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"teachrmama" wrote in message ... "Chris" wrote in message news:T6aff.346$dv.301@fed1read02... "teachrmama" wrote in message ... "Chris" wrote in message news:Z_Vef.263$dv.14@fed1read02... "Trial Run" wrote in message oups.com... Chris, Dusty, I was comparing what DB posted about the fathers having to choose between jail and work! Read the first post on this thread. I changed the wording as it fits for the CP in my case also. Meaning it is gender equal/CP or NCP equal dumb ****s!! And you're right, I can afford my child and so can the NCP! So why doesn't he help pay for them? Because he didn't bring them into the world........................... next. He is the one who begged on bended knee for me to give birth to his child. My other 2 kids were already 10 & 7, I really didn't want or need to have more children at the age of 29! You guys are making me dislike men really fast!! LOL Glad my BF is thankful for the help I can offer him in his case!! He wouldn't think to highly of you guys either, and that you are the ones who screw it up for the decent NCP's. Just like the rad fems I guess are the ones who make it so you feel the way you do towards me the CP. Someone please with an intelligent response, what makes it so that a NCP just doesn't FEEL like paying? Paying "child support" is tantamount to paying a prostitution fee. Having sex is the sole act (as a rule) that a man must do before such funds are extorted from him. The only requirement for the hooker is that she chooses to give birth. Have sex, pay money. OK, Chris, just for the fun of it: Man and woman marry, have children, andaer gloriously happy until thier youngest is 10 years old. At that point he gets the hots for his secretary. HE leaves his wife (who has been a SAHM for 15 years) to run off with Holly Hoohoos. HE does not want custody because Holly does not want children. Should HE pay child support? "Child support" is nothing more than forced extraction of funds from the producer to the non-producer. In other words, THEFT. If the issue is whether or not a father takes his biological children into his home and cares for them, that's one story; but it aint' the same thing as paying "child support". The fact that the government people protect the mother's right to keep possession of her own children supports the claim that they belong to her since she made the sole choice to bring them into the world. Why they require her to allow the biological father to babysit her children a couple times a month remains a mystery; especially since it is virtually never enforced. But you didn't answer my question. Should he have any financial obligation toward the children's upkeep? I thought the answer to your question was obvious. You asked if he should "pay child support", and my reply was that such "child support" amounts to theft. What do you suppose my answer would be? Or is it ok for him to run off with Holly Hoohoos and forget that he ever had children? He never "had" children. |
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"Chris" wrote in message news:M%jff.409$dv.220@fed1read02... "teachrmama" wrote in message ... "Chris" wrote in message news:T6aff.346$dv.301@fed1read02... "teachrmama" wrote in message ... "Chris" wrote in message news:Z_Vef.263$dv.14@fed1read02... "Trial Run" wrote in message oups.com... Chris, Dusty, I was comparing what DB posted about the fathers having to choose between jail and work! Read the first post on this thread. I changed the wording as it fits for the CP in my case also. Meaning it is gender equal/CP or NCP equal dumb ****s!! And you're right, I can afford my child and so can the NCP! So why doesn't he help pay for them? Because he didn't bring them into the world........................... next. He is the one who begged on bended knee for me to give birth to his child. My other 2 kids were already 10 & 7, I really didn't want or need to have more children at the age of 29! You guys are making me dislike men really fast!! LOL Glad my BF is thankful for the help I can offer him in his case!! He wouldn't think to highly of you guys either, and that you are the ones who screw it up for the decent NCP's. Just like the rad fems I guess are the ones who make it so you feel the way you do towards me the CP. Someone please with an intelligent response, what makes it so that a NCP just doesn't FEEL like paying? Paying "child support" is tantamount to paying a prostitution fee. Having sex is the sole act (as a rule) that a man must do before such funds are extorted from him. The only requirement for the hooker is that she chooses to give birth. Have sex, pay money. OK, Chris, just for the fun of it: Man and woman marry, have children, andaer gloriously happy until thier youngest is 10 years old. At that point he gets the hots for his secretary. HE leaves his wife (who has been a SAHM for 15 years) to run off with Holly Hoohoos. HE does not want custody because Holly does not want children. Should HE pay child support? "Child support" is nothing more than forced extraction of funds from the producer to the non-producer. In other words, THEFT. If the issue is whether or not a father takes his biological children into his home and cares for them, that's one story; but it aint' the same thing as paying "child support". The fact that the government people protect the mother's right to keep possession of her own children supports the claim that they belong to her since she made the sole choice to bring them into the world. Why they require her to allow the biological father to babysit her children a couple times a month remains a mystery; especially since it is virtually never enforced. But you didn't answer my question. Should he have any financial obligation toward the children's upkeep? I thought the answer to your question was obvious. You asked if he should "pay child support", and my reply was that such "child support" amounts to theft. What do you suppose my answer would be? Or is it ok for him to run off with Holly Hoohoos and forget that he ever had children? He never "had" children. So, just to be perfectly clear, you are saying that it is always 100% a woman's responsibility to provide for children. If a man chooses to do so, he may. But if he doesn't choose to, he is in no way responsible for the children. Even when the children are born within the bonds of wedlock and it is the choice of both partners to bring children into the world. If a man gets tired of the marriage, he walks away scot free--no responsibilities. Right? |
