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Strange visit to Pediatrician
Carol Ann wrote: I'm so confused. Am I harming Morgan? Carol Ann, This is just an anecdote, but I think it may reassure you. My daughter Kivi just turned 4 years old. She co-slept and nursed to sleep every single day of her life until she was a little past her 3rd birthday. Somewhere around 2.75, she quit falling asleep at night from nursing. I don't know why ... nursing just lost the ability to make her sleepy at night. So my husband and I would lay with her in the dark (but in our room) until she fell asleep. And it wasn't long after that we were able to leave her in the dark and go about our business and she'd fall asleep on her own. However, we moved into our new house where she had her own room, with a big-girl bed in it. She liked having her own space, but I never pushed her to move from the toddler bed in our room, to the big girl room in her own room. I really wanted her to move AFTER she started sleeping all night regularly - the last thing I wanted was to be stumbling around in the dark from room to room, waking up even *more*. At around age 3, she started sleeping all night every night, and at age 3.25, she suddenly told me she wanted to sleep in her own bed. So, I nursed her, gave her her drink of water, and she said "OK, you can go now, Mommy". She slept great. I slept horribly. She had occasionally slept on her own bed during naps when she asked to. She was still nursing to sleep for naps, by the way. But, except for when we've had guests using her room, or was sick, she's slept in her own bed ever since. As for teeth: Some people have teeth problems, and some don't. We've always brushed her teeth, then nursed her to sleep. And when she stopped falling asleep from nursing, we started giving her a drink of water after nursing to rinse the milk off. She has no cavities at all, and her teeth are in excellent shape. This is how it will work with most people. However, some people this would not work for - they may be prone toward caries - and if Morgan is one, then you should work toward night weaning. If you are brushing her teeth twice a day, and not feeding her a diet high in sugar, then she's probably fine. As with teeth, some people are prone to ear infections, and others aren't. My daughter, in 4 years, has only had about 1 ear infection per year. My brother on the other hand, got them every six weeks when he was little (and he self-weaned at 10 months, and my mother, being a dentist, NEVER put him to bed with a bottle of any kind), and had 3 sets of ear tubes in 9 years. So has Morgan had lots of ear infections? Bottle-fed babies ARE more prone to them than breastfed babies, and babies who nurse lying down, DO get more than babies that don't. But if Morgan isn't prone to them, and hasn't had many, then why worry? There's no way of knowing if she would have gotten them if she hadn't been BF-ing. Perhaps she would have had MORE if she hadn't gotten the antibodies from you. Hope all this helps. Cathy Weeks Cathy (and the lot of you fantastic, posters!), Thank you so much for taking so much time to share your experiences. I feel so much better. Morgan has never had an ear infection before now (and now I'm wondering if she really does). Since beginning school she has had many colds. I plan on letting her co-sleep until she is ready. If that isn't until college, then so be it. I will, however encourage her to sleep in her own bed. I will buy her a nice bed and decorate her room nicely. But, if she wants to sleep with me, fine. The breastfeeding may continue until she is 2. I just feel that now is not the time to pull something away from her that she seems to need (especially while sick). So, we'll work towards Mar/Apr as a deadline. But, honestly, if we get there and she isn't ready, so what??? Who's business is it whether I want to bf for longer?? Screw my mother and her friends (and mine!) who keep telling me to wean. What is God's name is it hurting for me to bf my daughter????????? Thank you, all, for your confidence booster! I feel a whole heckava lot better! Except for this incredible cold I have. ~Carol Ann |
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Strange visit to Pediatrician
Carol Ann wrote: Screw my mother and her friends (and mine!) who keep telling me to wean. Damn straight. It's none of their business. I love these people who say, "Do this," and "Do that," but can hang up the phone or go home or hand her back to you when there are consequences (like a miserable, screaming baby who feels abandoned!). You are 100% right. Your baby's needs are way more important than your mother's opinion. And her friends? *snort* Their opinion matters on the same level as the mailman's or the toolbooth worker's (as in, not at all). One note - did you know that weaning begins the moment that you give a baby solid food? The definition, according to dictionary.com, is, "To accustom (the young of a mammal) to take nourishment other than by suckling." You started doing that (accustoming) from her first taste of solid food. So, if someone hassles you, you can say, "We've started weaning," with COMPLETE truthfulness, and you can shut them up and get them off your back without lying. It just happens to take some of us longer than others to wean. Like 18 months, sometimes, but you've *started* and that's the truth. Oh, I get so sick of these busybody old ladies... Don't get me started on the woman who TOOK OFF MY BABY'S HAT AND BLANKET at the store the other day. ARGH!!! Old women need to get themselves some frigging hobbies and leave us alone!!! Amy |
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Strange visit to Pediatrician
I see you've already gotten a ton of responses, but I have to put in my 2
cents... This is one of those topics that gets a person really riled up! My daughter slept with me off and on ever since she was born. Mostly though, she has slept with me. She is now 8. I was a single mom and enjoyed having her close by. I can assure you that my daughter turned out very bright, and has an attention span on par with other kids her age, if not better. I am married now, but every once in awhile my daughter still likes to make her nest on our bedroom floor. We usually talk and laugh together with the lights out before we all go to sleep. It reminds me of camping sort of, and we all enjoy being close like this. Some people, no matter how "educated" are just plain retarded. I have a low tolerance for ignorant people, especially ones that I think "should" know better. But my suggestion would be to shine it on. Betsy "Carol Ann" wrote in message news:MqDrf.432631$084.127960@attbi_s22... Morgan is 21 months old. She has had a cold for 2 weeks and began to throw up and have a fever so I took her to the Pediatrician. Her normal doctor is not in so we saw another one. She was diagnosed with a double ear infection. Well, the conversation we had left me kinda stumped. She said that Morgan should be sleeping in her own bed and putting herself to sleep (vs me breastfeeding her to sleep and cosleeping) because studies have shown that children who do not do what she suggested have a small attention span in school. Well, what I gathered was that she felt that I was harming Morgan in some way by continuing to breastfeed and not teach her how to sleep in her own bed. She also said that if I waited until Morgan was 2 1/2 I may as well wait until she is 7 or 8 because she would never learn. She suggested I make the big girl bed a big deal to Morgan (which I accept), that I put her to sleep in a dark room (which I accept) and that I let her cry for 15 minute intervals before I go in to put her back down to sleep. She said that it could go on for hours but to not give in. She also said to give her 3/4 of a teaspoon of Benedryl to help her sleep for the 7 - 10 days it would take to train her to sleep on her own. She said to use it every nite for the 7 - 10 days, but not forever. I asked her if Morgan would feel the effects of the drugs and know something is wrong. She said no. I thought about it and thought about it and thought about it. She can't be right in suggesting I drug my daughter?? Can she? IF I try to wean Morgan but still sleep together is that hurting her? What if I cut out all day feedings and just feed her to sleep?? Is that wrong? Then, after time, take that one away? The doctor also said that breastfeeding to sleep was bad for Morgan's teeth and could also be causing her ear infections b/c she is laying down with a pool of milk in her ears. That's not right is it? Don't they only get milk when the suck and then they swallow it?? I'm so confused. Am I harming Morgan? Thanks for your input in advance. Merry Christmas!! Carol Ann http://tinyurl.com/b9e9r ---- Pictures of Morgan |
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