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Am I hurting my child by putting her in daycare at 22 months?
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On Fri, 7 Dec 2007 01:19:51 +0000 (UTC), enigma wrote: Banty wrote in : Whats this? Who are "ChildFind" and how did they get this power and mixed up in your life?? he didn't talk at age 2. no babble, nothing except an really good ambulance siren imitation, so he was referred to Early Intervention. he received physical therapy & later speech therapy. he was unable to work the muscles in his tongue & face to make sounds (i currently maintain speech therapy was the stupidest parenting mistake i've made g) anyway, when kids age out of EI at age 3, they refer you to ChildFind or whatever your state calls the school district developmental delay program. i didn't know this when i went into EI. i figured he'd get a year of PT & then i'd find a private PT if he needed to continue. one of the things the PT suggested was putting him into a playgroup once/week so he could play with other kids. seemed reasonable at the time because there aren't other kids around. well, that & the fact that Boo refused to play the intake coordinators games made them decide to label him emotionally immature (show me an emotionally mature 2year7 month old) & overly attached to me. he *tried* to talk to the intake coordinators & show them his tractors and implements, but they wanted him to look at pictures & point at things (when they asked him where the window was in the picture, he pointed to the window he was sitting next to, & when that was "wrong" he didn't want to play that game). so, they wanted him to go to developmentally delayed preschool & i thought they were crazy. lee still thinks they're crazy. hence the private school That's messed up. A 2 year old just cannot be overly attached to mom, IMNSHO! The stories you tell about Boo, he sounds so happy. I'm glad you thumbed your nose at the agency. That's worrisome. My son had speech therapy as a pre-schooler. It was supplied by the school district. All went very well, but one of the requirements was a visit from social workers. That went OK, but one item that concerned me is that they tested my son, showing him pictures. It looked like he was getting some testing for how he pronounces words. One picture was of a handgun. He didn't know what that was. At the end of the visit, one of the social workers commented that it was good that he didn't know what a gun was - are there guns in my house? I said "no". But I wondered - is their scope way beyond educational needs, and what if we were a hunting family? Banty |
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Am I hurting my child by putting her in daycare at 22 months?
On Dec 6, 7:19 pm, enigma wrote:
Banty wrote : Whats this? Who are "ChildFind" and how did they get this power and mixed up in your life?? he didn't talk at age 2. no babble, nothing except an really good ambulance siren imitation, so he was referred to Early Intervention. he received physical therapy & later speech therapy. he was unable to work the muscles in his tongue & face to make sounds (i currently maintain speech therapy was the stupidest parenting mistake i've made g) Interesting. I've just called to set up an evaluation with ECI. DD is behind in gross motor development and speech (still within normal range, but just barely). I'm not sure yet if she'll qualify for therapy. Everyone I've heard from raves about the program. I figured a little therapy wouldn't hurt. However I'm a little nervous that when they come over and see our house in various states of renovation (it's safe but has some major issues), they're going to freak... Anyway - why was therapy so bad for him, other than the fallout of the preschool situation? |
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Am I hurting my child by putting her in daycare at 22 months?
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: "enigma" wrote in message . .. well, that & the fact that Boo refused to play the intake coordinators games made them decide to label him emotionally immature (show me an emotionally mature 2year7 month old) & overly attached to me. How the frick can a 2yo be "overly" attached to his MOTHER!??!!!??? i have no idea. i really think that the fact that both of us are home full time & spent lots of time with the baby really threw them. it probably didn't help that he's *very* slow to warm up to strangers & he's fairly shy. he prefers to observe before he gets involved. they were pushing him pretty hard to perform on demand & he just wasn't interested in what they were trying to get him to do. i pointed out that if they would talk to him about *his* interests (tractors & chickens) they would get better response. so, i'm overly involved. the DD preschool was a dismal hole, dark, damp, smelled of mildew & mothballs, had a lot of dirty broken toys & expected 3 year olds to sit at desks & do worksheets for 15-20 minutes at a time. as far as continuing his therapies, they were only going to do speech one half hour per week in a group, & while they verbally said he needed to continue PT, they were not going to offer it & if i wanted it, i could get it privately (we do not have health insurance). i don't know about anyone else, but that didn't seem like anywhere i wanted my kid to attend. the Montessori preschool seemed like a good fit & the staff was willing to spend extra one on one time helping him with fine motor tasks & speech, so while sending him to preschool at 3 wasn't my idea, it certainly wasn't bad for him, & certainly better than a drawn out court case with CPS... lee |
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Am I hurting my child by putting her in daycare at 22 months?