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Chris wrote: "Trial Run" wrote in message oups.com... snipped for brevity I am not dismissing that the article that you posted above does not happen, it happens to frequently. But it is no different then CP who are faced with the same issues! If you can't afford to care for your children, then you shouldn't have chosen to have them in the first place. Don't complain. Who says she CHOSE? Maybe the children chose. Maybe she had joint custody and he took off. Maybe she DID choose. But that does not exonerate their father from contributing to their well being. |
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teachrmama wrote:
OK, Chris, just for the fun of it: Man and woman marry, have children, andaer gloriously happy until thier youngest is 10 years old. At that point he gets the hots for his secretary. HE leaves his wife (who has been a SAHM for 15 years) to run off with Holly Hoohoos. HE does not want custody because Holly does not want children. Should HE pay child support? By "does not want custody," do you mean that he has completely and permanently severed his contact with the child so he can hang out with Holly? If so, then this is the extremely rare "deadbeat dad" scenario that the present child support system and it's supporters assume is epidemic and representative of 99% of cases. In this case, I do believe that forced financial support -- at a rate linked to 50% of the expenses necessary for raising a child and with full accountability for those expenses -- is justified. Forced payment of financial child support should be reserved for only the most aggregious abandoners. Howver, this is not the reality in most cases. Most fathers, even if they ran off with Holly Bigboobs, still want to DIRECTLY support their kids and would do so if the present system didn't make it nearly impossible in the presence of an uncooperative/greedy/vindictive CP mother. Jay R. |
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Chris wrote:
"Trial Run" wrote in message oups.com... Chris, Dusty, I was comparing what DB posted about the fathers having to choose between jail and work! Read the first post on this thread. I changed the wording as it fits for the CP in my case also. Meaning it is gender equal/CP or NCP equal dumb ****s!! And you're right, I can afford my child and so can the NCP! So why doesn't he help pay for them? Because he didn't bring them into the world........................... next. That is such sexist bull****! He should be responsible for the care of any and all of his progeny. He is the one who begged on bended knee for me to give birth to his child. My other 2 kids were already 10 & 7, I really didn't want or need to have more children at the age of 29! You guys are making me dislike men really fast!! LOL Glad my BF is thankful for the help I can offer him in his case!! He wouldn't think to highly of you guys either, and that you are the ones who screw it up for the decent NCP's. Just like the rad fems I guess are the ones who make it so you feel the way you do towards me the CP. Someone please with an intelligent response, what makes it so that a NCP just doesn't FEEL like paying? Paying "child support" is tantamount to paying a prostitution fee. Having sex is the sole act (as a rule) that a man must do before such funds are extorted from him. The only requirement for the hooker is that she chooses to give birth. Have sex, pay money. More sexist bull****. IF the father was still in a relationship with their mother, he would be living in their home and sharing expenses. He should still be responsible to making sure that the children are provided for. Does that make the fact that my hubby lets me live in HIS house, rent free, because I have sex with him? Does that make me a prostitue? I help him to support his son too. More prostitution, for I child I did not bring into this world. You guys are such morons. He can pay, he works, he loves his kids...he knows that I will not take him back to court to get more...why...because I am just not like that! Why don't you two try reading everything I wrote instead of only choosing to comment on whatever you feel is negative! |
