I'm a big benedryl fan - we
gave it to my mom's evil, bitey little dog yesterday to keep him calm
during the festivities, and it worked like a charm... I also used to
take it when I worked shift work. It's good stuff. My doctor said he
gave it to one of his kids before a plane flight one time. It's not
harmful, certainly, but 7 - 10 days from now when you quit using it,
you're going to have one wide-awake, ****ed off little girl who is no
more able to get to sleep on her own in her own bed than she was
before.

Do not go back to this doctor. And only take parenting advice from
people you'd allow to raise your kid if something tragic happened to
you and your husband. That narrowed down the cast of thousands to
about 6 people for me, and quieted the endless cacophany of advice down
to a manageable rumble. Best thing I ever did for my sanity, because
there is no end of parenting advice out there, and I'd say a good 85%
of it is bad advice. And 97.2% of statistics are made up on the spot.


Amy

"Carol Ann" wrote in message
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It would be easier if we didn't work together. But, we do and I have to
figure out a way to get her to stop saying, "I want Milk" or "May I have
it
please" so many times a day.

I don't mind nursing to sleep, though. It is just the daytime that is
getting to me.

You know, she's old enough now that you can start to make some nursing
rules. It might be hard at first but you can tell her that you don't nurse
when Mommy is working because you have work to do. Maybe on a designated
lunch break (if you take one) or other scheduled breaks. If you have a
routine then she will learn to anticipate it. HTH

JennP.

"Emily" wrote in message
...

With DS1, when he was about 18mo, I got to this point too, and started
tell him that nursing was only for night time. I don't remember it
being difficult at all (YMMV may vary of course), but I think the script
is:

DD: "I want milk"
Carol Ann: "Sorry honey, mommy milk is for night time now. How about
we cuddle./Would you like some cow milk?/Let's read a story/etc"

When my DD was around 22 months old (and still wanting to nurse constantly
all day long), I started telling her that "nana" (her word for boob) was
tired and needed to rest. She protested a lot, at first (she has always been
a rather "high needs" kid), but eventually she learned that I wasn't going
to budge and that she wasn't going to get any "nana" from me. I used the
same tactic for night-weaning. Can't remember how long it took--a couple of
weeks, maybe, before she wasn't actively trying to nurse. But it was worth
it. Now, at nearly 3 years of age (her birthday is Jan. 20), she nurses only
before going to sleep at night (and only to sleep about half the time--the
other times I nurse her for a few minutes, see that she's not falling
asleep, then pop her off and lay with her until she falls asleep--no
problems with her not nursing to sleep).

Mary

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"stasya" wrote in message
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This doctor doesn't really sound like someone I would want my child to
see again. (Right off the bat...ok i'm not a doctor, but how does
throwing up indicate an ear infection? I mean yes she may have one, but
what about the throwing up?)

It is possible to hurt enough that you vomit.

Jess

If an ear infection follows a cold with a lot of post-nasal drip, the
constant dripping and swallowing of mucus will often make kids vomit. Ear
infections can cause vertigo and pressure changes, resulting in nausea.

Dejablues wrote:
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"stasya" wrote in message
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This doctor doesn't really sound like someone I would want my child to
see again. (Right off the bat...ok i'm not a doctor, but how does
throwing up indicate an ear infection? I mean yes she may have one, but
what about the throwing up?)

It is possible to hurt enough that you vomit.

Jess

If an ear infection follows a cold with a lot of post-nasal drip, the
constant dripping and swallowing of mucus will often make kids vomit. Ear
infections can cause vertigo and pressure changes, resulting in nausea.

Ah, I see. Learn something new everyday. The only thing that bugs my
kids is recurring sinus infections in my ds, and the doctor mentions
once in a while that he has an ear infection along with it but it
doesn't seem to bother him.(no ear tugging or rubbing, just a bit
crankier than usual) And the only time they've thrown up is from the
stomach bug that comes and goes around once a year.

Stasya

"Carol Ann" wrote in message
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He did say that it would be difficult to get Morgan into her own bed the
longer I waited.

You know, my doctor has said this frequently, that it would be more
difficult, but what I've discovered after three kids is it really isn't
necessarily so. With my first, I felt the pressure to get her out our bed
because, oh my word, she'd be there Forever and Ever if I didn't do
something Now. So at a year, I did train her out of our bed. With my
second, I also trained her out of our bed at around 18 months, but she'd
return in the middle of the night, and I gave up. At 2.5 or three years
old, though, she started staying in her room and didn't wake anymore in the
night. With my third, he just left at 2.5 on his own. He decided he wanted
to sleep in his own bed. I feel like I put so much unnecessary effort into
'sleep training' with my first two. Number four rarely sleeps with me as
he's an extreme oddball who sleeps through the night. He's only three
months, though, so I don't know how long it'll last.

Joy

She's VERY poorly informed.

See these links on the subject of ear infections and nursing.

http://www.kellymom.com/babyconcerns...n-nursing.html

M.