Nan wrote in
: That's messed up. A 2 year old just cannot be overly attached to mom, IMNSHO! The stories you tell about Boo, he sounds so happy. I'm glad you thumbed your nose at the agency. yeah, he's a cheery little guy. he's doing better on the shyness front. he tells us that he wants us to get lost so he can talk to the eye doctor, because he can do it easier if we're not in the room (IOW, he knows he uses us as a crutch for being shy). he's pretty smart. lee |
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Am I hurting my child by putting her in daycare at 22 months?
On 7 Dec 2007 06:03:39 -0800, Banty wrote:
In article , Nan says... On Fri, 7 Dec 2007 01:19:51 +0000 (UTC), enigma wrote: Banty wrote in : Whats this? Who are "ChildFind" and how did they get this power and mixed up in your life?? he didn't talk at age 2. no babble, nothing except an really good ambulance siren imitation, so he was referred to Early Intervention. he received physical therapy & later speech therapy. he was unable to work the muscles in his tongue & face to make sounds (i currently maintain speech therapy was the stupidest parenting mistake i've made g) anyway, when kids age out of EI at age 3, they refer you to ChildFind or whatever your state calls the school district developmental delay program. i didn't know this when i went into EI. i figured he'd get a year of PT & then i'd find a private PT if he needed to continue. one of the things the PT suggested was putting him into a playgroup once/week so he could play with other kids. seemed reasonable at the time because there aren't other kids around. well, that & the fact that Boo refused to play the intake coordinators games made them decide to label him emotionally immature (show me an emotionally mature 2year7 month old) & overly attached to me. he *tried* to talk to the intake coordinators & show them his tractors and implements, but they wanted him to look at pictures & point at things (when they asked him where the window was in the picture, he pointed to the window he was sitting next to, & when that was "wrong" he didn't want to play that game). so, they wanted him to go to developmentally delayed preschool & i thought they were crazy. lee still thinks they're crazy. hence the private school That's messed up. A 2 year old just cannot be overly attached to mom, IMNSHO! The stories you tell about Boo, he sounds so happy. I'm glad you thumbed your nose at the agency. That's worrisome. My son had speech therapy as a pre-schooler. It was supplied by the school district. All went very well, but one of the requirements was a visit from social workers. That went OK, but one item that concerned me is that they tested my son, showing him pictures. It looked like he was getting some testing for how he pronounces words. One picture was of a handgun. He didn't know what that was. At the end of the visit, one of the social workers commented that it was good that he didn't know what a gun was - are there guns in my house? I said "no". But I wondered - is their scope way beyond educational needs, and what if we were a hunting family? My youngest had gross motor delays and had PT through First Steps, which is Indiana's EI team. We both loved it, and when she turned 3 I was asked if I wanted her referred to the school system. We had an evaluation and she wasn't delayed enough to get into their program (Thank goodness, we'd been working a lot with her motor skills) and I didn't have an issue with the case worker, but she did seem over-worked. Nan |
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Am I hurting my child by putting her in daycare at 22 months?
On Dec 7, 8:03 am, Banty wrote:
In article , Nan says... On Fri, 7 Dec 2007 01:19:51 +0000 (UTC), enigma wrote: Banty wrote in : Whats this? Who are "ChildFind" and how did they get this power and mixed up in your life?? he didn't talk at age 2. no babble, nothing except an really good ambulance siren imitation, so he was referred to Early Intervention. he received physical therapy & later speech therapy. he was unable to work the muscles in his tongue & face to make sounds (i currently maintain speech therapy was the stupidest parenting mistake i've made g) anyway, when kids age out of EI at age 3, they refer you to ChildFind or whatever your state calls the school district developmental delay program. i didn't know this when i went into EI. i figured he'd get a year of PT & then i'd find a private PT if he needed to continue. one of the things the PT suggested was putting him into a playgroup once/week so he could play with other kids. seemed reasonable at the time because there aren't other kids around. well, that & the fact that Boo refused to play the intake coordinators games made them decide to label him emotionally immature (show me an emotionally mature 2year7 month old) & overly attached to me. he *tried* to talk to the intake coordinators & show them his tractors and implements, but they wanted him to look at pictures & point at things (when they asked him where the window was in the picture, he pointed to the window he was sitting next to, & when that was "wrong" he didn't want to play that game). so, they wanted him to go to developmentally delayed preschool & i thought they were crazy. lee still thinks they're crazy. hence the private school That's messed up. A 2 year old just cannot be overly attached to mom, IMNSHO! The stories you tell about Boo, he sounds so happy. I'm glad you thumbed your nose at the agency. That's worrisome. My son had speech therapy as a pre-schooler. It was supplied by the school district. All went very well, but one of the requirements was a visit from social workers. That went OK, but one item that concerned me is that they tested my son, showing him pictures. It looked like he was getting some testing for how he pronounces words. One picture was of a handgun. He didn't know what that was. Wow. I think I would be hugely bothered by that. It just seems unnecessary. At the end of the visit, one of the social workers commented that it was good that he didn't know what a gun was - are there guns in my house? I said "no". But I wondered - is their scope way beyond educational needs, and what if we were a hunting family? I could be they were trying to evaluate whether or not they should be concerned for the child's safety, since a lot of gun related injuries/ deaths are due to home accidents. However, it seems something well outside their scope and not really appropriate. |
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Am I hurting my child by putting her in daycare at 22 months?