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"Stevie" wrote in message oups.com... Chris wrote: "Trial Run" wrote in message oups.com... Chris, Dusty, I was comparing what DB posted about the fathers having to choose between jail and work! Read the first post on this thread. I changed the wording as it fits for the CP in my case also. Meaning it is gender equal/CP or NCP equal dumb ****s!! And you're right, I can afford my child and so can the NCP! So why doesn't he help pay for them? Because he didn't bring them into the world........................... next. That is such sexist bull****! He should be responsible for the care of any and all of his progeny. He is the one who begged on bended knee for me to give birth to his child. My other 2 kids were already 10 & 7, I really didn't want or need to have more children at the age of 29! You guys are making me dislike men really fast!! LOL Glad my BF is thankful for the help I can offer him in his case!! He wouldn't think to highly of you guys either, and that you are the ones who screw it up for the decent NCP's. Just like the rad fems I guess are the ones who make it so you feel the way you do towards me the CP. Someone please with an intelligent response, what makes it so that a NCP just doesn't FEEL like paying? Paying "child support" is tantamount to paying a prostitution fee. Having sex is the sole act (as a rule) that a man must do before such funds are extorted from him. The only requirement for the hooker is that she chooses to give birth. Have sex, pay money. More sexist bull****. IF the father was still in a relationship with their mother, he would be living in their home and sharing expenses. He should still be responsible to making sure that the children are provided for. Does that make the fact that my hubby lets me live in HIS house, rent free, because I have sex with him? Does that make me a prostitue? I help him to support his son too. More prostitution, for I child I did not bring into this world. You guys are such morons. He can pay, he works, he loves his kids...he knows that I will not take him back to court to get more...why...because I am just not like that! Why don't you two try reading everything I wrote instead of only choosing to comment on whatever you feel is negative! |
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"Stevie" wrote in message oups.com... Chris wrote: "Trial Run" wrote in message oups.com... Chris, Dusty, I was comparing what DB posted about the fathers having to choose between jail and work! Read the first post on this thread. I changed the wording as it fits for the CP in my case also. Meaning it is gender equal/CP or NCP equal dumb ****s!! And you're right, I can afford my child and so can the NCP! So why doesn't he help pay for them? Because he didn't bring them into the world........................... next. That is such sexist bull****! He should be responsible for the care of any and all of his progeny. What gets overlooked in these highly emotional arguments about caring for children is there is a second component that always favors CP's, but CP's don't like to acknowledge. The argument that NCP's should be responsible for the "care" of their children focuses in on the financial responsibility placed upon NCP. But in reality the law acknowledges parental rights and responsibility. The CP's get the parental rights (custody) and the NCP's get the parental responsibility (CS payments). It is just as sexist to pretend the parental rights stripped from NCP's and awarded exclusively to CP's have nothing to do with the parental rights and responsibility division that in sum represent "care" for the children. But if your comment about "care...of all his progeny" means every father should be given the parental rights that come with custody, I agree with you. He is the one who begged on bended knee for me to give birth to his child. My other 2 kids were already 10 & 7, I really didn't want or need to have more children at the age of 29! You guys are making me dislike men really fast!! LOL Glad my BF is thankful for the help I can offer him in his case!! He wouldn't think to highly of you guys either, and that you are the ones who screw it up for the decent NCP's. Just like the rad fems I guess are the ones who make it so you feel the way you do towards me the CP. Someone please with an intelligent response, what makes it so that a NCP just doesn't FEEL like paying? Paying "child support" is tantamount to paying a prostitution fee. Having sex is the sole act (as a rule) that a man must do before such funds are extorted from him. The only requirement for the hooker is that she chooses to give birth. Have sex, pay money. More sexist bull****. IF the father was still in a relationship with their mother, he would be living in their home and sharing expenses. He should still be responsible to making sure that the children are provided for. This is a good example of my point. While living in a relationship with the children's mother, the father has both parental rights and parental responsibility. If the parental responsibility continues for fathers after a relationship breakup, it is just as logical to believe parental rights should follow the father too. |
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"Stevie" wrote in message oups.com... Chris wrote: "Trial Run" wrote in message oups.com... snipped for brevity I am not dismissing that the article that you posted above does not happen, it happens to frequently. But it is no different then CP who are faced with the same issues! If you can't afford to care for your children, then you shouldn't have chosen to have them in the first place. Don't complain. Who says she CHOSE? The government people with their laws. Maybe the children chose. Maybe she had joint custody and he took off. Maybe she DID choose. But that does not exonerate their father from contributing to their well being. So long as he did not make the choice it does; and he didn't choose. Ever hear of "Right to choose"? |
