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"Soprano" wrote in message ... teachrmama wrote: "Soprano" wrote in message ... teachrmama wrote: No, Soprano, not for child support. That is just a decision you get to make and others will enforce. I have read your other writings. Believe it or not, I do know where you are coming from. It is very difficult to trust others, isn't it? You have a path that only you can walk--we all do. But there are others to help you along the way. You need to find someone that you really trust--a face to face person, because tome of voice and body language are such a huge part of communication--and really get to step 5. You cannot keep all this self doubt and fear stuffed inside. You seem to belong to any number of groups, and do a lot of internet communication--but none of it is going to make decisions for you. That is still going to be your choices. I trust a lot of people. I am solely here to deal with child support. I trust a lot of people face to face. I am on Step 8. I like to write. As I wrote before, Atlanta, the decision to file for governemnt enforced child support is a complex one. It would be impossible for us here to tell you "yes" or"no." We can only give advice. The decision is yours. It sounds as if your ex might realize that he needs help with his commitment to provide financially for his daughter, and is willing to have CSE help him with this. I would imagine, from some of what you have written, that he migfht belong to at least one of the organizations that you belong to--or, possibly, night need to belong. In that case, a little extra help keeping financial commitments might be exactly what he needs. Seemingly both of you agree with this course of action, so I have no problem with it. I wish you luck in overcoming your obstacles. He should belong to one of those fellowships. That is up to him. Pray for him. He's struggling. And yes, that's the issue. After one year I have made the decision to file these papers. That is the advice. It is a complicated issue. But it is for our daughter, not me. I don't want to do this. I didn't want to divorce him. But this is life. This is adulthood. This is maturity. This is motherhood. This is responsibility. I had no idea our marriage would end in divorce after 5 years and 9 months. Its a great sorrow and a great tragedy. But that's the way it goes. But the fact is that until he really wants to change, there is nothing you can do. Everyone has a different bottom that they need to hit before they realize that it is up to them to take the steps to change. Does he live in the same community as you do? I will definitely keep you both in my thoughts and prayers. |
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teachrmama wrote:
"Soprano" wrote in message ... teachrmama wrote: "Soprano" wrote in message ... teachrmama wrote: No, Soprano, not for child support. That is just a decision you get to make and others will enforce. I have read your other writings. Believe it or not, I do know where you are coming from. It is very difficult to trust others, isn't it? You have a path that only you can walk--we all do. But there are others to help you along the way. You need to find someone that you really trust--a face to face person, because tome of voice and body language are such a huge part of communication--and really get to step 5. You cannot keep all this self doubt and fear stuffed inside. You seem to belong to any number of groups, and do a lot of internet communication--but none of it is going to make decisions for you. That is still going to be your choices. I trust a lot of people. I am solely here to deal with child support. I trust a lot of people face to face. I am on Step 8. I like to write. As I wrote before, Atlanta, the decision to file for governemnt enforced child support is a complex one. It would be impossible for us here to tell you "yes" or"no." We can only give advice. The decision is yours. It sounds as if your ex might realize that he needs help with his commitment to provide financially for his daughter, and is willing to have CSE help him with this. I would imagine, from some of what you have written, that he migfht belong to at least one of the organizations that you belong to--or, possibly, night need to belong. In that case, a little extra help keeping financial commitments might be exactly what he needs. Seemingly both of you agree with this course of action, so I have no problem with it. I wish you luck in overcoming your obstacles. He should belong to one of those fellowships. That is up to him. Pray for him. He's struggling. And yes, that's the issue. After one year I have made the decision to file these papers. That is the advice. It is a complicated issue. But it is for our daughter, not me. I don't want to do this. I didn't want to divorce him. But this is life. This is adulthood. This is maturity. This is motherhood. This is responsibility. I had no idea our marriage would end in divorce after 5 years and 9 months. Its a great sorrow and a great tragedy. But that's the way it goes. But the fact is that until he really wants to change, there is nothing you can do. Everyone has a different bottom that they need to hit before they realize that it is up to them to take the steps to change. Does he live in the same community as you do? I will definitely keep you both in my thoughts and prayers. Yes. We live in the same county and attend the same parish and my clergy say he may not have hit his bottom yet. Well ****. I have known the man 11 years and I have watched him bottom out this past month and in a way I have never seen before and its ****ed. That's all I can say. |