On Dec 7, 8:41 am, Nan wrote:
On 7 Dec 2007 06:03:39 -0800, Banty wrote: In article , Nan says... On Fri, 7 Dec 2007 01:19:51 +0000 (UTC), enigma wrote: Banty wrote in : Whats this? Who are "ChildFind" and how did they get this power and mixed up in your life?? he didn't talk at age 2. no babble, nothing except an really good ambulance siren imitation, so he was referred to Early Intervention. he received physical therapy & later speech therapy. he was unable to work the muscles in his tongue & face to make sounds (i currently maintain speech therapy was the stupidest parenting mistake i've made g) anyway, when kids age out of EI at age 3, they refer you to ChildFind or whatever your state calls the school district developmental delay program. i didn't know this when i went into EI. i figured he'd get a year of PT & then i'd find a private PT if he needed to continue. one of the things the PT suggested was putting him into a playgroup once/week so he could play with other kids. seemed reasonable at the time because there aren't other kids around. well, that & the fact that Boo refused to play the intake coordinators games made them decide to label him emotionally immature (show me an emotionally mature 2year7 month old) & overly attached to me. he *tried* to talk to the intake coordinators & show them his tractors and implements, but they wanted him to look at pictures & point at things (when they asked him where the window was in the picture, he pointed to the window he was sitting next to, & when that was "wrong" he didn't want to play that game). so, they wanted him to go to developmentally delayed preschool & i thought they were crazy. lee still thinks they're crazy. hence the private school That's messed up. A 2 year old just cannot be overly attached to mom, IMNSHO! The stories you tell about Boo, he sounds so happy. I'm glad you thumbed your nose at the agency. That's worrisome. My son had speech therapy as a pre-schooler. It was supplied by the school district. All went very well, but one of the requirements was a visit from social workers. That went OK, but one item that concerned me is that they tested my son, showing him pictures. It looked like he was getting some testing for how he pronounces words. One picture was of a handgun. He didn't know what that was. At the end of the visit, one of the social workers commented that it was good that he didn't know what a gun was - are there guns in my house? I said "no". But I wondered - is their scope way beyond educational needs, and what if we were a hunting family? My youngest had gross motor delays and had PT through First Steps, which is Indiana's EI team. We both loved it, and when she turned 3 I was asked if I wanted her referred to the school system. We had an evaluation and she wasn't delayed enough to get into their program (Thank goodness, we'd been working a lot with her motor skills) and I didn't have an issue with the case worker, but she did seem over-worked. This makes me feel better, since we're having our evaluation next week! |
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Am I hurting my child by putting her in daycare at 22 months?
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cjra says... On Dec 7, 8:03 am, Banty wrote: In article , Nan says... On Fri, 7 Dec 2007 01:19:51 +0000 (UTC), enigma wrote: Banty wrote in : Whats this? Who are "ChildFind" and how did they get this power and mixed up in your life?? he didn't talk at age 2. no babble, nothing except an really good ambulance siren imitation, so he was referred to Early Intervention. he received physical therapy & later speech therapy. he was unable to work the muscles in his tongue & face to make sounds (i currently maintain speech therapy was the stupidest parenting mistake i've made g) anyway, when kids age out of EI at age 3, they refer you to ChildFind or whatever your state calls the school district developmental delay program. i didn't know this when i went into EI. i figured he'd get a year of PT & then i'd find a private PT if he needed to continue. one of the things the PT suggested was putting him into a playgroup once/week so he could play with other kids. seemed reasonable at the time because there aren't other kids around. well, that & the fact that Boo refused to play the intake coordinators games made them decide to label him emotionally immature (show me an emotionally mature 2year7 month old) & overly attached to me. he *tried* to talk to the intake coordinators & show them his tractors and implements, but they wanted him to look at pictures & point at things (when they asked him where the window was in the picture, he pointed to the window he was sitting next to, & when that was "wrong" he didn't want to play that game). so, they wanted him to go to developmentally delayed preschool & i thought they were crazy. lee still thinks they're crazy. hence the private school That's messed up. A 2 year old just cannot be overly attached to mom, IMNSHO! The stories you tell about Boo, he sounds so happy. I'm glad you thumbed your nose at the agency. That's worrisome. My son had speech therapy as a pre-schooler. It was supplied by the school district. All went very well, but one of the requirements was a visit from social workers. That went OK, but one item that concerned me is that they tested my son, showing him pictures. It looked like he was getting some testing for how he pronounces words. One picture was of a handgun. He didn't know what that was. Wow. I think I would be hugely bothered by that. It just seems unnecessary. At the end of the visit, one of the social workers commented that it was good that he didn't know what a gun was - are there guns in my house? I said "no". But I wondered - is their scope way beyond educational needs, and what if we were a hunting family? I could be they were trying to evaluate whether or not they should be concerned for the child's safety, since a lot of gun related injuries/ deaths are due to home accidents. However, it seems something well outside their scope and not really appropriate. Yeah - I didn't know if it was just a comment on the part of an individual, or if, by having a child that needs a service, my door was open to evaluation for all kinds of scrutiny. Banty |
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Am I hurting my child by putting her in daycare at 22 months?