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"teachrmama" wrote in message ... "Chris" wrote in message news:M%jff.409$dv.220@fed1read02... "teachrmama" wrote in message ... "Chris" wrote in message news:T6aff.346$dv.301@fed1read02... "teachrmama" wrote in message ... "Chris" wrote in message news:Z_Vef.263$dv.14@fed1read02... "Trial Run" wrote in message oups.com... Chris, Dusty, I was comparing what DB posted about the fathers having to choose between jail and work! Read the first post on this thread. I changed the wording as it fits for the CP in my case also. Meaning it is gender equal/CP or NCP equal dumb ****s!! And you're right, I can afford my child and so can the NCP! So why doesn't he help pay for them? Because he didn't bring them into the world........................... next. He is the one who begged on bended knee for me to give birth to his child. My other 2 kids were already 10 & 7, I really didn't want or need to have more children at the age of 29! You guys are making me dislike men really fast!! LOL Glad my BF is thankful for the help I can offer him in his case!! He wouldn't think to highly of you guys either, and that you are the ones who screw it up for the decent NCP's. Just like the rad fems I guess are the ones who make it so you feel the way you do towards me the CP. Someone please with an intelligent response, what makes it so that a NCP just doesn't FEEL like paying? Paying "child support" is tantamount to paying a prostitution fee. Having sex is the sole act (as a rule) that a man must do before such funds are extorted from him. The only requirement for the hooker is that she chooses to give birth. Have sex, pay money. OK, Chris, just for the fun of it: Man and woman marry, have children, andaer gloriously happy until thier youngest is 10 years old. At that point he gets the hots for his secretary. HE leaves his wife (who has been a SAHM for 15 years) to run off with Holly Hoohoos. HE does not want custody because Holly does not want children. Should HE pay child support? "Child support" is nothing more than forced extraction of funds from the producer to the non-producer. In other words, THEFT. If the issue is whether or not a father takes his biological children into his home and cares for them, that's one story; but it aint' the same thing as paying "child support". The fact that the government people protect the mother's right to keep possession of her own children supports the claim that they belong to her since she made the sole choice to bring them into the world. Why they require her to allow the biological father to babysit her children a couple times a month remains a mystery; especially since it is virtually never enforced. But you didn't answer my question. Should he have any financial obligation toward the children's upkeep? I thought the answer to your question was obvious. You asked if he should "pay child support", and my reply was that such "child support" amounts to theft. What do you suppose my answer would be? Or is it ok for him to run off with Holly Hoohoos and forget that he ever had children? He never "had" children. So, just to be perfectly clear, you are saying that it is always 100% a woman's responsibility to provide for children. So long as she is 100% responsible for the choice to bring them into the world, YES. If a man chooses to do so, he may. But if he doesn't choose to, he is in no way responsible for the children. Even when the children are born within the bonds of wedlock and it is the choice of both partners to bring children into the world. There is one and ONLY one final arbiter in such choice; and guess who that is. If a man gets tired of the marriage, he walks away scot free--no responsibilities. Right? |
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"Stevie" wrote in message oups.com... Chris wrote: "Trial Run" wrote in message oups.com... Chris, Dusty, I was comparing what DB posted about the fathers having to choose between jail and work! Read the first post on this thread. I changed the wording as it fits for the CP in my case also. Meaning it is gender equal/CP or NCP equal dumb ****s!! And you're right, I can afford my child and so can the NCP! So why doesn't he help pay for them? Because he didn't bring them into the world........................... next. That is such sexist bull****! Call it what you like, but STILL a fact. He should be responsible for the care of any and all of his progeny. Because? He is the one who begged on bended knee for me to give birth to his child. My other 2 kids were already 10 & 7, I really didn't want or need to have more children at the age of 29! You guys are making me dislike men really fast!! LOL Glad my BF is thankful for the help I can offer him in his case!! He wouldn't think to highly of you guys either, and that you are the ones who screw it up for the decent NCP's. Just like the rad fems I guess are the ones who make it so you feel the way you do towards me the CP. Someone please with an intelligent response, what makes it so that a NCP just doesn't FEEL like paying? Paying "child support" is tantamount to paying a prostitution fee. Having sex is the sole act (as a rule) that a man must do before such funds are extorted from him. The only requirement for the hooker is that she chooses to give birth. Have sex, pay money. More sexist bull****. IF the father was still in a relationship with their mother, he would be living in their home and sharing expenses. Can you say...... "speculation"? He should still be responsible to making sure that the children are provided for. Because? Does that make the fact that my hubby lets me live in HIS house, rent free, because I have sex with him? Does that make me a prostitue? I help him to support his son too. More prostitution, for I child I did not bring into this world. With all due respect, your above statements are unclear to me. You guys are such morons. Thank you for your opinion. He can pay, he works, he loves his kids...he knows that I will not take him back to court to get more...why...because I am just not like that! Why don't you two try reading everything I wrote instead of only choosing to comment on whatever you feel is negative! |
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