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"Soprano" wrote in message ... teachrmama wrote: "Soprano" wrote in message ... teachrmama wrote: "Soprano" wrote in message ... teachrmama wrote: No, Soprano, not for child support. That is just a decision you get to make and others will enforce. I have read your other writings. Believe it or not, I do know where you are coming from. It is very difficult to trust others, isn't it? You have a path that only you can walk--we all do. But there are others to help you along the way. You need to find someone that you really trust--a face to face person, because tome of voice and body language are such a huge part of communication--and really get to step 5. You cannot keep all this self doubt and fear stuffed inside. You seem to belong to any number of groups, and do a lot of internet communication--but none of it is going to make decisions for you. That is still going to be your choices. I trust a lot of people. I am solely here to deal with child support. I trust a lot of people face to face. I am on Step 8. I like to write. As I wrote before, Atlanta, the decision to file for governemnt enforced child support is a complex one. It would be impossible for us here to tell you "yes" or"no." We can only give advice. The decision is yours. It sounds as if your ex might realize that he needs help with his commitment to provide financially for his daughter, and is willing to have CSE help him with this. I would imagine, from some of what you have written, that he migfht belong to at least one of the organizations that you belong to--or, possibly, night need to belong. In that case, a little extra help keeping financial commitments might be exactly what he needs. Seemingly both of you agree with this course of action, so I have no problem with it. I wish you luck in overcoming your obstacles. He should belong to one of those fellowships. That is up to him. Pray for him. He's struggling. And yes, that's the issue. After one year I have made the decision to file these papers. That is the advice. It is a complicated issue. But it is for our daughter, not me. I don't want to do this. I didn't want to divorce him. But this is life. This is adulthood. This is maturity. This is motherhood. This is responsibility. I had no idea our marriage would end in divorce after 5 years and 9 months. Its a great sorrow and a great tragedy. But that's the way it goes. But the fact is that until he really wants to change, there is nothing you can do. Everyone has a different bottom that they need to hit before they realize that it is up to them to take the steps to change. Does he live in the same community as you do? I will definitely keep you both in my thoughts and prayers. Yes. We live in the same county and attend the same parish and my clergy say he may not have hit his bottom yet. Well ****. I have known the man 11 years and I have watched him bottom out this past month and in a way I have never seen before and its ****ed. That's all I can say. Good. That is usually what it takes. Now maybe he can begin to come back. Never give up hope of that--but take the steps you need to for your child and yourself in the meantime. |
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teachrmama wrote:
"Soprano" wrote in message ... teachrmama wrote: "Soprano" wrote in message ... teachrmama wrote: "Soprano" wrote in message ... teachrmama wrote: No, Soprano, not for child support. That is just a decision you get to make and others will enforce. I have read your other writings. Believe it or not, I do know where you are coming from. It is very difficult to trust others, isn't it? You have a path that only you can walk--we all do. But there are others to help you along the way. You need to find someone that you really trust--a face to face person, because tome of voice and body language are such a huge part of communication--and really get to step 5. You cannot keep all this self doubt and fear stuffed inside. You seem to belong to any number of groups, and do a lot of internet communication--but none of it is going to make decisions for you. That is still going to be your choices. I trust a lot of people. I am solely here to deal with child support. I trust a lot of people face to face. I am on Step 8. I like to write. As I wrote before, Atlanta, the decision to file for governemnt enforced child support is a complex one. It would be impossible for us here to tell you "yes" or"no." We can only give advice. The decision is yours. It sounds as if your ex might realize that he needs help with his commitment to provide financially for his daughter, and is willing to have CSE help him with this. I would imagine, from some of what you have written, that he