On Dec 7, 9:12 am, Banty wrote:
In article , cjra says... On Dec 7, 8:03 am, Banty wrote: In article , Nan says... On Fri, 7 Dec 2007 01:19:51 +0000 (UTC), enigma wrote: Banty wrote in : Whats this? Who are "ChildFind" and how did they get this power and mixed up in your life?? he didn't talk at age 2. no babble, nothing except an really good ambulance siren imitation, so he was referred to Early Intervention. he received physical therapy & later speech therapy. he was unable to work the muscles in his tongue & face to make sounds (i currently maintain speech therapy was the stupidest parenting mistake i've made g) anyway, when kids age out of EI at age 3, they refer you to ChildFind or whatever your state calls the school district developmental delay program. i didn't know this when i went into EI. i figured he'd get a year of PT & then i'd find a private PT if he needed to continue. one of the things the PT suggested was putting him into a playgroup once/week so he could play with other kids. seemed reasonable at the time because there aren't other kids around. well, that & the fact that Boo refused to play the intake coordinators games made them decide to label him emotionally immature (show me an emotionally mature 2year7 month old) & overly attached to me. he *tried* to talk to the intake coordinators & show them his tractors and implements, but they wanted him to look at pictures & point at things (when they asked him where the window was in the picture, he pointed to the window he was sitting next to, & when that was "wrong" he didn't want to play that game). so, they wanted him to go to developmentally delayed preschool & i thought they were crazy. lee still thinks they're crazy. hence the private school That's messed up. A 2 year old just cannot be overly attached to mom, IMNSHO! The stories you tell about Boo, he sounds so happy. I'm glad you thumbed your nose at the agency. That's worrisome. My son had speech therapy as a pre-schooler. It was supplied by the school district. All went very well, but one of the requirements was a visit from social workers. That went OK, but one item that concerned me is that they tested my son, showing him pictures. It looked like he was getting some testing for how he pronounces words. One picture was of a handgun. He didn't know what that was. Wow. I think I would be hugely bothered by that. It just seems unnecessary. At the end of the visit, one of the social workers commented that it was good that he didn't know what a gun was - are there guns in my house? I said "no". But I wondered - is their scope way beyond educational needs, and what if we were a hunting family? I could be they were trying to evaluate whether or not they should be concerned for the child's safety, since a lot of gun related injuries/ deaths are due to home accidents. However, it seems something well outside their scope and not really appropriate. Yeah - I didn't know if it was just a comment on the part of an individual, or if, by having a child that needs a service, my door was open to evaluation for all kinds of scrutiny. That's my current worry when the evaluator comes next week. Our house, undergoing extensive restorations, is not exactly "acceptable" by some people's standards. Fortunately the cleaning lady comes that morning ;-) |
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Am I hurting my child by putting her in daycare at 22 months?
Banty wrote in
: All went very well, but one of the requirements was a visit from social workers. That went OK, but one item that concerned me is that they tested my son, showing him pictures. It looked like he was getting some testing for how he pronounces words. One picture was of a handgun. He didn't know what that was. At the end of the visit, one of the social workers commented that it was good that he didn't know what a gun was - are there guns in my house? I said "no". But I wondered - is their scope way beyond educational needs, and what if we were a hunting family? oh, yeah! they certainly are/were scoping out for other things. i got an earful about both the guns (it's a freaking air gun!) *and* the bows & arrows. neither was within child reach, but OMG! they were *in the house!!!* they're also checking out your housekeeping. you get huge ticks off for clutter, dishes in the sink & probably the dust bunnies under the furniture. big dogs are a "bad thing" too, especially "dangerous" breeds like Malamutes. i'm shocked my kid has made it to 7, really. i bet they'd be having absolute hissies if they knew i bought Boo his very own soft pellet gun (with glow in the dark pellets) so he can target practice in the basement... lee who has no use for the nanny state |
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