migfht belong to at least one of the organizations that you belong to--or, possibly, night need to belong. In that case, a little extra help keeping financial commitments might be exactly what he needs. Seemingly both of you agree with this course of action, so I have no problem with it. I wish you luck in overcoming your obstacles. He should belong to one of those fellowships. That is up to him. Pray for him. He's struggling. And yes, that's the issue. After one year I have made the decision to file these papers. That is the advice. It is a complicated issue. But it is for our daughter, not me. I don't want to do this. I didn't want to divorce him. But this is life. This is adulthood. This is maturity. This is motherhood. This is responsibility. I had no idea our marriage would end in divorce after 5 years and 9 months. Its a great sorrow and a great tragedy. But that's the way it goes. But the fact is that until he really wants to change, there is nothing you can do. Everyone has a different bottom that they need to hit before they realize that it is up to them to take the steps to change. Does he live in the same community as you do? I will definitely keep you both in my thoughts and prayers. Yes. We live in the same county and attend the same parish and my clergy say he may not have hit his bottom yet. Well ****. I have known the man 11 years and I have watched him bottom out this past month and in a way I have never seen before and its ****ed. That's all I can say. Good. That is usually what it takes. Now maybe he can begin to come back. Never give up hope of that--but take the steps you need to for your child and yourself in the meantime. To be honest, I don't have much hope at this point. I have learned to live despite what he is doing. |
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"Soprano" wrote in message ... teachrmama wrote: "Soprano" wrote in message ... teachrmama wrote: "Soprano" wrote in message ... teachrmama wrote: "Soprano" wrote in message ... teachrmama wrote: No, Soprano, not for child support. That is just a decision you get to make and others will enforce. I have read your other writings. Believe it or not, I do know where you are coming from. It is very difficult to trust others, isn't it? You have a path that only you can walk--we all do. But there are others to help you along the way. You need to find someone that you really trust--a face to face person, because tome of voice and body language are such a huge part of communication--and really get to step 5. You cannot keep all this self doubt and fear stuffed inside. You seem to belong to any number of groups, and do a lot of internet communication--but none of it is going to make decisions for you. That is still going to be your choices. I trust a lot of people. I am solely here to deal with child support. I trust a lot of people face to face. I am on Step 8. I like to write. As I wrote before, Atlanta, the decision to file for governemnt enforced child support is a complex one. It would be impossible for us here to tell you "yes" or"no." We can only give advice. The decision is yours. It sounds as if your ex might realize that he needs help with his commitment to provide financially for his daughter, and is willing to have CSE help him with this. I would imagine, from some of what you have written, that he migfht belong to at least one of the organizations that you belong to--or, possibly, night need to belong. In that case, a little extra help keeping financial commitments might be exactly what he needs. Seemingly both of you agree with this course of action, so I have no problem with it. I wish you luck in overcoming your obstacles. He should belong to one of those fellowships. That is up to him. Pray for him. He's struggling. And yes, that's the issue. After one year I have made the decision to file these papers. That is the advice. It is a complicated issue. But it is for our daughter, not me. I don't want to do this. I didn't want to divorce him. But this is life. This is adulthood. This is maturity. This is motherhood. This is responsibility. I had no idea our marriage would end in divorce after 5 years and 9 months. Its a great sorrow and a great tragedy. But that's the way it goes. But the fact is that until he really wants to change, there is nothing you can do. Everyone has a different bottom that they need to hit before they realize that it is up to them to take the steps to change. Does he live in the same community as you do? I will definitely keep you both in my thoughts and prayers. Yes. We live in the same county and attend the same parish and my clergy say he may not have hit his bottom yet. Well ****. I have known the man 11 years and I have watched him bottom out this past month and in a way I have never seen before and its ****ed. That's all I can say. Good. That is usually what it takes. Now maybe he can begin to come back. Never give up hope of that--but take the steps you need to for your child and yourself in the meantime. To be honest, I don't have much hope at this point. I have learned to live despite what he is doing. As long as he is breathing there is hope. |
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